₦airaland Forum

I can't really say it's healthy, neither can I say it's toxic. We just don't have a strong bond with each other.

To begin with, I have two elder half siblings I've never meet before, these are my late mother's children she had from a previous marriage before she married my dad. I haven't even seen their pictures so I don't even know how they look like, I only know their names. And any time I ask a family member who've had contact with them, they just waive it off.

In my family, it's not the younger ones (siblings, cousin) that are toxic, it's the elder ones (parents, uncle's, aunties) although not all Sha, and it's rubbing off on some of the younger ones. To say the least, my family is very dysfunctional.

We are just two who share the same parents, I and my younger sister, the rest are my half siblings. My biological sister and I didn't grow up together due to my mom and dad's separation. We reunited after 15yrs and still had some misunderstandings due to individual differences. Then I decided to be away from family and find my way through life. The last time we saw was about 2-3 yrs ago, we only communicate via call and WhatsApp and it's been cool.

My other half siblings, the children my dad has with his present wife we barely communicate, not because we hate each other but they are still young and are still under parent's custody so they follow whatever their mother tells them. I think they'll come around when they're much older.

I eager look forward to spending some with them in the coming hollidays though.

Nothing wrong here. Normal due process

Nackzy:
The Most backward state aside from Kogi is Benue, nothing to write home about that place

Lol. Have you been to Niger state?

Never in my life have I thought of myself as an underachiever, and never will I. In fact, I see myself as an overachiever with the circumstances sorrounding my life. I'm currently 28yo, there was a time I thought I wouldn't make it pass 23 or 25.

With what I have been able to achieve for myself given the fact that I have been given absolutely nothing in this life, even love and family which are the basic things most people enjoy in life because it doesn't cost a thing, even that I haven't been given in this life.

I came from a broken home, I've never experienced what family feels like, I never had my both parents together, I was separated from my mother and sister for 15yrs. 9yrs into those 15yrs I lost my mom. My dad hated my mom so much that he didn't even allow me see her grave. It's so bad that even till today, I have no visual memory of my mother. I spent most of my childhood wishing I was like other kids in my neighborhood.

I left home to be on my own at age 15, I didn't have the opportunity to further my education after my mom died, I've gone days without food, I almost died on the street from hunger, I've slept under banex bridge, Omo... The story long but here I am today, I have my own brand I'm building, I do not have to worry about food to eat or roof over my head.

Sometimes I look at some people of the same age group as me and I say, with all the support system you have, if you still need extra motivation to keep you moving, then your mater dey Yaba left.

Happens to me too. Mine is Zimbabwe and Mozambique, and mostly at night. Some times I wake up in the morning only to check my phone and see like three missed calls from either of the countries I mentioned above.
Just ignore.

stuffs2002:
We will not stop telling doctors the truth.

If E pain you, change your profession. go and become a carpenter instead of turning yourself into a murderer.

Use the same energy to tell your government the truth also. They've killed more Nigerians than doctors with their evil anti-people policies.

Please oh let him shock us

stuffs2002:
People like you are the problem of Nigeria.

So because Professor AbdulRahman separated conjoined twins in UITH the other day, that now gives the rest of the medical profesion to be killing Nigerians abi.

For your information, there is nothing special about doctors. They are not even the top priority professions in the world.

Who's business is it if it took donkey years to produce your DUMB baby doctor. Is is not even shameful that it took over 7+ years to produce a doctor who then goes to forget his instruments and other items in the body of his patients? Is that not a waste of 7+ years? Do you even know that Vetinary doctor is also 7+ years? Do you even know how many years and rigorous trainings it takes to produce an airline captain?

Imagine an aero plane pilot giving such flimsy excuses as forgetting his instruments. The life of one patient is in the hands of a doctor and he still manages to bungle it up like a fool that he is. do you even know that when a pilot is flying, hundreds of lives are in his hands and the pilot still lands safely without complaints. Put a doctor in a cockpit for an hour and see if he would not be crying for his own life.

We have security personnel putting their lives at risk to protect the MUMU doctors only for the MUMU doctor to be making silly mistakes by forgetting his instruments in the belly of his patients.

You are the wisest person on earth. Please whenever you or any of your family members have medical complications, please don't go to the doctor. You can treat or operate on yourself cos like you said, Doctors are killing Nigerians. Mtcheew

Kai! If I say Nigerians are the most ungrateful, most bitter and sadist people on earth now some people will come for my placenta. What about the countless successful surgery despite lack of resources, what about when they go to the extreme length just to save a life, what about the number of years they spend in school in order to acquire the knowledge to enable them treat your illnesses? How many of these have you appreciated? Doctors are humans too just like you and a prone to mistakes. See the way you are saying it like they do it intentionally, haba! cut them some
Slack abeg. Don't you make mistakes in your work too? Or is it only Nigerian doctors that mistakenly leave tools in their patients? What's even the statistical rate of this mistake self? It's very minimal. The Op even said he's lost COUNTLESS relatives. Make una dey fear God abeg. Maybe next time you have medical issues that requires surgery, you might as well do it yourself and avoid going to the doctors cos they will likely forget an instrument in your belly. Rubbish

Benki003:
Cc Yarimo and leodking where una dey

You will never see them in threads like this. But let the topic be "FG plans to disburse 15m to 200m households" then you see them crawling out from their holes like crickets, drooling with praise and worship to their god BAT.

