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Chillisauce:
If I were a man,and I had that kind of a wife. I will be very embarrassed .
Next time, she can as well lock her kitchen .
Or her pots

aisha2:
Na wa oh, so your husbands friend can decide that no one will disrespect his fling but your husband can let them disrespect his lawful wife in her house and even ask that she should apologise hmmmm.

Na wa oh. You owe non of the louts any apology arrant nonsense

Am not particular about the kitchen iss but as a guest people should be more polite.
However, I understand the lady's point of view, she may have wanted a peaceful weekend but the boyfriend possibly wanted a cheaper option hence her aggression and maybe woman of the house had probably been giving her condescending looks and all hence her reaction.

Anyway, if I were you I would be more concerned with my husband not standing up for me than anything else

ottizz:
Firstly, my friend is not be allowed to bring any woman he is intimate with into my matrimonial home, except his wife or fiancee.
Secondly, no one (friend, sibling, parent) has the temerity to come into my house and insult my wife.

OP, you did well not to apologize to the biatch. I wish you did not apologize to the guy. He should have respected himself from the jump by going to the hotel.

Unionised:
Women!

Una too get wahala.

So you couldn't endure a single day?

Now a momentary impatience, see you apologizing to everybody.

Very avoidable.

But no, you just had to bring yourself down.

SMH

buggaboo:
Ok. I get you now.
Easier said than done though.
Life happens.
Kids happen.

passionate88:
You won't... Most Nigerian women don't like the idea of them living with their step-children... They might say no deal when dating, but when they get married, that's when they will unleash the dragon in them..

It's one of the reason, and yes it is a reason to him

laplace12:
Who said she is feeding them So cooking food that is provided by the man means feeding them?

Truth is the man wants to bond with his children before they eventually leave the house but the woman is not letting it happen. His children seem more important to him than the arrogant, angry and rude woman. It is his choice.

okotv:
thank you. I hope to open up soon.

okotv:
its hard to believe you have faced heartbreak. Well, age is still on my side to open up but then....


am an introvert. Not easy to start allover again

buggaboo:
You mean your true love.
The two are not always the same you know.

thorpido:
Christian couples trying to resolve quickly whatever difference there is between them also goes a long way.There shouldn't be a reason to keep dragging on offences if both partners are quick to forgive and can easily apologise.

buggaboo:
Word!

YourCoffin:
...That's the reasoning...

But the percentage of those who don't like it, is too minimal to discourage me.

Very likely if I undergo sex change surgery.

So, I keep on dreaming until it's possible oneday...

YourCoffin:
Don't like it. But I hear ladies love it like God loves praises....

MarvellousGod:
Amen... Thanks dearie

YourCoffin:
Eat lots of chocolate

MarvellousGod:
I met him in my year 1..i was packing into my new lodge(off campus) and he was packing into same lodge in a room opposite mine..he was in 300l then, said he wanted somewhere closer to school hence the change of lodge. ..

We became friends (neighbour things ), he told me stuffs about the school, advised me including making good grades, attending lectures, staying off guys, et al.. Talked me into getting a library card and would ask me if I went to the library each time I came back from school...we really became so close, attended morning mass and other church gatherings together (catholics will understand), I could borrow anything from him including beverages, food stuffs etc likewise him. whenever he had food, I wouldn't bother cooking but would simply eat from his, likewise him. he would flash me in the night to get up and read, we sometimes did night calls just to keep sleep off our eyes..During exams, whoever didn't have an exam for that day did the cooking... I can go on and on, we were the best to each other..he was good to me and I was nice to him.. People thought we were related but when they found out the truth, they strted spying on us..

All these while, nothing happened between us(it's hard to believe right? but sincerely nothing did), I never passed the night in his room though stayed late sometimes watching movies or gisting while his door was open....

He finally asked me out in his final year and that was the beginning of our romantic relationship .. I actually knew he had interest in me because of his attitude when other guys pestered me....

Anyway, it's 6yrs now and we are engaged.. he has taken the first step of seeing my parents and we are tying the nut come April. ...

Asked him why he kept disturbing me about studies during my early years in the Uni, he said "he wanted to build his world"...Yeah, we both graduated with excellent grades...

