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Quote by Eldee (You're most def not talking bout African men
We're not even allowed to cry when we lose our immediate relatives
If that doesn't release the tears, what will?

Some of us don't even know HOW to cry anymore
Believe it or not, Nollywood directors slice onions to force actors to cry  

So are you saying, culturally, African men were raised NOT to show emotions? lard hav mercy.  Now I understand the mechanics behind everything. Once again, I owe you one, One shot of sunset rum that is, ,

Wait, it has been proven that men who bottle up their emotions are more likey to commit murder and/or suicide, And all you "intellectual olodos" pls don't ask me for no link or source. I am speaking about real life situation here and NOT an internet generated poll,

Hannibal:
@ Chat2MeBac,

Do u really cry??  

Was that a trick question or wat? ,
Even pitbulls have their soft, softer and even softest sides,

StephenP:
Rare sight.

Stop this your denial jare,

tope2000:
roflmao damn right!!

Me ah tell yo g.al, Don't mind them.  I will start filming and later exposing them,

Hannibal:
Hilarious!!!
You mean the 1 after the boxing bout??
Those were the nights u were on aphrodisiacs.

Men, Always know how to cover their behings , Wen ah catch yo, yo go see wey ah do wit yo


@topic
I cry for a lot of things. If I go to the store and they don't have my size in whatever I needed, I cry.

If I dont get my way, I cry.

If my cat offends me, I cry.

If  client or their parents piss me off, I cry,

I cried yesterday when something I purchased wasnt shipped to me,

And  I cry even more from the 23rd-25th of each month ( Hannibal take note oo. Abeg)

Crying is just in our nature, But I still insist.MEN cry more. But the chickens wont admit, Olodos

ibkaye:
Ahhh, seun is at it again abi? Lol, gosh i missed you sha, aww thanx dear, am sure you are also looking as fine as ever Keep doing your thang hunn  

Yes oo, idiot, ,
Well it's hard being sexy at 40, but I try na , keep it up darl, Nuff Nuff luv sistren,


@Onyinye
I once caught my ex in tears. The goat lied and said he had "pink eyes" Son of gun's eyes were as dark as midnight, hmmmmm Men,

Hannibal:
Chat2MeBac, i hope u are reading this.
If u want me apologies, keep the crocodile tears away when i say 2 rounds is enough for the night.
Capice??

See me see wahala oo. You dare talk about 2nd round, when I cannot get you to go for 1 without you falling asleep on top, under, or by the side of me , Abeg! Nonsense,

onyinye2:
You speak of truth. Truly Hilarious!!!

Onyinye sweetie, you know how men can front. They cry like babies then lie about their eyes have problems,

@Ibkaye, huney I am good , Was sent to the "slammer" again. This time no reason. Funny they never banned me when I am being bad, ONLY when I try to be nice , It's life oo. what's a girl to do na? I am happy you are doing well and you look pretty as ever. keep it up lovey,

@topic
See all these yeye men on the thread chatting nonsense. Tell the world the truth. Men cry more than ladies, The thing is we  do it in public while they run home to their Mamas

stay-free:
ROFL, , If you change your mind, let me know ( I am an old user, someone leaked your facebook to me, I know who u are. My brother is impressed.

Is that so? Talk about madness. Well what can a 40 yr old woman do?  Y'all should have seen me at 22, .

Hannibal:
I have a cousin's cousin in the FBI.
They should look into this case. . . . . This smells like MURDER ad not a natural death.

Heard your cousin loves Carib  women.  Straight nose, long silky hair and big asses. Guess what? We still have a fair amount still residing on the islands. All I need to do is call Lennox right to pick him one and the case will be closed before it's opened,

Hannibal:
Are u sure u didn't strangle your husband??

God for bid, The coroner, whom just happened to be my cousin on my Mother's father's Mother's side, concluded that he died of a massive attack in his sleep.  I warned him to ease up of those jerked pork and Maccaroni pies I made him every week ,

stay-free:
Who are you?  I have been laughing all day at your replies.   .

Don't be mad, but are you married?  My brother is single and searching

LOL, Jusy keeping it real na,

No I am NOT, I am happily widowed and I intend to stay that way.  Let's just say my late husband took out a massive insurance policy and I refuse to share it with some loser. So I am just livin ma life like it's golden jare , But I can hook your brother up with one of my "Spice girls"

@Ibkaye.How are you? It's islander na

nalijah07:
Does it make you uncomfortable? What is your reaction?

When the tears are not due to death, or sickness, but due to the fact that you've hurt her feelings in some way, how does it make you feel. How do you deal with it?

Most men are insensitive, So asking them such a question is a waste of respiration.  Even if you just told them your dad passed, instead of a hug or some comforting words, they will ask' so when are you guys gonna return him to the earth?"  That's why I "love"  white men.  They will take you to Bora Bora to moan and top it off with Pink diamond to help ease the pain away ,

eldee:
Average graduating age of Nigerian private schools is 16-17
If we agree that he's been in love with her for sometime, then the estimate is 15 year old

Besides it's grossly unprofessional to have relationships with your clients/customers' children

While I do agree with the highlighted portion of your post, the reality is it happens.  I am in no way condoning such behaviour and would NEVER practise such demeaning act.  

