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edwife:
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The poor woman snapped

Who knows the hubby might have cheated on her

coogar:
perhaps, mutter was decent enough not to commit marital infidelity or paternity fraud like the deceased women. there would be no need for any husband to shoot a virtuous wife.

All women killed by their husbands commit martial infidelity or paternity fraud?

Are these two offences worth killing a spouse for?

I am seriously wondering why abused Nigerian wives don't snap

It must be something in the water they are drinking

soulglo:
Yes, really. I want to see it. Where anybody mocked her. It is very important to me

Hahahaha!

Abeg

tpiah99:
crap






why are you people pretending you are straight?

lord have mercy o.

Every woman is a bytch

Except their moms of course

Amusing is when married men hold This same view.

babyosisi:
I have not read the story of a single nigerian man in the USA murdered by his wife
Not one
Women are generally good
The few women in Nigeria and here who kill their husbands are usually abused Women who have endured years of physical or sexual and emotional torture until they snapped
Women are not built to kill
We are built to nurture,that's why we have wombs and carry babies and also nurse them

I thought all the Nigerian husbands in the US are good?

ArewaSweetheart:
True dea

They support an act none of them will ever wish/pray to commit.
I wonder why any sane human being will want to justify the cold-blooded murder being committed by these killer-husbands. Its really appalling to say the least, mtschww.

Well well

Welcome to NL

We are mean/loving husbands/wives depending on the time and place.

ileobatojo:
Yes now, haven't you seen the career advice there? Turn in your work late, call out of work whenever you have a period, take as many days off as you desire as long as you can claim you're doing something for your family, with your family, about your family; heck just use the word family and you're good to be a slob and a loser at work. After all, you're feminine and females should naturally suck at work.

Which other career advice do you need, ehn Buka?

I honestly hope it is single people who are bearing the brunt of such irresponsibility

If I have an organization, I would weed such irresponsible employees before you say Jack Robinson...

Even the Bible acknowledges someone being diligent at work....

This is the Virtuous woman/Excellent wife in Prov 31: 10 - 31 (for Christians)

A Wife of Noble Character


10 [b]Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
11 Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.


13 She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it.
14 She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.


16 She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker.
18 She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night.


19 Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber.
20 She extends a helping hand to the poor
and opens her arms to the needy.
21 She has no fear of winter for her household,
for everyone has warm[c] clothes.


22 She makes her own bedspreads.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
23 Her husband is well known at the city gates,
where he sits with the other civic leaders.
24 She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants.


25 She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
26 When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
27 She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.


28 Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her:
29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!”


30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
31 Reward her for all she has done.
Let her deeds publicly declare her praise[/b].

And a woman has several hats she has to wear and excel at them; same with a man too.

Just as a man has a lot of hats he has to juggle... and succeed in all

KanwuliaJara:
Eyaaaaah!
Pele o. . . . . .


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Enyvs9f9VnM

This is what came to my mind

'Faithfull' wife, sorry o!

eighTHREAD:
We all know little girls love to play with dolls e.g barbie dolls while their male counterparts involve in strenuous activities like playing football or playful wrestling. Many proponents of gender equality have argued that men should also take part in the kitchen and also family activities basically known to be feminine. They simply want to lift the barrier between what's for men and what's for women. I believe trying to achieve this will pave way for irregularities and absurd ways cos the movement will have to start by impacting the idea on kids, ideas like encourage a boy child to play with a doll regularly when he has spiderman and transformer toys available. My question is: can you allow your male child to take barbie dolls as his play thing?

Little children play with anything they are given

I had only a giant doll my brother and I played with; two cars (0ne for each of us); lots of blocks for building and lots of books too.

I thought the thread was 'career advice for women'

Nice thread

blank:
Aisha2, not you as well. Come back!!!

First it was Debrief, then Jennykadry, now Aisha2.

Why? Why? Why?