I will catch a bullet anyday for him.. His happiness is my priority. . He's my first and only love
He always says "we will teach the world the meaning of true love"..

I pray God always not to let this seed of love in us die but get better with time. .. I love you till death sweetheart


Yeah, true love still exists. . ... sorry for the long epistle

aisha2:
Off about a man watching his wife dance. Na wa oh

bellong:
See how the guy was looking at the lady.

In his mind..."See how she dey dance like say she don win lotto, she go hear am when we reach Malaysia, keep dancing. When we land, na dance go dance you...."

That guy's face sef is "fearsome"

Frankiss44:
This was the only pic i have of their colourful marriage

aisha2:
Did you read this?



Sometimes it's okay to admit the initial post was wrong and someone close is saying the real story. No one knows it all, no one is perfect, she didn't sit and do nothing, she tried to leave and the mistake she made was telling him she would go to the police, do you imagine for a second the trauma she passed through in the last days?

Then the Malaysian authorities are idiots, why not stabilise her first? Why bundle and send her to die in that state? Please lets be human abeg, no one and no situation is perfect. from the initial story I blamed her but her family friend came and gave the true story and I have better knowledge and apologised. She didn't cause it, she didn't tolerate it, the idiot fake friend who posted this caused the misinformation by wrongly stating thay she refused to leave because of shame which was a lie.

Put yourself in her shoes, what would you have done? You probably married your child hood love who travelled for greener pastures, he came back for you unlike others who dump their babes, you had a beautiful wedding, you get abroad and find out he isn't what he said he is, in naivety you threatened him with police, he locks you up siezes all your property you are in prison, he locks you in and beat you a neighbor calls police a little too late, the authorities instead of treating you bundled you back in that bad state. Haba my sister,.it could be any of us, we don't make perfect decisions all the time, she went through enough hell in her last moments she was brave but unlucky, dragging her even in death because one stupid uninformed friend tweeted a story she knew little about is not right. Thank you Frank for standing by her bless you

Truckpusher:
No single empathy even for the dead?.....smh.

okotv:
Thank you so much. I harbour no hate whatsoever. I need the healing/overhaul process to be done with before I try again. For now, I just keep the good ones as friends and discard those I don't like.

I believe when am ready again, God will do a perfect job. I don't expect her to be perfect cause that would be harsh of me.
I hardly go private on social media but because of you, I decided to and it was worth it. Thanks for being a blessing.

mutter:
Why lost. In most cases they are intertwined.In most cases the social status of the other person determines whether you let yourself into a relationship or not. Especially for women.
Only when you opt for a relationship does love, care and encouragement take place.

mutter:
Men are much more dependent on a woman than the want to admit.
Today men are also financially dependent on women to a large extent.
That is the basic problem in marriage today. The man has lost his old biblical role as a provider and a protector. The only thing they are struggling to hang on to is their role as the superior partner in the relationship.
So it is difficult for most women under such circumstances to take on the functions of a man without wanting to grab hold of that supremacy too.

okotv:
decided to try again. Was deep into it but she wasn't cause she preferred another guy.

okotv:
Mizmycoli's write-up on love has made me decide
to share why I locked up my heart to love for so
long. It all began in 2007, I spent the holidays at an
aunt's place and on that fateful day, I was caught by
the younger brother of a girl also staying in the flat
doing immoral things(mind you nothing like
Penetration, just body touching)as my hormones
had just started to develop. We were reported and
blamed, punished but the annoying thing about that
phase of my life as a young boy was how the whole
situation was heaped on me. I decided to start
snubbing females and that was helped by the fact
that I was attending a boys only boarding school.
When I graduated, I had been so locked up I didn't
even notice, I was cold to girls and treated them as
guys.
It all changed when I met a true female intellectual.
She took the better part of two months convincing
me to give love a chance. I finally succumbed but
met a terrible heartbreak. So severe was it that it
took two weeks for me to get over it. I will love one
day but for now, I have decided to forgo that
passion till am through with my academics and
trainings.

That is a more detailed explanation .

okotv:
the last paragraph is the summary. A detailed explanation in in my diary, will try to sort it out for you maybe later