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Nigerian women in the USA are all assets. Most educated ethnic group by percentage. I’m proud

Who said she had to get the house?

And who said she must have been the one to commit adultery?

Also why are you in my inbox?

And why are you reviving a dead topic?

So many questions. Don’t bother answering .

2buffagain:
So why should she get the house? Add to that that she was the one that committed adultery....Answer logically and quit deviating.

Your whole post is based on the assumption that the woman doesn’t bring money or contribute anything to the family. A post based on false assumptions is already null to begin with. So no need addressing the rest of it.

Also, I can’t reply your DM. I don’t have access to that email. Say what you have to say on here.

2buffagain:
But are you helping him pay it though?
If you later decide to Bleep him up, and the courts give you the house (which, lets face it, they will)...will they also still force him to be paying for it while he goes and lives in a basement somewhere?

There is far too much divorce rape going on out here that a man would have to be putting his balls in her hands to marry a woman without a prenup. Even if all that prenup says is "No matter what (children, lifestyle maintenance, etc), the maximum split is 50/50 of current assets with no alimony. If divorce is based on cheating, the offending spouse will suffer a penalty of XXXX"...It is STILL a much better thing to have than not having a prenup that specifically states that. There are men out here giving 65+% of past, current and future earnings to their exwife like slavery...ON TOP the fact that she actually cheated on him.

Only women have anything to gain from marriage in the west...so naturally the onus is on y'all to support the concept of marriage with emotional arguments and not factual logical ones. Abi who wants to give away their privileges?

Ajoke also admitted engaging in fights with her husband’s girlfriend whenever she comes visiting him.

She should be the one divorcing him. The insolence

I want

sunbestie:
Bring ur spoon.... I dey step a m down with palm wine

Mmm. Different strokes for different folks.

Icon79:
True true. Or both of you could be as well, right?

But truth be told tho, women always want the man to be in charge. Back in college, I dated a girl from a very rich family but she'll always handover her credit cards for me to pay for everything. Even her car sef, I am the one who always drives.


O pari

You got that right

LadyHeaven:
I so enjoy the hypocrisy exhibited on this great forum, just negodu men dem advising the op to not tell her until notices herself, heap the blame on her whilst accusing her of been a cheap farm tool, just a pat in the back, no outcry on his disloyalty, some even going as far as saying girlfriend no be wife, but if the tables where turned and the girl did even something minute as cuddling with another guy this topic would have been up to 25 pages of pure curses.. Smh

Here we go again.

So you don’t think I could be the multi in this situation? You are not serious.

Anyway good luck. Anything is possible

Icon79:
Haha!! A little birdie tells me that your husby be multi. So me and you no dey the same category now

But we shall see sha.


O pari

Icon79:
Good info! Thanks.

I will keep my eyes open, if something comes my way, I will give it a shot and try the warranty stuff. But I am not sure that I can take a plunge on a 2015 or later model MB right now tho.... those MFs are pretty pricey! Problem is, I like big cars so, for me, it gotta either the S Class (or the GL 450/550 SUV).


O pari

mine’s a 2015. I promise you it’s doable.

Good luck

sherylbakky:
Awwwwwww, see men oooo.

At Op....Are u sure she also contacted it? There's at least 20% assurance dat she may not.

Dont tell her unless u notice she has it too or she complains or confronts u.

If she does, apologise...Hmmm but anytin can happen to ur relationship oooo, but d wise tin is just to keep it unless she brings it up.

I hope u'v learnt ur lesson, stay away frm infidelity.

gonorrhea can cause infertility in men and women. And it doesn’t show symptoms. Not telling her would be him making a decision to affect her child bearing capacity in future. He has treated his, he should give her the same opportunity

No it’s not yearly. Depending on who you get the maintenance plan from, it covers between 3-5 years starting from when the manufacturers warranty expires.
So let’s say you’re not buying a brand new one, buy one that’s still new (like 2-3) years and less than 30,000 miles on it. That way, you can have additional manufacturers warranty even up to 1 or 2 years before having to buy a maintenance plan.

Icon79:
The $5000 is it yearly?

