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Confused girls everywhere......

Your so mean.

Rekhina:
And what are you perpetuating ?

Sense i guess ! Go and sitdown 2

They truth is most girls don't like good and caring guys the prefer bad boys that will use them, break there heart and dump them, there's this program I watched on YouTube,, they guy was asking girls which guy do they prefer, good guy or bad boy,,
I was shocked that out 18 random girls he asked only 4 prefer good guys, the remaining 14 said bad boys.

kelvinboj:
Good evening NairaLanders....
I need y'all opinion on the best thing I can do.
So there's this girl am looking at tying the knot with very soon.
I met her around November last year through a friend and we started dating days after and prior to that she suffered heartbreak with a dude and it was a little bit complex cos she attempted to take her life when it happened and that resulted into her being hospitalized for days.
Considering the fact that I knew how nice she was to the ex boyfriend and how badly the dude treated her, I felt like showing her loads of love and care will result into me being pampered with so much care by her.
So here's the issue,
All her friends are the bitchy type, like girls who kinda depend on guys for everything and live above their means tho I feel like I can transform her as she once told me she can cut off every sort of ties with them if I want but I shrugged that off.
Am super nice to her but she gets to take advantage of that and take me for granted.
She lies so much like she once told me she's coming out from a mall whereas she was leaving a guy's house and when she later confessed she said she escorted a female friend there..
I don't see her to be someone who is trustworthy and I don't even trust her one bit
Her birthday was March and I got her gifts worth a lot of money but even with all that she still told me a guy who once asked her out months ago wanted to take her out for her birthday and she wanna request for permission tho I declined and she apologized for not even refusing the guy's offer.
And she once texted her ex without my knowledge and the dude said he can't wait for them to have romantic moment together and she smiled via an emoji, and even collected money from the dude secretly but she later blocked him off when I requested her to.
Quite a lot of bad things about her but I've never for once commit a crime or did something bad so far so good.
Am always the one telling her this is bad and stuffs like that and no one tells me to do the right thing before I do.
Worse of it all was her ex is the kinda guy that treats lady anyhow and to the best of my knowledge she can't dare to try this with him...
I don't know why me who is the nice and caring guy is going through all this.
And what's bothering me is I'll soon be going to Germany for my masters and I don't even trust her one bit cos she's done a lotta bad stuffs when we're still kinda in the same vicinity.
She's a finalist in a school in Ogun but based in Lagos and I stay in Lagos as well so it's some sort of long distance relationship.
Please NairaLanders just help me out in anyway you can on what to do cos I've not been myself lately and am so bothered about this issue.
Please kindly ignore the punctuation errors and grammars just typing with my phone

AwkaetitiBabe:
Seems you men are blind to all the ladies doing well in their businesses and jobs

That's it.

J4JUVENTUS:
Move on,and never look back..
I know its not easy,but she has lost respect for you already...

He didn't know her age for God's sake, you don't just like anything about guys, always bashing, harsh words, all your post about guys is always, insults,, why are you always so pained about guys... You can insult me as well, but I don't care, is better I tell you the truth. .

LilMissFavvy:
You are just beating about the bush. Stop pretending. The moment you decided to date a girl who is still in secondary school, speaks clearly of who you are. You are 28, you have laid a foundation for your life, yet you are out to destroy a child's life.

Seriously many guys don't survive this, I have seen one on social too were they guy killed they girlfriend because she wanted to leave him, after sponsoring her university education, she told him to calculate everything he spend on her, that his new boyfriend will pay everything, so you can imagine how wicked some of this girls are, why wasting his time for five years if you know you don't love and can't marry him.

OmoAlata1:
He can legally marry her to protect his own interest. But hold off on children until she is least in the last yr.

My dear, I have seen were this type of issue happened, they guy trained they babe in they university after she graduated , they babe told his boyfriend that she can't marry him, that she doesn't love him again,, OP don't ever try it, I know what am saying.

OmoAlata1:
Do you know how difficult it is to be a mother and a student at the same time? You could at least suggest he marries her first then sends her to school. Try to go back to school while you are a very involved father and tell me if you manage to finish the program.

They way some of this girls cheat is alarming, bleeping from one guy to they other cos of material things, they can never be faithful, spreading STDs everywhere, I pity some guys....

OP Don't listen to this person,,,, if you want to train her in school to any level, marry her first, get her pregnant, I know what am saying, to avoid story that touches they heart, girls this days can be funny......

OmoAlata1:
Why don't you bring her up to your level and taste? Nobody is perfect, everyone you meet will always lack something. If she fits what you want in a woman except her lack of education, bring up her to your standard.

I bet you she will take her life, if you try to break up with her, that's why is very dangerous to date minors, they can do Anything stupid in the name of love...

That's the point.

Ik09:
Women's empowerment is at an all time high everywhere else, but Naija babes are still looking for a man to spend on them.

A woman who only "loves" a guy because of what he can afford is a gold digger. What happens if your guy who's bringing value to the table goes broke?

Bitter truth.

1x2x3:
She's not talking about manipulation but repercussions of cheating on them...... Who cares anyway? 85% of these Nigerian girls are thrash and riff raffs looking for who to hook unto in the name of marriage to evade poverty. I say this without any form of apology.
THEY just marry anyone who's ready with cash not really who they are in love with.

This country ehhhh, imagine senators wife, na always who knows who.

