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Shedrack777:
some situations calls for suicide, it only takes the grace of God for one to escape suicide. you won't understand

No situation calls for suicide. Do you think one who commits suicide will rest in peace? I think not

CandyCandy:
OK. Noted.


Please,

Greetings to you all, please I'm doing this at this point because I'm already dying as I can't handle it again strongly believing some help come my way. I'm a widow with 4 children and with aged mother under my care. First, I'm not claiming to be a teacher because teachers seem to be most vulnerable at the moment when I am not. I'm actually a teacher in a private school (I have every proof you may want). If I am lying or doing this to scam, judgment will be upon me. Like I said, I am doing this because it has gone beyond my control at this point. The family is solely taken care of by salaries earned from the teaching practice and that happened last in the month of February. Right now, we are in a very pitiable situation with nothing to call our next meal again. Please help us with any little amount you can. Not like you are owing us anything but please have mercy on us. Consider my situation please. Let's not die of starvation please. I believe God will see us through these challenges. Thank you very much.

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God will definitely see you thru. I suggest you get odd jobs to do, you mustn't wait for school to resume to do something, if u are in Lagos supermarkets always need sales reps, Balogun, aspamda are still recruiting secretaries, get people to pay you to wash their clothes for them, etc there are many things you can do to get money to eat at least. May God help us all.

DonBenny77:
D money no show for her body sef, na wah oh!

How e go show? She no chop the money na... She give some to bet9ja and the rest to church. Lol

Dotherightthing:
21. Please spell words correctly when you post, and try to use perfect grammar and punctuation.

How has spelling words correctly and speaking good English helped you?
How much money has it given you?
How much recognition has it given you?
With all your good English you still don't have a PhD, neither are you a governor nor senator. You are not even the chairman of ur Estate pls let's hear word I beg.

You said he was neither a truck owner nor a driver.
You also said he was the manager of a fleet of trucks of which you seized one and the truck asked him to come back with the truck or risk sack

You also said you don't know wat he came to do at your office.

You also said the fine of over 200k was a lie.

You are the one that needs to be fed with sniper oga TRACE cos you are obviously sick.

Godsonkemz:
Many of these masquerades are performed by criminal elements and cultists who commit crimes by exploiting and harassing people to part with their money or they flog you their fetish cane. Imo Awka festival and Afia oru festival of Nnewi have been hijacked by these criminal elements. So I wouldn't blame SARS entirely.

You are very very correct, Imo Awka festival has become a period when innocent citizens can't move about freely to avoid being beaten or exploited by masquerades and its followers

ValCon888:
It does not surprise me how every comment here focuses on the Chief Priest's lack of JuJu power.

Deflecting the aim from the real issue which is the trigger-happy SARS officer who shot a Nigerian citizen in cold blood.

Until we are ready to change our mentality and hold our institutions to account, this lawlessness by those charged to uphold the law will never stop.

Is the chief priest a Nigerian citizen? He is a spirit of biafra descent.

Wat if she was the one in that situation? How would she feel if her husband was thinking of leaving her.
She Don buy market oo, no going back.

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

Better divorce her now, before we hear on the front page that "nairalander in loveless marriage commits suicide".

notoracism:
Am a regular nairaland member. A young woman, married.

Am bordered about something serious and I need to take this decision so soon.

Before now my Husband earn 6x more than me, he wasn't so nice with words during that time. I don't demand from him and before we started having kids I buy food stuff at home without collecting a dime, nothing like monthly stipend from him (in my mind, he is my head so I must do as he say). But I began thinking seriously when he'd insult and mock me with my salary, so I started thinking of how to improve and have some skills to enable me earn more. It became serious when I told him to let's have a joint account and I can't type what I heard from him that day, true, I must be a joker to ask who earn that amount to lets jointly own an account.

To cut it short, God helped me and I now earn more than him.

Now, the issue is - he bought a land when I wasn't earning so much, I know well he won't write my name in the document and I never mind seriously, though every move by me is regarded as 'is it becasue I did not include your name in the land document?'. He built the first house with just about 600k of my savings as my own little way of assisting him (I still wanted to assist him, in my own little way and I don't want him to tag me as a zero helper, and yes, my name is not in the document.

He started building the second house when I still earn little, now I earn more and I have given him over 4M for the building. I have some savings on me now and I have an opportunity from a friend to buy his property, he just want to give away because he is away. I have enough to buy this property. My hubby knows about it all (I don't hide things from him) however, he wants me to give him this savings to finish the building and forget property I have in mind.

If I fail to give him this money, he will make the house hell for me. Secondly, I don't want to loose the saving I have if the property my friend wants me to buy isn't genuine, he'd laugh at me.

