₦airaland Forum

MrsTwrite:
But when it comes to politicians they won't catch them. Mtcheeew...

E pain am!
NDLEA will soon nab you too

Nengiraw:
Hello nairalanders, please I need help on this situation. So I’m a lady in her mid 20’s. I’m actually very much set for marriage in the eyes of my family, since society deem it fit to place marriage as an achievement for women, and always bring up your age to remind you to. Anyways, it’s not a priority for me to get married now, as I feel like I’m not ready mentally,and I have a lot of trauma to work on, but I’m also open to it, if it’s in my face and ready. I don’t stay in Nigeria, so my family don’t know if I have a man in my life, so they decided upon themselves to introduce me to a man who is my uncle’s friend that stays in the same country as me. They were more focus on the fact that he comes from a neighboring village from us and that he was a doctor. (Meanwhile he’s actually a nurse, but he told them, that he was a doctor, he also never mentioned to them that he was married and had a child, before they decided to introduce him to me)

So we eventually started talking on WhatsApp, he saw some of my pictures already and he was mesmerized. In fact he was already kind of making me his wife in that moment. So one day he called me and we were just talking,and I heard like a toddler crying so bad and needed his attention, I asked him who was that , he told me it was his daughter, there was this awkward silence for almost five minutes of us not saying anything, so I told him I’ll call him back. I called my mother that day and was mad as hell, that they didn’t disclose such information to me, but from my mother’s reaction she had no idea, and she was also mad and she told me, she will call me back, so she could verify from my uncle, since that’s his friend. Even my uncle too had no idea. To cut the whole story short, he later called me the next day on a video call, and he started telling me about his wife( Yes! She’s still his wife, because I don’t think he has divorced her yet)and how abusive she was, and how he tried to make it work, but she was so crazy and stuff like that. That he’s actually trying to get shared custody of the child. That he’s no longer married to her. I was not really having it, because I just felt like he wasn’t being honest with certain things and on top of that his wife is still in the picture, and I don’t know if I want to settle for that. Also he just turned 40, and I’m 25. So the age gap is too much for me. Also I have not met him in real life, cause he stays in a different state from me, my family still wanted me to be open minded until I see him in person, then I could make a decision if I want him or not. He always sends me pictures of his daughter, and he recently sent me one with his first wife and daughter, I was surprised that he did, and he said he wanted to show me the daughter instead. I still felt like I didn’t need to see a picture of her. I started seeing the red flags of him that I couldn’t settle with. Also the way he talked about the wife was vulgar, and I felt like he didn’t need to tell me about her in that manner.

Now the most recent thing he started doing was sending me random stuff about marriage to my WhatsApp. I usually glance at it,and don’t reply, cause I don’t know why he’s sending me that. The one that gave me a major big red flag from him, is when he sent where Regina daniels( the actress who married Ned nwoko) was talking about marrying her husband a virgin and how it’s important to be a virgin. He then asked me if I was one. Honestly I felt really numb, because I don’t know why he will be asking me stuff like that, when he didn’t really get a respond back from me, he proceeded to send another message telling me, “No mind them sha, virgin no sabi. With a heart eye emoji. I was dumbfounded, I didn’t know how to reply to him anymore. I stopped picking up his calls and I have no intention to meet up with him anymore. Now my family is mad at me, saying that at least I should see him in person, but I don’t want to. In fact I’m no longer interested in him. Please am I wrong for feeling the way I feel? Thanks.

To me the ages difference isn't much considering you ages.
But on the hand there are too many red flags which personally i will advise you to stay clear from the man.

happiness440:
Your mother has let you loose finally. Annoying and very unserious forum thread interlopers.

Why insult?
Behave professionally abeg

TANID:
i Wonder o the Thing Wey full here in Kwara state for Just 50k and Still Nobody Buy am

10 years back abi now?

Jewessgratitud3:
Thats why I came to ask what she should do

She should take her kids and keep hustling to cater for them, as for her lazy husband she shouldn't allow him to leave with her until he wake up from slumber.
You can mention their current state of residence in case Nairalanders has any job which she can handle.

Dubetex96:
Tambuwal really got what he deserved.

Is he not a serving senator?

Let me be very brief...
Who is going to take care of her kids if she yield to your advice and leave her kids to him?
It's not right o.
Advice her to rent an apartment and take her kids and ignore the lazy soul alone until he pull himself together.

Birniwa:
For a family of four like myself, 500k looks good. Below is how I break it down, on monthly basis.

Food and other provisions - 100k
Rent - 360k
Domestic Water - 10k
Drinking Water - 15k
Electricity - 10k
School fees for two kids (after taking average as 1st term is always higher) - 45k
Car Fueling and Maintenance - 75k
Cooking Gas - 9.5k
Contributory, Gift and Charity - 30k
Clothing - 30k
Occasional Outing With Family - 15k
Medicals - 15k
Save for the rainy day - 50k
Online Skills Learning - 10k
Internet and cable subscriptions - 15k

My expenses on monthly basis are to the tune of N429,500

If you think this is too high, just know that every individual cuts their suit according to their size. Moreover, if this appears too little to barely cater for your monthly provisions, I pray one day I match this type of stability and beyond.

