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Mcoutureankara:
Renowned publisher of Our Daily Manna devotional, Bishop Chris E Kwakpovwe has opened about his marital journey so far and also shared some tips on having a blissful marriage.

Excerpts from the interview:

MEANING OF MARRIAGE

Marriage is the union of a man and a woman joined by God not man. However, Not all marraiges are JOINED BY GOD. SOME ARE JOINED BY MEN via wrong choices. SOME ARE EVEN JOINED BY OCCULTIC LOVE PORTIONS, etc.

By the grace of God and via the ODM - OUR DAILY MANNA - mission worldwide, I have seen hundreds confess that they actually used charms to marry thier spouses. As I am led we have to use prayers to break such charms but I cannot reveal what happened to such marriages after such prohetic prayer encounters. Some things are ministerial secrets I cannot reveal on social media.

MARRYING A PASTOR

Papa God has kept us going. Also, marriage is work by both parties. Getting married to a Man of God may be hard because He may have to resort to his God sometimes for decisions. Can you explain why ABRAHAM Did not inform SARAH that he was going to sacrifice ISAAC? NOT ALL DECISIONS ARE TAKEN ON THE MARITAL BED. SOME ARE TAKEN IN THE SECRET PLACE WITH GOD. So it takes a woman who understands SPIRITUAL principles to be able to marry a CALLED MAN. NOT JUST A CHURCH MAN because not all pastors or ministers are truly called. Only God can judge that.

MARITAL ADVICE

Marry your friend; don't marry anybody just because they are Christian sistersor brothers. MARRY YOUR FRIEND. Being a Christian is a CRUCIAL FACTOR but Not the ONLY FACTOR. MARRIAGE IS A MARATHON AND NOT A 100 METERS SHORT RACE. MARRY YOUR FRIEND.*

DESCRIBING HIS WIFE, REV. FLORA KWAKPOVWE.

She's a woman that can tolerate me and my "25 hours" a day busy lifestyle.

CELEBRATING OVER 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE

I will be teaching young ones the right facts about HAPPY MARRIAGE SECRETS and HOW TO COPE WITH MARITAL ACCIDENTS/INJURIES BASED ON THE WORD OF GOD and NOT ON CHURCH- MAN-MADE DOCTRINES. LIFE HAPPENS! We are not perfect but we can Win. 30th of June was our marriage anniversary by God's grace .

DIVORCE

YES, LIFE HAPPENS AND NOBODY IS ABOVE A MISTAKE, BUT We or THE BIBLE don't encourage divorce. HOWEVER, marriage is not a life sentence. There are VERY CLEAR BUT FEW EXCEPTIONAL and ALLOWED CASES from the WORD OF GOD. THE CHURCH HAS FAILED TO TEACH ON LIFE AFTER A DIVORCE because MANY PASTORS ARE EITHER IGNORANT on that subject OR THEY ARE AFRAID TO STEP ON TOES WHO HAVE TAUGHT WRONG MARITAL CHURCH AND MAN- CREATED DOCTRINES FOR YEARS. Questions like "How to cope as a Single MUM OR DAD", CAN I RE-MARRY? etc, These are the areas we have been HELPING millions worldwide. If your church or friends threw you out because of a divorce or being a single mum, etc, contact us ..........BUT ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT whether single, married, divorced or remarried, our goal is HEAVEN AT LAST IN LINE WITH THE WRITTEN, UNDILUTED AND UNBREAKABLE WORD OF GOD. Always Remember too that A KNOCKDOWN IS NOT A KNOCKOUT.

IMPACT OF THE CHURCH ON MARRIAGE

The Church has helped stabilize the marriage instutution, but there are alot of POPULIST but very wrong CHURCH-MAN- MADE DOCTRINES (not the WORD OF GOD) still here and there that have kept millions in severe and "wicked" martial bondages.

Iamdemola:
Forget Covid-19, people are still finding love. It's a case of a classic love movie as a lady with twitter handle @doyiinsola narrated how she and her would be husband @banjizillight met on Twitter and would be walking down the aisle soon.

One captivating thing was that the guy was staying abroad when they first met and they had their first physical meeting last march.



https://twitter.com/doyiinsola/status/1279302676141015040?s=19

Congratulations to them.

AlexReports:
ONDO ELECTIONS; Youths Seek Olakunle Churchill As Next Governor, Print Posters


As the primary elections in Ondo state draws close, an influential socio-political youth group has commenced a clarion call, seeking Dr. Olakunle Churchill as the most qualified candidate for the 2020 Ondo State Governorship elections. Though, Dr. Olakunle Churchill in a statement few hours ago commended the vibrant and proactive campaign of Ondo state Youths, but stated clearly his disinterest in such political ambition, as he reaffirmed his support for the government in power.

The youth had in their campaign hailed and applauded Dr. Churchill, the MD/CEO of Churchill Group and a reputable philanthropist in Nigeria, for role his series of support programs targeted at youth empowerment and poverty alleviation in Ondo state. According to reports the campaign for Dr. Churchill as the next Governor of Ondo state was premised on his recent "Say No To hunger Campaign" in Ondo state, which has assisted several households, communities and individuals in the state.

