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soulglo:
Most of their scenarios are so off point. Someone talked about using the fan if you got hot. Makes no sense. If you are hot and there's a fan in the bedroom, the reasonable expectation is that you can turn it on. If you are hot, you do not start going from room to room to find a fan to use. That would be crazy. Another person talked about if someone had to eat for emergency reasons. We actually talked about that in the original post. If you are a diabetic for example, it is your responsibility to tell your host such so that arrangements could be made for you. If there is an emergency, you do what you have to do. God forbid we stick to the original scenario. The guest got up and walked into the kitchen and started preparing a meal without even having a conversation with the host about doing so. I don't care what culture you are from, that's just crazy. Stick with the topic. No one is saying that someone might be falling into a diabetic coma and we should let them die because the host is sleeping and we don't want to open the refrigerator to get some orange juice. People are just being childish

Lols

One thing I am sure of is that 99% of the people on this thread and previous one will not do what the guest in the story did.

It was all fun

Timbuktou:
Hehehe. Just kidding, he knows his boundaries wella.

Keep it up then.

Yeah, she should have but, she didn't. And the host should have been more graceful and if she had to insult her, do it stylishly. She has just given hubby one reason to be away from home; I would milk that situation for whatever it's worth. All I have to say is "I gotta go hang out with Cassidy, he's in town and I don't know when he'll be leaving" perfect alibi

The guestess was out of line but, the hostess was more out of line. Ori bibe ko l'ogun ori fifo.

From the said OP, the madam asked what she was doing in her kitchen before the lady flew off the handle and said 'she blames Cassidy that didn't lodge them in an hotel'

I honestly do not know Madam's tone.

My point on that thread was that the guest was 100% wrong; no way out of that

The madam sef was a mind reader etc etc.

jadelyn007:
If everyone on this thread won't enter a hosts' kitchen without permission then who are those who 'jump' according to bukatyne into host kitchen, abi them no dey nairaland ni?

The opinions are divided

napa:
Good day all,

I need matured opinion on the subject matter. My husband likes us attending every event organised by his family members not that I dislike it but I don't think it's a must that every event must be attended. His nephew wants to celebrate his 10th birthday but I just don't feel like attending but hubby is feeling bad.

Must all events be attended especially when the marriage is yet to produce children, there's no way you'll attend without one or two pity parties which I don't like? I rarely attend events of my own family members too.

Hi OP

Is his family a very close knit one? i.e. (all his maternal or paternal families in very good relationship) if yes, it might be their way of life.

I do not think there is anything wrong in attending all the events if you do not have a program scheduled for that day.

@Pity parties, it is normal, just see it that they mean well for you and appreciate them

Cheers

pickabeau1:
Well since you don't have to take me seriously.. You can move on to other things....continue your kitchen krusade


Soon you will release a list of dos n fonts

Bring your own pot and stove

Next

pickabeau1:
Madam...
No one is dragging with you Na
Do I need permission to post on this thread too?

And who is dragging with you?

Or are we dragging anything?

You were tagged along somewhere and the next morning you enter kitchen and start cooking; good for you

I have the courtesy to wait till I am given the free way or host provides breakfast; good for me

So what is the problem again?

Pla.nk dropped two scenarios which I said does not apply in this case.

If you dropped your opinions or gave instances you did same as the OP, I would have taken you seriously.

No opinions, no scenarios, just trying to stir the thread.

raumdeuter:
Could there be any unplanned emergency that would make someone want to eat earlier than normal?

If your guest need to wait till you are around to eat or drink water in your house then you shouldnt have hosted them in the first place

Maybe if they are freezing/feeling hot at night they would also need permission to use the fan

I can't keep posting same thing over and over...

Wen you get to an unknown host's house, feel free to wake up the next morning and start cooking without asking your host or your host giving you the go ahead.

Goodluck

pickabeau1:
Those who understand do..
Keep hustling in your kingdom

I know many of your type
Me and my family in not so many words

SO all you understood is 'me and my family?' in this whole thread?

SMH

Funny enough, you never dropped your opinions on the OP instead started throwing jabs here and there

Timbuktou:
Lol, glad you got my drift.

Meanwhile, why do you think the babe got up to cook that early, if their want some form of hunger-induced discomfort? Ulcer? Weakness? Coulda been anything, you know?

Per other posters, you juts need to be a good host , this is your kitchen thread, after all. . Live and let live, sis.

You stylishly pre-asked for permission to drive the Beetle abi? Anyway, I keep the keys in the freezer cos Junior's hands can't get there.

Freezer ke?

Trying to be a good host/OP

But Bro, the babe could have said ...madam/aunty/bla, we would like to make breakfast @ 6:00am because Cassidy/I is currently on medication and would not want to inconvenience you & daddy/uncle since the Madam did tell her she is free to use her kitchen or they brought something along to eat.

LadyX:
No worries. I've learnt a lot from this post, though I still stick with my opinion.

