₦airaland Forum

tupacshakur:
You're heartily welcome, Arewa ti o lafiwe!

I would like to know if we could be together someday, you know...

Or is your heart presently under the colony of some other Nigger?

tupacshakur:
...had to check the profile of the person who made this comment and I was wowed by the delectable physiognomy.

Cococandy, you're beautiful!

O fine gan, Olorun!

mentorandfriend:
[b]I have to be straight here. No need to shout about my cv, but please nairalanders, permit me to indulge a bit. I have spoken at least a thousand times to great audiences in many states across Nigeria, and these includes church youths, muslim youth leaders and the cooperate society too. I thought I knew much until I discovered nairaland by chance in 2010, then registered fully in 2013. I saw that I didnt know much, because nothing compares being in the midst of hundreds of thousands of highy cerebral young Nigerians, reading their comments as they tackle life challenges. Ignorance is a disease of the African, no wonder you see girls being coerced into stupid relationships by the exposed big boys. They disvirgin her, sex her at every opportunity and discard her later for a fresher punanny. Nairaland opens your eyes to how an average Nigerian thinks. It makes you streetwise. I was a naive, perfect gentleman, but nairaland has done something to my impetus. It has increased my street credibility. I encourage those girls you call premature to participate actively here and learn as much as they can from matured ladies ****** and all the others I cant remember. Some comments on nairaland can be naughty, sarcastic, annoying, but it will all increase your street credibilty. I learn from the guys too. Their comments about their experiences with ladies keep on helping me to know how an average Nigerian lady in the street thinks. Life is too short to wait and learn from your own mistakes. So, the premature ladies are please welcome.[/b]

jnrbayano:
Ka m si kwa.

https://www.nairaland.com/2078845/traditional-rites-follow-acquiring-bride/1#31331334

Preternatura1:
If only there was a way to really show you how grateful I am for your help so far, thank you so much.

I will do my best to make sure he is not disrespected in any way, though it's just that what he may consider 'disrespect' might be different from how my family view it, still I will put more effort to make it work. My family is not used to the idea of him yet as I don't live in the same state with them(I visit on holidays and some weekends) so they don't get to see him a lot but I know that will change now as mother will like to scrutinize before giving approval, I will try to be more supportive of him.

I have learnt how to cook some foods because of him, I go to church with him sometimes, I didn't really grow up with church but I remember attending mass with nannies when I was younger and after high school that didn't really stick, so going to church with him is something he really appreciates but I don't know if I can continue , I do house chores that I can, sometimes, because he thinks it's not proper that I didn't use to.

He is a good man, he is very patient with me, does my laundry, cooks and I've noticed that I don't have the kind of problems my sister,cousins and some friends have with their relationships, they usually suspect their men of cheating, he is somewhat different from the kind of men I'm surrounded by, guess this is why we came this far.

I'm beginning to think I let my fears in and that is what is affecting our sex life, I am now ready to work on this with hope that there be fire again.

Once again, thank you very much, I feel greatly relived. It's amazing how strangers can be so helpful, I'm very thankful to Google for leading me here.

babyosisi:
Na wa o
Na so cococandy go dey serve her little coco dudes and coco dudettes in no distant future

EfemenaXY:
Dinner!

Jollof rice with mixed vegetables (carrots, green peas, sweet corn, broccoli, cauliflower), plantain, breaded crabs, grilled fish (absolutely no frying here), moi-moi and a piece of chicken for little madam who doesn't like fish.

P.s: My moi-moi was made without a single drop of oil. Yesssss!!

Dessert: Satsumas and pears.

jnrbayano:
Cococandy,

Hope I didn't offend you when I mentioned you 2 days ago on one homepage thread like that.

Your "no response" makes me to wonder.

Floodgater:
You have no business telling your family his flaws, remember he protected you when you couldnt cook oha, that's what you should do for him all the time . Your family and friends will eventually see and take him the way you do before them, ensure it is the good way always because they may never be able to correct a previous bad impression you gave them, even if he is at fault, cover him up and correct later. You know your family more than him so prepare for any area that may cause problem in other to prevent it and projects his good sides when he is discussed in your family. Know it is the love he has that makes him adjust for you, no body like to move from their comfort zone but after complaining he still adjust for love sake, you will know it is a genuine change from his comments and attitude to the changes. Please step out of your familiy's standard and love this guy a little, btw what have you adjusted for him. Teach him gently with patience to be more modern, i think you would also do with some of his traditions and be grateful later.

Edusouls:
you should thank him for those meanigninful and insightful points and also learn, i know u are not married..

change9ja:
u soo cute

Evina:
you still doubting! God will prove Himself to you real soon.
Don't forget to share!

Evina:
Oh cococandy!!! Who did this to you?

First diagnosis: AS.
Second diagnosis: AS. NYSC orientation camp. That was when he decided to put his faith to work.
Third diagnosis: AA, can't recall when and where.
Subsequent diagnosis: AA. Pre marital medicals and others.

I won't even share the cases of people I know whose HIV positive status changed to negative! And chronic stage of Tuberculosis healed, without completing medication routine! Those miracles, you go just faint!