The youths of Ondo State had also earlier highlighted some of the magnanimous activities that upheld their choice of Candidacy for Dr. Churchill Olakunle ahead the governorship tussle in the state. Some of the highlights includes his educational scholarship programs to support underprivileged children in accessing good and standard education, as well as the series on empowerment initiatives through skill program and talent talent development, especially in areas of sports.

In a reaction from an Executive Member of Ondo State Youth, he described the support for Dr. Olakunle Churchill as one that cannot be stopped but though can be suspended. He maintained that though their proposed candidate wasn't aware and may not be ready for such political ambition at the moment, the youths had already out of his overwhelming impact and benevolent gestures kicked-off his campaign.

Contrariwise, Dr. Olakunle announced his uninterest but assured them of his continued support toward youth, women and child development in Ondo state. Dr
Churchill is currently one of the youngest andost vibrant Enterpreneur and Philanthropist on Nigeria. His Humanitarian activities and outreaches cuts across Nigeria and communities across.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Good morning folks. Sure we are all good and managing the effects of pandemic well?. To God be the glory.

This is going to be long because I will want us to read and understand it very well before commenting. Reason is because any decision taken is going to affect both myself,my immediate family members, extended and the entire community.

I have been thinking about the way forward since December last year.

It happened that we lost our king (Eze) 5years ago and the community has been in turmoil due to the inability of the elders to select a new king.

Reason is that it is rotational between my village and the other village.

My village is now supposed to bring out the next king and my compound has been told to bring out somebody to be crowned as a king.

I never envisaged or dreamt of becoming a king in my life because.
(1) My father is still alive.
(2)I'm not the most senior in the entire family.

But then,the elders met me last December and told me that the diety in the community has selected me to become the next king and that I have to pick another wife from the community before I will be crowned.

I told them point and blank that the oracle is mistaken due to the reasons I mentioned above but they are not taking it.

Now everyone in my village is against me for refusing the offer and saying I'm doing it be cause I don't want to hurt my wife which is true.

Now my question is,What do I do?
Should I damn the consequence and pick another wife and be crowned a king in other to make my community happy or should I forget about the whole idea entirely and allow the community sort themselves out?

I'm confused here. N B. My wife is aware of all this.

Thanks.

Please bring this to front page cause I'm no longer myself. So many sleepless nights and selfish advices from the elders in my community. I really need to hear the truth from people I don't know.

Encash:
I had introduction. We we're about to do the traditional marriage. Her mother died. I invited the family after two years since her parents are dead one of the distant uncle gave me a bill, including a cow. We opted for a court marriage. It was done.

But this woman is disrespectful. Pastors prophet tell she has a spirit husband. Sometimes I see a man fighting me in the dream. After sex smthing will bit my d..k. 3 times a year. She refused to go for deliverance. She is stubborn and self centered.

Her brothers and sisters are supporting her ill manners. Myself and brothers have gone to the police station once. This is because of the differences. Ok, Come and take your sister I won't see them. She can leave my kids for me or take them along. I do 80percent of the spending, paying house rent for more than 10 years and payment of fees. A frigid woman that hate sex like shit.

People advise I stay because of the kids. But I can't continue like this. I am fed up .

Please advise no insult.

4ckz:
I will really need the input of married men and women on this thread.

So yesterday at the bar, you know, ashawo bar, I sat in the same table with a married man, looked early 40's to me. He got drunk and got all chit chat with me.

He told me that he actually picked up ashawo life style after marriage, told me his wife always used sex as a bargaining chip early in their marriage, and often looked for the slightest reason not to have sex.

He said his first time cheating was after his first child, that his wife refused his touch for more than 3 months, he got to cheat with one of his colleagues at work (lest I forget, the man is well learned and rich too, I could get this from his fluency in English and his car).

The affair almost cost him his marriage. When mata cast, everyone blamed him, but he couldn't tell them how his wife deprived him of sex. He was later forgiven by the wife and the marriage continued.
According to him, before long the wife went back to her style of sexual deprivation, was only active when they wanted children. He did mention that he doesn't think the wife cheated, he has monitored her, and as far as he could tell, the wife was an always at home type of woman, and according to him was a good woman apart from the sex thing.
Before long he went back to cheating again, and that was when he started ashawo life style, he choose not to have a relationship with anyone again because of the threat it posed to his marriage.
He said he is sure his wife knows of his ashawo life style, but never talked about it for the sake of peace, and he has been living like that for more than 10 yrs, and their sex life though not dead comes once in a while, few times in a year.
He advised me that if I should cheat, that I should never keep a relationship with anyone, that I should try as much as possible to make it just about sex. Me that's planning to never cheat on my wife.
So married men, do your wives ever keep you for months without sex?
Also do husbands deprive their wives of sex?
I don't think I can even bear 1 month without, like, I must be lashing my wife like thrice a week to say the least. I am much more scared that since my life is like this now, maybe cheating would be inevitable for me.
So married people, how do you deal with sexual deprivation from your spouse, and is it even possible not to cheat?
What of the health threat to your spouse that comes with it?

yinkus6750:
He forgot he was deputy governor
Doesn't have direct access to the states vault like Edo state, where political manovering well oiled gave the governor the ticket within a week of joining the PDP