PuZZyNegro: I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.
I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.
They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.
We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.
I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.
If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?
Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?
You are simply stupid. You are not ready for marriage as you greatly lack emotional intelligence and very proud and opinionated. I pity the girl if you marry her.
Viral video of living conditions at a Nigerian Correctional facility (prison) 😲😥
Please stay away from crime!!!
#wetindeyhappentv
I hope you know its not only crimes that take people to Nigeria "Correctional" Facilities? You may be retruning home from work and could suddenly find yourself there.
So just to ask, what line of profession do you really want to focus on? The computer guru stuff or just doing business to have some income?
Have you made some finding on the prfitability fo the popcorn buness (start up funds, location, market, rent, etc). Its very wise to count the cost before engaging in any business of any kind.
I do not support the speech by and threats (to life?) by Ibiyeomie. However DF is quite insolent in his broadcast with favoritism and support shown to a certain pastor no matter what the pastor does.
Two wrongs don't make a right, thus my advise to DF is to be more accommodating and less insulting while Ibiyeomie speak/act more like a corrective elder brother to DF. They are Christians and should behave likewise.
Coldie: going after their citizens should come last, to reduce the number of nigerians in ghana, fg shoul stop nigerians from schooling their. Thats the major thing their country benefits from our citizens as ghana has been a tertiary education hub to nigerians thereby adding to their economy.
Nigerian students alone spend over #30bn studying in ghana, not to talk of tourists from nigeria.
What exactly does ghanians contribute to our economy?
What does Ghana contribute to our economy? Have you asked why do Nigerians flood Ghana?
Though you are entitled to your opinion based on your reasoning, i think you should not run away from the truth. Its useless banning Nigerians from studying in Ghana. The reason is that there are countless other universities in other countries that Nigerians who can afford it will go to. Also the effect of this ban will only affect the almost extinct middle class or average Nigerian, not those politicians at the top. You could as well call for banning of Nigerians from any university in the world.
Truth be told. We need to fix our country otherwise we will be viewed and treated as "inconveniences" in other countries. Even Togo and Gambia go use us shine if we fail to do what we ought to do in-house.
The main issue here is government interfering with church leadership. Mallam Aboki who is a minister of Nigeria has power to suspend or dismiss church leadership and nobody can challenge it in court. This is a war against the church.
I believe it was not war against the church when mainly Christians in the north were being killed and none of the GOs shouting today stood their ground against it. Now its what touches them (money and power) everyone is shouting.
We had (probably still have) the opportunity to change the status quo of evil in this country but the GOs who frolic with these politicians will not make this categorical stance.
Just one Sunday protest in declaration from 2 to 3 GOs against just one or two evils that bedeviling this country would make us have a U-turn for the better. But of course none will speak up.
So much sentimentalism and sensationalism around religiosity and religion.
The video speaks volume but of course religious folks will not even take anything out of it even if they listen to the entire 1hr plus video.
Its simple. The so called "churches" are registered under Federal Government of Nigeria under CAMA as companies, probably NGO or charity organisations for which many claim they are not charity organisations when it comes to assisting even their own members; not to talk of those not their members. If the FGN decides to regulate the activities of these companies for better transparency i see no issues. Personally, the only issue i see is the clause "without recourse to court" which is quite draconian. But setting up committees to oversee the affairs of these company is welcome.
Again this act will absolutely not affect the church. Many mistake the church with the company (which has a name and many branches). Christians have spent too much time building companies rather than The Church. So we now confuse company with church. You cannot imagine the scale of corruption that will be exposed should this law take full effect; i believe this is what the MOG's are fighting against.
Gemid94: Three kidnappers were killed in a gun battle and two of their informants arrested early Saturday morning along Lokoja-Okene highway by team of hunters and neighbourhood watch from Okehi and Adavi LGAs of the state.
The kidnappers who were planning to stage an attack on innocent citizens that ply the Lokoja-Okene road, met their waterloo when two of their informants were arrested.
The Senior Special Adviser (SSA) Security incharge of Okehi Local Government Area, Hon Abdulraheem Ohiare and his Adavi counterpart, Hon Joseph Omuya Salami, had led the hunters to the hideouts of the kidnappers following intelligent report.
