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Mooh247:



What is the Job of Nigeria consulate office at Dar-es-Salaam... Godsfrey Onyeama budgets tens of billions of Naira every fvcking year and Nigerians abroad get treated like shit without proper representation





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Somehow you found a way to blame a government official for what happened here.

Some of you are just daft.

Nawa

Nigerian Women and rape cases are now becoming a thing now, it's very bad, one even did her own for clout recently.

How do you expect them to believe you when you don't any penetration from rape nor severe injury from attempted murder.

Anyone can be accused of such cases and if men gets punishment because of cases like this then I know that so many men would rot in jail and women will be left on the streets

Who even sleeps in a hotel at night/day time and doesn't lock their door, people even lock their house room's door when they sleep, talk more of a hotel.

The accused can't be punished or stigmatized even if it was true.

What's the point in knowing how much people earn?

Trust me you won't get the real figures regardless that it's a faceless forum.

Dtruthspeaker:
You are mad for saying this and the mere fact that you insult God because of this, in The Name of The Lord, your suffering shall be worse than you have ever seen. It shall not go well with you.

Did God not warn you all to turn away from evil and He Would heal the land?

Did He not warn that a time cometh when you shall call but He will not Answer?

And that the world would be plunged into evil?

After all these warnings and people did not Listen to God, yet, you came to insult God for all that you suffer.

Cursed are you and cursed shall you be. No Good thing shall come your way Only Evil, as is Written "Evil purseuth Sinners"!

So, the mere fact Nigerians pray a lot and go to places that they call church, does not mean that they are people of God.

No, they are not and God can not hear their prayers after all when they were supposed to hear Him, they did not listen to Him!

What's all these curses for?

You couldn't convince him or argue responsibly, you just resorted to insulting and laying curses on him, No one will become a Christian with people like you as examples.

Is that how Jesus taught you to bring souls for his Most High?

Just so you know, many people don't believe in God, they only oblige so as to avoid victimization and also the fear of hell fire and it's numerous threats.

I don't want to go further.

n3xt:
I will forever be grateful to my mom for this. Pls send money to her for the clearing. Just start something, no matter how little.
She will continually pray for you to succeed.

Thanks for sharing this advice.

You don't know the numbers of mindset you have changed.

n3xt:
I do not really have much in my account when I started building. I was waiting till I muster enough fund to take the house to an appreciable level at once.

My mum asked me to borrow her N70k for her business and I did. The next thing she called to follow her to the site and I found out she has already gotten 500 pcs of blocks and 10 bags of cement. That was how we started.

She told me “You start by starting. Do all you can before your children start growing.” 1 started a year into my marriage and moved-in the next year.

I was considering starting when I have about 50% of the required fund.

Chaii I feel like crying bro.

I am a hard person but this comment touched me to my bone marrow, next month I am starting my project, make I give mumsi money now first so that them go clear the land.

Chaii, my mother has been disturbing to start but I have been hell bent on having enough money first.

Good Mothers are blessings.

If you have a genuine reason to say NO, then say it no matter who it is, even the people you called bad have same emotions too but they suppress it and face reality.

I assume you haven't suffered from your emotional decisions, that's why you are saying this some things you said here.

You don't need to change to a bad person but never do a good that will affect you badly you in any way, it ends up being foolishness and once you help someone and that person defaults without you seeing the real as genuine, ghost that person out of your life else them go just open market for your head.

Flier:
I don’t think she was lying, they probably pay her or threatened her to call it a lie

Even with confirmations from her blood brother

You must be really stupid

Spits...

Too bad.

It's painful that Miss Chinelo's is being mocked by this foolish girl.

She should be punished without mercy.

What's our age difference

What's our age gap

2braithe:
Unfortunately,that era is gone.Nowadays, women are "packaged" to their unsuspecting husbands-to-be,oblivious of their true nature nor their past.
Even if a background check is implemented and she is deemed good,she can still change for bad.We are in a period where bad is seen as the norm.She starts to see what other ladies do,starts to keep bad friends and viola!There you have a changed woman.



If you are religious,pray you don't encounter financial crisis.Raising kids is not "bread and butter".This is why it is common for some whites to opt for a no-kids marriage.
My father gave birth to a little below 7 children.When his financial life spiralled down,as young as I was,I regretted on his behalf.