O. M. G!!!!!!! What a sad story, so sorry bro.

Shibaraba:
Love has no plan, no equation. Once it happens, it happens. Not minding the race or tribe. Was into one,years ago. Russian. Most happiest years of my life. Sometimes we don't even speak. We just stare at each other. Would have taken her to the aisle if she didn't die.

Why are you this bitter, but I did not insult you, I only asked you a question,, but all they same, thanks.

Fountainofyouth:
Read what the thread is about before asking me a stupid question.

Please tell her, she like bashing guys, always angry over Nothing, she can't say anything without harsh words, or did anyone guy hurt her, I really don't know what is eating her up, her hatred on nairaland guys is something else.hope she will listen and change her ways,

BigDick70inch:
Now lilmissfavvy..
I read one of your text in one thread like dat and i must say u portray a good christian on there..
Why not pass yo message without abuse or insult nah..
Thanks ma

So if your boyfriend cheats on you, and asked for forgiveness you won't forgive him.

Fountainofyouth:
It is only ladies with extremely low self esteem and lack self worth that will allow men to play mind games like the rubbish you posted up there, don't you guys have sense ni? If y'all caught your gf cheating red handed and she still try to deny it and not apologise, won't you call her all manner of whòrish names, break up with her and kick her out? Isn't that logical reasoning and sense functioning well? But you want a lady to be a fool and accept you back after doing the nonsense op wrote, y'all will wise up one day, bunch of rug rats claiming men by cheating prowess, nonsense.

Keep fooling yourself.

If you like have 6,8,9 packs or muscular, if you don't have money in this country just forget it, have seen many broke muscular dudes, nothing for them.

HealingHeart:
@underlined is where the real problem with men lie. The idea that women don't care about your looks. Your physical look is most important to women.

If a woman sees you too fat, she won't be into you. Still, if you're too skinny, she also won't be into you. You need to lose the fat but add some muscle. Too much muscle though may detract some women.

So, yeah. Being muscular attract women. Besides muscles, there is a lot more in physical looks that may attract or detract women.

Nice one, at least you said they truth....

AkataWoman:
I’m not saying it’s right but the Nigerian culture kinda created a situation where women must look to a man for money. What options does she have to earn her own. In the west women can provide for themselves so they seek more than money from a partner. They’re more concerned with love, companionship and the things money can’t buy. A man is a partner-not a lifeline or your only way to eat or get what you want financially.

Lol, una no deserve foreign guys.

Isha327:
So we are to look for a foreign girl for u abi...

Please stop, why all this Harsh words on my sister...

Womenareape:
your type can open leg for just 20 naira!

@op! Don't follow this creatures called naija women!

They have nothing to offer apart from there onions smelly pusssay!

Find a foreign woman and they will love you for who you are and nothing but love!


Leave those black female baboons alone.

I disagree bro, they are not they same.

Martinez39:
We know that but is a woman going to buy that? Does a woman see things like that? As a man, you are just a utility to a woman. Once money is not flowing again, you become a useless utility to her — a utility she wishes she can dispose for a better one! It's all about the money. Your other qualities are secondary. Even if you saved her life in the past by donating one of your organs; you sacrificed so much for her or you risked your life for her own good, the moment your money dries up, you are no longer welcome and you are resented. It's the harsh truth. I wish it were different and that the love I see on TV were real but it isn't. Stop listening to amakav.ula's rubbish and sophistry. Even she herself knows she is being mealy-mouthed and it is all about the money las las. Pray you don't meet and fall in love with her deceitful kind.

Women won't tell you the truth for they don't want to lose their manipulative hold on you. A man that can't be manipulated and is aware of their ways and successfully freeing other men is a threat to their game. Love, just like true friendship, doesn't really exist and no money, no honey.

African, Asian, European, North American, South American, Christian, Catholic, Muslim, Atheist, Hindus, etc. they are all the same.

True, people don't just love yoy for who you are, is only what they will get, relationships here is not worth it, there's this guy living near my street, he married an Asia woman from South Korea, they have two lovely kids together, she's young and pretty,, people envy them a lot,, he met her when he traveled to South Korea for business deal,,he's a business man who imports clothes. he said she sacrificed a lot for him when the are dating, and he loved her so much, he said most Nigerian girls are all after your money, they cheat a lot, bleeping from one guy to other, he said he knows that cheating in relationships is everywhere all over they world, but naija own is they worst.

AkataWoman:
This Nigerian mentality towards relationships is not the way we view relationships in the west. Theresfore he would likely be better off with a foreigner. But OP what are your chances of meeting a foreigner in Nigeria?

Please stop, why attacking her, she did nothing wrong.

Mcquine:
Low self esteemed fowl mouth Lady.

Yep now I see why you can't ever get a man.

OK dear.

edydamsel:
lols........ cnt kill myself cos a man treat me bad or reject me. i only use the words to explain the extent that one can have enough

please take it easy ooo , don't commit suicide ooo, your man will surely locate you.

edydamsel:
can you compare me that way? its nt all naija gals mind u. i have been nice and loving. i have everything a man need but i keep meeting guys that can make me commit suicide. very wicked sort of men. but one thing encourge me"not all naija guys are bad" like wise gals

Shameless things.

CosmicPhoenix:

the power of d*ck should not be underestimated

What is this one saying.

MarjieJ98354:
I don't know if she can make a BOY wet enough to Bleep her. But I'm sure plenty of MEN will Bleep her. And what is the point of your question. No women wants to Bleep a boy unless she's sick!

Lol, but seriously what did u do to safitu, is like you hurt her so bad, please you both should take it easy.

ubunja:
it's too late for these ones. Why do you think they're angry