₦airaland Forum

armyofone: We should contribute fried rice and cartons of Tilapia, Mackerel, Salmon, Croaker, Carps, Norway Mackerel etc to that man.

Cococandy, oya set up fish fund raiser osiso.

kulyie: Chaiii loretta I too dey like your post like kilooodeee



oya take this for Sunday lunch. You deserve am

kkjoy: Wait let me use myself as an example, when I meet my husband I was just in my 1st year in d university (unilag dli), I was also working in a cyber cafe, along the line I requested to learn handwork (fashion designing) it took me 3 yrs to master this craft while I got married inbetween, I also had a baby within this period, I had to stay at home to take care of my baby but I had all my sewing equipment which I use to sew from my house, then it all started, the beatings, the injuries and all of tht, infact it got to a point I was chased back to my parents, inlaws came down to lagos with the disguise that they wanted to make peace, and they took everyting I had, my car, my sewing machines, they joined had with husband to give back the apartment to the landlord and they took every single pin tht belonged to me and my baby in that house, ever since then I have been with my family, it is 1 year already and I've moved on and I now have my own fashion place with the help of my parents... Now put an orphan in my shoes or put someone whose family can nt support her or whose family is financially handicapped in my shoes, what choice wld she have that to stick to such useless marriage..

baby124: I don't understand how people can be in a polygamous marriage and not engage in 3-somes. Please don't pretend like you have not thought about this before . Especially the ones whose wives are unusually close. I have been tempted to ask the children... Thank God for closing my mouth

kilokeys: for a long time I hvent felt this angry


@op
if I am the world's highest paid assassin, I'll kill u for free.

Amhappy: After reading Snazzylove's and some other stories here,i really thank God for my family. My MIL,SIL,BIL are very sweet people. My MIL is the very best in the world,very beautiful and kind. I advise singles to pray for love in the families they will be married into. However it should be noted that some DILs are the ones that do start troubles in their new home. As a new wife, you will hear gossips about your new family,what you do about it will give you either peace or war. If MILs should enter this forum with their own stories,am sure nairaland will crash again. Women are their own worst enemies. I know a certain grandDIL that her 90yr old grandMIL cooks,clean and fetch water for and the stupid girl do beat the woman up regularly. And yet she was living in the old mama's house.Well a day came,a neighbour reported her and she was taught the lesson of a century. There are some new wives that are proud and insultive esp when their husband is rich(the i have it all everybody is under my feet type). Some wives are not wise in handling issues. I once lived with a cousin whose wife fought me as if am her enemy and her husband started and fueled the crises. What this woman never knew was that her husband (my supposedly cousin) was spining all those lies against me because i refused to sleep with him. Funny enough she never asked herself why her husband will be instigating war against a member of his own family(not normal right?). Some wives oppose their husband from supporting his aged parents while he support hers. While MILs are most times presented as wicked,they are DILs of yesterday and DILs of today are MILs of tomorrow. If we all can show love and forgiveness the family will be enjoyable.

crackhaus: @emboldened, is that the only proof of headship I gave? Or you're doing your selective reading again.

shaybebaby: More grease to your moderating elbows .

Smartsyn: One of my aunties was complaining to me that her hubby gave her a separate room in the new house they pack in recently, citing her having many clothes, shoes and other feminine accessories as the reason. She's arguing that as a young couple, they should be staying in one room.

When the issue came up as I was having a chat with her hubby, he maintained that the separate room is just for his wife to have room for her numerous accessories and that he sometimes need to be alone. He however said that the wife sleep in his room almost all nights and all what not.......



But should married couples have their separate rooms??

coogar: yes, your highness!

coogar: your highness, i am trying to cross-examine the OP's state of mind to ascertain his sanity. he's got this same topic on his blog.....why bring it to NL? what's the motive? is he lonely on his blog he needs cheerleaders to drive his idiotic opinion?

crackhaus: Actually he's the one that started it by saying all men start out as women (which is actually a popular notion), I just countered him with my own fact is all I did.

coogar: of course, ovaries & testiclës are also similar, isn't it?

crackhaus: But you know you women like to add salt and pepper when you're talking about someone who wronged you and broke your heart though..

Relationship101: Can you intimate me with the source of your *weired* theory.

Stillfire: And that is why they call women fish brains...their reasoning defies logic The submissive idealogy propagated to women is akin to what slavery did to people. Tell a man he's one thing over and over again and he begins to believe it.
They say they are the neck that turns the head...buhaha. Pure village woman science. The neck cannot turn by itself without instruction from the brain. Women should stop deceiving themselves

aisha2: You will be suprised. I was about wasting my MB and energy to write a long epistle to someone who started a thread till I saw where she wrote that the solution to being abused, abandoned by your husband is to pray to the day of your death that he comes back to you. So there you have it, we love suffering and if you are married and not suffering you to them are a liar or not a true wife. They will keep telling you not to relax and ya own suffer to will come lol.

Some Nigerian wives are the worst set of people to even spend 10 minutes with, its like some competition of who eats the most sh-it"

coogar: i thought it better to hear from the horse's mouth. losing 5 siblings is a monumental heart-shattering experience. if we add that to the abuses you suffered as a child then i think there's a justifiable excuse for you to be insane.

soonest: So very sad! I just hope more women can stand up for themselves and have self dignity to walk out from an abusive relationship.

sunvick: I culd not help buh feel pity for a young lady married to d 1st son of d family of 8 and all living in d same hause, she has three kids for d hubby ohh, just last week she was giving a beaten of d year by the BIL n SIL, all I saw d hubby doin was to just to carry his last kid n look on as his family drill d wife, Kia a young fine lady had a swollen face on dat day.. Some family sha....