Since it's personal,what more can I say?



I was expecting you to mention the good qualities of a high value woman to me.Let me know your definition of a high value woman.

What I'm insinuating is,you can encounter a woman whom you perceive to be a high value woman from afar.On a closer inspection,you might want to question your value perception abilities.



The reason for a high divorce rate among the whites is due to lack of endurance.The whites can't endure half of what africans endure in marriages which is excusable.

Imagine someone saying divorce is a sin before the lord until she died in the hands of an abusive husband.An average white will call the cops if you dare hit them.
The case of Tobechukwu,a Nigerian-American stabbed by his white model girlfriend.A white man won't endure such toxicity before calling it quits.

But in my darling Nigeria,you have to endure and tolerate nonsense just for peace to reign,for the sake of the kids, because of what people will say e.t.c.White people don't tolerate sh*t.

And yes,white men admire our ladies.They being criticized for marrying african women reeks of racist vibes.



Women's tolerance level differs.Some expect you to get back on your feet in few weeks or months.If you exceed that,it will breed disrespect, nagging and all manner of negative attitudes.

You don't know Nigerian women.They respect their men for his ability to provide mostly.If they are the one doing the provision, during that period,they are the boss.
This is why if your wife is richer than you are,she can't easily be controlled.Why? Because she has the ability to provide things even you can't provide.

Whereas,the whites will share the finance in a 50:50 proportion without qualms.



Try to stay away from a feminist.They want to be men with vaginas

The woman is exhibiting typical Nigerian woman traits.The man is a SIMP according to RedPillers

It all boils down to what you want for yourself.For me,I see a future with white women.
If Nigeria were to be secured,I would have loved to relocate her here.

Well that's your wish and desire to marry a white woman, there's nothing bad in that.

Speaking about financial crisis, all you should pray for is for good and wise children. My father isn't rich nor among the average class but we don't blame him for that, we actually did when we were young but when I started hustling after finishing primary six I knew better and made sure my younger ones emulate my footsteps, imagine they are even the ones complaining to us that sometimes I get angry and ask them who do I complain to when you are dropping yours on me, who gave birth to who.

Good thing you mentioned endurance, that's one of the quality a high valued woman possesses others are respect, faithfulness, contentment and devoid of implementing advice from stupid female friends, I would wrap it up with wisdom. Having at least three of these makes a woman a high value woman.

The case of Tobechukwu was a clear evidence of murder unlike that of the Gospel Singer which is yet to be proven, that guy deserved it, he was an internal racist, very foolish fellow, I don't want to talk about him.

I don't want my wife to take care of the home but it's somewhat inevitable as life has it, sometimes big firms delay salaries because they are facing issues too, that doesn't mean you would say they haven't been trying.

No one wishes for a bad wife, but like I said, situations make us know who really love us, if she proves otherwise, dump her when you stand on your feet.

At a time last week my mum constantly told my father that she would leave the marriage he wasn't responsible enough, she made comparisons with him and other men and my old man was tired of the nagging then he stood on the road with bare foot and told her that all her brother's wife will leave them one by one before the year ends and he will go to his village to make sure of that, my father doesn't believe in the white man's God, he goes to church most times because of my mother's constant name calling, I believe you know better, imagine she called us and was narrating the issue seeking sympathy without saying her part where she messed up, my elder sister quickly took side with her and I laughed and asked her what she said before he told her that, she kept mute and was taking what I can't comprehend, then my younger sister who lives with them told me what happened.

She's not a bad woman though but she nags alot, all women do but if my dad was a beater he would beat the hell out of her, he was even speaking of marrying a second wife which I talked him out of it.

There are two sides to a story but the story of the Gospel Singer has been one-sided.

Lol, I deal with quiet women only, a feminist would even get frustrated around me because I show control and hate competition and games, they know better I don't take nonsense, I see them everywhere na.

For your info, a typical Nigerian Woman isn't a harlot, for the records she was once a harlot but the man thought she had finally changed after 18yrs of marriage with children to show for it, but he was wrong. They don't change, they only go on breaks and they would resume very fast if you become broke.

Which one be open relationship again.

