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As they rightly should.

As much as everyone's right should be protected,if in the process of exercising such right,another person is affected negatively,then such rights should be forfeited or measures put in place to ensure that they don't affect the next person.

That's the only way order can be maintained.

carefreewannabe: For the reasons you have mentioned and some others, the German government has harshly criticized the ethics council for even thinking of such nonsense.

What about the kids that could arise from such intimate acts?
What happened to their right not to be born deformed or percusors of lineal deformation?

Left to me,
If they must have sex,then they should agree to sterilization. So that their intimate unions begins and end with them and doesn't affect the next generation.

Win win. Everyone's rights protected.

jaybee3:

Yes ke.

Or should I start with you?

Hello handsome (smiles and flutters my lashes at him)
I've been watching you from the corner where I sat during the church service.
You're such a wonderful choir master.

Can I have your number?
I want to register to join the choir.
Do you hold private practise at your home?

The woman in this story is probably one of those who doesn't believe in gender equality.
Maybe hasn't even heard the word feminism before.

One wonders if there's any topic on this forum that won't eventually lead to 'feminism'
Whether or not it is the case.

It gets boring

Never wooed any guy before.
Now it's too late

Will spend it beautifying myself and primping up at the hair salon and beauty parlor.

If he works for one of those off shore companies,I'm aware that they always conduct HIV testing before and after every trip.
Or at least once in a year.

If you won't just take his word for it,
ask for the result and you have yours handy too. (He's supposed to give it to you before you even ask) but if he doesn't,ask for it.

But if he has never given you reason to doubt his fidelity,don't hound him.

Agrika: Been following silently, mehn these women are the real deal as in the real Warrior Queens, omo una don begin dey make me fear oo as per this cheating and HIV tinz cos us na every 3-4 months we dey see our hubby.

He's yelling you're yelling. House is on fire.both of you have issues but since you're the one here you'll be the one to go home with a possible solution.
Could you be gentler,nicer,more respectful?when he starts yelling,keep quiet and just look at him. Do that 3 times and next time he wants to make a point,he'll be forced to calm down and talk to you like an adult.

You can teach him to treat you nicely by treating him nicely

hoynlorlar: @op,u ar doing a great job here.I read frm page1-5 buh I nid to write moi story too.Am frm a nuclear family and d only girl.I got married just last year december.lemme cut the long story short.my inlaws ar great..dey ar gud to do call.Even my mil is d best 4 now cos changes is d most constant tin in life.
My husband on d oda side is moi problem...wen we were dating,he was d best buh just four month after our marriage he started dis temper tin which I dont undastd...any small tin he flares up..to the point dt he beat me up just four month afta d wedding(I was 7 month pregnant wen I married)I called his mother n my mother and told dem abt wat appened..dey adviced us and talk to him..I hate wat he dd to me buh I ddnt av choice dan to forgive(marriage is far diff frm relationshp).To wat happened.
Just last week,he was off duty...in d nite i cooked beans..d beans was done buh I wanted it to b more thick buh he insisted dt I serve him like dt...so I dd n took d food to him witout putting tray so immediately I saw dt nepa av brought lite plus d beans is still on fire and I av to off d gen too.i was stretching d food to him(d dish was hot too..it was burning moi hand)he ddnt collect it said I shud put tray..i was so pissed so I shouted take den put it on d floor..immediately(moi cousin which is wit us just for visiting o) she ran to take d tray n I went to switch off d gen n change to nepa..afta all dis moi wahala he ddnt eat d food dt nite o..i was so embarrased in frnt of moi cousin.Days afta,it was in d evening,i sent moi cousin to buy tinx 4 me..I was asking im abt our money allowance n he flared up..i flared up too den he said I shud shut up n nt talk..den I talked..he just came near me n started hitting me.i now said I wee call his mother n report him.immediately he collected moi BlackBerry forcefully n said he wee smash it on d floor..i begged n den he took my small nokia and smashed it on d floor..immediately I arranged d scattered fone n on it but d fone ddnt on..den I kept quiet.The next day,i gave im d fone to repair..he was still moody,he ddnt collect it n ddnt repair...to cut moi long story short..i cooked dt same day he ddnt eat.
I know dt all dis is nt normal...wat do u tink I shud do?wu do u tink I shud report to?am so tired of everytin amd I dnt want dis to continue.Candid advice frm nt only married buh matured pple pls.