No problem, take care

pickabeau1:
Hosts now encourage you to come along with your int'l driving license so you can use a car for shopping and whatnots or lease a car

Some go for as low as 60$ per day(insurance inclusive)

Why should a host be driving around all day or cooking all day

And your point is

You have not made any point/ dropped your opinion; just drifting from one side to another.

Timbuktou:
Well, many people would be peeved but come on civility is what it is.

Death for the car thief? Nah. Just saying ko ni fe te. Hehehe. They can only drive if there's an emergency. Have you ever come across someone just taking their host's vehicle for a spin? Nah, cooking food for survival is one thing, driving off in my volkswagen beetle is another . Besides, it's got an immobiliser.

True

Lol @ ko ni fe te...

Cooking food for survival

I would have appreciated if some peeps answered yes or no than go on and on how their kitchen is a home to all..

Some poster on the other thread clearly asked what we will all do as the guest.... not as the host.

Nice thread anyways...

Gimme your house address.... I might want to try taking your beetle on a spin.... for survival of course!

Timbuktou:
Buka is just being pedantic, I tell you I made oats in her kitchen this morning. Bukatyne, sorry for not cleaning them dishes afterwards, I was in a hurry besides, the milk tasted funny. You get a new tin.

Will appreciate you get me a new tin

I open my doors and my kitchen to you and you cannot replace my tin of milk?

Which kind of guest are you?

Timbuktou:
An unexpected male friend who will take my car keys? He better drive and not come back. Hehehehe

But seriously BeeKay, speaking for my wife, she'd ask for permission but, wouldn't bite off the rude guest's head if they didn't.

In essence, it's no to both questions

Thanks

@ bold: That's it the point

It's rude in walk into someone's kitchen UNINVITED to cook

LOL@ drive and not come back.. wishing the poor dude death? Might have wanted to test run the ride na

Probably learning NOT to bite rude guests but I will be surprised all the same

Chillisauce:
Photocopy it and keep at your office desk.

Buka the buka.

Remind me not to ask for invite letter to your house o. Before you give me hbp

If I invite you to my house, you will be free to use the kitchen

Would like to try those exotic dishes you post online

The issue bothers on courtesy than kingdom ruling

Timbuktou:
Your mouth looks funny. What's up?

Your wifey cannot invite a male friend or invite a female friend who brings an unexpected male friend?

Chillisauce:
What are you counting ? After counting, Wetin you wan carry the result do bikonu

Might sell it

Timbuktou:
If she jumps in she'll be shot. IMO, the safest mode of entry is teleportation.

Answer joor.

LadyX:
Welcome dear.
When you complete the polls post the results.

Might not be able to do so...

There is no opinion poll button; might count manually sha.

Thanks for understanding my question; might have been difficult to do so

Timbuktou:
This story ended at this point, for me. He won't be taking my car because, he won't be coming to my house because, my wife would not...oh, never mind.

Hmmm

aisha2:
Who are you telling " easy now"? I am not your child oh, you cannot determine my comment or response to any post madam. Find someone else to be condescending towards abeg, not me.

Should tell you the bolded

@ My posts: I asked lady X a question and you call that argument?

Did Pickab drop an opinion or a snide remark?

LadyX:
I'll not cook in a stranger's house without permission because of how I was brought up. Even with my siblings you've got to ask for their permission before you can use their things.

I won't mind my new guest going into my kitchen. Am quite open minded, I know people are brought up differently. So to them it could be normal. Some might even decide to clean the kitchen as appreciation to you for hosting them.

Thanks for your reply

I get you now...

pickabeau1:
Continue to rule over your kitchen
Soon people will come and visit you with their own pots and pans

And foodstuff sef

Simple yes or no, you cannot answer yet you are trolling the thread.

Infact sef, they must bring mattress

blank:
Yes and Yes.

These questions are hilarious. I remember once i went to my good friend's house to visit. So after gisting, she asks if i want to eat anything cos she wants to put her daughter to sleep and it is usually a long and tedious process. I told her not to bother that i would make myself at home. I jejely made small fried rice for the two of us to eat cos she had said she was hungry earlier. When she returned, she went ballistic. I thought it was cos i made fried rice not white or jollof and she said i had no right cooking in her kitchen. I was shocked to my marrow. This is someone that we used to sleep on the same mattress and eat from the same pot in school. In fact, i stayed in the hospital with her when she wanted to give birth for a day before her mum came to join her. I apologized profusely but i was still so shocked. It thought me a lesson. I don't assume everyone is like me. I will always ask before i enter the kitchen of another woman.

Another example was a relative that came to visit for a while. In my house, in the evening, everyone finds what they will eat if not na eba and soup. I told her there was food in the freezer so she can warm up anything whenever she was hungry. I showed her to the biscuit cabinet and drinks and (in my mind) made her feel at home. This was during a work week. Her mum called me 2 days later and said her daughter was only eating breakfast but no other meal. I was shocked to say the least. I make breakfast and lunch which we take to work/school so i expected her to warm up food as there was always soup or stew or make anything she wants for lunch. The babe will eat only the breakfast and not eat again till the next day cos i didn't come home from work to warm food for her or cut her portion. I was just weak. Even the househelp gets to eat whatever she wants no restrictions so why should she restrict herself?