I just noticed as well

FOR1234:
We got married barely 5 years and things arent that rosy financially.....i have already released all i have worked for to him and am aspiring to go the extra mile by working for more money to keep the family in good shape. all these i am doing to make sure he lacks nothing and still holds his pride among his mate. but i often get set back and ask if am doing the right thing? do men really worth it? my mom often tells me men are not worthy of being pitied but i often tell her that hers was like dat for a reason dat my marriage wont end up like hers.....but after words, i get to fink and cry if one day this man wont turn his back on me......mature minds in d house ples help me

Has your hubby given you any reason to doubt him before?

Not all men disappoint the wives of their youth and you do not have to work so hard for him to maintain a certain lifestyle. There is a difference between working hard to cater for a lifestyle and working hard to ensure your family survives

ArewaSweetheart:
"Few hours before New Year of 2007, Kelechi Charles Emeruwa ambushed his estranged wife, Chidiebere Omenihu Ochulo at her home in a manicured Maryland suburb, armed with a kitchen knife. Emeruwa sliced and stabbed Chidiebere several times until she collapsed and died. Chidiebere, a registered nurse died at 36, leaving behind a raging estranged husband and three children. Chidiebere, was found dead on January 2, 2007. Days later, Emeruwa, then 46, was captured and charged with her murder. Today, he sits in a Maryland penitentiary serving life sentence for fatally stabbing his estranged wife to death."
.................................


I hope the said Mr. Kelechi is now enjoying every bit of his enjoying his life sentence in the penitentiary

This should serve as a great lesson to every potential (spousal) cold-blooded killer; you wont go scot free if you commit murder.

i really luvvvvvvv the might of the law walahi
...................................


"Two days after Christmas of 2013, Babatope Owoseni, a Nigerian resident in East Orange, New Jersey, violently subdued his pregnant SENEGALESE wife in the bath tub of their apartment and strangled her to death. Babatope by early 2014 was charged with double murder."
.................................


Wow, i almost thought this is exclusively a case of nigerian men versus nigerian women, but this next story proves otherwise o: o: o:
So a better title should then be 'Some irresponsible nigerian men in the diaspora versus Their defenseless African spouses'.
...........................

Between 2006 and 2014, more than 50 Nigerian husbands murdered their wives in what might be considered crimes of passion as a result of alienation of affection, women empowerment, emasculation, and loss of self esteem.

Unfortunately for the killer-hubbys, these yeye crime of passion excuses aint recognised in Law; whatcha pity

I implore all nairalanders(particularly the men amongst us) to desist from trying too hard to justify these pathetic killers actions pls; Lest the gullible ones amongst us will think its alright to kill when they find themselves in such circumstance.
One thing we must note is that none of the killers in this writeup recieved accolades for job well done; rather, they have been sentenced to spend the rest of miserable lives in prison. Cheers

A number of people do not practice what they post here...

Reminds me of the men of "Awa Okunnrin" film

Well well

Nigeria!

Fawklicant:
Please read my post again, then yours and tell me the correlation between both posts.

The line most Nigerian girls in response to the post mean means What?

And If most Nigerian girls have daddy issues, then who are the daddies If not Nigerian men

Or is it not Nigerian men that makes a lady a Nigerian daughter

Bros, next time you want to bash Nigerian women, make sure that all the bases of men are covered

Expect my invoice

cococandy:
Oh I remember one thread just a little similar but not akin to this.
About a cheating man who was also maltreating his wife, then died in a car crash and the wife didn't mourn him.
Hell was let loose that she didn't mourn him.

Even pickabeau was among those who didn't think such behavior was enough for the woman to not have been broken by the death of the man who was making her life a miserable one.

I wonder what the case would have been if she killed him herself.
I'm sure anyone who tried to see her reason for snapping would have been damned for life on this forum.

I guess the rules bend whichever way convenient at the moment.

Lol @ bending rules

No man has died and women have wound up being called witches etc al

Imagine a man dies? Killed by a snapped wife

Oh lordy! Seun would need to shut down N for a while

Fawklicant:
Most Nigerian girls do. Before I date any naija babe, I try to find out about her relationship with her father, because either way she is going to judge me by those standards. If her dad is/was irresponsible, she will watch out for any slightest trait from you. If on the other hand, he is/was a loving and caring father, then you got a lot of work to do.

