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6months.
Before you start dating again.
Marriage: 2yrs before you marry again.

That's a man on my profile.

Are you G?

jahchild34: i wanted to insult u but Ur profile pic made me to calm down.. Ooops

What kind of evidence is required.
You know it's we ladies that get to keep the marriage ceritificate. So I'm sure she's with theirs.
The person you know that did it,how exactly did he do it?

Besides how can they trace where she works now.

5minsmadness: Yes he can.
All he has to do is produce legal evidence to the law court, police station and address of where she works. They will recognise the authority of the Nigerian govt and summon her after which if she does not provide satisfactory evidence of termination of marriage she will be deported to settle herself first.
Av seen it happen.

She wasn't abused.
If anything she was the one that dealt with the man mercilessly.
Her dad before he died was unhappy with her and his wife at the way they used to milk the man and intrude into his business.

I'm not supporting him because I know him o. I know the lady too. Her father was my teacher and we were a lil bit close.

Any evidence of abuse she shows will probably be a doctored one.

You're right though. If she could betray her friend,one can't be surprised she betrayed the man too

baby124: And what if she shows proof she was being physically and emotionally maltreated in Nigeria? What did this man expect when he married a girl he met through such shady ways. For a woman to abandon her kids, then it is obvious she may be an opportunist and a user. She used him to get an education, he is no longer useful to her. Now she has moved on to someone else who has better things to offer. Though you can't really tell what she went through in that marriage.

Advice the guy to move on. He has reaped what he sowed. He went into a marriage filled with controversy. A friend that will betray a close friend like this, God help you. He is lucky he is not dead. She only cleaned him out.

Well she could have said she didn't want him anymore and sought a divorce legally with her reasons too.

Than make the man go through all that even believing the whole family was traveling abroad.
How is it not wickedness when she stood by and watched him sell his land and shop and car knowing how hard the economy is and she still had the heart to go with the money.

Or how the kids would survive after bankrupting their father. The last is just 3yrs old.

Hmm. I suspect you're kidding sha

andromida: She does not want him anymore. Is that wickedness?

Coldgate . Kudos.
You're the woman.

Na wa o.
Short of words.

I guess I've to advise him to leave it like others said.
Which money to make case sef

An0nimus: Hard to say really as this is a family case and the wife is already out of the country. Personally, I'm not a fan of court cases due to our very wonderful Judicial system. Your friend could seek legal advise for starters. He should also be ready to invest good time and other resources if he wants to pursue this. Its the kids I worry for.

You may be right in a way too.
I heard the former girl cried and cursed him when he broke off the engagement after all they'd been thru together and his promises to marry her.

Personally I'm not one to believe in curses so I take that with a pinch of salt.
Besides it's only the man and his wife and their both that I know very very well. I don't know the ex much so I guess it is easy to accuse her of anything now that she's no longer in the picture.

edwife: Dear,you said snatched!

Not break up. Do you know how far his previous relationship might have gone?What she might have done for him?

How messy it might have been? Let him check well!

I sympathize with him though,i hate any woman or man who abandon their families.Silly if you ask me.

@ bellong thanks for that tip.

apolonius: What did he do that a loving wife will abandon him and the kids to run into vast uncertainty? I qualified her as 'loving' because it takes some love to have conceived,kept and raised kids! Did he abuse her?

well as far as I know, he didn't harm or hurt her in any way. Even before her father died,he used to warn the lady and her mother and siblings about the way they were going about the marriage. The would come to the man's shop and pack whatever they wanted for their personal use with no regard for account or his profit. I'm sure he must be rolling in his grave that his daughter did something like this..

Well,he should move on as she is sure to face the justice of time.Time is one phenomenon I know that delivers the most assured justice. She will come back pleading in no long a time. Of course,if he has not consistently hurt her. As men we easily take our prized women for granted until the consequences are too late to manage.

I understand sha but he's one of the good guys. From what I could see anyway.

In the interim,find love again and pay attention to the kids psyche to be sure they are healing from her 'porting'. Yes,genuinely find love again as this is one thing I know that shatters any ex.

ok

Na wa sha.
I don't know what to say.
But people break up all the time.
If so karma go dey follow all of us around na

edwife: That is where is own Karma came visiting

The former girlfriend might be feeling in the mood!

pickabeau1: which particular deed?,, the leaving or the fraud?
A lawyer is best to provide the time frame but i heard 2 years somewhere...