Am so lost, I don't really have anyone to seek advise from, I need help, I need godly advises to take a good decision, I started working before I got married and I must say my salary then to some isn't small money but to him it's food money, I haven't done anything on my own, no personal investment, I give him all my savings or I use it to buy gadgets and and food at home. (he doesnt buy things at home, I do all the buying, name it - chair, freezer, generator, fans, ac, center table, nameeeeee everything, all he'd say is I bought the land and built it, we got married with nothing in his house, I started buying and thought he'd change, all I hear is am keeping my money for land, then to building) I have been cheated I know.

All married men, I need your advise, don't be bias, I know a fellow woman like me will say go buy your own, but no, I want the best advise to help me now and future.

You have given him enough its time to stop, let him figure out how to complete the building.

As for the property you want to buy, if you are not sure it's genuine don't buy. Keep your money for now, but don't give it anymore to your husband.

Don't you have family? Parents, brothers, sisters, it's time to start investing on them cos if ever push comes to shove, they will be the only ones to stand by and with you.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Thank you for bringing this up.
(1) I'm not interested and have never thought or dreamt of being a king in my life.Even though I would have loved to but I can't due to my wife, my kids,never wanted a polygamous family because of its endless fight after my demise.

My wife simply told me to do what I wanted, though she herself doesn't buy the idea of me becoming a king.

This your third point is exactly where i and my father has talked extensively and he has assured me that nothing will happen if I refused and I believed him. He said traditionally it is very wrong for a father to bow for a son as the king and that is why he believed that there's a conspiracy against us because he is also the president General of my community.

I don't think they can stop me from achieving anything now except they will want to be at war with my entire family.

Your last question is the bone of contention. They said throughout the history,that every king must marry from the community and since my wife is from another state,that I should pick up a wife from our community.

You have answered your question, everything about your life opposes kingship starting from the fact that your father is still alive, to ur wife and ur belief.

Reject the offer.

Tell them you have HIV trust me they will never want a HIV positive king. In fact they will instantly remember that they made a mistake and the kingship is not for you.

ukpahu:
Hear my story. I am Igala by tribe. When i was in the village this thing happen more than 12 years ago.

A lady i was dating then got pregnant and she told me about it, then i asked her what's the next step, she told me that she will abort the baby. One month later, another story that she will not give me the baby because my mother doesn't like her.

Before she gave birth to the baby, i traveled to town and got work in one of the federal universities. I spent two years without going back to the village. The last time i traveled to village, i noticed that she is married to another man with two children o. I asked her of my baby, she told me to divorce my wife and marry her before she can give my baby or if i try any thing funy she is going to charm me.

I told my uncle about it, he told me to forget about the baby that God has already given me a good wife and three children.

This whole thing is giving me sleepless night. I can't sleep. I am always thinking of my baby and my wife is noticing some changes in me.

Please what will i do? Should i take legal action on her? pls advice me ooooo. The woman is my first love, i will continue to love her till i die. She is the only woman i ever loved, even more than my wife. I love this woman but she cost me pain.

Wetin dey do this one. Baby ko baby ni.

Just tell us the truth you want to sleep with the woman again. You are just jealous to find out she is married

Encash:
I had introduction. We we're about to do the traditional marriage. Her mother died. I invited the family after two years since her parents are dead one of the distant uncle gave me a bill, including a cow. We opted for a court marriage. It was done.

But this woman is disrespectful. Pastors prophet tell she has a spirit husband. Sometimes I see a man fighting me in the dream. After sex smthing will bit my d..k. 3 times a year. She refused to go for deliverance. She is stubborn and self centered.

Her brothers and sisters are supporting her ill manners. Myself and brothers have gone to the police station once. This is because of the differences. Ok, Come and take your sister I won't see them. She can leave my kids for me or take them along. I do 80percent of the spending, paying house rent for more than 10 years and payment of fees. A frigid woman that hate sex like shit.

People advise I stay because of the kids. But I can't continue like this. I am fed up .

Please advise no insult.

From ur post, you sound rude yourself.

Have you ever thought that she probably hates sex cos your are bad in bed?

Most women don't like sex cos the other partner doesn't know shit about it.

Finally you didn't ask us on naira land if you should marry her 10yrs ago, now you come here after a decade to ask us if you can divorce her.

Humm

HazzanTazzan:
I dont understand how hopeless a man can be to commit murder and suicide because a woman who he isnt even married to, cheated or gave him a bastard child...

You simply decide to keep raising the child to save face with people or retuen the child to his father and face the gossips from people...