Anything una read for net, una go just dae practice am.

I love the Muslims in situations like this, they will just hold you for blasphemy.

Nawa

I can't seem to believe the part where they said that those kids actually beat their mother.

I smell lies, even if they point a gun to me I can't lay hands on my mother.

Where were these stories while she was still alive, the man may be physically abusive but nah children can't beat their mothers no matter what she did, not in this part of the world.

OP is funny.

You seem deluded, where will get a job that the employer cares about your mental well-being, all they care about is their target, know this and know peace, even if you start your own firm today, if your employees can't meet up to target, you can't kill them and if you have sympathy you won't sack them because you know getting a new job is difficult.

You will resort to verbal abuse, Life isn't a bed of roses, you dae even complain about your incompetence what about those persons that don't get promoted or a good increment after doing a job well done.

We all insult Buhari today because he's dragging us backwards, nobody wants to hear that the pressure is too much for him, everyone including you needs result and result only.

All the same, I don't support them hoarding your salary .

TONYE001:
Sadly, there are too many generalizations in your submission.

There are many women that sponsor their homes happily and they don't make noise about it. There are many men that complain that their wives don't do chores at home. See?

Let's talk briefly about the old days. Those days, recall that men provide for their homes? I mean, men provide all the resources while the women manage the homes. True? How many men can do this? Today, women have to work to support their homes. If you go out at 8am and return at 5am, and your wife does the same, and you both return home tired and spent, why would you want your wife to do the chores and prepare the dishes? How about doing all these things with her? See my point?

Well, we both have our opinions and going back and forth would only be too stressful. Let's leave it here and wish for the best for us all.

For your info, when something is 95% true it's no longer called generalization, We have light skinned people in Nigeria but we are a black nation, how about that.

Lol
You are too funny, who clamoured for education of the women and who said they don't want to be a sit at home wife that they don't want to end up in the kitchen that the have their own ambitions and dreams too.

You shouldn't use your confusion to affect a man on his own, many Nigerian men can comfortably feed their wives if they sit at home and look after the children and home.

There are sacrifices to be made for every decision you make, let those ambitious women deal with it, I am not wishing the best for anyone.

TONYE001:
Don't get, please.

Where are the emotions? What I put up there are facts and you say I'm emotional?

Wish you'd present your facts too and not attack my person.

I don't do presentation.

Women are the ones who cry and wail most times, those raised by their mothers can tell you that, if a mother feeds the home for a day, she would make the immature children believe that the father isn't doing well at all and he leaves the home responsibilities for her.

Many Children grow up with that mentality and they foolishly hate their fathers until their own children do same to them, then they realise the mistakes.

You will never hear a Nigerian man wail and complain that his sick/pregnant/tired wife leaves the house chores for him alone, men do it without raising an alarm.

We hardly complain, we leave that for women, it's their nature, we aren't trying to win them in that.

You all know Nigerian men don't admire equality in their homes but you try to force them to do it, you try to force and instill a white man's culture in us, that's pathetic, the West and America is open, go there get married to their men, but I don't think they want you guys.

That's one of the reason women hardly get married these days, you want the man to do traditional marriage, church wedding and reception too, it was never so in the old days. Money wey I go take buy Land or do investments, I go carry am go do Sataka because I want to please a woman who would verbally abuse me when the marriage life starts and there's no money to run the home.

Too many women go to church but don't understand the teachings of the bible nor do they know how to use it to run their homes, all they know is to call one small boy Daddy.

We should all go back to the old ways, I don't see the usefulness of these churches anymore.

Rubbish.

2braithe:
It will shock you that majority of the high value women in Nigeria are sugar babies or high class prostitutes and they depend heavily on men.You can hardly know unless you get close to them.
The rest of the high value women who are independent and truly have values acquired by themselves are being chased by many men like you and I.Goodluck entering into competition with hundreds of men.

But high value white women who are not gold diggers are not rare to find.Ask people in diaspora.



Whatever negative qualities you mention are present in both races.Ditto for the positive qualities.
Dude!!This is 2022 not 1962...7 kids for what?Are you breeding a football team?

Equality is a topic on it's own that I won't want to be extensive about.But the only inequality between a man and a woman is Biological.And it is no more of utmost importance in this century.So I wonder why you feel superior to a woman just because of biological make up.