BobbyHammar: Anybody who still believe in the scam of no sex till marriage needs to get their head checked. If only you know how many marriages have been destroyed or are still suffering because of this, you will never think of falling for such a scam.
What baffles me is those who keep going to church but yet don't know anything about bible and will keep deceiving themselves that sex before marriage is a sin (WHICH YEYE SIN).
Many will say it's formication but they don't even know the true meaning of fornication as referred to in the bible. Take for example when Joseph was dating Mary, yes we agree she was still a virgin because it was their own decision not to have sex yet but how many people realized that there were other young women that existed then as well. Many had boyfriends too and some had sex with their boyfriends while some didn't because Mary wasn't the only virgin.
The bible never condemned those that had sex with their boyfriends before marriage but it was just the divine choice of the Father to select a virgin rather than a lady that had sex already.
Let's stop all these brohaha low African mentality of calling sex before marriage a sin. God only sees a clean and a pure heart, not who had sex when or how. You all should better respect yourself and save the doctrine of marriage by testing the waters to ensure you are ready to sail on that water for the rest of your life. Not after marriage you start looking for divorce because penis is too big or too small or maybe Virgina is too tight or too wide or its always one minute sex.
Haba.
If the folly of a man is not addressed he will think he is wise in his own eyes. Proverbs 26:5
You did exactly what the Devil himself would do to make people follow his ways; subtly deceive.
Following the only reference you could give to buttress your point, Joseph and Mary were not just "dating" as you would think dating is today. They were betrothed to each other. this is beyond the normal "dating" of today which is reduced to basically "sexual gratification" or "testing" between opposite sexes.
Also being a virgin then was a common thing. If your were not a virgin before marriage is was a very serious issue unlike as it is today. Thus people "dating" and having sex at the slightest impulse was not a common thing as you would want to have people believe.
Please get your facts right to avoid deceiving the already gullible public.
PS it beat me that such posts make front page. Mods na wa for una. Nairaland has dropped to huge low!
Poorboy: Broke man ,broke man if her father is not broke will she be totally dependent on you.
How old is she?
Is she educated?
Does she have a job?
Is the other sisters married and doing well than you people?
Is she from a wealthy home, like she is used to comfort already?
Which state do you reside?
See you cannot satisfy greed, your wife is a greedy person. How can your wife ask you to look for money for her to travel out then you feel you have a wife.
Work on your emotions don't allow the term wife to make you try to impress, if you put yourself in unnecessary pressure to make money and die before your burial another man will already be sleeping with her. She is the money type.
Tell people the truth and let them know their worth, I once told my fiancee I am not your responsibility, if you can't survive quit.
Don't regret beating her, though I don't subscribe to that.
Mind the advise and comments you receive from people, especially those that are not married. We could have an offline discussion on this issue if you have not gotten your answer yet.
GrabHisBalls: The stupidity most of you display on this forum is really appealing. Why don't you shut up if you don't have any logical contribution to the thread? So, Wicked Wike bribed Judges to transfer an oil well from Rivers State to Bayelsa just to punish a seating governor and still bribed the judicial system to restore the well back to the state now that he's a governor. How logical is that?
...very logical if it is to score political points. I don't also want to believe you think Wike was not instrumental (one way or the other) to the loss of the oil wells to Bayelsa as this was very glaring when the events unfolded.
TheSkyIsBlue: My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage
Hello Nairalanders!
Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.
I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.
There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.
After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.
But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.
After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.
But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.
I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.
I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!
OP, YOU HAVE SEEN THE WALLS OF AN ACADEMIC INSTITUTION, BUT YOU ARE NOT ENLIGHTENED. Please don't take it as an insult, its a complement after reading through your piece.
A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!
I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!
A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.
You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.
Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.
Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents. Stop being ignorant! Stop living in ignorance. You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep
Firstly are you male or female. The write-up suggests u are male but your profile says female.
Secondly you are correct, but the status-quo will not change and girls of these days don't care about these truths you put up here.