I definitely love my car ... the smoothest ride I have ever had in a car. It was like floating on the air! But I started having double mind the day I took my car to the local Pep Boys for an Oil and Filter change, and they directed me to the dealership. A few months later, my headlight went out and I went back to the same dealership and my bill was over $1000 ... that's when I decided that the car is above my budget


O pari

I’m on my second Mercedes and I can tell you your dealership didn’t give you best deal.
Buy a maintenance package for about $5,000 up front, and they will fix whatever needs to be fixed absolutely 100 percent whenever you need them to. Including all regular checks and roadside assistance. Unless it’s an accident then you know it’s up to your insurance.

You can even get cheaper maintenance packages for about $3,000- $3,500 and only pay $150-$200 copay whenever something goes wrong.

I actually haven’t had to use any of the packages I paid for but the peace of mind it brings makes it worth it.

Think long term savings

Icon79:
Mercedes benz is a money pit. I drove a 2010 S 550 4matic briefly and the money it comes me to maintain it in 1 year was almost enough to purchase another car. A simple oil change, you'll have to visit the dealership. To change the headlight, they had to put down the engine and a few other things and by the time they were done, my bill was over $1000!


The only way I'd purchase a Mercedes again if I am coming back to Nigeria for good. Unlike over here, maintaining Mercedes benz in Nigeria isn't that expensive.


O pari

What’s futuristic about that road?

showietee:
A typical example of how roads should be constructed, with futuristic consideration.

You look like you could use some food

07Bet9ja:
[color=#000099][/color]see below

Those bridges are too high. They could use a lift.
And there’s is no provision for disability. Poorly executed

Love the s-class. But I got a c-class. Maybach will be in my garage one day. Speak your wishes into existence.

Why are people bashing her? Isn’t she an example of what y’all want women to be? Confused dummies

Nigerians are hateful haters

Can never uplift others. It’s only jealousy that can make one always look for the negative in other people’s lives. Even when their own lives are nothing to write home about

If that’s what he wants

You still haven’t said what’s so bad about it

oyetpel:
Not bad? Would you maybe your son behaves like a girl and look feminine with cloths and wears?

And that’s bad because?

boyjo:
You are so right.
Unknown to t he dad, the baby KNOWS he is a man.
May the baby (nor any other person in the world never grow up to invent milk producing man boobs. Amen.)
Na so e dey take start,them no know.

I was the only person scolding my nephew when he was just a year plus and would go about wearing his Mom`s heels (shoe).
Every other person saw it as funny. They told me he was just child.
The child seeing that he was making every one laugh went on to develop a lot of feminine mannerisms which evenmade them laugh more.
Today, a teenager, it takes the grace of God for you not to conclude he is gay.

They think orphanages are built with fufu and rice bricks , roofed with sheets of crackers and have delicious milk and soup flowing from their taps.

ifyalways:
The idea of taking an unplanned/unwanted child to a motherless home is so silly , does not work and usually comes from people who in reality does not know how things work but yet must type/comment. They are usually those ones that visit homes once a year ie birthday celebration, donate worthless clothes , a ctn of noodles and toilet roll then take a thousand pictures for the gram to feel fly. (((((Shiorrrrrrr)))))

Orphanage homes are feeling the recession too. No aid or support from Government. They have to pay the nannies, cooks, security, admin staff, school fees, hospital bills, their rent and utility bills and still feed the children monthly. Most times they are so broke that the owners sell their personal assests just so the children can eat.

Dont have children you have no plans for. No orphanage home( except baby factories that will sell the child) Will randomly accept your child from you. Use condoms or have an abortion ;Period.

If your religion frowns at abortion, please take the child to your religious house so they can feed him or her. QED.

Those people against abortions should go adopt those children

You haven’t done anything wrong.

She’s wrong for not knowing where to draw the line. personally, I think you have accommodated enough.

People only learn when you pay them back in their own coin.

ruddyman500:
I got married to my wife in 2017 and we have been living together since, we have a child together but there is this problem with her anytime it has to do with any of her EX. i will cite some of what happened .

She wanted to organise a programme at a time and the person she could think of is one of her ex who happens to be a media guy, i told her point blank that i dont want her to go met the guy but she explained to me how the guy will be of help to her in the programme she is planning, i let her be cos i dont want to be seen as someone throwing spanners in the wheel of her progress, i supported her and the programme was a success.

Another instance was when her mother died, and they were planning the burial ceremony with her brothers...my wife got home and told me that she told her brothers that she will talk to a musician to come play at the ceremony and the said musician happens to be another ex of hers. i told her right there that am not comfortable with it at all how could ur ex come to sing at her mums burial and i will be there dancing to his tunes?...after so much back and forth , i told her i will only attend the church service and i or any of my people will not come for the party, that was when she made last minute changes and went to book another musician.