Roland17: I tried so hard to upload these pictures yesterday to no avail, but am glad it worked today...

White Jollof Rice made with bleached Palm oil...awesome taste

Beans and plantain jollof ..

Egusi soup and tomatoe stew

nice job

palacious: White Rice and Catfish Pepper soup

shey mama put na your kitchen so

attack or no attack, he should first issue a condolence message to the victims' families and commiserate with them. without that, all hes doing only seems like he's putting self exoneration before the anguish of the real victims here.

equality and sameness are entirely two different things.
it's very easy but apparently too hard for some of you to get.







and pls stop hyperventilating. don't you have a headache already?
i just dey feel for you

TribalEAST: according to that post: what do our women want? They want to wear wigs and hair extensions just to look like a white lady. They want men to give them the mantle of leadership when they contribute only little to the development of this world. They want to act like men but when called upon, only a few show up and still make a mess of it(we appreciate the few female soldiers which are the ones men love to rub shoulders with, unlike the lazy bums who want the world on a silver platter). When men put these women in their rightful place, they scream, claiming the men are afraid of losing leadership. When we ask them why we should consider them, they give nothing reasonable other than both sex are equal. Ok, let's clear 2 plots of bushy land and see who finishes first. They throw in the weaker sex card. Ok, let the stronger sex rule. Never! Men don't want to be like women but women of today won't mind killing just to be a man. Men respect and cherish intelligent and creative women but hate lazy bums who can't innovate nor invent but want to be respected like einstein. How can you be allowed to sit at the table of men when you've got nothing to contribute? Equal rights is heavily practiced here in nigeria, but gender equality, No! Why? It's silly! Can a man get pregnant? No! Can a woman impregnate another? No! We are different and beautifully made for each other but not equal. Men are hard-hearted; women are soft, sensitive and emotional. When a man's hard-heartedness is about to lure him to destruction, a woman's softness calms him down. When a woman's softness and emotions are about leading her to destruction, a man's shrewdness and hardness sets her on the right part.

i can store them and keep for future use

EfemenaXY: Lol! No, I meant gowns

But how come you suddenly want them now? You this crafty in-law... I dey look you o!




E don dey work sef. All that remains is your hot coco, flip-flops, and a comfy couch.

And that ratio: 1:3:7 is generously fair na!

TribalEAST: when you say opinionated, do you mean she wants her way no matter what?

Nope.
That's being unreasonable.
Not the same thing

soulglo: She had to have done something to not get primary custody. I don't believe her

Yep. Most def.

You're the mom(primary care giver)
Hubby cheats on you,
Hides his sexualityy from you(deception),
And finally divorces you when you should be the one divorcing him

And then the court gives him the kids because?

carefreewannabe: What else can they do? Their foreign counterparts are busy running the world.

A guy said this on a different thread

The average Blackman has been so battered that all he holds dearly in his control is his woman .Take that away and the average Blackman is nothing

And I was like

You're basically saying the black man is an empty vessel who needs to exercise control over his wife to feel good about himself.
How dare you insult black men like that?

His response

Accept the truth and feel the pain of the black man ,look through my eyes right now and you'll understand why lots of folks breath fire when you ladies speak up.
Though the women speak the truth but the truth is bitter.........Is the Blackman really ready for what their women want?

I guess he's saying the truth to an extent.

So pls bear with tribaleast.
He gets egopanic attacks every time he hears that a distant woman somwhere is being disobedient. His panic levels increase

She was actually the wronged party here.
That judge is closet gay for him to make such a biased judgement.

He was cheating on his wife that should count for something.

