₦airaland Forum

crackhaus: One of the downsides to single motherhood, the kids at an early age will always miss and in some cases seek out a father figure.

If you're asking what I'll do, let me use an uncle of mine as an example:

When his little boy became curious and started asking questions about why he never sees his mother anymore (the kid was about 2years old when she walked out on the marriage with only her bags), my uncle would always tell him, "boy forget about your mother, she is not a good woman..she left you and didn't think twice, she does not love you, she does not want you".

Those are harsh words if you ask me, but they couldn't be further from the truth.
I never understand how a woman can turn her back on her child, the same one she carried for 9months.
Okay the marriage wasn't a good match, I knew it the first time I saw them (they're both hot-heads)..but i think It's okay to exit the marriage and still have some connection with the child at least, instead of just turning one's back completely on an innocent child who'll always ask about the missing parent no matter how many times you explain to them.
The same thing goes for men who abandon their kids as well.

This is what I would do if I were to ever be a single father (highly unlikely though); I would tell my kid(s) the truth, no sugar coating, no nothing...just the plain truth about why their mother is absent. This is what I advice any single parent to do, just tell them and get it over with.

Relationship101: Erm... Do you mind telling me what that is?

zaragal: Hhmmmmm....too risky too risk, I really dnt wanna b a liability to any man, my fear is dis foreigners nd divorce any little tin dey divorce. In my own belief, dere is nothing like divorce if d man leaves u or divorce u ll hav to prayerfully wait till he cums bck or is dead, aside dat u remain single u cnt marry another man, otherwise its Adultery...am a christian..- cnt risk that @ all

touchmeder: But the bread looks soggy tho

anonymousvic: Pls don't make mockery of this. This is eating me up. Manage it? From 32yrs till death? Pls advise me.
Meeting a doctor is a gud advice, I hv doctor friends and one is marrying my sister. But pls how do I tell my fellow man face to face that my wife breas.t is flat? That means I willgo with my wife and the doctor have to see the breas.t before any suggestion. Haba,

Konection: Hearing my son cry make me wanna run mad @ his mom (sometimes she is exhusted). When bathing he cries as if someone inflicted injury on him. I therefore passed a law of 'breastfeed before bathing'. My law works almost everytime. Mom/dads in the house, please share your experience.

coogar: i can argue against both with strong points. nigerian parenting is too extreme & the western parenting is too liberal. the best is to take a bit of both & apply logically.

Stillfire: Good thread. Now compare to the man that is asking who greets who first in the morning in 2014. Nonsense.



Hahaha

beeevan: Yes, regular wheat but mixed with flour, a friend made this though and I plan to try it out myself. 35% wheat to 65% flour will do, that's how I plan to do mine.

beeevan: ....And is wheat chin chin, healthier .

idumuose: Buhari is the first Nigerian head of state to kidnap a fellow Nigerian.That's a topic for another day.

apolonius: The truth is that if you know the average Hausa-Fulani,you will know that only Buhari can get their votes.

In all the elections he has contested for,he has gotten 12m votes on the average even when Lagos with its 6m votes and Rivers with their millions didn't vote for him.Mind you,this was the days of his 'one man squad' approach to politics.

So imagine what will happen to the APC without him. If he is not given the ticket,then the APC must make sure he is at the forefront of its campaigns around the North. Otherwise,another lost chance for the opposition.

beeevan: There is no respect in this scenario you described,as a matter of fact the woman here has no respect for her husband at all. A real woman must fling those hands off her hips, fall face flat on the ground and apologize to her Lord and master for not seeing him first. She just reduced her man to a pant sniffer for letting him greet first .


I really wonder how love and friendship thrive in such environment, some marriages have more rules and regulations than Madonna University. Such men will probably report you to their kins men if you slap his butt or grab his crotch playfully .


Munch on this while waiting for your soup.

Oklander: Low self esteemed peeps, I do wonder how these people turns out when they are getting old, Niki on my mind...

Obiagelli: you guys never learn from history, we remember how 1966 lead to the civil war, with statements like yours.

beeevan: My mum will always wake me with "good morning (my name), please can you go and do bla bla...... ", 90 percent of the times, i have greeted our gate man first because I probably do see him first.


Gosh!! I really wonder how men this staunch make love to their wives, ominous sounds might have to be played in the background before the act to show that the King of the jungle is about to get on .

SewaGRITS: This is a sweet bread I learned from a Polynesian (Haiiwain) friend. It's called Pani Popo, and is a sweet roll with a coconut milk glaze. It's soooo good! I made the rolls from scratch this time (sometimes I buy frozen bread dough instead of laboring with homemade bread). The dough is the same kind you'd use for a sweet roll like cinnamon rolls (for those bakers in the house). The glaze is coconut milk, sugar, and regular milk. Even though it looks like it's swimming in milk, the milk mostly gets absorbed while baking, but leaves just enough sauce to drizzle over the roll when serving. Enjoy!