When the world is looking into a future without crude oil and investing accordingly in alternative source of energy, we are still investing huge funds to discover more oil and gas.
If you have no direction or vision in life as a single person, you most likely will not find success it in marriage. I used the word most likely as what ever you choose to become is dependent on your choices and decision in life. You may just find your thinking cap after marriage, not necessarily because it was given to you by your wife, but because you just realized that your infatuations have been proven false.
Me I will wait till they start giving them out free of charge before I do the needful.
How can someone spend his hard earned cash to marry you and then you will still come to his house and frustrate him?
I rather wait to get her free of charge.
So that her indiscretions will not move me one bit.
If I must use a dime to marry her, she must swear and sign an oath to be under my dominance. That I will subjugate her and she'll be happy to comply. Cos over the years, I have come to realize that only in such a scenario will a woman know that you're a man.
50 shades of grey de learn work for where I go de.
Finally, she's my subordinate, and she must act like one.
jess2019: My son will be 9 in October but his behaviour bothers me so much. He acts like a day dreamer. He has turned me into a shouting and miserable mum as I had to beat him after I've exhausted other punishment options. To make this short, I'm going to summarise his behaviour.
He still cannot get himself ready for school in the morning. Either he doesnt cream his body or forgets to comb his hair or doesnt brush his teeth. He forgets to brush his teeth almost everyday. This made me to make a list of step by step sticker. I sticked this on their bathroom mirror and on his bedroom wall. Yet I have to keep reminding him everyday. For example, last week on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he forgot to brush his teeth and hair. I have to constantly be reminding him every morning. He is the only one that brushes teeth after getting ready. I trained them to brush teeth first before shower but he keeps forgetting.
I have to remind him to do his homework, and put it back in his school bag to return to school on Mondays. The book will still not make it to the school even after constant reminder. We've lost countless of lunch bags. One ended up on school roof. If you give him any form to submit back to his teacher. He will forget in his bag so I now give it to his sister to give to his teacher.
He removes his clothes, shoes, pants, belts etc and leave them on the floor, I bought two laundry baskets for him. One in his room, another in their bathroom, yet all his belongings end up on the floor that you can hardly find a space to put a foot. I dont expect him to be perfect but atleast to try so that his 70% clothes make it to the basket or shoes to their racks. He also has a book shelf and desk yet they also end up on the floor.
He plays so much that sometimes he leaves shops with items in his hands. So I have to always watch out for him. Living in a western country where black boys are stereotyped I fear for him. He can stare at the ceiling for hrs when getting ready for school or spend long time in the shower yet not using soap on his body. This usually makes us late unless I step in to help or keep shouting.
If you ask him to do any house chores, he will not do it instead waiting for us to forget so he can get away with it. When grounded not to watch TV, he will still do it once he knows am inside my room or busy with a baby.
Yesterday we revised all his lesson assignments (5 work books). I specifically asked him to put them in his lesson bag. I pointed at the bag. Now I drop him at the lesson only for him to say oh I think I came with old lesson books. I dont know how he ended up with old books in his bag. It could be he planned it as a way to avoid the lesson. If not I wonder how he will remember it himself as soon as I drop him and his sister as this is unlike him.
I've taken him to a doctor incase there is any diagnosis so I can give him all the help he needs but they said it's just his behaviour because according to the doctor he is smart academically. He is 18months ahead of his year level. So they ruled ADHD out.
Are you a single mum? Your husband could help with this issue.
I almost said no but checked on the meaning of the word "consult".
Consult means: seek information or advice from (someone, especially an expert or professional).
This says a lot and i will itemize them.
1. You are getting an opinion/advice/information from your wife. This does not mean you must do what she say. It simply means you are making her realize she has a stake in the financial activities in the home (whether she is the main contributor or not). 2. There are possibilities of some minor cash request you may not run through her as well. 3. Looking at the definition of consult, your wife is not necessarily the expert on financial matters. And even if you are a better financially minded spouse, it does not hurt to still consult her. Who knows, some great ideas can emanate from her advice.
In all, i know this present generation is generally selfish, however in marriage do not forget you are in it with another person. You ought to be selfless and considerate.