You fit even appear for my screen, call me Liena!

Evina:
Oh! My bad. The tests confirmed his new genotype. Funny enough, I am AA, and just like his brother asked, what was the need to believe for a change of genotype? That was also my reason for not taking his assertions seriously at first, until mum in law confirmed the old genotype and the several tests confirmed the new genotype. LOL.

But oga said he wanted to exercise faith. Cos he is a man of faith. the guy can use faith to cause PEJ to even campaign for Buhari.

Never be weary in good deeds sister.

Evina:
None taken.

Did you read this aspect of my post? Especially the highlighted?



It seems to me that your total disbelief in miracles made you skip that part.

Kelklein:
[size=16pt]the poor boy could have been coerced into joining the group

just saying tho.. considering the group's antecedents[/size]

Vyolet:
after her hubby who lied about his genotype abandoned her.
When they found out they were both AS,he claimed all would be fine and he will shoulder all medical responsibility,after some years,he couldn't cope and he went to marry another woman whom he moved in with.

Evina:
Upon receiving our pre marital medical reports, my fiance told me God changed his genotype, from AS to AA. I laughed it off, not because I don't believe in miracles; having personally experienced several, but because he could be very mischievous.

He insisted and asked me to ask his mum. So I asked, "mummy, what is your son's genotype?" She said, " AS". I asked again, for certainty, she said, "AS of course, what's the matter?".

So yes, God changed his genotype! Several tests confirmed it!

To those doubting the efficacy of fasting and praying, SMH. You are on a looooooong tin.

moca:
Did I really type and post this
It's time to get chain o

5minsmadness:
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5minsmadness:
And why wont it make them any happier? If sexual infidelity is enough for you to 'divorce' your partner() why won't sexual liberation make your union a happier one, after all, you dont have to have that nagging feeling of "has he been faithful" always at the back of your mind. You won't feel the need to check his phone often or he checking your phone (for example) since everything is out in the open.

MzStunner:
I have been following this thread from the beginning and some of the experiences are like answers to some situations I am facing or have faced. I want to thank you babyosisi, mutter, chaircover, madampinkolo, and all of you that have shared your stories, believe me, I have been refreshing this page for the past one week for updates.
Like Preternatura1 I am unmarried and I USED to think like her, I perceived my self in a certain class and thereby wouldn't be caught dead dating someone that didn't meet up. if my then boyfriend didn't meet up to standard, I would hide him from my friends, cos I didn't want to "fall my hand". I dated men whom I felt belonged within and above my social class, with their charming tongues, flashy cars, suave demeanours. Most of the time, I realized that they were either engaged, married, players, cheats, had very big egos or had little respect for me. Then I met my fiancé. He was different from the kind of man I would normally be seen with. I wasn't attracted t him at all. We met at his office so I had to be civil with him but that was far as I could take it, or so I thought. He changed me with his love. he had challenges with tenses, at first I couldn't bear it. me that won essay competitions, me that my colleagues call to proof read their e-mails before they send it, but then I began to correct him, he would send me a text with a wrongly spelt word, I would reply and correct the spelling, he would get it right the next time. the things I saw as issues initially became non issues like the issue of his bad breath, I went online for solutions and one day I bought him Euthymol toothpaste and a new brush without telling him why. a week later the bad breath disappeared. he is the kindest man I have ever met. he has taught me that you should be with a man that respects you, loves you, can share his 1 naira with you, has a relationship with God. He made me to start going to church , made me stop wearing revealing clothes, made me stop buying impulsively. I used to think cooking for a man was crap but now I see myself searching for new recipes every weekend. he has made a better person. We are saving up for our wedding later this year while working and praying towards better Jobs. So my dear Preternatura1 please look for the qualities that matter, does he keep to his word, do you trust him when he is alone? what is his relationship with God Like? does he respect women? is he willing to share his income even if you are not actively contributing? If I had left my man initially because of a perceived difference in social strata, I would still be bed hopping with guys that do not have my interests at heart. You could be lucky to find a man who is well to do and genuine without a trail of clingy exes but think through and through for the things that really matter. those people you are trying to impress with a sophisticated man will not be there to wipe snot off ur nose when ur sick, rub ur back when u hv cramps, make u a meal when ur too tired to make one, gossip with you, understand when u tell him u don't want to have s*x even when he wants to. experience has taught me that money and class will not give me all these, love, respect and kindness will.

Ewuro4:
You remember those women their husbands murdered in the States? Yeah, they're mostly breadwinners before their husbands took their lives in cold blood. Their husbands couldn't stand them and one of the reason was because of their success.

And because such debates are still being discussed in our homeland and included in syllabuses up untill 2015 to inculcate the "I'm a man and you're a woman so her life ends in the kitchen and she's a nonentity mentality" in our young lads,Then I'm afraid any amount of effort to make that country liveable (violence free) will always be in vein. And such barbaric acts are far from over.

You wanna be devil's advocate? Be the voice of reason and tell them to go to hell Such prejudice Topic deserve zero reception in our community.

I'm not mad oh just saying noni.