Both. Afterall she took a vow. So abandonment should be a sort of crime.
And the fraud too.

dytbabe: One thing I know is women act for a reason, I won't judge

Not in this case my sister.
You'll cringe if you hear the full story.

Seeing the man now having lost so much weight,I feel so sorry for him.
He trained this girl in nursing school too.
they married while she was in school.
She met him through the man's former girlfriend who was her friend.
Managed to snatch the guy from her friend.

Married him and he sent her to nursing school.

Trained her until she finished and got a job while he was still doing his business.

They would have done well if she loved him.
But things fell apart when she came up with the 'brilliant' idea of them relocating abroad since nurses make good money over there.

No one saw this coming.

Two years?
Ok.

pickabeau1: Youcan be divorced on the basis of abandonment after 2 years . i think
Revenge will take his efforts from the prirorities at hand and will alienate people who even will want to favour him
Advise him to move on

I'm just wondering is there no law that makes the deed criminal?
Something he can hold onto while pursuing the case.
I know it might be difficult,but I think he'll be willing

An0nimus: Ouch. Didn't see this before. Heartless does not even describe his wife's deed. It's understandable if he chooses to make her pay seeing the scenario above. I still believe Karma will surely visit the woman some day.

MadCow1: Thanks..

'Divorced Mother of 8', that makes a shitload of sense.


#P.S:: MamaPut business is almost like Blood money in the hands of a well seasoned and business inclined person.

Na dem sabi sha. It must have been huge whatever it is that led them to part ways.


Lol@blood money.
So true. She's well know for her food. Madam kathy food.

Agreed.

apolonius: It sure has its value;a woman's emotional intelligence and loving nurturing can raise great kids. However,there are things only a father's presence can build. Not in all cases,but there is always some comma somewhere in the lives of the kids raised by just a parent-man or woman. Yes,God introduced Eve to Adam before there was the 'knowing themselves' bit.

Of course,a clearly abusive union or relationship is a no no. Rather a single parent than a victim of 'evil love'.

Which of the APc guys do you think is patriotic?

I'll solidly be behind any serious opposition party that truly champions change.
Afterall I was born into PDP and I haven't seen much come out of it since my birth.
The folks in APC now are still the same ones who were in PDP and helped keep this country in the state that it currently is.

I have a very hard time vouching for the sincerity of this APC.
Not with all the circus acts they bring to the table.
How have they shown they are different from PDP?

apolonius: On security,the late Azzazi who was his confidante and should know better as a National Adviser did announce the PDP as its source and nurse. Mr President too also announce Boko Haram as members of his government. How does it become a 'them' thing dear?

From the trillions looted in the name of subsidy claims by many oil companies-e.g.Sea Petroleum claimed about 475 Billion Naira on what it never supplied-and the failure in decisively dealing with this and many other corruption instances including the earlier mentioned,Mr President is rather courting than fighting his corrupt acolytes. How do I mean?

Well,Tukur's family oil company ran by his son claimed over 200 Billion Naira on fuel they never supplied,same did Ahmadu Ali's family company ran by his son too. However,while the former was PDP chair,he has since emerged as NRC chair and a global Ambassador-at-large Jona made him;the latter has led PPRC,NUC board,South East Health Delivery with his man-slapping and now disgraced wife,and Jona's key choice to rep the PDP at the last National Conference.

Now,what employment creation machinery has this government set up?Millions are unemployed and staying aggressive crime workers and actors. Is this a serious government?

He knew the challenges and problems of the country when he begged and campaigned to be voted in,what clear things has he done to tackle them with all the resources and authority his office give him?

Democracy yields no quality dividends without power transfer and transition. Transition purifies democracy of its personality-centred growth culture and encourage the strengthening of its public institutions. The PDP has not delivered the core fuel for a progressive nation-building for us since 1999,let there be a transition. Personally,I see some of these APC guys as more progressive,patriotic and serious than anyone in the PDP.

Well he's human. I can't say I understand how he feels.
Because she cleaned him out financially before she left.
He sold his shop,the land on which it was built and his car.
Paid the money into an account they were supposed to use on getting there not knowing that all along she's been planning with the agent to get the visa only for herself as against the whole family visa which was their initial plan.

Now he's a bus driver and kids pulled out of private school to public school.
I understand if he's bitter.

Besides she may never come back. When is the right time to file for divorce?

pickabeau1: What do you think? as a friend of the person

I think he should move on and forget about her

When time is due, legally divorce ..

