my dad was d epitome of strict upbringing, in fact, d relationship isdamaged beyond repair.d opposite of everything i intend to be with my kids. my madam ll have to be d bad cop because i fully intend to be d coolest dad in d world, i go spoil dem rotten with all d care and attention in d world.

thankgod 4 mumsy, she mo than compensated 4 popsie being such a meanie. it probably kept us from nursing suicidal thots all d time. those days were somethin else

it's too painful to relieve, i bent over backwards tryin to make it happen , evry effort i made to compromise was met with more stubborness and drama, in the end, i had to pack it up, eat humble pie and get out of d situation , thanking God it didn't get too far b4 d shell fell off my eyes.

maybe a lil back-ground will fill d blanks.i was transferred to Abeokuta early 2006 and i quickly fell in love with d sleepy town. a grat relief from d madness of lagos. i met this madam o and we just evolved from strangers to friends naturally. i was involved with someone in lagos at d time so i wasnt interested in pursuing it. that situation resolved itself (another long story) and i stepped up d chase 4 this wonderful new lady.

things got out of hand pretty quickly and we did start something serious. babe was all i thot i ever wanted in a lady. we met each other's folks and they all approved.my folks were goin to be out of d country for 6 months and we had to hold off formal intro till then (my saving Grace, i 4 don hook).

meanwhile, we moved in together and i admit, it seemed like a lovely idea at d time.very soon, i started to observe several traits that scared d s----t out of me. everytime i voiced concerns about her house-keeping, bad habbits, laziness and lack of respect 4 me, we ended up arguing all d time. she usually won because her capacity for saying nasty things was overwhelming. she just became an angry bitter person and i couldn't relate with her for fear of getting into mo drama.i know i aint perfect, amongst my many faults, i am quite dis-organised but i made every possible effort to make her comfortable (a cleaning lady comes in weekly). she also claimed she was a virgin , i had my doubts , besides, cellibacy isnt something i intended to embark on for any extended period (probably added to d stress) but i let that hang, at least we were making out regularly, and i thot i was being a 'GENTLEMAN"( I mugun small o, see wetin LOVE cause)

we had religious differences too.i was brought up catholic (though not very religious) while she was pentecostal. this was always going to be a deal-breaker especially with my family, but honestly, i didnt care too much about denomination and we were attending her own chuch togethr. all i required was her to play nice 4 my folks and let things sort themselves out. she had a different opinion and insisted that i must stand up to my folks and tell them blah blah blah, another bitter quarell ensued and my folks adopted siddon look approach.

during my annual leave, i had plenty of time on my own away from her and was able to reflect on where this journey was taking me, i knew it was a difficult thing to do, but we had to talk frankly and i was miserable with her.it just stopped making sense and i told her it was pertinent we called it off.she got nasty and rained all kinds of curses on me. i knew 4 sure i had made d most important decision of my life so i stood on my resolve. she no even beg me, na people she de send till today.when i broke d sad news to my peeps, they were elated and were screaming hallelujah.

my hurting days r over and i have moved on many times over since then. i dodge her as much as possible and even avoid any of our mutual friends.na total extreme severance, i figure that's d only way to format any trace that i ever endured such an idiotic experience.i have forgiven and forgotten, just dont want to know her no more.

bloody hell, i hav to fess-up.it's over.got my ring back, i am back to square-1 and starting all over. it's sad but i think i'll thank God for givin me d courage to run 4 cover. d babe wasn't right 4 me.

why do women become crazy when they see a guy de luv-up? i de denge like maga so things go work out but d drama was getting out of hand, i put d story on fast-forward 20 yrs and i no like d picture that was fore-cast. in a hurry to get this out of my system, crazy woman.

