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Fashion › Re: All NL Fashionistas:Accessorise Your Outfits by cococandy(f): 12:22pm On Aug 17, 2014
Fine woman smiley
SAMBARRY: soyoyo this one will fit you because you have her kind of stature and complexion
Family › Re: Why Is Some Men Wicked And Promiscious After Wedding by cococandy(f): 11:37am On Aug 17, 2014
Anyway anyone interesed in red pant and black bra,send me a pm.
I've pairs in all shapes and sizes.
Strictly Victoria's secret. wink wink
Family › Re: Why Is Some Men Wicked And Promiscious After Wedding by cococandy(f): 11:30am On Aug 17, 2014
There are faithful atheists.
They don't even acknowledge the existence of God but stay true to their marriage vows.

Good thing you're doing painting men as people with no brains and thinking faculty. Who require divine assistance before they know the right thing to do.

Acidosis: Except you marry a born again man, it would be very very very difficult to meet a faithful man.
- acidosis

The only reason why a man will not cheat on you is because he fear God. Your curves, hips, lips, voice, s£.x and cooking skills cannot stop him.
- acidosis

smiley
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 11:17am On Aug 17, 2014
alutacontinua: kiss kiss kiss kiss
I don dey retire small-small from NL jare smiley
how are you and yours?
We are fine thank you. Happy sunday.
apolonius: Lady C,thanks. I am here resting and reading you!smiley
smiley
Family › Re: First Son Named After Wife's First Love. by cococandy(f): 1:20am On Aug 17, 2014
That was an example.

My solution?
You're still asking? Are you even reading?

Here goes:
If he's a baby change it.if you wish to

If he's not don't.
Use his middle name.


freshdude2: Who would have taken you for an expert in Child Name/Name Psychology, aren't you quite the onion?! What's to stop a math champion from becoming an all-round champion? Abi na only adverse effects name change dey cause? Are you categorically saying that nothing good can come of this proposed name-change? Woman, abeg leave sentiments for one side. If a name can make one form an identity, why can't another help the child form an even more formidable identity and/or sense of self?! Unless you're saying, the first name is the best or he has to be an adult to change his name in order not to regress abi what are you saying?

So, what exactly, according to you, is the solution?!
Family › Re: First Son Named After Wife's First Love. by cococandy(f): 1:16am On Aug 17, 2014
Good.
The whole family changed because...
Good reason. Known reason.
And everyone understood and complied.

What are you going to tell a boy about his first name that won't sound funny?
That he was named after the mom's ex?

pickabeau1: Not only adults... Even adolescents

You used a 15 year old example


I have people whose parents changes their surnames due to the old one having some idol init
Everyone complied

Good..
Family › Re: First Son Named After Wife's First Love. by cococandy(f): 1:11am On Aug 17, 2014
Adults right?
Good
pickabeau1: ERM..cococandy.....adults change names every time
Even surnames

Its not rocket science
Did I say they didn't?
But every adult has a REASON within them for changing their name.
EOD
Family › Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by cococandy(f): 1:09am On Aug 17, 2014
EfemenaXY: I think it depends on the personality of the single person in question and what they've achieved in life for themselves.

An extremely self-confident single person with a lot going on in their lives will not fall into the same situation experienced by the lady in question. Infact, it could even be the other way round where you'll find the married friends envying the freedom of choice lifestyle of the single person.

~ Freedom to exercise a "go-getting" approach to their career without having to worry about taking a career break to raise their young kids and family.
~ Freedom to travel, relocate, etc with having to worry how such a change would affect their immediate family (hubby and kids)

and lots more.
simple
Family › Re: First Son Named After Wife's First Love. by cococandy(f): 12:57am On Aug 17, 2014
First the Op didn't say she's the one in this case.
And yes I understand perfectly what's happened here.
My first post that you quoted was my response to TV's post which summarized my feelings about the topic. There was no need going off repeating what was in his post which I was agreeing with.
Which I also made clear in this post
quite true. Imagine the hubby naming daughter after his ex lover.
Wifey will always feel like she's just second best and he's managing her because he couldn't end up with the former lady
So you see you have comprehension issues.
Or as usual the cococandy fever won't let you read straight.