Thank God for my family.

Blank, welcome

This opinion poll is not about friends or people you know, please read the OP or tell us an instance where something similar to the OP happened and let's discuss

@ the scenarios above,

1. Your friend is if she calls you her friend, she should appreciate your help. I would have done same in your shoes

2. Your relative is : She really expects you to come back from work and cook for her? And the mother could call you to discuss that?

Different strokes for different folks

cococandy:
I didn't even remember the insurance part.

Bukky if you're not insured to drive a car and you do, if you have a crash in it, big problem on top wahala and casala.

Not the same thing at all.

No problem Coco,

I have no problems with differing opinions, I was seeing women are protecting their territory etc. etc.

It is all good

aisha2:
And go all the way to prove the " rightness " too. A supposed opinion poll where people who respond how she likes are told " thanks" and those who differ are grilled to the point of being called liars.

Aisha,

I am trying to avoid a fracas...

Do you have proof of this?

Did I not tell Coco thanks? Does she agree with me?

Easy now

chaircover:
First of all I don’t have to answer your Yes or No questions . . . .
I’ve done more than answer them yesterday and given you examples.

This is yet another thread on this forum and I can choose to say anything I like so long as its on topic and not insultive.
. . . .Especially as the reason why you opened the thread is not because you genuinely want to learn anything . . Your mind is already made up, hence the thanking people who agree with you, but arguing with people who don’t.

So yes, I can describe how my kitchen works if I want to . . Someone likes the concept even if you don’t The thread is about kitchens is it not?

I used to think you as a fair babe, but I am kind of surprised at your utterances . . I know you will say that you don’t care LOL.
Nairaland!

Easy now...

This is an opinion poll thread and if you have none to give, why bother posting?

You answered yesterday? LOL! LOL! LOL! Simple yes, I will cook in an unknown guests house or no I will not, I have not seen. Maybe you answered other questions not mine. Everyone (even those who do not see the importance of the thread) have been able to give a yes or no even if a detailed explanation followed. YOU on the other hand did not answer any of the questions.

Stop twisting facts to suit your point; I said thanks to people for and against especially the first posters. Coco does not mind and I told her thanks; some others too. I am yet to see people I argued with. I asked a lady who was no & yes why she would not do so and did not ask Coco because she has stated a reason why.

In this thread, I do not know how your kitchen works fit in as you have not given an opinion; the reason this thread exists is because of the dynamics of the relationship here. If your sis or friend or in-law came, don't you expect them to cook for the whole family if you are around to do so?

You keep saying as far as you can trust someone & invite them over.. did the host know the guest talkless of inviting her?

You must be a mind reader to know whether I have learnt something or not on this thread... remind me to book for your services later.

Thank God you know I do not care what you think. Those who know me will say I am fair (even if I am chocolate complexioned )

cococandy:
these two cases don't relate bukky. Women cherish their cars too. Besides you can't drive a car without someone permission except you stole their keys.

How don't they relate

We keep the car keys on the center table....

What stops our guests from driving off in it to get something from a supermarket

Peeps please continue with the opinions

taryour:
Its so easy for some men here to type and say its no big deal about it,now here is for the men.


Now assume its vice versa, your wifey invites and old male friend whom you know very well cause he arrived very late at the airport and to late to get an hotel to spend the night. With your consent you agreed for him to spend the night in your house.

Next morning you wake,have your bath and breakfast,ready to go out only to find your car key missing,you ask wifey and she says " oh honey Jide took it out,will be back soon. Dint want to disturb your sleep "

WHAT WILL YOU DO

Hug your wife and give her a pat on the back and say " no problem honey "

LOLz!

LadyX:
1. NO, I will not go to cook in a stranger's kitchen without their permission.

2. YES, If my guest is hungry and I haven't woken up, they're free to grab something in the kitchen or even cook for themselves.

Let's be friendly and hospitable to our guests.
Saying 'she looked at me with bad eyes' is funny because maybe that's how the person is. Not everyone conforms to our notion of 'normal'.

Without your permission?

Then why would you not do that in a guest's house?

Not saying, it 's bad, want to understand.

fem29:
Methinks it depends on where you live. If it's in the Uk or abroad anywhere I don't think I would mind. I would probably have said to them the night before please help yourself to bla bla bla in the fridge/kitchen in the morning if I don't really want to wake up very early. I guess I also want to have rapport with someone before I want them to have unrestrained access to my house.

BUT in nigeria things are different, I would def frown upon it. I won't tell her to stop but my body language and some passive aggressive comments I make will let her know I'm not pleased .

Me personally, unless I've been told I can help myself I will hold myself, and really I would not go and stay in a married couples place that I've never met before as a 'girlfriend' in nigeria. It's better to keep yourself out of situations like that, it's unseemly. Heck I would not have stayed anywhere with my 'boyfriend' in anyone's house but his.

Thanks