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Akposy:
Chai!!! Dis one resemble person relaxation spot
If I get dis ur kitchen ehn, hungry no go catch me again...only d kitchen go belleful me

Nice kitchen

@bold .
lol. you go cut the kitchen cabinet begin chew?

19 yrs?

Mehn anything can happen at anytime and to anyone o. No one should sit on their laurels

It depends on why she left. Did she leave because there was no money or what it some other thing that made her leave?

Some guys never admit their faults and if you break up with them when they are not doing well financially, they always attribute it to lack of fianance instead of what the real problem is.

But if you're sure she left because you didn't have money,then why take her back? Isn't it obvious she will agree to come back because of the money and not because of how much she loves you....not

bennyrazz:
some Nairalanders know how to dissect, analyse other people's problems. They know how to quench the fire burning in other people's houses while leaving their own house to burn to the ground When something will not work, from the very beginning, you will know. Don't force it. Let it go and move on @op, pls stop asking us here what do we think?? ask your family what do they think? what do you plan doing? you saw fire and all you had to do was jump into it. When all this issue started, even before you got married, you should have opened a thread to ask for advice not when the deed have been done

sukkot:
compliments of the season to you

Same to you too

LewsTherin:
Didn't get the joke at first but then my nephews were creating enough noise to raise the dead. Very funny, ha ha!



[b]Who is Obadiah777? [/b]Sounds like a character in Isaac Assimov's Nightfall

A nairalander. Calls himself sukkot these days .I think. I might be wrong about that though.

He's A character alright.

Urine:
Phew! You're a breath of fresh air ma'am. God bless you.

bless you too

ileobatojo:
What is this?

Effect of too much Xmas wine.
I just ignored it because I didn't even understand what he was trying to say

We have FREE access to each other's phone.

Alutacontinua compliments Of the season

TV01:
Festive greetings Coco, how far?

Lews has laid it out straight. Even the transgression of adultery is forgivable. And if you choose not to forgive, the permission to divorce does not pre-suppose remarriage. True Christian marriage is until death do part.


TV

I'm really good. Merry Xmas to you too.

Well of course I know adultery is forgivable in the face of true repentance.
How about if the culprit is unrepentant?

And in case of seperation, I wonder how except joining a monastery or nunnery a divorced or separated person intends to remain celibate all their life.

I know I'm seeing the world through my personal lenses right now but it is still damn hard to believe.

bukatyne:
Beautiful

Inspiration to invent meals will definitely come quicker

True. Cooking here I come.

The only thing I won't cook here is monkey

Babyosisi
Edwife
Efemenaxy
Et al foodies

I redecorated my kitchen. What Do you guys think?

Used to have darker countertops. I thought it was too dark. I'm loving the new look.

The lighter color now contrasts beautifully with stuff I place on it. Oga thinks I trouble myself unnecessarily.

I think it is worth the trouble

ileobatojo:
Lol. Naughty girl!

But really, am I the only one that believes Lois?

[size=4pt]*sorry Lews, had to get in on the joke*[/size]

Anyway right now I believe him. He sounds like Obadiah777. That dude is drunk on the scriptures. If Louis is remotely related to Obadiah, I believe him. Kpomkwem!

Compliments of the season everyone!

Same to you dear

LewsTherin:
Because I am extremely conscious that its just 50-60 years on Earth but an eternity after that. It doesn't profit me much to satisfy my sexual and personal cravings here and loose an eternity with the One who died for me. If I didn't believe in Him, it would definitely be a different thing. But I do.

Oh. Ok

deylookme:
Honestly he's not a spendthrift but he can't turn a blind eye to a suffering person, sometimes he can go to the extreme. He knows what he should do for his kid and I and the little he gets, he does just that.

Then give him some time.

Although that part of never turning a blind eye to a suffering person is best suited for comfortable people.

I have an uncle who would use his business capital to pay rent for some families and at the end of the day,he would have nothing left.
Needless to say,it caused a lot of problems in his own family because he wouldn't leave anything as a fall back in case he had a family emergency.
He would even go around in public places looking for who to help.

He could meet someone in public transport, fall for their sob story and take him/her with him to his ATM to withdraw money and assist.
His wife couldn't be sure if they have 1 million naira today whether it will be there tomorrow because he will always find someone who's child is dying and needs the money badly .