Women are becoming too useless in this generation and men shld begin to learn how to handle them like they dont matter.

Wetin ur own too much, calm down pls

Water is getting in from somewhere, maybe you should ré plaster the walls and ceiling.

thesicilian:
At times it's not safe to drive yourself if you have so much on your mind.
Besides having a driver is not always a status symbol, sometimes it's just a matter of convenience for very busy people.

And also a way of helping someone else with employment.

Am surprised at people's comments, children are vulnerable biko!!! Health is more important, moreover we can consider this as their summer vacation as there won't be any this year again.

youthsinitiativ:
Beautiful...


E say God really dey this church...lol

So frigging funny.

God cares less about physical aesthetics and ambiance. He is more interested in the heart, mind, and souls of his people.

How do you know wat God cares less about?

zeal22:
Its in times like this I wished Nigerians have legal firearm ownership. If person breach your property you light their ass up.

Immediately my brother.

Are you sure you were very close to your father before he died and never had issues with him ? Cos reading your story and you being a man those elders mostly play games like this with women or sons who they know fell out with their fathers long ago.

Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by looshowing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.

Take this advice seriously

Loooooooogstory:
What if he was honestly playing with his kid sis? I watched the video and I see women who kiss kids like this too...
...
Why haven't they been arrested for such?

How can you post this? That video was totally disgusting and that guy is obviously a pervert simple.

God have mercy on our children oo.

You obviously block your husband from giving his family enough money with ur smartness, pls stop it. Even if it was a scam its left to her brother to decide whether to pay or not.
The family now feel they can only get money from their brother thru you his wife, and that's a very bad thing. Let ur husband decide wat and wen to give to his family. Finally use your smartness to mend ur relationship with ur in laws and if ur husband is wealthy tell him to give some money to the sister she obviously needs money.

Akinsoladwayne:
Hi everyone! So I was at my brother's house yesterday and could you believe his wife cooked rice for me and served me with a meat I mean just a meat.

This is the person that knows how choosy I could be when it comes to eating.

I'd recall vividly before my brother married her, then when I visit my brother at his place I do the cooking and the least meat/fish I'd always dish my food with could be two or three.
But I have been wondering how on earth would she serve me her in-law with just a meat.
This is an insult of the highest order, like I'm gonna need to call my brother's attention to it.

Well at the end of the day I had no choice than to eat the food like that with the one meat she served me. The food self no sweet.

If you like bant me, it's none of my fuvking business.

Eeyaa sorry oo but if I may ask, how much did you give to her to buy meat?

Thank God the news says America, if it were Nigeria now so many insults and Negative comments would have been flying against the police and government, now its their darling America no bad comments.

[quote author= post=90071882]These are citizens that cherish themselves to the fullest.
They cherish every lives.

But in our darling country, some dumb heads will first check the name of the person that died to confirm if he is from their region before they can know if to protest the police brutality or not.
Religion and ethnic bigots have taken over our land!

But see blacks and white coming together to fight for a just cause, that even THE PRESIDENT OF AMERICA has no choice but to tell the FBI (few hours ago) to make sure they act IMMEDIATELY on the investigation to this sad and emotional case.

One day, we will get there as a nation.

....Baba 70 lives on......


* Singing *

La la la la

My people self they fear too much
We fear for the thing we no see
We fear for the air around us
We fear to fight for freedom
We fear to fight for liberty
We fear to fight for justice
We fear to fight for happiness
We always get reason to fear:
We no wan die
We no wan wound
We no wan quench
We no wan go
I get one child
Mama dey for house
Papa dey for house
I wan build house
I don build house
I no want quench
I want enjoy
I no wan go
Ah!
So policeman go slap your face
You no go talk
Army man go whip your yansh
You go they look like donkey
Rhodesia they do them own
Our leaders they yab for nothing
South Africa they do them own



Addendum : no be Jack Daniels senior man carry steal so?!
Mouth don dry for house dieeeee
Na Liquor store be him target [/quote]Must you always bring out dear Country into comparison?

Abuhafs01:
Where? When?

You forgot to add who??

Oluromantic:
What's funny. At the present rate of fuel N123.5, 8k fuel is enough for a Toyota.

I drive a Peugeot 206. When petrol was N145, 8k fuel fills its tank from empty to full and it goes to akure from Lagos and back

Maybe your car transmission is faulty hence increasing fuel consumption and you're now thinking that's the normal thing

Please the standard rate for trips like this is 60-80k soldier or not. Wat if the car develops fault on the way. Lagos to Abuja is not festac to vi pls don't be stingy about things like this, if not na ur car go hear am.

They are called men with long guns.