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Kafayat is showing she’s little more than a child herself. She thinks having a baby is all about her.
It’s not, it is always about the child who will grow up questioning why he or she hasn’t got a daddy.
It’s one thing to grow up fatherless because he couldn’t, or didn’t want to be around. Quite another to discover your mother deliberately deprived you of a dad. On top of that, it’s miserably unfair to the unsuspecting men.
Stop it, Kafayat. Grow up before your selfishness deprives your child of a decent mother

princesca:
Ok I will think about the US thing and look for work here and start gradually from here till I'm back on my feet again thank you all

bukatyne:
Me too

How are you and family?

Is she here?

Gracious10:
Please can i have the recipe for the cookies? Thanks.

mubzay:
mouth watering pastries. Pls, can I av dd recipe? Thanks

Roland17:
During morning Mass today, i remembered your family and asked for strength and safe delivery.

Happy Sunday

TheArchangel:
Are you a caterer? You are inadvertently making peeps like me appear incompetent, why?
Now it looks as if the only thing I can cook is boiled water. No fair.

AfroKnight:
Really.... Who be dis hag?

I honestly dont see the need for this unprovoked attack and insult. Learn to read and reply a comment like a human being, even if you don't agree with the opinion.

Whether you admit or not, decency in dressing and conduct remains a potent measure to "prevent" potential rapists from feeding their depraved minds; not your "damage control" approach that raises dust only for the police to bungle the case.

You could not deduce that but decided to attack me. Are you okay? Well, we sabi your type. Ladies who cannot conscientiously advice a girl to dress or talk properly since you prefer to throw caution to the wind when dressing and talking! Women who have little or no virtue to impart.

Please, it really isnt my fault that you were possibly raised to be the sexual entertainment of your community, relieving the loins of thugs bold enough to ask for some. It is certainly not my fault that you have grown up to be just a booty call instead of a lady.

I'm done with you. Rubbish. Go and fix yourself.

AfroKnight:
Who is this unfortunate nanny-goat? Please I have no time to school slow minds today.

Go and hit your empty head on a wall or something.

banmee:
Minister, what do you mean? The grammar is kinda too big for me.

uzoormah:
dressing properly can go a long way in avoiding this. ladies who wear bomb shot will end up attractin an armed robber as a spouse or boyfrnd

AfroKnight:
You are immensely stupîd. That's the only explanation for your twisted interpretation of my comment. Next time read like someone with a brain.

Hag.

AfroKnight:
Both suspect and victim have their blame. On a side note, the way small small girls flirt with grown men nowadays. Very disgusting.

I still dont know what is attractive about a 15 year old. I can't even date a 19 or 20 year old girl. That young look in their eyes cannot make me feel anything even if they are curvy and wear skimpy clothes. I will even be disgusted.

Besides, sex is empty when you have to force your way. Only you doing the thing, no response from the partner. Makes no sense. Total turn off.

Men like this should undergo therapy while serving time in prison. Teenage girls should please forget about looking "sexy". You have no business doing that.

khalhokage:
How do you know wasn't dressed "properly"?
And even if she wasn't does that make it ok for the beast to rape her?

modestbrowser:
Hmmmmm.


1960-2000.
We seldom hear of rape cases!! Why?
Because children dress properly.. U hardly see their tiles or cleavage.


This days... The way children (14-17) dress, even a male he goat will get attention down below.


The bomb shot or wateva they wear will just expose everything down dia.

The short skirts they were just expose everything down there assuming they mistakenly forget to close their legs.


The sagged tops or short tops they wear just expose all the cleavages and give way for those little mango size pointed nipples to stare @ sons of men.




Mothers please dress your kids properly and kick some western practices to the dustbin.


Some men have extremely high libido and the devil himself is also @ work.

dovelike:
. Sorry to say this but are the prostitues in Nigeria now that expensive?



Parents please dress your lityle girls properly. It's a arrange world now.

Bhella5:
This is who we are. This is not the West where women think they are equal to the men.

ronald4lif:
This is what the Nigerian society has been reduced to? A woman has no value and respect until she's bearing mrs before she can be socially accepted. And to think the imbecilic individual that said that is also a female.

How can a society progress when a woman's worth is tied to a nuptial ring and marriage status? Just how.

liefdesverhaal:
So according to you, I should appreciate the abusive nature or the disrespects mind? Did you even read my post? SMH




I have tried few of this method myself but it is not solving the long term problem. I have slapped her couple of time at home after too much confrontation and provocation and when she raises to fight, I cant pull myself to hit her back because I am afraid I might hurt or wound her. She has wounded me many times and tore countless of my shirts and jewelries.

I see myself as a weak man anytime I raises my hand to slap her... I believe there should be a better solution than domestic violence. And just to add, Where I live, women are treated favorably in domestic violence cases than a man irrespective of who is at fault.

The issue of taking a sole decision for the family is what I have been doing but i feel it is just making us couple with no foundation, harmony or love... It is making us pass day to day as it come. In simple term, it is not bringing us together, rather creating more loopholes for disharmony and quarrels.

Idea of separation creeps to mind every now and then because my marriage has become stale. She too acknowledge this and even suggested to me last week that we should just have three kids then we can separate and she can become a single Mum while i take care of the kids.

I took a day off to clear my head and i really hope I can find the right balance to a permanent solution.

liefdesverhaal:
@PressVA
Thanks very much for the Advice. I have already ask elderly family friends to talk with her... Sometimes she agrees to change without doing anything to change, some other times she becomes defiant of any criticism.

As you rightly pointed out, the things that i desperately want to change in her is the disrespectful and abusive nature. She talks down at me even outside and once told me that she can fight me in public without caring what people will say. I have leave her couple of times outside just to avoid embarrassment. At home is no difference, She is ready to fight at any slightest provocation.

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