@silly-boy;
abi na u jinx d thing with ur bad-mouth? anyway, i'm releved its over. a cross has been lifetd off my chest.

as usual exagerrations or exclamations go;
is it yam?
is it pure-water in a sachet?
is it donald trump on okada?
na beans?
is it OBJ in a mini-skirt?
is it u in aso-rock?
is that me in btw ur legs?

and d classic:
did u come?

oloriburuku mutha-fucka

used to be aaya-mi atata

when d goin was good.

i personally dont believe in spraying but having said that, people have d right to do as they please so long as they dont offend anybody. (no victim, no crime)

in my opinion, d real crime is d amount of tax-payers money expended on the production and launch of those useless Soludo's coins. i stand to be corrected, bet when was d last time anybody saw a coin, talk less of used it to buy anything, it cant buy a stick of chewing gum, yet d baba-alwawo of CBN finds it necessary to have them in circulation. now he has d nerve to try and correct d way we use our hard earned pepper? he is a jobless man seeking relevance, d guy should shut-up.

quote , "madness is doing the same thing over andover again yet expecting different results"
if we are all in agreement that the Transcorp situation was not d best deal 4 Nigeria, why all d noise if Yar Adua had d courage to reverse d decision? if we are to be honest with ourselves, it was always bound to happen. OBJ coerceed and arm-twisted all manners of strange-bedfellows to form Transcorp. immediately he was no longer around to keep them together, they were bound to implode and thats exactly what they did.

if there was any doubt in mind as to the future of Transcorp, it was because of Fola Adeola's (founder GTB) involvement and i almost bought into d scam because of his headship of the conglomerate. he soon fell out with OBJ over his refusal to sing d 3rd term blues and was surmmarilly displaced. at that point, even d blind could see d hand-writting on the wall.

i do sympathise with anybody whose pepper went into this racket. i pray it's not too late to get ur capital at least

best gift, as earlier said by some peeps, is to be there. 100% attention and quality time. d best gifts dont necesarilly hav to cost a fortune if it's real luv (maybe its d ijebu man in me talking)

bro,
what's ur beef?
seems some lil girl got ur panties up in a bunch.take a chill pill b4 u hurt urself.

this could be a very profitable business and it's 1 that i have run successfully for 4 years. DSTV with dual view used to be the safest bet but with d HITV swindle, u simply hav no choice but go with them. if u can get decoders, excellent.if u must get just 1, make do with HITV since they show most matches but that presents a problem when there r two or more matches goin on concurrently.best case scenario; get 2 HITV

d only input i have is that, ur investment will be lying idle unless u find ancillary ventures that compliment ur core offering.i also run a video-games arcade center which guarantees a mad crowd when there r no matches or even when d league season is over.

it's become very difficult to charge meaningful gate-takings, so try introduce membership fees or have a side bar where d premium on drinks will serve as d entry ticket too. it's better to charge N200 for beer than collect N50 per head.

it all depends on your location and your target market sha.goodluck bro.

d ref was a bastardo.oor acting.he no even pretend say he de ref 4 real.

its ironic, in my opinion, vogts is d man of d match.ghana must give him their highest national award for services to ghanian football.i hope that is d last oyinbo coach we ever hire.even d worst coach in our 3rd division will do better than this apology of a technical dis-adviser.oloriburuku oshi, he de vex me no be small thing, haba.against 10 men.ha, serves us right.

i am just as patriotic as any of u guys, but i'm afraid i wont be able to stake my neck on d line and say with all certainty that we'll beat ghana because our recent form has been useless and i have no faith in berti-vogts led bench.he has consistently shown an unrivalled ineptness at comin to terms with te african game.this is 1 scenario when all 150 million naija r prayin that d better team (ghana) looses.amen

if d gods smile on us, we may smile at d end of d day.thats d only thing we can count on. football at this stage is won on the bench at we've already lost that battle-of-wits.Edumare, bless us with this victory o, but, we understand if it doesnt happen.

while i am decidedly happy that CIV saved us by defeating Mali, i am still saddened by the fact that we have to struggle so hard to survive round 1.if wqe cant go all d way, we might as well not bother.i am almost sure that Ghana will humble us, i pray the incosnsistent eaglse make my day and proove me wrong again.

unconfirmed reports have it that Yar-adua made a phon call to Benin's president with a veiled threat to shut down our border with Benin indefinitely if his boys don't co-operate with us.me thinks they got d message.

no be me talk am o.na 4 beer parlour me too hear d gist.

true talk.no mind this our music people, instead make them do proper socially relevant subjects, na so-so hi-hop session full ground.why wont nollywood do something on d life and times of OBh, at least, they cant hav such a glut of work that they wont find it a viable project, and e go truly sell o.

i think d 2nd passenger who engaged d 1st offender should be upheld as a model citizen.we all see wrong things going on and usually look d other way.he stood up and did get involved.he's a hero in my book, i hope he decked d other guy pretty good.