Nice candidate for scam artists

At a point it became clear that it was a kind of condition he had that he couldn't help .
So wifey separated Her finance from his to prevent total lack whenever he goes on one those his helping sprees.

I can tell you it is a sweet character but one that can cause big problems when you have family needs to take care of first:

Imagine losing a child because you didn't have initial deposit to place her/him in the hospital during a health emergency? Do you think the marriage will still be sweet?

That could happen.

I hope his case is not extreme like that of my uncle but he still needs to learn to give within his means and plan first before spending.
You can talk to him about it.

Really?

Say she insults your parents horribly, abuses you emotionally and even physically when she can, slept with your boss and had a child for him and you guys got separated for that reason at about 35yrs of age.

You will forever remain single and CELIBATE for the rest of the 50-60yrs you have left on earth because marrying another wife will be adultery?

Really LOUIS?

LewsTherin:
Strange, isn't it?
Do you know why I got married? I married My Lady because I was tired of not having her around 247. Kids were never on the list of reasons. Heck, if I could get away without having children, I would. 3 years before our first child and as at now, no plans to add another. My mother complained then, and she complains now and I told her if she really wants a baby, her husband is still alive . I married at 29, a virgin, even though I had some of the "baddest" friends on campus. It was a choice I made. If I could stick to it then...... The only difficulty I see in that scenario is the absence of a great companion. A void I can try filling with lots and lots of video games!!!

Your baby daddy sounds like he's got his head screwed on correctly.
Maybe you should give him a little more time as long as he doesn't stop being practical and starts building castles in the air.

Does he contribute the little he gets sometimes towards taking care of your baby?
If his family think he's spendthrift, then maybe you need to talk deeply with him about that.
That can ruin a marriage.

aisha2:
Abeg no mention me for this fraud. I no dey, there are modern methods of cancer treatment radiation and laser surgery thats what i mean not these ones. My hand no dey

Better fraud . Even the vitamin b17 prescribed as one of the natural forms of treatment in there is not FDA approved.


Even banned currently.

Akanke79 bro be careful the kind of info you give in sensitive situations like this.

This is the summary

bukatyne:
@OP:

It is simply as a result of husbands eating their cake and wanting to have it

The husband is the head of his family yes; however this headship IS NOT based on his financial strength or status (that is for another day). What we have is most husbands and wives tying the headship to finance which seems to work as along as the man is the head financially. Once he loses the financial edge, please what is his use?

We have several threads on NL where male posters have said they will not do house chores because they are the 'head' & finance the home or bring a larger ticket; some are quick to 'chase' their wives from their house (how I detest the word "husband's house" when I am not marrying a married man) obviously because they pay for the rent.

Oga flex muscle finish and suddenly he loses his job/accident/whatever and he expects madam to be the perfect supportive wife? He must be dreaming.

If he acknowledged they were one when the going was good, chances are wifey will be supportive

We now have the issue of ego? Oga doesnot work, stays at home all day and he wants madam to come back from work and start jumping from kitchen to bathroom because? Oga earns less and suddenly madam suggesting (not deciding o) they buy A instead of B is seen as control; Madam getting angry over an issue she got angry about means she wants to become the pilot abi na captain

I agree there are some hare brained and demonic wives like Tony's wife but most of them had it coming.

OP I'm sorry this doesn't make any sense.

What about thieves and scammers etc etc that arise from well to do families? Do you blame their parents too?

So sambarry and coogar don use tpia reconcile?

Interesting

armyofone:
Coco candy and foodies,

Can any of you guys give me a simple and good chin chin and bun recipes including measuring Etc.

Highly anticipated and appreciated.

Never made buns before. Edwife will show you the way.

Here's how I make my chin chin.

Eggs:1 or 2(depends on how soft you want it to be. I like soft chin chin)
Butter:50g
Sugar:100g
Flour:150g
Ground Nutmeg: I teaspoonful
Milk and vanilla flavor:10g each
I heaped teaspoonful of baking powder(soda)
Pinch of salt if you like.(I don't add it to mine)
Some flour set aside for the rolling process
Vegetable oil.