Anyway to the point.

after all the vexing which is understandable, what next?
Change the boy's name out of anger?

You my friend are the one who has a lot to learn.
I repeat if the boy isn't in his infancy,then changing the name isn't the solution.

Names go a long way to shape identities and what people think of themselves.
A growing child who sees himself as Obi the 15yr old math champion of his class will have problems adjusting to ikenna all of a sudden.
Who's ikenna?
He doesn't know.
He can't up and just start seeing himself as someone else overnight.
Believe it or not there's a psychology behind it.

When people change names,they are adults and there is something disticnt about the name that makes them want to give it up. Or they have a different idea of who they are and they want to go ahead to establish their new personality.

I rest my case.

freshdude2: So, for the all the replay time that your ideas had in your mind, all you could muster was this tosh?

How about, Emmanuel, my son, is actually Emmanuel, a perfect reminder of what my wife lost, what shed have preferred, what she desires. Emmanuel, you see, has more significance than jst a name. It is an immortalisation of another human my wife loves. A part of her history she just can't let go of, despite that we're married and have a child. She could have a business and name it Emmanuel but instead she chooses to name our child after her ex. I'm not sure your brain can grasp all that now but not to worry, it'll all make sense someday.

Plus, people change names all the time for a billion and one less drastic and important reasons. Surely, if 3cycle's husband wanted to change their child's name, persuading him not to do so to avoid confusing the child would be another insult. I guess you didn't think of that. But then again, you're Cococandy, what do you know?!

This rambler seems to have more sense in his garri than your entire being.
Family › Re: First Son Named After Wife's First Love. by cococandy(f): 12:17am On Aug 17, 2014
freshdude2: Coco dear, What exactly is he letting go of? The fact that his wife has chosen to immortalise a dead lover, in his seed no less? Or the disrespect he has been subjected to all these years? Please, enlighten me!
smiley smiley don't you just get off this way?
Mehn! Ok let me indulge you.

First I did say he can change the name if he can't bear it. Which should be within reason(that is if the boy is still infant and not used to it)

But changing a name the growing boy is used to is no solution to his problem.
What reason will he give his son for the sudden name change?

He'll have to make do with his wife's apology. Or if he wants to get back at her in his own way (whichever that is),fine for them.

But don't confuse a poor boy for something he had no hand in.

So forcing a name change on a boy who may be in the dark about what's going on to you is a better solution than letting it go or using his middle name?
If he's in high school he has to go around informing his friends he no longer bears Josh but Keith because his dad just had a change of heart?(Because that's what he'll think)

I'd be hurt if I was the man here,but emmanuel my son remains emmanuel my son and not emmanuel my wife's ex.I won't make him suffer for what his mom did.
If I'm used to it,then I'll carry on but make sure my spouse makes it up to me if she's really sorry like she says she is.

Rambling on and on.
Family › Re: My Baby Boy! by cococandy(f): 12:00am On Aug 17, 2014
Aww smiley smiley

Anyway only an insane person will yab a new born baby.
suxes2005: The baby was at the middle of her leg for
some minutes. She pressed his head.

Gotta dress his head well before I post pics here

You know you NLders, una sabi abuse weller.

Anyways, the baby too resemble me. choi!
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 11:59pm On Aug 16, 2014
teeo: And seriously I wonder how ladies think sha. Just saying.
Which ladies? Learn to take a joke joor lipsrsealed
Family › Re: My Baby Boy! by cococandy(f): 11:51pm On Aug 16, 2014
Pinshure nko?

Congrats man
Fashion › Re: All NL Fashionistas:Accessorise Your Outfits by cococandy(f): 8:35pm On Aug 16, 2014
Niceeee.

Great tips damiso . Those illustrations there are kisskiss

Munching the screen now cheesy
Family › Re: A Thread To Locate Friends And Families That We Have Lost Contact With by cococandy(f): 2:52pm On Aug 16, 2014
Who am I seeing? kiss kiss
ileobatojo: Efe dear, abeg no vex. I'm just taking a much needed summer vacation from NL. cheesy

How you dey? kiss kiss
Politics › Re: David Oyedepo Reportedly Barred From The UK – TODAY by cococandy(f): 11:35pm On Aug 15, 2014
Lmao
Politics › Re: Nigeria First Ladies In Show Of Shame In Poland.............. . by cococandy(f): 11:29pm On Aug 15, 2014
So all the women in positions of authority are messing up?

