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harrysterol:
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Qn:
(Must be done in the head) Get 1000 & add 40 to it. Now add another 1000. Now add 30. Add another 1000. Now add 20. Now add anoher 1000, now add 10. What is the answer?

harrysterol:
buhaha

bukatyne:
i m really enjoyin this topic and i agree wit sexrevives and Thoniaslim's points amongst others. i ve come to realize wit revelation that wat is obtainable in most Nigerian homes is not submission, it's servitude or wat a popular pastor calls 'glorified slavery'. A typical nigerian marriage only fulfills 1 out of d 3 reasons for marriage: companionship, prevention against adultery and child bearing and we all know d one they fulfill. initially, when i saw ...'wives submit to ur husbands...', i thought God was been sexist. However, on further study, i realized that the love God expects from men is much more indepth than even d submission of women. God compared His love for isreal to the love a husband has for his wife. i read 1Cor 13:1-8 and i realized that when a man loves genuinely, he lays it all for d woman. he believes d best of her. he can do anything to make her happy. she is his world and everything! King Solomon even said in Proverbs that 4 things amaze him and d last is 'how a man loves a woman'. when d man loves his wife, he esteems her above himself. he considers her first in all his decisions. when that loved woman submits, she esteems her husband above himself and considers him first so there is a balance. some people wonder y d man must love first; d man finds d woman and is d head (the source/building block of that family). a loved woman will do everything in her power to please her husband. she ll think of cooking his best meal, looking good for him, dressing him up to be outstanding, encourage him, believes in him and trusts him. when her husband brings suggestions/ideas, b'cos she knows that he loves her and has considered her before making that suggestion, she readily supports him and stand by him. a loved woman that doesn't submit has a problem and a husband that is expecting his wife to submit witout loving her unconditionally has a problem and is looking for a glorified slave. have a splendid day

damiso:
That's true sha..I guess we all see things differently. Which is kinda my point that we dont that see it as nothing or don't mind people helping themselves in the kitchen(I dont even see it as MY KITCHEN like that just a place food gets made) thinking we are better than those that mind.We all see and process things differently. We have a family friend that hubby calls his 1st wife and they joke that I am an usurper I don't see it as anything but I have a friend who will not find it funny in the least.Does not mean I am a better person or that she is necessarily insecure.

CC I thought this was tales by moonlighy naa
Me I was not talking about this case o just manners generally.i will give an example I try to encourage my kids to eat more fruit and veg so my fruit bowl is always full with a variety of fruits and they just go and help themselves. Every other thing they have to ask (cos most times they can't reach sef )..So my son who is 2 goes to his godmother for 2 days.We are quite close and he is very used to her.He does the same thing he does at home which is just go to the fruit bowl in the kitchen and get apples etc.The nit picker or indecisive 2 yr old that he is he realises he does not like green apples (I buy the red ones) and throws a barely eaten one in the bin.Goes back helps himself to another one. and throughout the day as for some reason he does not like how they make their noodles .

She is someone I am quite free with and I know there was no malice when she told me that o needed to let him know that he has to ask people before taking stuff esp in other people's houses maybe not necessarily her house as other people's houses or when he goes to school.I did not think to myself 'because of apple apple that I have loads of in my house' I took it in good faith that I probably kinda overlooked that cos I felt he wss just 2 and also because he was with me alot from being a baby unlike his sister. I then told him to ask aunty or mummy before he helped himself to fruits (he still does it occasionally but with time and we emphasising it he will stop).

That's more my point and not the peculiarities of this case (abi is it tale )

aisha2:
Na Police, Civil defence, mopol and 21 guard brigade go seperate that fight be that lol.



You said its a cultural thing then proceeded to assume for the whole of Nigeria. Am from the North, food is no biggie we dont distrust people with pot of soups people can fo into the kitchen and take food because its just food, shi-t in four hours.

Ujujoan:
So all these grammar is because she fried egg in your kithcen

What if she took a shower in your bathroom . . . or had 3ex on your bedroom . . . or shited in your toilet

Seriously, una get energy.

damiso:
Ok my people I agree that madam should have handled it differently and yeah all that her she eyed me, she looked at me sonehow is petty.Also should probably not have confronted the girl if na me like you know Edwife am very lazy and my default breakfast is toast cereal croissant etc I would be so happy that I don't have to go in the kitchen. But like we have been told the story is a NL thriller written by the OP

So jokes apart, (and I know she should have probably set out breakfast stuff the night before AGAIN that is what I would do ) is it ok really really for a person to just up and go into someone who you dont really have a rapport with house and throw yourself into making breakfast. (male or female I am not even making it a gender or married/single issue).like ewuro even highlighted even though she is open and accommodating and is a good hostess she and hubby respected the boundaries of another friend's house who did not reciprocate their own gestures?