You are one of the riches Nigerians.
Imagine a school teacher with salary of 19k monthly

Weldone Wike continue with the good work, teach those northerners a lesson

coldsummer:
I would have sold but I'll need to use the vehicle when I visit in November. If I sell now I won't be able to have another car available there before my arrival. Makes sense?

Yes o

coldsummer:
Cars have become so expensive. I bought a car and everything spent in that car from America to Nigeria was like 6.5. Someone has priced that car for 10.8. Still didn't sell.

Profit pf 4.3m
Why not sell it?

preekahantas:
Burn the car at night when nobody is about.
Show up the next morning for your car and involve the Police immediately. Now the problem is no longer parts or fixing, he will either pay for the full car or rot in jail.


Happy sales boss.
No forget your baby girl.

Chai!
Are you related to Buhari or BAT?

Majority of those PVCs belonged to underage voters

Beer parlour story

Blame Buhari not the Ex CBN Governor.

Leave that man alone abeg, Akeredolu if care isn't taken you are not going to end well o.

Patriotic9ja:
Keeps tormenting his haters. They predicted he will be used n dumped after elections. But got disappointed he has even become more popular by the day.

Wike remains the biggest winner in this election year. He won on all sides (100% in PDP and 100% in APC). This is unprecedented in the history of Nigeria politics.. life is all about calculated moves. They can make or unmake you

Lastly he kissed his presidential ambition in PDP goodbye

Akeredulo should be careful o, he may not like what is coming to him

Hezzyluv:
Campaigns are over.

#DeborahSamuel
#SwallowedHisTwitt
#Hypocrite

Turn your stupidity into something productive.

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

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Best advice of the week!

zinaunreal:
Bandits are retired boko haram members 😆

Not even retired o, they are active Bokoharam haram members.
It is just that the northerners ain't willing to be bold and fight this menace collectively because of their brotherhood with Fulani the main actors.

Masha Allah

Tinubu has finally achieved it 1k naira = 1 Dollar

Undilutedme:
Hello nairaland family.
I trust you guys are doing fine.
I have a little problem and I need a piece of advise on how to handle it.

I have a very wonderful mother. She's caring, sweet, compassionate, name all the good characteristics of a good woman, she's got all but there's this problem I'm still having with her. SHE NEVER APPRECIATES ME, NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY. My mom will never appreciate me for anything I do, even if she does, she does it nonchalantly like it doesn't matter. She compares me with friends at every slight opportunity she gets.

There was something that happened. Momsy travelled sometime around this year and stayed for close to two months and she has a shop that she manages. The shop's generator has been bad for sometime and it's really stressful for her selling with dim lights but she refused repairing it again because according to her, the generator is consuming her money because of too much repairs every time. So I wanted to surprise her, I called a friend that fixes generator to come help me fix it so when she comes she'll see that it has been fixed. My friend came and fixed it. When momsy came back and I told her that I fixed the generator for her, she told me that, she didn't send me to fix generator for her and that she is not going to use it. According to her "I send you make you fix gen?. I say I nor wan use the gen again". I swear I was really hurt.

On another occasion was during the just concluded UTME exam. My friends wrote before me, a friend of mine had 330 so I told her, she was very happy. She was like, I pray you get something like this. Fast forward, 3 days later, I wrote mine and result came out. I scored 314, when she came, just happily told her, instead of being happy, she just hissed and said "You nor fit get reach 330?". My spirit just died immediately. She likes comparing me with my friends.

There are many occasions things have happened but I'll not bore you with unnecessary talks. It's really eating me up emotionally and psychologically. How well can I make my mom appreciate me more?. How can I please her?.

Ps: Please nobody should throw insults at her. I beg you in the name of whoever you serve. Thanks.

Communication is the key...
Find a way to ask her why she don't appreciate you? Let her know that her appreciation will surely serve as motivation

YourBestWriter:
I have bsc microbiology. If it is easy to find any kind work in the UK even if to wash toilet, I'm taking it. I'm just tired of these petty jobs I get paid 15k monthly as a biology teacher in onitsha. And I can't even save, so I have lost a lot.

15k per month!
What a heartless school!

APOPTOSIS:
3 most difficult personalities to advise on earth are:
1. a woman in Love.
2. an uneducated wealthy man.
3. a woman following a prophet.

You are very correct!

sevenhundred:
that means an inec po can intentionally refuse to sign ballot paper.. to the advantage of other....

Yes, that's why there's need for a very educated party agent.

In some cases you will pay between some amount of money for the inec adhoc staff to deliberately induce OVER VOTING just to spoil your opponent votes if he is winning in that particular polling unit.
Police are far more better than INEC Staff!

Freebills12:
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You mean that INEC didn't sign and collate these 165000 votes? Or BVAS didn't record them?

Presiding officers didn't sign and stamp the said staggering 163,000 ballot pappers!

chiboycue:
That is the judgement you get for destroying structures and properties upon resumption as Governor of the state

You got the gist!
He destroyed multi billions structures in Kano in his quest for witch hunting.
He rendered many families homeless

The biggest mistake of Nigerians is voting APC

DevilishMan:
Wow
So Allah has a limit to the number of people that he wants to worship him.

Stupidity at its peak

rexchazy:
That kind of bill cannot fly in the north because they see death as an act of God

Islam doesn't forbade autopsy.
If you argue then quote a verse in the Qur'an