Anyway this story seems 'doctored'

It is written in the rule book of NL.
Where ignorance reigns supreme.
Wanting equality means wanting to the same as a man.

NL feminism 101

Mondisweets: This is one thing i will never get about nairaland... Please show me where its written that feminists don't want to get marriage and have children. U simply go on to misinterpret very simple things, they want equality and a balance between genders, its not about hating and fighting men! Simple things u will never understand.

Or maybe when you grow up

TribalEAST: maybe when I become a feminiiists yuck yuck yuck

Oh gown?
I thought you meant 7 kids.

Exhales.
Bring 'em
Bring 'em

EfemenaXY: Of course I do dear!

But what kind of love would I be showing if I let you wear just one dress, day in and day out?

That's why you'll have at least 3 maternity gowns, and Eds 7

Why sugarcoat chauvinism?
If we are not equals,then one has to be lesser.


The argument about being emotional is silly. Being emotional has it's advantages over being overtly mechanical.
And vice versa.

Gaggi: Lesser is a little derogatory. Women are not equal to men though. Until women stop reasoning with emotions, then we can start talking.

7?
And I thought you loved me

EfemenaXY: I ain't greedy. I don chop am tire so it's time for me to stand aside for the "new" entrants. As chaircover famously stated once: it's time to fly to Dubai the Seychelles to start rocking life wella, and not looking behind my sofa for Pampers / Huggies...

My only role here is to ensure fairness. Fairness in distributing Lynda's old maternity gowns amongst you lot: Chillisauce, cococandy, and you, Eds, in the ratio of 1:3:7

Eds na you go get the biggest gown..you know like Frauline Maria in "The Sound of Music"

Oya ladies! Line up to receive your blessings!!

TribalEAST: am glad you've seen what the lack of submissiveness can do.

if only you can stop quoting me

Me too

Well as long as they are happy that's all that matters I think.

I just think OP needs to reasses what he calls enviable or worthy-of-emulation unions

carefreewannabe: How many baby mamas does he have again?

I lost count of that.

I'm wondering too.

Someone is married to 2face that can bring another new baby into the marriage any time soon and they are called enviable

carefreewannabe: Enviable how?

No wahala
As long as it is not now.
I'll welcome the twins or triplets with open arms.

edwife: Ahahaha,i pity you.

From experience people like you deliver twins if not triplet.

One who's not threatened or frightened by a strong intelligent opinionated female.
Because he knows his manhood is intact and he doesn't need to put her down to feel on top.

I jump and pass until 2016

edwife: @cococandy come here biko,there is anointing of pregnancy here.

Oya lynda and Efemenaxy do the needful. Thank you and may the Lord replenish your uterus with plenty akamo.

_{or later}

They lost a child
Wife almost died.
Both husband and wife are traumatized.
Husband must be very angry and helpless
Wife must be doubly sorrowful and filled with regret and remorse wishing she could take back the hands of time.

In my opinion this is not the time to play the
I-TOLD-YOU-SO card.

Thank God he learned his lesson from from what happened to his dad.
Some people don't learn from their parents' mistakes

Hmmm

I'm watching you

pickabeau1: i gentle....

Oh lord.


So now I'm synonymous with attack.

I need to go gentle again.

pickabeau1: I agree with your perspective...

i think say u wan harass me .. so i gentle....

You're not serious

I was hoping you'd give a specific practical example of something you think would be common in a soulless society.

Because as far as I'm concerned,we are already there. People are desensitized to violence,death and what have you.

People step on those who are already down and crushed to get to where they want to be and what they want to get.

There's no mercy ouit there.

Haven't you heard the song 'ain't no love in the heart of the city'(reminds me of the aluu4) who we've forgotten so soon(I still cry when I remember them)

People get married and have relationships for what's in it for them and take a walk once it's not panning out according to their WANTS.
.........
Etc etc

I'm thinking we are there already.
You can still choose the life you want with the kind of person who shares your POV no matter what's happening around you.

pickabeau1: A society without a soul