Sift the flour if it has coarse grains. You can tell by touching it.
Mix it in a large bowl with the sugar,baking powder and ground nutmeg. If your flavors are in powder form,mix them in now. Until thoroughly mixed.

Put in the butter and start rubbing it in. When you're done, it will still be a bit powdery but dense. Break in one egg and start kneading into dough. you decide if you want to add another egg if you think it is too strong.
When thoroughly kneaded, add a few drops of water and knead some more to make it smooth.

Then on your chopping board,spread some dry flour, cut a little bit of the dough with your hands,roll into a ball and place on the chopping board. Roll it flat with a rolling pin and start cutting into bite sizes or shapes that you want.
Spread a little bit more flour if it tries to stick to the pin when you're rolling.

After cutting, heat your vegetable oil on medium heat and fry for about 10 minutes for each batch or until golden brown.

Leave to cool. Et voila!


N/B
Another option is to bake in the oven when you're done cutting. I guess it keeps the calories down But I'm not very familiar with that method.
So I guess we stick to this for now

bukatyne:
I honestly do not see the correlation between name change and feminism

Well well

There's always a connection as long as it is family section.
Feminism is connected to everything.

From the very mundane stuff like the million year old squabbles every normal couple has to totally unrelated stuff like house chores.
trust someone to chip in feminism in order to try sound smart.

The pointlessness never ends.

bukatyne:
This thread is not even about feminism (to me)

Na lie. Every thread on family section is about feminism. Whether it applies or not.

As long as it is a thread, just give it a minute and the whiners will find a way to link it to feminism and start whining.

Even those that can't explain what feminism means:

That's why Nigeria will never be better.
Money that should be used for infrastructural development embezzled by the people in charge of each unit.

The few good people who try to stand against such callousness are done away with and the cycle continues

Women still help them to till the soil for food.

Literally and figuratively

bukatyne:
Sure about that? Will dig up the Bible verse later

My point's what does the punishment of memergency translate to?


I was thinking over some days back and I can't seem to see it

Women experience pain during child birth et al; what exactly happens to men?

Really?

Thanks. Will try it sometime

EfemenaXY:
Lol!

Ladies it's quite easy, really. I used to do the frying your vegs then adding to the rice to boil but I found that the taste didn't really sink into the rice itself. It kind of 'sat' on the surface, if you get what I mean.

What I do now is, after pre-washing the rice several times with hot water, till the starch is gone (i.e: till the water is clear and no longer cloudy), I then add a bit of water - just enough to boil the rice, then add my ingredients to the water:

Chopped onions
Dried pepper
Mixed vegetables (sweetcorn, carrots, lentils, broccoli, cauliflower)
Pre-peeled king sized prawns
Curry
Thyme
Nutmeg
Maggie
Salt.

The trick is to add enough Maggie so it "catches" the rice and boil on medium heat. Towards the end, slow boil on the lowest heat setting so it steams properly and the seasonings really seep into your rice.

Absolutely no oil needed.

Well homosexuality is not a fantasy.
It is real .
And gay people are also real.
That's their reality.

I'm just saying . If a lady doesn't want a gay guy getting close to her man it is not because of homophobia.

Anyway I wouldn't even react badly to that except I suspect my man to be a closet homosexual.
If he is not gay why fear that he can be seduced by a gay?

donodion:
Exactly.Men with "incredible" feminine hormones who starts "ovulating" when they are within close proximities with other men they feel attracted to would suffer "the main woman's terrotorial brunt" just as it would with other heterosexual women milling around their men.

Sweerie..younger women equally sees gays as threats around their men.Better be safe than allow the "homosexual induced fantasy" becoming reality shey.

PPAngel:
https://www.mofopolitics.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/obama_stepfather.jpg

https://www.mofopolitics.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/obama_mom2.jpg

https://img.chan4chan.com/img/2010-02-21/1266719381721.jpg

So?

How does that affect the world?

CityNG:
So this is how you guys are lashing out for US canceling it's Visa Lottery program?

apparently

donodion:
Wrong.Young women "act" like they dont mind hanging around gay guyz,but wait to see their reaction when gay guys becomes a little too close or friendly with their men. you will see metamorphosis of emotions In action.

Yes nobody wants her man snatched.
It is not about homophobia
It is about territorialism.
Just the same reaction one would expect if a lady comes too close to my man.