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^^^ serious vexing!!! Lol. no be fight.

Sweetlemon: That is not the Kind of beauty we are talking about Oga. And kim K's looks are 95% natural FYI.
And I'm not advocating for her

Ok, you lured me back.

I disagree with the Kim K 95% equation, but I'll leave that.

If we're talking about natural beauty, I've already addressed that, but you chose to ignore it.

dontador: Lol... You follow for the ”we“?

Yes o! Lol!

D-Explorer:
This is why i somewhat detest western education. If these people no go school, nobody go dey blow grammer for here

If not for Western education, you sef no go fit understand all the grammar wey we dey blow na.

Sweetlemon: Interesting! so you r saying girls with super fake hair, excessive make-up, and overtly sexually dressed are actually what you will call beautiful are you saying you haven't seen ugly girls wearing elaborate brazillian weaves or obviously done mary kay make up Please enlighten me

Sure thing. Your above comments do not reflect the intention of my post so I'll explain using Kim K and Michelle O as appropriate examples.

I consider both to be naturally beautiful in their own right. However, one of them feels the need to make use of practically everything the cosmetics industry has to offer in addition to wearing outfits that leave little to the imagination. The experience of most guys is that girls like that have little to offer intellectually. So there, simple, two beautiful women, one decides that the natural beauty still needs all the enhancements it can get.

If we now also want to talk about the ugly girls that try to oppress us with their fake hair, nails etc, that's a WHOLE new conversation. :-)

Hopefully, my point is not cryptic like flotus.

Sweetlemon: I admit it wasn't obvious to me, and I will say again that it does not devalue my university degree cos it's just a slang. I'm not very good with slangs and I'm not ashamed of that cos learning all the slags in the world does not make you a Michelle Obama or a Queen Elizaberth. I concentrate my mental energy on other things

I understand. It was a cheap shot. I wouldn't call it "slangs" (sic) though.

Anyway, 3 vs 1 is unfair so having made my point, I'll bow out at this stage.

Peace!

Sweetlemon: LOL! is that s'pposed to make me feel dumb? LOL!
It's Obvious only to social network addicts! Do you know I sitll don't know what LMKWD (did I get it right?) is? that's cos I am not always on social sites. Nairaland is the only forum I have ever commented in and I'm not always on face book

Sweetlemon, the way the other poster referred to Michelle Obama as flotus and the context in which she kept using the acronym made it quite obvious even to non social network addicts.

You have some good points though.

Sweetlemon: And when you came in, you poured fuel into the fire by saying clearly and precisely that "MOST pretty girls are pretty dumb". How would you feel if I said that most men from your village are pretty usless in a thread that says "Mr X Vs Mr Y" if Mr X comes from your village? how? Even if Mr X is actually useless, you will feel insulted that I said most are useless just cos of Mr X.

I actually agree with Sweetlemon a bit here. I don't think most pretty girls are dumb. I've personally never seen any correlation between brains and (natural) beauty.

However, as I've stated before, the super fake hair, excessive make-up, overtly sexually dressed (you get the picture) girls tend not to engage in the most meaningful and intelligent discussions, hence the deduction that a lot of guys make.

^^^First time I've seen the acronym as well. But since she said Michelle Obama is flotus, the deduction was clear.

Sweetlemon: High 5 sister! But I don't Michelle is flotus o! she posseses an eloquence every woman should try to have

FLOTUS - First Lady of the ..

Beautiful sistas are doing it for themselves :-)

dontador: Seriously, what is the point of all these comprehension passages? The topic says ”A kim k or michelle obama“.....

If it's just about voting, she should have put voting buttons.

From my experience, most guys would have gone for the 18 year old Kim K, as opposed to the 18 year old Michelle Obama to have as their girl.

Of course, hindsight is a beautiful thing and most would now realise that Michelle Obama would be better for them for a serious relationship.

Unfortunately many guys (and girls) make judgements based on appearance, so it can be quite annoying when we still see mature, intelligent women oppressing us with their fake hair, fake nails, painted faces, excessive heels etc. It's refreshing to see the simple natural look once in a while. Although not necessarily fair, I tend to associate the simple, classy and more natural look with intelligence and maturity.

Even at 19, I fell for my own simple, classy woman and I'm married to her today. Without having to paint her face or buy someone else's hair, she still stood out from the "Kim K's".

Talk is cheap.

It's good to wait patiently for someone that's right for you. But anyone that's in and out of relationships (to the extent that two of her exes proposed) and still can't settle down has a flaw that's fatal to relationships.