Like my earlier post, would you as a parent be happy for your child to go into the freezer of their friend's house and help themselves without asking if they could have it (even if they and the child are besties) ps I am not saying my kids can't eat at a friends I am talking about helping themselves without asking

robedu:
Thank you, we just need to help each other, so God can also help us, i am happy that her marriage is working now - and Yes i know God will secure my marriage when im married too - God bless you

harrysterol:
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Qn:
How many legs does an elephant have if you count his trunk as a leg?

cococandy:
I agree.
Just that today is the host's day.
If it was opened from the POV of a guest, we for tell am how to behave

cococandy:
i agree but when I've a visitor, I cut them some slack. It can be hard or cause friction if we expect everyone to conform to our standards

raumdeuter:
That dressing you described to some people is indecent dressing

What type of dressing do ppl wear early in the morning?

cococandy:
Indecent dressing is subject to interpretation.

Ask OP what she wore and she might tell you shorts and a tank top.
To some that's indecent while to someone like me Exceptr you're wearing a bikini top and bottom, I would consider you well dressed for staying at home.

aisha2:
The poster assumed she was a side chick I had to re read myself to understand. Madam just had beef and even if she was a side chick she has more respect from the men than madam main wife does

soulglo:
Sometimes I wonder what African culture is anymore. It seems we hold on the archaic parts of it and leave the important ones. As an African child, you are taught not to help yourself to anything. If you were a guest somewhere, you do not even reach out your hand to take something. Even if offered, you give your mother side eye to make sure she is okay with it because even when the host offers and you take it you might get in trouble when you get home. Why then is it okay for a grown ass mature woman not to understand that it is not okay to help yourself to anything in anybody's home. Does it mean that when you become as adult that it gives you the license to lose your mind? Yes, if I was a guest somewhere and it is 10am and my lazy host has not gotten out of bed to be a good host and serve breakfast I will stay hungry until she awakes. What kind of undisciplined person am I that I would get up and help myself to something. Serious case of otonni. Will waiting even a full hour kill you?



@edwife I hear you but your standard of clean might not even be her standard of clean. That is why when you are somewhere new, the best thing you can do for yourself id observe. Don't make yourself a nuisance. Even the dishes you wish to wash might be a major issue for your hosts. I have seen people wash the dishes and then dry them with a napkin before they put it on the rack. I have seen people just wash and rinse and dump it in the rack and let the water drip into the tray. Some people find this disgusting. I especially am grossed out when I see the water marks on the tray. My sister for example washes her dishes and actually puts then in the dishwasher . You cannot insert yourself into the runnings of someone's home. It is better to observe and let your host lead. When I visit my older sister I never watch the TV in her living room because my brother in law does so many things on it. He times things to record on his box etc. I get overwhelmed by all of that. Would he kill me if I watch tv and somehow mess his programs up. No. But I'm not going to mess with his TV. To be honest I would not be surprised if this was more of a redneckish American crowd. This is a Nigerian crowd. I'm honestly surprised to hear that it is okay to do things like this.
On Aisha's end I can see how her brain is working. She obviously understands the pettiness of some Nigerian women and is coming from that angle. While I understand that, it does not change the fact that she was a guest. I am the type of person who will stand up for myself but even if I know that someone does not like me, I will have to prepare to put up with that person if I am in their home. It's not my place to check them over anything or anyhow they decide to run their home. Especially when I am clearly the one over stepping. It's not like I don't have my own home to return to and sit on my couch spread eagled and dig my nose if I want.

Chillisauce:
A guest is a guest, now its another point whether you trust him or not.
For me to invite someone to my house, there must exist a degree of trust.
I will understand, if its a neighbors friend, who i dont really know and its trying to pass a night in my house. This one i will even lock you up in the sitting room.

