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Poor woman.

Birth control is so important. This woman had no business getting pregnant with some serious mental health issues that needed to be taken care of first.

It seems she might not have had good or any prenatal care at all. Otherwise she would have been affiliated with a good hospital that will take her mental health into consideration while guiding her through the pregnancy.

Nigeria as a country has no structure in place to take care of less fortunate women through their pregnancy stages. And for a country that is so anti-choice, it’s really disheartening. The women are damned if they do and damned if they don’t. Disgusting.

Not the mention to total lack of investment towards mental healthcare. Could go on and on.

That person is not your friend.

He’s an unfortunate husband to some innocent woman.
Don’t enable him to carry out his foolishness.

Who’s this person? What’s his business? Why does Funke’s reproductive health matter to him?

What a mor0n

You’re welcome

Creativebae:
professor johnbul thanks for the correction anyways, i wouldn't know cos i spend money on relevant things that will fetch more money. .

Chanel bag. (Pronounced Shaanel)

Chanel not channel. Thanks

Creativebae:
Fact is we girls are not trying to impress guys, we are competing with ourselves. The moment i realized some guys do not know the difference between brazillian hair and synthetic weavon, the difference between original balenciaga and Aba made balenciaga. The difference between original channel bag and fake channel bag, i stopped wasting relevant money on these things. .just be yourself, don't go broke trying to impress, las las only you will soak your garri..

She’s so pretty

Tender age of 21?

Nwodosis:
Flogging her will not restore her virginity rather giving her full loads of demerits of engaging in sexual activities at a tender age would've done the magic prior before she lost it!

It’s the same people offline that are here online. Ridiculous bunch of human beings

If a lady visits you in your hotel room and refuses to have sex with you, then what?

Edavi234:
As a matter of fact - YES

I can’t say he did it or not.

But to say that any lady who visits a guy should be prepared to have sex with him speaks a lot about why our society is the way it is.

If all of you men are rapists, then come out and say it instead of using phrases like that.

You’re an idiot. Confess to what she didn’t do? So that they can feel justified about torturing her?

Please use your brain. Ode
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shadrach77:
I don't support what the guys did but if you watch the video you will realise that the lady is a hardened criminal. Despite the torture, she refused to confess. Most women won't even go through half of that before they start confessing

Only ladies do stuff like this. Once you are in jail as a woman, whatever boyfriend or husband you have will move on so fast you won’t even know what hit you.

Wonder why we have to prove unnecessary loyalty to our own detriment. Nonsense

Their marriage won’t be a problem if he agrees to be the domestic partner while your sister focuses on the bread winning. (If that’s what she wants too).

But if he’s the kind of guy who when he’s not bringing the bacon, he will still expect to be catered to while contributing nothing to the home front in order to make life easier for the bread winner, then your sister is in for one hell of a ride.

What a dumbass. I hope she gets punished severely for this.
Like she can count to 100 on her own much less a two year old.
Idiots everywhere

Do you were hitting it raw from the 20th through Christmas and then after new year. Now you want to escape your responsibilities. It won’t work.
It’s your baby. DNA or not.

Poor guy

Men selling their children.
Boys complaining but When they become men, they turn around and do the same.
They fight anyone who calls for the cessation of bride price but can’t seem to stop complaining about it.

It seems the problem is with the men

He should file for divorce

She should sue for assault and grave bodily harm

Idiot

So a child who is molested in primary school is an olosho to you? Where do you folks keep your reasoning?
What’s wrong with you?

AFONJACOW:
she had a child while @ primary 5 she must be an Olosho from birth... she is food to Ozubulu local champions and miscreants

You can lend your voice. You don’t need Chimamanda all the time

lefulefu:
where is chimamanda adichie d firebrand.iyam shocked she is even silent.

They can wait until she’s older

Abusing a child because she has been abused before is not a solution

XhosaNostra:
The lady's ramblings are stupid. The guy won't do anything to her as she claims, so what seems to be the problem here? Because the way I see it, the situation would have been more the same or even worse had she remained with her family. For one, she had a child at such a young age, which the writer herself blames on her home situation. Now she's been married off to a wealthy family, that to a husband who's incapable of exploiting her sexually. She already has a child, no doubt her in-laws will help take care of her & the child. Isn't that better off than to remain at home with her parents, where she could be taken advantage of again, which may lead to another pregnancy with no father in sight? Her arranged marriage imo, is the better of two evils. At least she's not out there popping her p*ssy to different men, in exchange for a plate of food or money. The outrage is a bit ridiculous considering that at home she didn't fare any better.

You’re not serious.

You know underaged sex is rape no matter if they agreed to it or not.

Who impregnated her at primary 5 age?

Shibaraba:
She Don dey straff since small.
Born Pikin at primary 5
Jesu.

And lazy youths dey argue over person wey Don already taste the fruit and even Don harvest.

I’m not for censoring. Read my post again

introvertme:
Why should they censor?

No forum on this planet censors!

It was stated on the topic that the image is disturbing, either you turn off your images on your browser settings or you view without complain.