Meanwhile I don't see anyone blaming el rufai,ffk,asari etc misbehaviours and twitter rants on their gender.

Mtchew.

careytommy: This is why women can never be trusted in position of authority. leaving the crux and focusing on the mundane
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 11:21pm On Aug 15, 2014
EfemenaXY: I'm telling you.

And these warriors with their bare chests, spotted black short skirts, spears, and fierce looking faces...sweet Jesu, I'm having an eyeful here. cheesy cheesy
grin grin grin
Lenzz: grin
Thanks dear. In d strictest sense I'm single, but I do have ds committment that'd hopefully alter my status soon wink
One sharp babe don corner you. Chai. sad


BTW where's apolonius? Miss the dude.

Alutacontinua my love. Where are you?
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 11:13pm On Aug 15, 2014
smiley
I agree.
There's a kind of beauty in their simple lifestyles then.

EfemenaXY: I absolutely do!

Infact, I'm watching Buzuzu kingdom. (Funny name I know but it looks promising) cheesy
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 11:10pm On Aug 15, 2014
Ceasar1: Seriously, I wish I could.
Time will tell. grin

--
Goodnight House and to everyone reading this. smiley
#Grabs blanket.
Goodnight

Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 11:06pm On Aug 15, 2014
EfemenaXY: @Cococandy: That movie of yours...Rising moon ... was absolutely fabulous! But can I ask you something...

The completely traditional setting...the huts and their designs, the facial and body paints on the people, especially the powerful juju man's own...are those a true reflection of how things really were pre-colonial times?

Please do tell.

Sigh...I most certainly was born 200 years too late!
Yes the settings and decor were most definitely so.
But The facial and body paints on the people were mostly ceremonial stuff reserved for market days,maiden dance ceremonies and marriages etc)
Trust our nollywood to over-do wink

But it was the trademark of juju priests to wear the white paints(nzu) always so it could have been a daily affair for them.
Nzu is considered somewhat sacred so they wear it in their communion with the gods.


U really loved those stuff?
Well I can't fault any of that.
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 10:59pm On Aug 15, 2014
outstandingjk: Leaping with joy, Let me do internet transfer sharp sharp, please don't tell others o. Cococandy d kindest
smiley

Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 10:55pm On Aug 15, 2014
chaircover: These evogues are for the familylanders too naw. when I am not using them.

I can lend you this latte coloured one tomorrow; I dont need it. . . . . I am driving the red one tomorrow.
Oh I get to drive it too?
No worried then. smiley
Ceasar1: Over charged by who, Beyonce? grin tongue
And family purse you say? Lol... I'm having a hard time believing that.
Sorry for the name change. Sorry. embarassed
Best believe it. smiley
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 10:44pm On Aug 15, 2014
shocked
I thought you said you'll use the money to build a new relaxation centre for the familylanders.

Chai
There is god. embarassed
All these evoques you're buying.

chaircover: Thank God I mamaged to buy 2 evogues with the previous collections grin

so this is how you people want to do it abi angry

Anyway there are 7 days in a week and I need a different coloured evogue every day of the week to match my outfits

So all of you 419 collectors should shift until I get my 7

After which you can collect anything you like . . . .
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 10:42pm On Aug 15, 2014
Ceasar1: Busted! grin

Chaircover, Cocoberry was trying to shovel away a newbie reg fees. cheesy
Na me you dey call cocoberry?