But the guest i invited without a bullet in my head. Pls, feel free to put poison in my pot of soup
I will gladly die and go to heaven

aisha2:
So if he won't pay her mind then it means the issue isn't a serious one na

passionate88:
That's the thing... That's also one of the reason many men shy away from single mothers... You will tolerate your mom's slap but wouldn't tolerate that of a step mom...

But not all women maltreat their step child/ren...

Unionised:
So what's wrong with telling her husband to tell his friend to restrain his girlfriend?

Do you play chess?

Learn to plan like 3 moves ahead before taking action.

Ripple effect.

So who is apologising now?

So because she knows her 'right', and can't wait to exercise it, her peaceful home should ne sacrificed?

You try.

Chillisauce:
so when you are gone to work, she has to endure until you are back before eating lunch/dinner?
A simply 'no' should have suffice in this. You dont make to help someone by indirectly starving them.

Chillisauce:
So what would you have done to the guest? Warm her food by 5am and or ask her to wait until you get back from work?

aisha2:
Since going to the kitchen is such a taboo, I don't have a live in maid if so it means if they want water they must call me, if they want a snack they must call me, if they are hungry they must call me.
I would be worn out now, when I go to work they must wait for me to get back first before they eat or drink?

aisha2:
Again my question whats so top secret about the kitchen?

Anyway like I said most women are sensitive about their kitchen for whatever purpose I am not.

aisha2:
Like I said, if you come to my house I let you know where everything is and go to bed. I don't expect you to wait for me to wake up first before you eat or wake me up to ask my permission to eat. I know a lot of women have the kitchen drama. What is the worst that can happen if someone enters the almighty kitchen to get something to eat? Will the house burn down? Will somebody die? What exactly is the fuss about kitchens?

aisha2:
Well for me no big deal about kitchen its somewhere anyone can enter and get food abeg. All I would have expected from guest is to politely answer madam and both would have joked and laughed over it. Some women like stress, me I no fit all that protocol and wahala, I tell you feel free, see where everything is no just disturb my sleep na my own be that.

But perhaps girl was rude because madam was hostile from the beginning but I like girl somehow she no dey carry nonsense and so the man too no dey carry her play. If she didn't have strong stand with the man the girl for do eye service kneel down beg self, these is how babes should be no eye service from start tomorrow if he marries her the standard is already set no one will disrespect her and oga will allow

Chillisauce:
That is you. Car and kitchen are two different things. Kitchen is part of the house where the guest was invited to stay put. Let them be your guest. So if she wanted to eat something in the middle of the night, she should have woken madam up.anyway, I guess diff folks.

My guest can eat whatever they like as long as they don't disturb my sleep. in fact over here, we say good night before going to bed. Like that if they guest is leaving by 5am, he doesn't need to wake us up. I value my sleep time.

delishpot:
Comming from a woman sha? Its a shame a woman like you will support what that LovePeddler did.
She is evil and does not deserve any respect from the owner of the home. If she was a good girl as you claimed she would not have attacked the madam but just say I am sorry I was hungry and did not want to wake you up. Please dont be offended.and off the stove and leave the kitchen. The bobo will see his babe is not happy and will have a talk with his pal or she later have a talk with the woman of the house to clear the air. If the madam of the house is still taking it personal, then they can move out for sanity sake. That is how you know decsent girls and can tell them from the raz ones.
A good girl will lay low and try to befriend the wife of her mans friend so as to be able to ask her some questions the men will not reveal about their pals. That girl is a LovePeddler and should be treated as such.. She had no regard for her bf and sure had none for the wife of her bfs pal.
I suspect you are just like that girl. I suspect you have entered the kitchen of a benefactor and even taken over her soup pot in her own home. I blame the women wrapers that hang out with your kind of women.
Your type will not even let their husbands sister enter their kitchen and will surely not let their mother inlaws cross the dinning area when they come to visit yet you are quick to judge another woma who asked a simple question in her home and got rejection and enimity in return.
I hope you are not a cheap push over desperate to find a husband sha. Cos I cant believe a married woman will open her mouth to say what you just said. This is why women cant unite. One I better pass you will surely come and prove to be perfect woman. See how the men united? See hiw the bf of the LovePeddler stood by his woman? And was even expecting an appology from another mans wife to his side chick I pray you marry that type of man, that will use you to serve his friends And their babes. And if you are married( which I doubt) I pray your husband will change and become like that guy.

Na condition make crayfish bend sha. Dem suppose flog that 'husband" sef.