₦airaland Forum

meobizy:
It’s baby mama drama: a constant reminder to never go raw into any female till I’m ready for marriage. The most well behaved of women can turn into a monster once you impregnate her without a ring. The downfall of many black men the world over is an angry black woman.

pippimp:
How you been?

BlueRayDick:
I think it is the one with Gbégiri they call abula ni.

I don't eat Gbégiri, I've not tasted it for once. I can't imagine tasting beans in a soup So many times I've abandoned amala I planned eating because they added Gbegiri

pippimp:
Cococandy, food don don ooooooo.

queenfav:
Today's my hubby's birthday.Please who in the world hates cake, doesn't even like jollof rice?
I asked him "so what do you want for your birthday?"He said "Baby, you know i am not big on birthdays, Just cook my favourite soup then make poundo with it for lunch".
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I just finished cooking not long ago....Egusi pepper soup with chicken,dry fish and cowhead .I also made his favourite Chinese veggie stirfry sauce to be taken with rice and dodo for dinner.

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So someone is grinning like a Cheshire cat, waiting to devour his food..Never met a man so easy to please,gosh! It's a win win win for me anyways..As a lazy wife,i always cook most meals in bulk to freeze for weeks to come.

motunabby:
Some series of iftar menu for customers

Dirty fried rice et all
Beans n corn et peppered fish
Rice et egunsi soup
Last pics for myself Egg casserole

Kholiwe:
Chicken tikka & pineapple pizza (from scratch).

nanakgh:
Rice porridge( don’t know if it has a Nigerian equivalent) with bread and egg. It’s mostly eaten with sugar and milk and is a common and much eaten breakfast in Ghana. Quick and easy to make. You’re invited.

Akeem79:
Quick meal

Yuneehk:
...To this.

Akposy:
Honey glazed bread

KanwuliaExtra:


This goes both ways.
Wait till I bring the woman with “love children” in their marriages. Women bytching will be child’s play. Men will shed tears on and offline!

ibkayee:
Person A: My husband is spending money that should be used on his immediate family on his other family members, including his sisters' husbands. They are essentially leeching off him and we are suffering for it. Sometimes he is eveb dishonest about the amount of money he can spare for his immediate family and ends up giving it to them instead

Narrative twisters: sO yOu DoN't wAnT to sHaRe biLLz

pocohantas:
The problem with Nigerian women is that you guys talk too much. At the end, your men don’t listen to you.

They only call you nags, petty, accuse you of trying to separate their family...etc

Talk less and act more! I don’t have time to be talking nonsense with you every time. I calculate my moves and proceed. After that, I activate my sit-down-dey-look-mode. If you wanna perish, you will perish alone.

Ishilove:
Kai, Coco nwannem o, I want to be like you when I grow up

pocohantas:
Is it too early to eat? Why is everyone looking at me one how?

armyofone:
salted rim and maybe with some steamed shrimp "Homecoming" with Ms. Janelle is the movie

DBestDoc:
I don't think it's peculiar to first sons. It just depends on the family and any of the kids can be picked out as the Donkey/victim. Especially, that one with a kind and selfless heart.

I dated a man with similar trait as the OP's husband and in his case, he was even the last son, hahaha. He sponsored both his older and younger siblings through school, was taking care of their families and at the time we were together, he had started sponsoring most of his Nephews and nieces through school.

At some point, i advised him to give his siblings some capital and encourage them to start some business so as to relieve the financial burden. He waved that off with the excuse that his people are not business inclined.

Oya, upgrade your educational qualifications na for better future opportunities now that you're single and have the wherewithal, Mr man said ok and after a few days he came back with the excuse of having too much family responsibilities to spare any cash for such. Apparently, one of his siblings he shared the idea with told him the program was expensive. I offered to 'loan' him the fees but he rejected the offer.

