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LordsApostle:
Bra, the problem is, I cannot see a decent girl for keeps, just wayward fellows... Wayward, absolute waywaedness. SMH!!!

I can see why finding a decent girl might be hard for you. What with your brash vocabulary.

Have you ever considered that maybe you kept meeting 'wayward' girls because you were actually looking for fun and you attracted them unconsciously seeing that you weren't really looking for anything serious and as such you weren't really screening them to see if you could settle with any of em? Like you probably didn't care about little red flags up until now,you just went with the flow?

Now that your eye have clear ,just get back in the saddle and keep looking - this time for decent girls - they are everywhere. They just dont go around carrying placards with DECENT written of em!!!

[quote author=BLUEJAYY post=7772
Concerning the act of commitment itself, I'm just not one who clings to a particular person nor feels the desire to make anyone SPECIAL to me. Matter of fact I don't have a particular 'best friend'. Ironically, people always want to get closer to me and usually get totally disappointed when I don't show any 'special' interest.
I'm good with people and socializing isn't difficult for me but, I'm not going to take it any further than that, and I won't accept it if anybody wants to


So, you wanna psychoanalyse me or what?[/quote]I guess I have my answer. And no I'm not trying to psychoanalyse you, just trying to understand you - more like profiling - because sometimes people don't really understand other people's viewpoint or mantras. My mention was an attempt to grasp yours.

Example,I might say I wanna deliver with CS but someone else who hears it will start going on about how its not womanly or natural and all other things in a bid to make me change my mind without understanding my WHY or think my reasons are unfounded.

Lemme not bore you though. Thanks for explaining. Happy Easter!!!

BLUEJAYY:
All these guys who force themselves to be what they're not really have to rediscover themselves and reconsider their stance. You can't just choose to not be committed to a woman, it must be inherent in you, like your DNA.

I have an inherent and total fear for commitment. It's like a phobia. I know it too well and I'm totally okay with it and I accept it fully. It is who I am. I don't see it as a flaw, so I'm not going to try to change it. I'm not even considering marriage or kids. Yeah that's how chronic it is.

So, don't try to be like us, be yourself. You're allowed to explore as a young person bubbling with testosterone, and I like it that you've admitted to being lonely and wanting love and companionship.

So go ahead and find a good woman with whom you'll be happy with. Erase all the player thoughts and reach a compromise to be able to tolerate and trust her (I know it would be quite difficult having seen it all).

For people like us, our sanity lies in being 'lonely'. Commitment is only going to drive us nuts. I just can't do it.

Is it just the act of commitment that scares you or the responsibilities of commitment.. I'm dying to know.

I would have said to take her back and be collecting punna on the low but then you don't know the dirts and badluck she might have picked up during the break. So leave her be,you'll always find Someone better.

Pragmatically valid points but everything you listed above is like playing on Defence..
No matter how careful one is,life still finds a way to tease you.

If you want to share the truth, do it wholely. The part where I'm concerned is the part where you said his wife was asking if he doesn't pity her and her reason for asking to which your answer isn't correct.

She did ask why he was pitying her during the act,to which he replied that he doesn't want to go all 'ninja' (my words) on her cause of bruises and he doesn't want her feeling sore afterwards. She encouraged him not to *pity* her during coitus.

NB (1) what two adults do behind closed doors is their problem, but once its on social media,it becomes a public affair.

(2) If you wanna do damage control, keep it simple else you're gonna flop it thereby bringing more attention to that which you're trying to make disappear.

(3) I am not for or against the video. Its the propaganda behind this article I do not support

I never knew guys need an erection to pee, but,what do I know?? I must have skipped biology class that day

SocialJustice:
I know game of thrones is absolute rubbish.

Do you want to make heaven at all

Stimulating conversations..
Loads and loads of laughter....

All these babes wey dey put these kind pictures, dem get family members? If yes,how come dem still dey get mind for all these iranu?

If no,can't they just have common sense??

So according to you,if I bring money to the house as He does - irrespective of our specific gender roles - every other flaw will be overlooked and I love that. You know why,money is damn easy to make.