Akinolabadurs: Am tall,. Lean muscles (skinny type), curly hair, and am fresh (i look like a black american) Its been bothering me for a while now.
Even with the fact that am an extremely handsome guy and am quite intelligent, i mean i would speak well about any topic you bring up.
But i have never had a girl friend....no matter any clique i walk with, chances are i will be the finest but even with that girls keep running from me even though i usually get compliment(on my looks) from some.
My friends would usually tell me that many girls are crushing on me, i dont usually sense that though. But when i finally get to talk to them they usually seem uninterested. One once told me i have a bad boy's look.
Please, guys what could be the problem? P.S today's own almost broke me.am really sad.
There are no proofs to your claim. No picture in your profile.
I also sell good perfumes. Even if you are ugly they will rush you.
Jayslicky: Nigeria has enough doctors!!! Is this man high on some drugs? The number of doctors to patient is 1 to 1200.
Many people have lost their lifes due to the few number of medical practioners we have, the government should rather find a way to improve doctors salaries and provide essential equipment for their work instead of acting unconcerned, the truth is Nigerian doctors are well appreciated abroad.
People still believe this guy? He's not a Nigerian citizen? He needs to read the constitution of Nigeria again. As long as you are born by both Nigerian parents you are a citizen, unless he has renounced his citizenship.
barbwire2: So I met this girl in school through a female friend, the friend was my neighbor though. So one night she invited her friend over for a nite and after that night the girl in question started asking me out and she made sure that i cut ties with that my neighbor. We started dating afterwards nd wd both broke up from our current relationshipz then. But after a month that was when my wahala started, her phone got spoilt some days to her birthday and i gave her mine to use in order to post pictures and invite friends too because she wanted to celebrate it, little did i know dat she was sending nudes and also wanted to go fetch with a politician in town to raise money for the birthday. After i found out she cried and pleaded for forgiveness nd truth is i myself i cried cause I was devastated, but I still forgave her and even sponsored the birthday myself. After dat three months after i went through her gbwhatsapp and discovered she hid some chats, I was able to decode the password and lo and behold she has been sending nudes to several other men and even traveled on a Sunday to havs unprotected sex with one of them and she was planning on going again, the same Sunday she left my room claiming to go to church. I was shocked in my anus. She cried and begged but I found it hard to forgive her which I eventually did but it took me months to get over it because sometimes i would just chat her up and tell her it's over because I can't harbor the pains anymore, she would plead nd beg and she even involved my friends and my siblings to help her beg. Hmmm. E no easy. I got over that and warned her that the next time she repeats same I would post her nudes online and tell the world both on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter anx and even here on nairaland. But she assured me she had changed. Now my greatest fear was that because she was into pageantry and she currently is the face of culture and tourism for one of these pageantry stuffs she would find it difficult to resist this men that will always ask for sex before any sort of sponsorship. Hmmm. Hmmm. During the ASUU strike we all went home and i was relieved that she would stay clear from these useless men but omo right there at home she still cheated again o. She met her childhood friend and he came to visit her, and whilst they were together in the house alone she threw herself at him and started kissing this dude. And in her chats she was like she couldn't hold herself back anymore, she was soo into him and had to kiss him.. Darn. I was heart broken for the umpteenth time. I called her friend who stays in the same street with her to help me describe the dude and the discription was pathetic. Soo my girlfriend is a LovePeddler and a nympho? I couldn't believe dis. Darn.. I confronted her and all she does is beg, cry, fall sick. Just as usual. Am so done with her cheating ass but she keeps begging. My ex is willing to take me back but this my girlfriend aka olosho is calling and threatening her. See me see case o. Wetin man go do...
Please just get married to her and she will change.
firdouz: Please do you have a link for its download. i have heard so much about the movie
I have the movie in my hard drive. It's huge like over 1Gb of space. It's of a Blue ray spec clarity. I really do not know how i can get that across to you.
This movie was done about 10 years ago but if you watch it, you will know nollywood is still light years away from bollywood.
Family / Re: Should I Have Collected The Bread From Her Mother? by chiteny(m): 11:22pm On Nov 20, 2023