Do you know white ladies can offer you the same respect, appreciation and good home training for your wards?

Also, your Nigerian wife can't be dropping a significant amount in the home and you expect to "be in charge". A Nigerian woman will settle bills and still be submissive? Especially to you that don't believe in equality?lol



The bottom line is both white women and african women are good and bad in their own ways.But the bad of african women outweighs that of their white counterparts.

In a few years to come,only about 25% of Nigerian women will boast of not being into covert or overt prostitution.
They do this because of money but the whites hardly do that because of money.Their money problems are not as severe as that of africans.

I blame the money problems and High prostitution rate on the government due to the recession and inflation and also poor parental home training.

Those women over there have a balanced economical life, so money isn't a major issue for them, what they seek is love, there are good women in Nigeria bro, I can bet one of my kidney on that .

The more reason I admire the ancient ways of marriage, they do a background check and bring good women for you, the probability that she becomes a good wife is 90% compared to now when we take women to our parents/ family with only the dating experience which most of them pretend throughout, even though you date them for 10 years, you still won't know them and the probability of them turning good wives is like 30%.

Oh yes, I love children and I want nothing less than 7 children, it's left for God to grant me that wish and dream and not a man to decide for me, abi na una get my happiness.

I know white women can offer these things I seek too but if given a black woman and a white one of both qualities to choose from, it's definitely the black I am going for, there are personal reasons attached to it.

If you say high value Nigerian Women are sugar babies and High class prostitutes then you don't know what's high value or you think it revolves around money and High lifestyles, just so you know, a man like me admire simple women and not those outspoken psychopaths that seek every means to gain attention. High Value means alot of good qualities of which money is just a little fraction of it.

Very well then, if you feel black women negative traits is greater than their positive traits then I want you to tell me why is there a high divorce rate in the white man's land, white men secretly admire black women but they will be victimized and criticized if they marry our women, most of them can't keep up with that only few of them do.

Maybe you don't get me well, sometimes I might go broke which is inevitable and I expect my wife to run the home for a few days, I am not saying I will leave everything for her, I am not even the type that likes doing nothing.

If a woman feels superiority of a home lies on who settles the bills then she's not a Christian nor Muslim nor a pagan but a fool and I can always get another woman once I bounce back.

Leaders are not made Leaders because of their affluence but that rather, their wisdom, courage, bravery, fearlessness and logic, I don't admire women who wants to be men with a vagina.

I am speaking from experience, a particular woman still wishes she would come back to her husband's house, but I don't think the society/immediate vicinity will allow that to happen peacefully, too many persons have hated the woman already, who controls and leave a man because he's broke except a stupid harlot, the man is my father's friend and he secretly wants his wife to come home for some personal reasons but I am not sure they can live in peace unless they go to a place where no one knows them, his wife was all shades of wrong but this man still loves her, imagine....

TONYE001:
Honestly, it's a shame to see people justify domestic violence.

Let me even ask, is there ANY legit reason to kill someone (aside an immediate threat to life)? Absolutely not!

If you no like your relationship, WALK AWAY! Whether man or woman.

This thread is about the recent victim of domestic violence and some people are asking for stats of men killed by their wives.

If you want that stat so badly, go and create your thread! Nobody dey hold you.

You ask why weren't threads created when a husband is killed by his wife (actually, threads were created)?..

The question I ask is, WHY DIDN'T YOU CREATE THREADS ABOUT MEN KILLED BY THEIR WIVES?

You can't begin to attack the OP for creating this thread. Anyone can create whatever he/she desires!

Don't support evil because of your ego or something. Some of the arguments up there are nauseating. So if your wife abuses you, you'd hit and kill her? Haba.

Likely most of these posters are unmarried....or still live with their parents.

Assuming your sister's husband hits her, would you ask her if she insulted him first?

Na because na here na, law no dey. In climes where things work, hit your spouse and you'd see yourself in jail for a very long time.

The message is simple. If you don't feel comfortable about your marriage, waka commot. No be force. This applies to both genders.

Stop feeling like a boss that should be worshiped by his wife. You're are just another human, like madam. You have nothing over her!