Spotted Quavo.

Never mix emotion with business

Kalatium:
Today , I was just wondering how did we end up with so many churches.

I happen to be in Maiduguri currently but I can't seem to find my church and the churches that are somehow close I haven't heard of them before. I don't know their doctrines nor the kind of their beliefs.

I am just stock. Thinking of just staying at home today and watch service online.

I wish we christians have just one church so that irrespective of where you are you can be comfortable going to any church.

Lol. Thought you guys worship the same God. If you do, why different beliefs/doctrines? Seems the God you worship has different standards

Nosediver

I smell manipulation

You're even talking marriage. I'm 27 and I can't even date any lady younger than 25. Last time I dated one 22yr old girl like that, I nearly lost my mind. Those ones don't know what life is all about. They're only interested in the latest gadget or wears and trends. Think well oh. Marriage is not for children

donproject2:
Is this going to reduce the price of petro?


If you are good in designing flyers make we talk

Hi. That's my job. I'm a graphic designer.
Can you drop your WhatsApp contact so we continue there

Mtcheeew.. should we expect you to say otherwise?

Buhari's cousin

I won't care if she's not beautiful as long as she ticks my other boxes

MaryAye:
The future is female. No one can take that away from us.

Nah... The future is actually AI

SenatePresdo:
My message to men is, try to lift others even if nobody lifted you.

You know how hard it was for you, and how you were lucky in some phases, not everybody got that lucky, you could be their luck.

And lastly, no matter how much you spend on a woman she will forget you the day she decides to follow another man.

But if you spend on your fellow man, even if he makes new friends and even follows another woman, he will never forget your deeds.

Be your brothers keeper.

Men are the ones who are quick to forget who was their good friend when things start getting rosey for them. I know from experience

We4all:
Oloriburuku, it takes one who is highly perceptive and interacts with people to know their type.

And it takes a foolish person to shower encomiums on people who pass on their wealth to future generations, but get buried like common mosquitoes.

Come back and tell me that's it's good to be stingy when people start taking their wealth along with them when they pass on. Until then, keep shut!

By the way, only a myopic mind thinks that being generous is only about giving money to others. You should go and study about 'Ike Ekweremadu chapter zero', then learn to work on your mindset.

No matter how rich or wealthy you are, you must always want or need something from the poor. Take this to the bank!

Of course, I know your type now. One who resorts to insults when critical objection is expected of him. Experience has taught me that people of your character are always miserable, bitter, sadistic and toxic so I steer clear.
Enjoy the rest of your evening.

We4all:
Rich people are the most stingy and biased set of people. A rich man will pass by a beggar and part with a paltry sum, but will eagerly gift his rich friends millions without them asking.

She is lamenting because the average tomato seller ain't rich, so she is pained that she is giving out extra money to the poor that they don't deserve.

So who's stopping you from being extravagant with your money if you're poor? If their stinginess is what's kept them rich for so long, maintaining their wealth from generation to generation, then I guess you and I would agree that being "stingy" isn't a bad thing after all.

You should also know that it takes one who begs a lot to know who's stingy

GloriousGbola:
If you believe this one goes to market (not even fancy supermarket) to buy groceries I have a bridge to sell you.

Of course why should she go to the market herself when she's got domestic staffs to do that for her. You obviously did not read where she said she sent her people. You guys should try borrow some sense from China

Book of Lamentations chapter 20vs23 says:
"No mater how the economy goes, it must favour me and my family"

Whether they like it or not, it will favor me and my family 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

N3TRAL:
Why do people kill harmless animals?

Wall geckos are harmless animals?

kay29000:
While cigarettes affects your physical health (which affects just the user), marijuana affects people's mental, which can turn them to a menace to the society. There is a big difference.

I can never forget the first time I ate SK... I almost lost my mind. I looked in the mirror, in my mind, I wasn't smiling but in the mirror, I was smiling. After that experience, I never tried that again.

That's because it's not meant to be eaten. You either smoke it or vaporize it. You are the main abuser here now

People who don't use Cannabis talking trash about sh*t they don't know about. THC not in foreign decriminalized weed? I laugh in Bangladesh

What about Tobacco and Alcohol? If the well being of the nation is what you really care about, you'll move towards illegalizing the above too.

Bunch of Nitwits

I go to bed by 11pm/12am and wake up by 6/7am, so I can say I get at least 6hrs of sleep every night. I don't sleep during the day except on Sundays when I sleep through out the day most times

Pls Mr. President, next thing is to legalize marijuana abeg