If you're waiting for the one, wait patiently and choose carefully. No point jumping in and out with men you have no intention of marrying.

afam4eva: Do you guys know that Yohan Blake was a cricketer before he was persuaded to start running...

Exactly!!! While I can't vouch for Usain Bolt's skills, most athletes are multi sport talents at a young age and generally have to choose their best sport, by their teenage years, to take seriously.

There are many cases in England of good footballers, who couldn't quite make it in football, turning to athletics.

emmatok: Well this is not a religious forum so i won't go into the RESTITUTION stuff.

But my point is that one wife rule, apply's to all BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN and not Christian leaders only.

While Bonniefran is looking for the scripture that says only Christian leaders should marry one wife, perhaps you too can show us, from the Bible, the one wife "rule" that applies to all born again christians.

It'll be a great learning point for a lot of us.

DON'T GET MARRIED IF....

If you’re not ready to delay gratification when your are angry. To hold your tongue, lower your voice and sometimes wait till the appropriate time, day or even month before you can deal with an issue thoroughly…. don’t get married. Immaturity is the inability to delay gratification. Marriage is for the mature.

If you’re not ready to leave center stage and allow someone else to become your focus, your study, your muses… don’t get married. Selfish people make very bad spouses. In marriage you don’t lose yourself but your heart has to be big enough to gain someone else. And soon, with God’s blessing: little, crying, diaper soiling, demanding little ones are coming!

If you are not ready, to stand up and calmly deal with meddling in laws as a united front: The opinionated sister, the insensitive uncle, the domineering father, the manner less brother, the nosy aunt….. don’t get married. Boundaries do not exist automatically, they must be created. A good spouse is committed to respectfully stand up for and protect their marriage from meddling relatives. Don’t abandon your spouse to your relatives. It’s betrayal.

If you are not ready to pay bills…. don’t get married. Love does not pay bills. Kenya power will not give a waiver because your love is O so strong and your gazes at each other, O so romantic.

If you are not ready to let go of your opposite sex “best friends” and invest that into your spouse. To like, to laugh, to play, to be silly and to enjoy life with them, above anyone else… don’t get married. Affairs happen because people did not marry their best friends. Someone else holds their heart. Someone else gets them better. Someone else inspires them more. Marry your best friend and cultivate your friendship so that you remain best friends.

If you are not ready to stop competing with the Joneses…. don’t get married. Let the Joneses buy their yatch when you are still walking, and enjoy the walk. Your journeys are different. They may have to cross the oceans but you may be going through the road route. A boat might not do you any good on your journey. You must be ready to pace yourselves: stop competing, stop spending your future before you get there, stop the debt, stop trying to impress people. You must be able to be content. To enjoy your journey without deciding your happiness simply by measuring your progress against other people.

If you are not ready to be an open book. To tell the whole story of your past, deal with the memories, expose the failures and risk rejection…. don’t get married. It is fraud to have someone sign off their life to you without the full details. The past is a touchy and demanding friend. It always shows up in the marriage. It doesn’t enjoy being ignored and the more you snob, the bolder it becomes and the more tantrums it throws. It will mess up the “neat” and “all together lovely” image that you are struggling to maintain.

If you are not ready to let go of your philandering and wild oats farming…. don’t get married. Don’t take somebody’s son or daughter and subject them to your germs, your indiscretions and your chips fungaz. It never ends well. It’s romanticized in the movies, it’s being fronted as the only “realistic” way to stay married and keep the fire burning. But truth be told, the only thing that the fire will burn will be you, your spouse and your children. That family will burn for generations in bitterness, disease, fear, failure, hatred, broken hearts, broken dreams and conniving.

Finally, if you are not ready to let go of the adrenalin rush ofa risque life and to settle down…. don’t get married. The great Colombus [who we were told "discovered" America, Have you ever wondered if the Native Indians who were in it, knew that it existed :-) ] had a diary that was long sought for. People wanted to read about the wild journeys, the sea tempest, the reckless pirates they fought, the death and the danger they must have encountered. When it was found, there was great disappointment. Majority of the pages simply had 5 words: “This day, we sailed on.”.

Marriage, like life in general, has many “we sail on” days. You have to learn to find the thrill in the normal everydayness of it. If you depend on wild romance, all night sex [ha], romantic cruises, wild parties, compulsive moves across continents, tempestuous fights and make up sessions to be happy, you may be disappointed. You have to learn to thrill in gentle smiles, loving hugs, knowing looks, cozy moments, shared chores, cute babies, everyday work, dreaming together, praying together and simply living together. If these things are not thrilling, exciting and satisfying, you will look for a way out. The “boom twaff” moments are still there, but they are normally punctuations to the usualness of living. They cannot be your reason for getting married. They are unsustainable on an everyday basis. The one you choose must be thrilling to you even in the most mundane of moments.