Gone are those days when men were demigods. Right now, we are all on the same level. You're educated, so is your wife. You dey work, she too dey work. You're exposed, she too dey exposed. You earn your money, SHE ALSO EARNS HER MONEY! In fact, in some instances, she earns better!

We have all failed to understand the real concept of marriage. Marriage is about joining resources and making the best out of life while you all find genuine happiness in each other. Na social media and stupid orientations nai dey make us reason who dey earn pass who.

It's tiring. We should all stop this, I beg!

Stop hiding under a male moniker, you completely speak like a woman, full of emotions.

I don't think that woman is a Saint because she sings Gospel Music.

The man in question hasn't said anything but a popular journalist has spoken for him same way another Gospel Singer spoke for the deceased.

Women can't even live amongst themselves without being physical and verbally abusive.

All the girls I have dated are verbally abusive and I don't come online to wail about it because I know one word from me would make her cry home and think about her life.

Talking about being Physically abusive, one girlfriend of mine had once hit me because she was angry, well she apologized yet I can't say if she's remorseful but she regrets that action till date because I never fail to remember her anytime I get the opportunity to do so because she still comes around to enjoy my company despite having a good boyfriend, although I told her yesterday never to come again and if I should marry her by mistake, she would be the first to die in the marriage because I don't know how to forget and I would seem like I never forgived her.

There are men who don't hit women not because they don't know how to, but because they might mistakenly kill her, then you see these women hitting them and acting verbally abusive.

ajl:
What xenophobia? I am Nigerian living in the US. How do you come to another man's country and the next thing you started dissing people of colour like you because you want to appear to please white women or white people. What kind of attitude is that? That's how another Nigerian immigrant that wanted to contest to be governor in one US state said he would cancel the annual Black History Month just because he was trying to please white voters. Is that not stupid? Most of us Nigerians are "koons" lacking any sense of dignity and will lick asses of the white folks for some vain reasons. How shameful is that. And sadly the same white folks and westerners you are trying to please are in process of exterminating you all for your resources.

I swear bro.

Too many betrayals, all in a search of favouritism they sell their own kind, it happens here in Nigeria too.

Little wonder the Colonial Masters said Black Leaders sold Black Slaves to them and we assumed it was a lie.

2braithe:
Atleast white girls bring something to the table.
My cousin's white wife didn't allow him take 100% financial responsibility.She offered 50:50.
After much dragging,they settled for 70:30.

Over there it is very common for women to take men out on a date and pay all the bills.

You saying white girls don't have good shape devoid of surgery makes me realize you haven't travelled to the white man's land before.

Life is Simple Bro, Avoid bringing unnecessary troubles for yourself.

If you feel Nigerian Women don't bring anything to the Table then from your angle you are right because you may have not been following good and high valued women simply do that and leave our women alone, should the economy get balanced you will see marriage bulletins everywhere you go.

I sure haven't travelled there but I have eyes, obese women, skin burns or what should I call it. Look I am not here to bash white women but I would want a woman who give me 7 children and be like an African woman but a white woman can't do that without talking about family planning or equality, I don't like competition in my house.

Who's going to be debating on having 50:50 or 70:30 home expenses share. I don't have time for that, it's too petty, I careless if my woman settle bills, I can confidently cover everywhere all I need from her is respect, appreciation and good home training for my wards, it's not too much, Nigerian Women settle bills without your knowledge, them no dae carry book dae write am, the bottom line is getting a good woman, people with good wives don't even come out to talk about it because they don't want their wives being snatched, na people wey marry bad women dae complain everyday.

I will support Nigerian/African Women anytime anyday or have you forgotten that the so called white women are the ones corrupting our women with feminism, display of nudity all in the name of civilization even lesbian and all that.

Choose your problem wisely bro.

These people don old abeg

Small body dae deceive person sha.

Jennyclay:
Keep shut!!! Are the white girls any better??

The white girls will kill all you wannabe redpillers, just don't worry, it will soon get to your turn!!

Atleast she went ahead to drink beer after killing the guy... This time around she might Twerk on your casket.

Nonsense!!!

Try your best to ignore them, they are just dragging you to the mud.

All Girls are the same but I would rather choose a black women who understands me, my culture and my root over a foreign white woman.