It is in this time.
First and second daughters are just new wives and mothers now.
Last kid is still in secondary school. I dey admire the woman's strength.


The other one I know is our tenants here she has four sons. Big boys. Well groomed and the replica of what good sons should be.you wouldn't meet those guys and not wonder who raised them. Two of them even served as grooms men at my wedding.

So even though I don't like single parenthood or encourage it,I don't think it is as bad as we hype it to be.. At least the kids have peace away from the abusive parent.

apolonius: Na Guiness book of records feat o,if it is in this contemporary times.

My grannie lost her hubby and raised 9 kids all by herself sha. But na old school feat o.

I don't debate Nigerian politics because to me all of them politicians are the same.

I've not even said he's the ideal president any country can have. Far from it.
All I know is that compared to the others before him(except obasanjo) he's doing the job to a reasonable extent. Just that everyone is fixated on the negatives.

If there's one thing I know it is that APC is not better than PDP so they should stop disturbing us with their hypocritical 'change'
They are all birds of a feather.

Besides there's only so much security you can give to people who don't want it.

My opinion is that he's not a bad person. Definitely not as tough as I'd like him to be but he's not evil

apolonius: How is he trying?In the way he has failed to perform the primary duty of government which is security? In the loans taken from China to upgrade our airports that are still glorified hangers?Is it in 'spending' 1 trillion Naira in fighting Boko Haram this year alone without any significant progress?

He is trying in the about 500 Billion Naira the NNPC has looted unaccounted for?What of the 20 Billion Dollars Sanusi accused them of looting that led to his sack?Is the audit report ready?The Billions Diezani has spent parabulating the globe in chartered jets,are these pennies that she should still be there?Making Tompolo so rich with the waterways contract which is NIMASA's original role?These are few of the indices of his failed leadership.

Now ANY of these amounts can change the fate of a serious country. Not just him,we have no leaders anywhere in Nigeria.

Abeg,make we no start to debate this guy.

I know one that raised 8kids alone.
With mama put business sef
Divorced mother.

MadCow1: 5 Kids?!

Single Mother or Widowed Mother?!

His wife abandoned him with their two kids and traveled abroad.
Hearsay has it that she's hooked up with someone else now.
Although they are not legally divorced yet.

can he influence her deportation back to Nigeria?

Note:he doesn't want to continue the marriage with her just wants to punish her for her wickedness.

Is there a way to get her deported?

I tire o.
I know the guy is not hundred percent and he's not like them tough former military leaders.
But if they had given him support from the beginning and put away all the schemes to rock the foundations of this nation,he would have done better than he is doing now.
Even with all the distractions,he's still trying.

jdilight: When I read comments like GEJ is power drunk, GEJ want to remain in power and so on. I begin to wonder if this GEJ has stayed up to 8 year and he is still looking for a third term. \

Those saying GEJ has not performed. Can you point out 3 things that all the northern ex leaders gave Nigeria during their time. All GEJ is trying to revitalize, are they not the ones that destroyed them: Power, Railway, Water, Road, Airport, Security, Arm forces etc. Nigerians are wiser now.

There is a proverb is igbo which says, "he who destroys what he earns today will never be rich tomorrow". That is what our ex leaders did to us and GEJ. GEJ is working, I don't expect you to see it because there are places for the blind in the society.

Bros vote your candidate, we will vote our candidate.

Na wa for this country sha.
No atom of respect for the president
Everyone opens their mouth to speak as it suits them.
Making heavy allegations without substantial proof.

Like we are all playing a game.

If this is what you're feeding my son in law, then my daughter is one lucky woman.

Okorobia dimpka nwoke in the making for her

beeevan: this my in law no well.

babymama3: Yum

Looks good.
Wait from babymama1 to babymama3
Nairaland!!!

Beeevan just looking at that your soup added vitamin A to my eye.
I guess I'll come and sneak a peek everytime my vision gets blurry.

Now the story is turning.
Ok

I'm awake.
Good morning
How are you?

kulyie:



greetings to mr loretta for me o



tell him not to be like any of this dangerous things littered all over nl.i know you tired and it shows in your mood. Just tuck your sexy yellow self into your duvet and go have yourself a good night rest


mintayo dodo was sweet o



sorry you were too PAINED





mintayo

Convenient

Slow motion. Lmao

Chillisauce: Sometimes I walk pass a car, or a window shop, ...
Reverse just to catch a glimpse of my self and shape and also the hair .It's was that bad
These days, I have reduced the reverse method.
I just use the slow motion method