Ask chaircover I always send the money I collect straight to the family purse.
Warris dis?
Was just trying to protect the poor guy from getting over charged tongue
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 10:28pm On Aug 15, 2014
You're so lucky you met me at home now.
Just pay your reg. fees to me so I can forward it to the appropriate head quarters

If you wait to pay later,you go jam my fellow tax collectors and you'll pay double.
I'm the kindest ask around. lipsrsealed


outstandingjk: Honestly, this seems the most interesting rooom on Nairaland to me. Soo much fun. Am knocking on d door with courtesy. Hallo house owners..
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 10:25pm On Aug 15, 2014
I believe you.

don't mind teeo grin cheesy

Erm are you single? I've a sister lipsrsealed

Lenzz: Well that escalated quickly.

Ogbeni you dey vex o.
Well you're not d first to have a-go at my handle's integrity. Some girl named in a particular thread was (check my posts for that convo history). However yours had d most audacity nd indeed most saddening.
On this section I've seen some of your posts nd most d times they exude a lot of brilliance. Which is sad because your submissioon above is everything but brilliant. You felt so strongly about your case that you left no margin at all for error. Wise people don't do that and that's where I'm going to get you schooled. Heck, you even went on to 'encourage' me to delete my account. Haba na, that's Cyber bulling bros.

I don't know who you've running point with lately but not everyone's a fraud as you'll soon see.
My looks have never at any time been my selling point but since made it your business, let's have lunch tomorrow in any place of your choice within Lagos met (island or mainl'd) so we can put d integrity issue to rest.
I'll subsequently pull down that dp as its come with fair share of inuendos that where not d original intention. But that would be after you're done with d FBI role 2mro. Who knows we could be good friends after ds. But your gestapo styled assault on my handle has got us off to a very rough start. That I won't forget

Kindly pm me for my details.
Cheers
Politics › Re: Deep Divisions Over Nigerian Child Bride On Murder Charge by cococandy(f): 10:12pm On Aug 15, 2014
Not missing any points.
Education is low for both genders. Are the poor boys forced to marry at a young age? No.

So education isn't their primary problem.

I did say that's not the case for all. So before your post I know there are educated and high flying females from the north.
El rufai is one example among many elites whose kids get good education.
Still for every elite like him,there are 10 who aren't interested in empowering their daughters.
Whose daughters are part of someone's harem hidden away somewhere.

Btw if we have to use elites as examples when something as basic as education and a right to choose the kind of life the girl wants for herself is being discussed,then it means something needs to be done ASAP

I still insist that if the women had a voice like they should,the rate of girl child marriages will reduce.
Lack of education and poverty contributes.yes
But addressing it alone(which is something that has been going on anyway) won't solve the problem until the women get to have a choice

pickabeau1: You miss it totally

The literacy level in the North is abysmally poor for both genders... Damn..u did not know that
The children of the elite are those who go to the highest levels...

I'm sure you know el rufai daughter had 2 masters in the UK

Coco... Check your facts....
Politics › Re: Deep Divisions Over Nigerian Child Bride On Murder Charge by cococandy(f):
pickabeau1: OK..however one can not deny the vast differences in per capita income n literacy levels between the north n south

Tragic considering they have ruled thus country for more than 33 years
Still the abuse of power I'm talking about here.
A male child will go to any level of education he wants to if his family can afford to.
Even the US or UK for western degrees and whatever else he wants to do.

The female child on the other hand is rarely given such opportunity except where the father is extremely kind.

Is this not a deliberate attempt to keep them subdued and subservient?
They believe she'll become corrupted enlightened and won't stay in 'her place'

I tire sha. I no fit kill myself for this matter even though it gives me a lot of concern.
Can't cry more than the bereaved joor.
Family › Re: If A Woman Kills Her Husband Does She Become A Widow? by cococandy(f): 9:17pm On Aug 15, 2014
She's a black widow spider grin
Politics › Re: Deep Divisions Over Nigerian Child Bride On Murder Charge by cococandy(f): 9:16pm On Aug 15, 2014
pickabeau1: Madam dey learn to dey quote well Na..


Haba....


That's why I believe if more moderates speak out...this thing will become outdated

They will not give out their daughters so young..so with time it will trickle down....slowly n sadly

20?..I feel 18 is OK as a minimum age

Abuse of power?..,I think its mostly an economic issue
Forgive me. Lol

I know 18 is the minimum age just saying.

Not economic. There are poor people in the other regions too.
It's abuse of power pure and simple.

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