It's not as if they have good shapes, flat ass, thin bodies, surgeries everywhere.

Naija Girls to world moreover all women give the same type of headache irrespective of colour.

If you sell your brother, the buyer would not trust you.

But in this case he got killed, I don't want any Black Man to feel pity for him.

samfrancis1:
Bros never heard of any Nigeria gettin paid hourly though within Nigeria.. no vex sha never read or came across one through out my work experience in many of this factories. and imagine what you mentioned yourself if they were Nigerians he wouldn’t have gone far.. are there no Nigerians in other country heading companies and they’re doing well?

Yes some of his top management are Nigerians too, some Nigerians are good to be honest.

But once they enter that high position, they get different advisers of which majority give evil advices of how you should steal to make wealth for your family or generation.

It only takes God's Grace to make the person not to change.

Yes, people are paid hourly and in USD too in Nigeria.

I only remember younger sister's birthday because she was born on Valentine's day and the birthday of any girl I date.

I remembered my birthday this year though because I was having issues with my girlfriend.

Other than that I don't remember anyone's birthday including myself nor do I celebrate to draw attention. I just do it low-key for the person or myself once those financial institutions remember me.

Later in the day I will just sit down and drink one or two, eat fruits like a normal day but I know it's not an ordinary day.

Computer Systems Engineer or Database Administrator or Data Analyst.

Well you can do all together though.

Just make sure you can handle anything about technology in that hospital/firm.

Some of you are actually funny except those of you acting like homosexuals.

I have come to understand that what attracts you in a woman determines the type of women you will get.

I once thought all Nigerian Girls are Useless until I raised my standards and stopped talking to and dating women without good qualities.

Women who can't eveb keep a simple conversation about life issues other than entertainment, I now meet with women and girls of high value and I don't even notice those liabilities anymore.

So if you choose to find a good woman in half naked ladies, Instagram Queens and High Fashion Ladies whose parents aren't rich then you will definitely have to complain everyday.

Good Women are initially boring ladies until you get some bond then they become very free around you and give you some fun.

I won't accept you downgrading Nigerian Women, There are thousands of good ones out there.

Candy is Sweet but it runs the stomach overtime while Mint is Healthy and aids respiration.

Just saying though.

So the unclothedness you saw during the sex period isn't enough.

Allow your partner to have her own time and do what she likes, it's not as if she's denying you sex.

Give her small respect Abeg, bleeping her without marrying her is enough disrespect.

Some of una go just dae do like witch.

phr0nesis:
Same thing happened with someone I know. He tracked his phone to a den of touts in Oshodi. The couldn't even take the police with him because they were scared. He was only able to get his phone back after taking a well known tout with him and he still had to them #100k

He should probably just take some touts with him too and also budget funds for them because they won't go with him for free.

obaaderemi:
You are right brother.
When I grew up and moved close to married people, I stopped taking at face value the stories of abuse as told by people, both male and female.

Most people you see as angels outside the home are actually devil incarnates. How can a sane man just begin battering his wife when she is giving him joy? Very rare! Most of these women are easily carried away by complements from men chasing them, they believe they're "still desirable". Whoever reminds them of their youthful exuberance, They embrace. That's why it's easy using a married woman. If you doubt it, check nairaland itself. And when the husbands discover, instead of quietly divorcing the woman some start venting their anger on the woman. They will even find it hard to tell you what the woman has done due to shame. And the foolish women too would stay in the relationship out of shame too. How do they explain what has happened? Until something very nasty occurs and someone dies.

A family friend slept with another woman in those days and the wife got to know, she didn't leave the marriage but throughout the man's remaining years on earth she dealt with him seriously. i was the only one in the family who always spoke in support of the woman whenever her behaviour was called into question. Many things are going on behind closed doors.

So True.

It's always good to think out the box and also remove sentiments and emotions when giving judgements.

Get to the grassroots before giving judgements.

Thanks Brother, I am glad you know these things.

mii4u:
WIFE BEATER SPOTTED

Yes l can be a wife beater if I catch her cheating or having stupid friendships with men.

If I can set boundaries for myself as a man, I expect you to do same.

But I know I will first send her the harlot to her parents house and if she refuses then she will receive a military drilling.