Therefore I'll bring my money all right,hell I'd gladly give you all of it but you better be content with it cause I'm tryna be an asset.. Don't count on sex( pls get it from random girls or prostitutes) even that lil advice,you ain't getting none of it.

I'll never ever ask you for money, I'll never hang my financial problems on you,I'll make you a co- signatory to all my milli,I'll be an ASSET. Let's try it for a while and then come back an see if you'll be content.

aanuoluwami14:
Me that need kids so seriously, Lord I want my own husband and kids now, but don't give me kids that will be destroying my things

Kids destroy things like it or not. My youngest sis once climbed the door to the cupboard holding all my mom's dishes and brought it down - nothing survived-according to her,she was riding a horse..

If you really want kids get ready cause they all come with drama.

With all these,this same man go still gadge up climb pulpit preach to people.... God is really not a man!!!!

Is that nail Polish on her fingernails already Make i face my front?

EmmySparky:
these guys died of over dose...No be kpekus kill em...

Welcome to public opinion 101 Mehn, nobody wan know that one oh... The sensational one is what pple are likely to embrace...

Saffi:
But who lose? You think to have sex means anything to babes of this generation ? Is it not pleasurable to both? What sensible babe will keep all her eggs in one basket for one boyfriend? What you need to understand is that if you think you’re smart, the girl you’re fucking is smarter. Whilst collecting your money and enjoying your prick untop, one maga will still go on his one knees and beg for the babes hand in marriage. Bobo please go and sit down.

I feel you girlie...One bottle of Ruby's chocolate wine for you.

TimiRume:
I kind of agree with Nneka even though she is a bit extreme with her views, but then those are not really her views, they are a natural order of relationship between men and women. Men are wired to impress women with proceeds from their labouring, while women try to win men with their looks.

Brown Sugar's views are problematic. First, if the man is willing to spend then you can't fault the woman. Second, women are also put under pressure to look good, neat and cheerful all the time even when there are factors that could make them not keep up. Third, men also feel entitled to pretty or classy girlfriends so for women who fall short in this area, they face same problems broke men face...lack of choice. Fourth, the world would be a mess if her approach to relationships is adopted.

Masculinity and femininity are two fragile and precious qualities we cannot afford to lose in this so called modern world.

I wish with all my heart that I could give more than one like. Alas,I can't. Sense from start to finish!!!!

NaijaRoyalty:
N2500 beer and food could have make her your sex tool for life .

Sometimes you sacrifice just little to gain more .

Badt nigger..... You are wise mehn!!!

yinkus6750:
Its no longer a rape case.
She's an accomplice in a murder case.
And where is the principal accuse and his co accused(father & son).
What a wicked , evil family.

Husband is in custody already. Son is still at large.

She said no,you stopped... Don't let her indecisiveness be your issue.

You are a real man!!

tactius:
I wish i could give your post one million likes...alas, I have but one like.

Its more than enough and I'm honoured. Thank you

One word

Try logging in with an alternative browser e.g,if you're using chrome try opera mini or phx browser or Firefox.

Happened to me too...

You are a father to her firstly and you should act as one. Be firm...

And you said she mostly does it when no one is around,meaning she knows its not a flattering behavior.... Man up and be the dad of the house,how hard is that?

When she dey waka pass you,just use your leg block road. She go fall for you.

ANGELMARVE:
I wish them a happy married life, filled with money, joy, happiness and fun and most importantly, the voices of many many beautiful children.

I know how it feels to see and carry little children, the feeling is extraordinary, you just look into their eyes and your whole body breeds energy and hope.

Little kids are amazing.

Kids are extremely amazing.... Hanging around my neighbours' kids has put me in a position where I day dream of having my own kids all the time...

Its scary and exciting at the same time.

A very big Bleep YOU to you who said I was too good to be real

Do a video extolling all the niceties of having her in your life,let it be the first thing she sees when she wakes up along with a gift( depending on your budget).


Alternatively, if you're daring,you could check in a cinema and see if they'd be willing to play your video before or during or after a movie you bought tickets for you and her to see. This is more guts than money though

Johnnyessence:
lol why do you say that?

Should be safe to say he's experimenting with acceptable/ non-acceptable social behaviors

His lecturer should give him an A for researching on social psychology!!!

Who and who is the we??

Who and who is we??