He easily ran out of cash for someone earning in 6 figures at that time. He wasn't married, no children he wasn't spending the money on me obviously but he was almost always broke. Most phone calls he received whenever we were together were money requests from family. Account will turn red immediately after pay day (i started thinking he'd been jazzed, i didn't know what else to think about. lol)

I got to understand that doing those things made him happy. That feeling of being the messiah of his family gave him some sort of satisfaction and fulfillment that nobody was allowed to deprive him of. He always confided in me that he's been there for his family since he was a boy.

The love i had for him turned to PITY and then to indifference. I saw a wonderful man with a very good heart but was non-progressive this, i couldn't deal with. His family didn't love him enough to advise him to help himself while helping them. He was a dead weight that i needed to offload. After analyzing the situation one day, i RAN without telling him why. No drama, no quarrel, i just ghosted him i didn't want another begging or convincing.

Red flags everywhere. It's important for young people to consider all these things before choosing a life partner. It never gets better and once you're in, you're in. Running was one of the best decisions i've made as a woman. Man is already 40 now unmarried, no kids. I just feel so sad for him because he's a nice person.

armyofone:
Always missing out of the good food and drinks
My catos are out ! I hope to get some margaritas this weekend and make some margarita ville

armyofone:
Cococandy I missed the pizza party. Hope you kept mine in ziploc. Please I need the Lamborghini wine - on hard rock. In my way

DBestDoc:
I'm so sorry OP, i think it's too late to fix this. Any action you take towards " fixing" this is going to be counterproductive.

The best time to sort stuffs like this out was before marriage and the solution would have been to RUUUN and never look back.

Now, you can only salvage the situation by being your own security. Think for yourself, save for yourself, invest for yourself and sort yourself out. He's been that way for 9yrs, i don't see him changing soon.

You keep talking, you become an enemy. Can you fight his parasitic family off with him being on their side? i guess not.
If you keep waiting for him to fully take charge of his responsibilities, you'll be waiting for a long time girl.

Plead:
Say something.

Hathor5:
Nice thread OP. I hope you will ensure people keep it clean.

The question of nature vs. nurture has been subject to scientific scrutiny and much has been written on the topic by anthropologists, biologists, psychologists, historians, and sociologists. It is difficult to answer and there is a lot of disagreement surrounding the topic. Nairalanders are most likely to respond to it ideologically, not objectively, and will disagree too. I think that the minimum that we can agree on, going by the answers so far, is that every human being is a product of his biological making and environment and that gender roles are an interplay of the two. As a result people in primitive societies used to assign the role of the hunter to men who are on average stronger physically but there are still societies habituating less civilized places where women are assigned the role of the provider and men do what is in most societies considered atypical of men. But they are the exception, not the rule.

Today men do not need to hunt. We have grocery stores. In the modern world, as we have become more dependent on specialization and have more complex economies, there is a wider range of jobs that can be performed by both, men and women. Most jobs do not rely on physical strength anymore and there is no physical trait that stands in the way of chores and cooking so the lines have become more blurry.

Divinehealer:
Pls join our Fb group na it's called (See What I Cooked!) It's a fairly new group and we want people like you to to join other like minded people and make it a great place.

You can type the group name directly on Fb search or follow the link.

https://m./278491026506325?ref=m_notif&notif_t=group_comment

sp12:
Here’s my simple Agbalumo Sorbet

niggaman:
can I simply use tomato ketch up for this

newman0017:
Kindly help with the recipe and steps to make this ma.. #iLikeDx

MomoAdura:
What would you take these with
Doughnuts kind of afternoon!

CAPSLOCKED:
IF THERE'S A HEAVEN FOR GOOD PEOPLE, 99% OF ALL CHRISTIANS & MUSLIMS WORLDWIDE WILL NOT MAKE IT.

THEY'RE EVIL, SINFUL, JUDGEMENTAL, HYPOCRITICAL, AND EVERYTHING ELSE THEIR GOD HATES.

cutiereborn:
Not a fan of pizza, but this looks as good as the ones I see in stores

slyfox35:
Thanks for this,my thoughts exactly, but I do not know how to tell him to back off,should I remind of him of what he did?