any stats on who won d brawl?

it seems you have a real battle on your hands.at 24, he's too old to be grounded but you could start by seizing the car he bought or even donating it to charity.even if the law doesn't catch up with him now, it eventually will unless he gives up this line of business.he sounds like a smart guy with genuine business skills.perhaps, its not too early for him to get a legit job which may allow him explore his entrepreneural skills , something in sales or retail.a stint in d slammer may also scare him into d straight and narrow path, but that's extreme.

its a serious wahala o.how advanced is he, is he an amateur that can be easily distracted or is he a dollar-spewing machine already?

igbinedion, barawo.sege.

how do we stop this from ever happenning with d current crop of looters we hav in office as elected officials?it shows how ineffective Ribadu's EFCC was.its not enough to clamp down on them after d tenure.they should be hounded out of office and stripped of immunity as soon as they are found to hav sticky fingers.

kai, naija don suffer o.this is ridiculous

na wa o.i never thot for once i could be even more disgusted with OBj.every time i think i've heard d worst, he finds new ways of embarassing d office of Head of State even further.i am relieved he is alive to suffer all this disgrace from no other than his scion.serves him right.may it be a lesson to all others who rob us of our collective wealth.their evil will be re-visited on their own a 100-time fold.
history will definitely put him where he belongs, along with other despised despots like idi-amin, abacha, mobutu and mugabe.foolish legacy of a bastard general.

@nateevs,

interesting picture u draw here.

nobody fits d battling ram drogba-esque mantra that didier epitomises but, now that he is no longer a man-utd player, i must confess i've always admired Van-Nistelroy for his finishing prowess.i dont think he's worth 30 mill though, maybe van plus plenty pepper.

same thing with messi, he's not quite d finnished article.i doubt he ever will because he lacks d physique to play consistently in a physically charged league.these premiership defenders will ensure he spends quality time with d medics.if it must happen, messi plus plenty pepper.

kaka?now, that's a promising scenario and any squad would be blessed to hav him.i doubt Milan would let him go.if mourinho is their coach-designate, u can be doubly sure he wont be moving nowhere near stamford bridge.besides, he is not a striker and we will need someone with proven goal-scoring prowess.

the only player that interests me is Eetoo of barca.he'll definitely score goals in any league.injuries have plagued him recently but a fit again eeto is a sure-banker.barca will be mad to sell him.

well, u no what they say about fightin dirty, it just stings my eyes readin all this nastiness.its in awful bad taste.whatever these chaps did, islander has done worse.such a public display is in awful bad taste.u shouldnt encourage her.this sucks.

i'm a sucker 4 a happy ending and i am gladdened that u seem to hav control of the situation.may God continue to grant u d patience and understanding to weather d storm 4 d battle is not over.be wary of your sister-in-law particularly but try and mend fences with some of your in-laws.i absolutely refuse to believe they are all diabolical.

i've heard some posters, esp women, say they wont allow any of their in-laws live with them.that's d kind of mind-set that leads to this path.it's not best to go into marriage thinkin it's just u and ur hubby.he had a family b4 u and if they are close (in a healthy way o), u will be very foolish if u dont try to be accomodating.even if it kills u, u need to be a wife and mother to them all and make sure your husband knows you are making a serious effort to win their respect.eventually, they'll give you ur space once they accept u as a sister.in an ideal world, every body will get together.there might be a few that u ll just endure for the sake of peace , but , if they are important to ur spouse, better make them your favourite people in the world.

besides, u never know when u may need their help to keep ur dear beloved knuckle-head in check

i guess, going by the way things were growing up in 80s Lagos, dad was ever the busy man, going up and down to make things happen while my mum was d real pillar that kept us in line and took care of our needs.i always understood that dad paid d bills and mum probably supplemented with her teacher's salary.i think their system worked out okay partly because they managed to have a good patnership; but largely because my mum never really let on that she was actually pickin up for so much slack to ensure we had the best.

she understood how important it was for us to have that stabillizing image of a strong father-figure in our lives.i never heard d phrase, "let's wait till daddy comes back" when we needed anything important.

now that we are older, i appreciate them both.dad was d head (figuratively speaking), but we all knew who ran things at home and its to her credit that she held it all together.i pray i find such a woman for a wife.