The last straw that broke the carmels back was yesterday....I and her have been having some issues of late and we talked over it infact we are just coming out of the tensions....then yesterday morning around 8am she told me that another ex of hers called her overnight and told her that his mum just passed away and he could not think of anyone to call but her cos he is so broken, she said she had sent her condolences already but that she will like to go greet the guy and his siblings cos they are in their fathers house [ the guy is still single ooo although they broke up in 2013] and that she will be able to know about the burial arrangements so she can plan on attending the burial..so she asked me for permission if she could go and pay them a visit yesterday..... Normally i wld not have allowed her but i thought what is she didnt tell me and went there and secondly cos of the tension we just went through and i dont want another tension to build again , i told her i will only allow her to either go greet them yesterday or she goes for the burial ...I told her i will only allow her to choose one . She then asked me in strong tone why i didnt wnat her to attend the burial.....At that point i left the room cos i was not ready for another round of arguments.

She did not say anything again until afternoon, i went to my living room and asked her if she is no more going on the visit again she said she already taken her bath and she will go n prepare now ....she entered the room and started dressing up, i went to meet her in the room and i told her that i allowed her to go cos i already gave her the permission but henceforth i will not allow such again ...Told her she is not the only person with exes , i dont allow issues of any of my own ex brew tension in my marriage , i told her i have an ex whose fathers house is just like 5 mins drive from inside the estate we live and when the man died my ex called me ..all i did was send her my condolence over the phone and i explained that i cant come for the burial cos i have a wife at home whose feelings i respect and that it ends there AT that point my wife flared up to the high heavens .....she started ranting that why am i caging her that i should give her reasons why she should not go that am just so obsessed with her am immmature, insecure and bla bla bla. I told her if loving my wife and protecting the dignity and integrity of my family for obsession then she is totally wrong. She said other men will not have any problem with it that why am i making an issue out of the situation, i explained to her that am not other men , What Mr A is comfortable with may not be so with Mr B cos we all have our individual differences .....One problem my wife have is she does not see reasons why i shld not accept what she seems right to her . I then told her to call any of her elder brother and explain this situation to him if he can allow such ....

This is a woman i never restricted her movements ....i only restricted her twice and they are both on health grounds...When she left i did what i have never done before [ i have never reported her to anybody either my family or hers no matter what happens i find a way we can solve it]...i called her very close friend and explained everything to her, the lady was surprised and she promised to talk to her....I also tried to call her elder brother who is a pastor but his phone is switched off and i have not been able to get through to him .When my wife came back
she did not even greet meat all , she came to take our baby from me which i refused her, she went straight into her room, i later went into the room to lay our baby and i went into the guest room to sleep cos am so much in anger and i dont want the neighbors to hear any noise from my flat.

please i need sincere and honest opinion from married people on here ....i want to know if am at fault and secondly what next step should i take

You need to cut him off.

Also learn from him and never be the kind of husband and father he is.

Female bashing thread masked as concern . GTFOH

Am I overreacting?’

Not ‘are my overreacting?’

That’s all.

I’m not am

Then maybe someone might be interested.

This is your comment on a thread where another human being killed herself. No ounce of human sympathy

donstan18:
And I was thinking depression leads to orgasm.

Oh wow. You detest me. My life is surely over. How will I survive now?

You think you’re funny rushing to the front page of every thread on Nairaland to show your deep hatred for women and lack of common sense. Sometimes one can ‘understand’ your misogyny when you post hateful stuff on regular threads and then just ignore you.

But on a thread that depicts human torture where every person with common sense will speak up against it, you still find a way to let your misogyny over shadow the brain God wasted on you.

Get better. You’re not funny. Not clever.

donstan18:
This will be the last warning I will give you on this forum, Lauretta.

Your next attempt on this will be a befitting permission for me to prove to you how much I detest you.

The sole purpose of your existence is to be foolish

donstan18:
Only a fool will pity that woman and believe that witchcraft is not real.

They should deal with her.

Rubbish!

If the idiot kept his pot clean, maybe he could have benefited from the visitor more.

Ungrateful olodo

One year old!

That teacher nanny or baby sister deserves to be put away.