₦airaland Forum

The issue of rape is a dominant one and its effects on victims and society can never be over emphasized. Maybe if we give more attention to it than the usual five minutes attention on social media, then, more breakthrough can be reached.

We know males are also abused but for the purpose of this article, we will be using females as the focal point.
Males,in whatever capacity you serve, be it a teacher, brother, father, uncle,employer, et all,the damage you do to us goes deeper than the physical. When you hurt us like that, you scar us in ways unimaginable. You might get the fix or thrill that pushed you into such an abominable act but at what expense? I will tell you...

Sometimes, we are traumatized for life. Others get help,others don't. Some move on,some don't. We sometimes grow up and become damaged because somewhere along the line in our bid to cope, we loose our way.

Alternatively, for those of us who claim to be strong, we become so strong we hurt other people through our attitudes,philosophies about life,etc because we can't trust other people. Every one becomes a suspect to us. We hurt those who want to love us, we are almost incapable of receiving love. We hurt all the time, we second guess even the most minute honest gesture/ intent.

Another way you scar us is our approach to intercourse -hahaha- ,its terrible for everyone involved. We sometimes result to stimulants in order to help us enjoy a rather pleasant experience. Others go into BDSM and other kinky sh*t,some never derive any form of pleasure, never reaching orgasms because whenever the act is going on,we just can't separate what you did to us from what is going on.

Imagine getting married to this kinda woman,firstly- guys tag us crazy or damaged and then try to steer clear of us. The few who eventually stick with us suffer for what they didn't do. They have to assure us all the time, protect us from ourselves all the time which is exhausting for everyone.

We are a nervous wreck, our esteem is so low we have to reach up to touch it, we get panic attacks,we over-compensate for everything because we want to be valued,we become unnecessarily guarded, we don't trust anyone, and every other f**ked up emotion you can think of. At the extreme, some are suicidal all because of one male who couldn't control his bestial urges...

The big question is,after KNOWING all this, is it still worth it? Does that girl still deserves to be RAPED

I give him all of my praise and reverence for not looking like what I've been through...
His eye is on the sparrow, and I know He watches me.

You can give without loving, but you can't love without giving...
The right one will come along soon enough and you'll agree that she is worth every penny you spend on her because whether you like it or not you must spend money on her,she is your woman after all.
And no,no babe should ever feel entitled to any guy's money.

That I'm boring as f**k.

Even the very need for them to take you seriously is a reason they won't..
Give them something to respect and they will,respect yourself and you will surely be respected..
Trust me girlfriend, it never fails.Works everytime

What is happening to human race
The babe no try we know, but,Who ever took her there couldn't control her or restrain her b4 it got to that? Even if she went alone,no human being with a NORMAL functioning brain could help her
And the worst of them all are those who video,pose for a pic with this and even cheer her on. They should all be ashamed of themselves.
Oluwa help me raise my future sons to be gentlemen. This is real sad

SAMBARRY:
who wan turn victim of implication

Abi until the police change am for am and say na him kill am?its like you no sabi Nigerian police

I thought he said He's a journalist, how police wan take implicate am? Besides other people no dey the road ni?
Just asking cus I'm baffled...

KehnnyCares:
This incident happened in my presence yesterday. I wasn't with my car cos of one issues or the other.. Make I see police wey go question me as a journalist if I was with my car yesterday. This country is cursed, for over 4 hours, this lady was lying down helplessly without any help coming cos they all think she has given up the ghost already

You were with her for over four hours waiting for OTHER PEOPLE to render help??

I have no answer to all your questions but if this 'pagan festival' is strong enough to spread joy,laughter and happiness through out the world, then ama celebrate it with every thing I've got.
And don't stress your brain labelling me a foolish Christian, I'd gladly do it very year. Thank you

I'd give it back. You don't know the kinda problems the loss of that money is causing...

Thank you

This is really an issue. I've had a guy break up with me cuz according to him I'm too intelligent and homely and that's a worrying combination to him.
I was like WTF,is this dude for real I didn't break a sweat though. If he's too scared to handle all that goodness,he definitely ain't worth all that goodness in the first place.
Same goes for this dude too.

I'd love to give hampers to all the kids in my compound this Xmas. Even if na just biscuit, sweet,pencil,ribena and santa cap go dey inside.

I laughed so hard I fell off my chair. Whoever wrote this is a genius.
Its bound to work though. Not because its usable rather because its extremely humorous.
But only for peeps with a twisted sense of humour.

The only thing I gained this year is weight.
Yea,u read right. I gained weight!!!

Being a scum is not really gender specific. Its an individual thing.
Any one who doesn't respect themselves not to talk of others deserves to be labeled a SCUM (when I say respect, it involves but not limited to positive personal devt,being able to indulge in meaningful conversations, not being an ass when someone doesn't agree with our opinion, etc).
Which ever gender we feel best falls into the scum category is also an individual thing or a gender biased opinion at best and not really a universally shared opinion...

Bros I hail thee o jare. She didn't even get enough venom..
If I be boy eh,only God know wetin I for dey do all these chewing girls.

soberdrunk:
It is quite easy once you are able to convince yourself that no human being born of a woman is better than you in any way, you have to be your own 'hype man' in your head.......

We are not introverted because we think other people are better than us. We just feel better carrying on conversations in our heads with over a million variations of the same convo.

Its normal but quite risky...You need to tune it down seeing that its giving you cause to ask if its OK(meaning you're worried about it)..
You might wanna checkout the book 'The richest man in Babylon'.

I think the contest is only open to public schools in Lagos state.
Not sure though

Self medication is often times injurious to health. Go see a doctor.

cucumbar:
Hello guys, I'm supposed to see a female friend I have been chatting with for about a year now. We've only met once. she's coming from another location for an official assignment in my state. She is lodging in a hotel.

It's quite a distance, so I would definitely sleep over.

Now, would you advice me to get a hotel room for myself or stay with her in a room? She might not object.

Please advice.

To be sure just ask her. And if she allows you spend the night in her room, be a gentleman and don't try to make any rihanna moves (she already has it in her head you might try it,so prove her wrong). Wish you all the best.

Headlesschicken:
I believe that most Nigerian ladies are suffering from ancestral curses.. This can't be d usual human stupidity..

Ouch bros. U wicked o. >:

My parents are gold. They let us be with whoever we want. They are both tiv.

To the poster above me,never kick a man when he's down. Not everyone is OK with formal education. If you don't have anything nice to say,say nothing and If you can't help him,just move along..
To the poster,i might not be able to help but you will always be in my prayers. May God help you find your feet.

Early signs of depression. Get help ASAP

Looks like you need to change the kinda women you roll with.

Go get original honey and apply. Do it consistently