I have known of student-teacher relationships especially in Tertiary, some of which are Private, thus my asking, , But thanks for the clarification, Now yo can ga lang

Hannibal:
Come to the UK and i would show u women that are willing to share their wealth 50-50 for a piece of "black sausage".

Hmmmmmmmmmm, Is that so? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

@topic

10 years and counting and I am very much saned jare

Sam,
Go for it, you never know. If your feelings are triggered by physical appearance and she doesnt match up to your expectations then you are in for trouble. However, if she has a great heart and her personality is what matters, then all the best.

Life is very complex, you just never know. My friend met her husband on the streets of Leeds. He was distributing tracts, she was on her way to Uni. She told me her first instinct was to tell him to buzz off. You see my friend is an attractive woman. She had a certain criteria in terms of the men she dated and this guy's physical appearance was NOT among those. She reluctantly gave him his number and dodged him for weeks until one day she decided to take his call and later go out with him.

Today they are happily married with 2 handsome little boys. They visited NY this Spring and while having one of our "girl talks" She confined in me that this man is the best thing that has ever happened to her.

At first her instincts werent right, but it paid off in the end.

All the best,

The poster said he teaches at a Private school. No one asked the ages of the student there. Should I assume that All private schools in Nigeria are for toddlers and/or children under the age of consent ONLY?

chamotex:
he's not cheating, maybe he's just sampling

i beleive in "Innocent until proven Guilty"

LOL, Well I believe in Guilty until proven Innocent

The Sly:
Change is constant ,Natural and inevitable in life jor!!!
She needs to relax. . . . .I'm telling you.

Yea change is constant and all its other cousins you so meticulously mentioned , But it is also uncomfortable for the parties involved. Men most times are so insensitive that they disregard what either comes out of their mouths, or their mannerism. Females tend to be more intuned with their surroundings, so any little change in behavioural patterns become warning signals. Give the girl some credit. Atleast she didn't cause a scene, she is still gives him the benefit of the doubt.

chaircover:
Yep - some women including me can talk for the world.

Yesterday I rang my husband from work but he didn't pick up the phone so left him a message to call me back urgently (it wasn't an urgent matter but just wanted to gist him about something)

Anyway, he called me back straight away and I gisted him. Throughout the conversation he didn't say a word then when I finished he just said to me in a very calm voice, "Darling I am going to bill you for wasting my time"

I just burst out laughing, Got the message, Nice one.


Maybe your guy just wants to sleep, or he could be my husbands cousin

LOL, Yea I used to do that with my ex. Or faked the headaches so he would drop his pants and drive over, hmmm. Women,

chaircover:
I don't think he is cheating, It could be that he was fed up of talking and wanted to go to (or get back to into bed) and didn't want to hurt your feelings

Yea you have a valid point dear. But I would rather my bf tells me the truth and let me go to bed panting knowing he only wanted to sleep, than making silly excuses that would left my imagination running wild, ,

I don't know why, but I guess it all has to do with the fact that I am a very straight forward person. So I say things as I see them and expect people to do likewise,

Sisikill:
ROTFLMAO!

In the beginning, my friends used to think I'm a fool or something, I didn't even bother explaning. When they saw I was a "fool" and what the "fool" did. . . I went from from being called fool to being Psycho in 10 secs flat. LMAO.

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL, Now that's what I am talking about now!, You have to bring on the surprize when they least expect it. ,  I remembered when I heard my ex was cheating with this girl on the Netball team.  I stayed 'cool and collective" All my girls were like 'you fool he is lying, he is this, he is that"  Well to cut a long story short, I confronted him and told him " honey I have been hearing rumours about you and so-and-so, I am giving you the benefit of the doubt, However, if I am afforded 1 ounce of truth in what I am hearing, I promise you that you be on the sidelines for the next coming Inter-Secondary school football tournament"  He looked me in the eyes and told me I had nothing to worry about. Since that talk, my friends never came back with any more stories.  They asked what I did, I guessed it's safe to say he say my psycho side as well then

Hannibal:
The OP is too anxious. . . . . .She needs to relax.
Men are poor at cheating. . . .We leave clues, traces and loads of footprints.
SMS, E-mails, Last dialled numbers and many more.

I am relaxed now.LOL, I will be dusting them tiles like crazy for clues as of now

The Sly:
Yeah Yeah Whurheva Whurheva!!!

Before she breaks up. . . . . .At least she should get an incontrovertible evidence. . .
Not all these lame excuses jor! arkkkkk!

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh but she did give her reasons now,
The poster said her boyfriend has changed, Now what more do you want to hear?

The Sly:
Ohhhhhhhhhhhh Wieeeeeeeee!
Just because of chat?. . . . . .What wont i see up in this place?