You mean most Nigerian fathers were terrible at some point?


Nigerian men, fear God o!

dre11:
You just raised the question that the woman was trying to pass across.....

But, she never did mention the one @embolded part

The bolded was your remix?

Which of the others are her problem (s)

cococandy:
not on NL. Try are not even allowed to snap and get simply upset

I wish someone can pull similar stats of husbands killed by wives to experiment

pickabeau1:
I'm not on the page of rehashing peoples pasts to mock them

This IS A forum...issues are dissected

I wonder why you think issues of females will not be so

You see bias everywhere...

There is bias, all can see

@Rehashing peoples past: there is a difference between mocking people with their pasts and calling them out when they make posts contrary to their initial stance...

If tomorrow I support a working wife getting spousal support, I am sure you will either quote my posts on This thread or never take me as a woman of my words again.

If you quote me to challenge me on my earlier stance, I should be humble enough to acknowledge my stance has changed due to newer experiences.

I don't say A on one thread and say B or advise someone to do C in a similar situation. But again, We are all not the same.

Infact, I like knowing What people stand for, it saves me a lot of roundabout arguments

pickabeau1:
As in

I expected you to make one or two open ended statements but u r actually answeing questions
Keep it up

Funny

Open ended statements

My POV s are always clear

Considering the fact you did not answer my questions on This thread, it is strange talking about answering questions.

mutter:
I just understand why this is hard to understand.

Hmmmm

I hope you are This 'understanding' If women were the killers.

pickabeau1:
Once again.there is no understanding

Everyone has been unequivocally condemning the act

Its about the root cause yet you persist in your path of ridicule

The root cause analysis

I hope If the cases are reversed, We will be willing to do RCA.

We are on the same page

pickabeau1:
OK

Good to see you commenting these days

Good to see me commenting How?

@O P:

Went through your profile and saw about 3 threads on This same issue with the ex...

You need to sort them out now...

I agree the ex might be evil but it is not in your place to judge and until you hear the ex' version, all you are getting is from your guy's POV.

Even If your guy was a saint all through their relationship, he must have a flawed believe system to have picked his ex.

Your focus should be on How to be a good wife to wipe away the experience of the evil ex and not add fuel to the fire...

And your guy should be more focused on builfing your relationship than badmouthing his ex.

Constant ranting about exes is a sign of a person on rebound. You should also ensure that he is with you because he loves you and not because you are different from his ex or he wants to prove to her than he can land a better lady.

Goodluck

I hope women who 'snap' and kill their husbands get such understanding from NL

pickabeau1:
Are those couples representative of the norm?

Marriage subsidy in event of divorce...OK o

Maybe maybe not

pickabeau1:
Also a fair position rather than encouraging laziness

I don't think he encouraged laziness either

He used couples with wide range of income

pickabeau1:
You interpreted our positions

What is your own position

I have stated it na

No SS for a working spouse.

Child support must be paid to the spouse with the child till the child is done with tertiary education

pickabeau1:
What do u think

About What?

soulglo:
Employed being the key word. I support spousal support in cases were one of them stayed home to care for the kids. Spousal support is not permanent but the spouse who stayed home for the family should be abLe to get help in at least restoring them back to they were before they gave it all up. I used to get all worked up when I see my cousins schedules in Nigeria. Up at 5 and still not back home by 9pm. Maids raise the kids and as soon as they are old enough for boarding school, off they go. While I still believe that the children's wellbeing is the most important, I can see why many of them choose yo keep this up. They likely have stories of women in their family who were kicked out with nothing. Spousal support is a good thing.

I agree spousal support is necessary when one of the parents stayed @ home

pickabeau1:
Good

MAYBE Fhemmmy will learn one or two things from this since he sees you women as helpless appendages who need hubby support all their life

LOL

I have not read anywhere on This thread where he said women are helpless appendages but again I cannot claim to have read all the posts on This thread.

He thinks men should pay spousal support for a while irrespective of the wife's earning capability

You think men should only pay for housewives

You both are entitled to your opinions