the moral is, not many women today will make such a sacrifice for d sake of covering their man's back.even when they do, they do it with such acrimony, to the open display of family and public.some so-called modern women skim off from the upkeep allowance and would rather die than spend out of her purse to help out with the bills.i've actually heard some woman say that if she helps out, her husband would start having change to spend on girl-friends .

jose christo, will someone pls call in d UN peace keepers to mediate over this storm before it blows into a full scale genocide.is all this necesary , ya ll should learn to get ur msg accross without being so offensively uncouth.at least for d sake of d rest of us, put your keyboards down, take a long walk and cool down b4 u develop Hypertension,

crazy, sexy and cool.
great sense of humour, good natured and homely.
a girl i can take home to my folks
a girl that makes my buddies green with envy.
a girl that makes my boss want to gimme a raise (figures, if she can stick with me, i must be special)
an all round performer who is comfortable in her skin
will keep me honest in times of doubt. most importantly, she must be of strong moral fibre.she'll hav to be d bad-cop when it comes to raisin d kids so this is not debatable.

anybody fit d bill?

wahala de o, trust naija people to reduce all vituperations to christianity.whatever religion, man na head of ship, chikena.

that being said, there are strong willed women who by their drive and determination, happen to have found success and fulfillment in the work-place.this is acceptable and should be encouraged in so much as she does respect and submits to the authority of her man.

she wouldnt be as successful at work if she didnt hav a patner to share the responsibilities of life and raising a family.since she is focused on a career, her man may unwittingly find himself taking a more influential role at home so that their kids dont suffer lack of upbringing. a case in point is the situation with female doctors with their late shifts.

it all boils down to respect and understanding btw the couple and also, society and extended family keeping their bad-belle noses out of their bizness.a man can be the head without necesarilly being the richer of the two.respect does however beget respect which i think is what the poster wa stryin to point out, d man in question sounds like a foul and objectionable beast.no woman should expose her children to the kolo of such.

i dont preach suffer-head mentality.a man must respect his woman to get her submission.

it's funny, my loneliest times were when i was actually in monogamous relationships.loneliness might suck, but its better to be single and free than to be hitched and miserable.i am confident in my charm and hav never had trouble getting takers, d hunt is better than d chopping atimes

na wa 4 una on nairaland, why d f---k would i want to shag a babe that's already livin with me?there's no easy break-off in that plus my away-runs will be snookered.if on d other hand, we maintain a neutral pulse, i will not only be free to do as i please, i can even hit on her friends with reckless abandon without worrying about any wifey-drama.

on the ral though, its possible to pull it off, though your friends and neighbours willnever believe nothing de happen.its especially difficult if both hav solid relationships going on.i for one would never trust a bloke who is living in d same house with my babe.hummmmm, i no go find am funny sef.

dont lets press d self-destruct button, disgruntled or happy, Drogba is an awesome asset 4 chelski and only our worst detractors would say to hell with him.granted that he may hav an ego d size of a huge pumpkin, but he has perhaps earned d right to be a bit arrogant.a drogba and anelka patnership will drive fear into any defence line.

even if he wants to leave, he has a contract to honor, and since d initialburst up, no one can question his loyalty to d cause.as a true professional, hes put aside his misgivings and soldiered on in an exemplary fashion.he still bleeds blue, lets hope he stays on beyond next season.even if he goes, we must get mad pepper for him.then get someone to fill his humongous shoes.

word.

HUMM, I quite welcome the new signing. i hope he works out perfectly but i am a little apprehensive about how he may fir in.i am also not so big on players who lay claim to being masters of all positions in d back 4.if we specifically needed a right full-back, why not go for the best available player in that position (danny alves of sevilla?) rather than someone who has RFB as an addendum to his CV.

i quite like Bellleti and he may be older than d likes of agbonlahor , but experience is priceless and he has often times demonstrated a keen ability to out-think them.i believe he has done enough this season to earn our trust and respect, age not-with-standing.

ferreira, touchy subject.i do admire his composure, but i think he never did manage to live up to d confidence Mourinho heaped on his shoulders.atimes, essien and even young lassana diara were preffered to him as RFB.i do wish him well.i pray we dont make d mistake of sellin him to a club that can hurt us like we sold gallas to arsenal.