Sharrap jor, She said this thing has been going on. How would you explain your girlfriend telling you she has to run, or she has an emergency and never bother calling back to update you? Taking into consideration this has now become a habit? You need help jare

Hannibal:
Your safest option is to do nothing.
No trace, no evidence and u don't want to cry WOLF when there's nuthing.
A hit n miss attempt now would weaken your case the next time u suspect something.
Patience is a virtue. . . . . Be patient.
If he's really up to something, he would be caught.

For sure, For sure, No doubt about it,

Sisikill:
@ Topic
Honestly, I wouldn't do anything until I have a real reason to. You don't want to come off coo coo now do you and that's what will happen is you accuse without real evidence. If he is cheating on you, trust me, it won't be long before you have concrete evidence. See, guys are. . .[b] to put it nicely, not that bright and not that bright guys who are ch[/b]eating, well forgerit. . . Bulb ti o ti jo na, n ya ju ni wan. So sit back and relax, your time for action will come.

Couldnt have agreed with you more dear.  The diference between us is that we think with our heads, while they do so with their 3rd arm.  I give people the benefit of the doubt all the time, if I have reasons to believe you are doing somthing fishy then, may God help you. I may be petite but I have my own way of getting revenge.

I think the poster should have a nice "sit-down" with her boyfriend and talk things out.  Lord help us women,

@Stay-Free,
Have you tried talking to him about it? I suggest you set aside a special weekend and you two should thrash it out. Let him know what has been bugging you, and if he is a real man he would listen and and communicate to you. Most men are NOT great communicators, instead they will throw all the blame on the females. But one thing I would advise you NOT to is, and that is jumping to conclusions. I have learnt that things arent always what they appear to be. Just take care of you first and let all other things fall in place. All the best dear!1

50-50 if he deserves it then why not?

I mean why must I afford a lazy spouse who does nothing to upgrade our lives 50% of what I work hard to accomplish?  Or 50% of the rights in MY house?

It would be very difficult,

stay-free:
My boyfriend and I have been together for the past 1 year. We love each other and we do fight and have our ups and down but we trust each other. Last week monday I was at work( I work at nights) and since I normally have lots of free time I called to chat. Half way through the convo he said he has to run and will call me as soon as he gets back. Well he never did and I didnt ask.

But it happened a couple of other times and now I am getting worried that he may be cheating. I knw my boyfriend when I ask him something and its not true he will scream. But I keep asking him why he keeps acting strange and he is very calm.

I need some honest opinions. Because if he is then I am gone. I don't have time for nonsense. Please people what should I do??

I understand and empathise with you. However, this is a very complicated matter.  I will give him the benefit of the doubt. keep monitoring the situation. Ask him why he doesnt answer, or if he does he acts fishy.  Then listen to his explanation and if it makes no logical sense, then something is wrong.

Most men think they are smart. the truth is they "cannot cheat well", My mother always say 'if yo gut tell yo say summin wrong, most times summin wrong"

I just dont understand what some men want, But as I said, dont jump to any conclusion yet.  If he is cheating, trust me, the truth will expose him,

@topic
I am with u too. T-Pain needs to take two pain killers and chill,

blue-sky:
ive never heard of the term 'jew man'

I do admit that guys ti like my o be forward, if a guy is not assertive and timid, then its just boring.

I agree with you 100%.  But most guys find that too hard for them. Now I understand why pulling a tooth is such a tramatic ordeal for them as well.

Pataki:
Please tell her to back off!

If she wants to toast, she should toast. All this her stalking and riling tactics is outdated.

Only a JEW WOMAN behaves in this her manner.

I don't know her that well, ,

@topic
I empathise with you, however, you don't need to stress yourself unneccessay. My best friend is a male and his wife hates my guts with a passion. She went as far as sending my then boyfriend a mail implying that we were sleeping together. The thing is, I have known the guy since I was 11yrs and he was prolly 13. We have been closer than ever. Him and I share everything. I think now she is a bit comfortable and I know it still hurts especially when she tries to be nice to me for his sake,

Just believe your girlfriend, It is very possible for a man a woman to be great friends with nothing added, I am a living testimony,

Playa Playa Pataki, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I see you have got your hands full , Deepzone is just riling you up na,

Hannibal:
When would this spastic Ijesha nymphet get a grip of herself??
Someone please give DeepZone her steroids to keep her clitoral erections in check.

, Blood cloth,

, Waiting for the others to come, I just love this battle of the labia-dentals

Hannibal:
I don't mingle with feral and depraved chics like DeepZone.
How do u expect me to cope with her putrescent farticles??
Don't yank me chain, Island girl.


Don't even start. . . . .
DeepZone has your picture on facebook . . . .She fotoshopped u and her kissing on her profile.
You are about the only dude that can clean/tidy her up.
With patience. . . . . .Ini Edo can turn to Beyonce Knowles.

NOw that was just meannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn ,
I need a shot ah sunset to settle my self and get back from that sudden quaker u just caused


@Pataki, be nice too,

Hannibal and Pataki, I see you guys are just so madly in love with the Zone girl, Why don't y'all express the love and take it to the next level?


Let the race begin, May the best man wins,