That doesn’t look like a hotel.
The girl is dead so no one even knows how she got there.
The assumption that it’s a hotel and she was lured there plays along with the usual narrative to make the victim seem like they were careless and thus deserved death.

All those mor0ns commenting trash on the first page, may you all not die a terrible death where you get blamed for it and people tell you that deserved it.

This forum seems to be a breeding ground for rapists and killers. Nobody checks them as long as their putrid posts don’t break the ‘rules’.

Rules that focus on grammar and the censoring of normal human biological body parts. Yet these rules do nothing to check actual deplorable posts that depict inhumanity and lack of sensitivity to other people

You are a dumbie

Handsomecole:
This is just one reason I would continue to condemn homosexuals especially GAYS, they deserve to be put to death instantly. That 16 years is not enough.

Instead of people to be concerned that these evil men are trading minors for sex, they are more concerned about them being gay. Is it better if they are trading young girls instead? Evil is evil not matter who the culprit is.

Mmm hmm

eniolorunfe:
What is this I'm reading

Is this one marriage or what? This man is just using your head...sorry to say. He knows your emotional triggers and weaknesses...he uses it against you ...and then makes you feel guilty afterwards.

My dear....this is not how marriage works biko!!! Don't let anyone take you for a fool all in the name of LOVE and MARRIAGE.

There are situations when it's better to be Single and Sane than Married and being turned to a Mad woman.

Don't let this man into your life again unless he is ready to make it work. Tell those people that advised you to seek reconciliation to go talk to him too.

When he drains your pocket and dumps you after his Master's degree, na that time your eye go clear!

Absolutely a great idea. The sterling bank thing.

OP look into that. With 10k set aside each month, at the end of the year, your 100k rent won’t be a problem.

With him or without him.

The initial 50k start up might be a problem but it’s doable. It’s even a better reason to take a salary advance than a generator

Assist23:
Madam, together or alone you need to plan your life.

You have a right to be upset with how your husband set you up and how your mother in law reacted, family is supposed to settle matters not escalate it, however I warn against verbal violence, shouting and being abusive is a form of violence.

As for your expenses, you need to organise yourself and stop spending without a budget. 200K rent on a 95k salary was too much, 150k or 100k is okay.

Now I advise you start a sterling bank savings investment account, you have to start with 50k but every month you can put 10k and you get 13 percent interest, that helps with some discipline and the interest helps, at the end of the year you cash in and pay rent and fees without sweating.

Now divide bills, If you are buying 6000 light units let him pay for water and fuel for gen, he should do foodstuff 25k monthly so you buy in bulk.

Write down every single thing you spend money on and budget for it, both doing your share.
This plan is if you decide to stay together even if you decide to stay alone it will help.

I don't like the kind of man he seems to be.

Well ask her first if she agreed to be the sole breadwinner before assuming it might have happened. I don’t know how she would be complaining about that if that was their plan.

My marital status is not really relevant here.

Oblongata:
My dear in marriage there are usually only 3 people involved; husband, wife and the counselor...

Were you there when they made decisions about their finances?

A situation like 'don't worry, go for your Masters, i will use my funds to finance the family in the meantime' could have sufficed and after seeing the heavy burden subsequently, storm of reneged brewed.

I am not saying that is what happened, but even if your husband is breathing down on you financially, there are dozens of way you can stop that, the most cowardly is to move out.

Before I go on, are you married?

It seems like you’re the man’s sister.
What action of his indicates that he’s willing to make it work?

yvelchstores:
she could but she will exhaust herself. The man is willing to make it work, she is as well. They should patch it up and limit family influence. At the end, God wants them together not apart. We should seek right standing with God rather than "justice".

What’s your definition of trivial stuff?

Finances in marriage can never be described as trivial.

Also that ‘husband is scarce’ blackmail is old.

Yes a 17 year old can apply to marry a 75 year old man, that doesn’t mean that any woman should be grateful to have a guy in her life. Even when he’s making things more difficult

Stop it

Oblongata:
You guys are really childish or let's just say you are kids.

Look at the stupid reason you want to destroy a marriage blessed with a kid for?

You my dear is too hot tempered and proud and the usual end result is single motherhood.

Your husband is yet to realise he is married and now a man, many new marriages are like this and I can bet the marriage is 3 years and below

You guys need a marriage counselor or invite pastor to come and preach better sense into your heads

My marriage was like that almost 10 years ago, we no wise that time, just like you guys now

My wife left the house because I went to watch football match in the night

I begged but she no gree, she said I must come to her parents house to beg them

Me way I no gbadun b4, i just dusted my bachelor hood certificate

Nobody told her to come back after weeks.

It saddens me to see a woman leave her matrimonial home because of trivial stuffs

Shey edi mue ni? (Are you under a spell?)

Where there are lots of women out there fasting and praying for husband

When we decided to find a wife for my father that is 75+, that is when I know that husband is scarce

We announced in church, too many women called my number

25 year old sef applied...dey do anyhow for there shogbo?