I pray this helps someone. Remember singles, YOU HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF CHOICE. Never let anyone pressure you into marriage. You are either ready or you’re not: You decide!. But please don’t marry somebody and then punish them to live with your childish ways for the rest of their lives :-) . A childish baby is cute but a childish adult is extremely frustrating.

Marriage is for the mature and in many ways, we the married, are still being confronted with the demand to grow up day by day. If you are not ready for that demand, don’t get married!!!!

Barikiweni.- Author Judy Karanja


Check out more here: http://fearlessnazirite./2012/06/25/dont-get-married-if/

Shinatu: many of the single ladies I know in their thirties are those who know what they want at any particular time, they are hard working individuals who do not believe in mediocrity and in Nigeria where I live, you go tey well well for your papa house with these qualities while all the dummies get married because they are exactly what the men need to boost their ego.

Even with the decline in marriage, the majority (read >50%) of women still get married by their mid-thirties. As a woman, are you seriously coming on here to say a majority of women are dummies

*Makes mental note to ignore the arguments of anyone below "the averages" category*

The bottom right corner of the billboard says happy birthday. His birthday's in December, so this must have been a while ago. I'm surprised no one noticed till now.

It's obviously a birthday message to him, so unlikely to have been created or sanctioned under his authority. However, it appears to have been created by members who aren't even paying attention to the teachings in their own church. I was a CE member for a few years and it was often repeated that if you refuse to obey God's instructions/calling it's to your own detriment. God would always find someone else to do it.

So according to that teaching, the answer to the question of where they would have been if pastor Chris had another profession is: in exactly the same place, erecting a billboard about another pastor!

I'm sure there's not one answer, but mine is because it get's uncomfortable.

I also like to take it off when I wash my hands (which I do a lot, blame OCD), and I find taking it off and putting it back on frequently a bit annoying, so sometimes I just don't wear it.

Final reason is because my wife doesn't mind.

At the risk of jumping into the middle of a tornado here, this discussion is missing a very important aspect by looking at just assets.

In a lot of non high profile divorces the splitting of liabilities actually becomes a very key aspect of settlements. Under current western laws, some people are unfortunately "blessed" with (50% or whatever %) liabilities that they had no hand in creating or were outside their control, but which were created within the marriage.

Abegi! Make everybody else clear out of the ring. This Royal Rumble is now down to two contestants: Sagamite and Coogar.

Typing time over for me, this is now pure spectator time, unless of course the Royal Rumble is already over.

^^^DAYUUMMM!!!

tyusuffa: You deviated from the topic.

Who deviated from the topic?

This information can easily be looked up.

Clearly the birth rate has consistently outstripped the death rate since records began, leading to a high population growth from about 50m people in the 60's to about 160m-170m people in Nigeria today.

This discussion has gone off tangent a little bit.

The topic is not so much about giving/receiving gifts, which is normal in many relationships (friends, families, spouses etc). The issue is about a materialistic breed of girls than now DEMAND gifts and money, or base their relationship decisions on the "highest bidder" syndrome.

You can go round and round forever discussing gifts. Ultimately, the people that like gifts that I still respect don't think too much in monetary terms. They value the thought behind the gift (just the fact that you were thinking about them when you made or bought the gift).

That is different from the MATERIALISTIC discussion that this topic kicked off with.

Meanwhile, the same John Cleese has now married for a fourth time and I don't think he had a prenup this time either!

Man! I read that Daily Mail article about John Cleese's divorce. I am shaking with rage on his behalf.

His ex-wife went from living in a council flat to having £8m assets + income of £600k a year just by marrying and divorcing him even though there were no kids. It's painful sha!

She can now leave a bigger inheritance to her kids from previous relationships than he can leave to his own kids.

Well it's a combination of a very naive man, VERY FOOLISH laws, and a woman whose greed knows no bounds!

I think there are varying degrees of this problem. There are the downright materialistic girls who want men to spend big money on them for designer gear etc.

There are also those who may not necessarily be too materialistic, but they do expext that a guy that's interested in them should take over their upkeep, e.g. paying for salon sessions etc.

Me, I have a daughter and my wife and I will educate and train her to the best of our abilities. We will be very disappointed if she goes around expecting others to pay her way after all that.

Long One: Thanks, I feel a lot better now, lol.

Remember to also search for end of year bonuses (I see you've already included the sign on bonus/golden handshake).