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bukatyne:
There is no independent human being.

I know it is majorly used for finances however in the true sense, nobody is independent.

At best, we have interdepdence where all parties bring something to the table.

bukatyne:
It is actually not digressing.

It is the reason why an average wife feels my money is my money and my husband's money is our money.

I don't get my views about the West from here, I get it from their forums and blogs.

The people here are Nigerians who at best see the surface/reaction of their cultures.

The West are actually open to housewifery than we are. And it is a Nigerian thing to discard housewives as 'what are they contributing'.

This is one of the reasons they have laws where a non-earning spouse's needs are accommodated and funded by the working party during a divorce.

Our courts only request for welfare from the spouse not with the children.

Plead:
Working wives shouldn’t think of any upkeep or personal allowance.

bukatyne:
Honorarium?

Seriously?

Hahahahahahaha!

I don't think there is anyone that is truly independent.

bukatyne:
Well, I am sure you would rarely find a working wife opening a tread on how to handle all the chores alone on reddit.

We have different cultures.

Most other cultures realize that for a wife to really keep the house, she can't work outside it so they frown at working wives.

Nigerians expect a wife doing 9 - 5 bar commute time to keep the house alone while the husband wants to 'rest' and hangout on weekends working same schedule.

We would continue to see comments like these.

dollytino4real:
yes because she belongs to somebody, her money is just 4 her to show off as a working class

Plead:


Personally I’ve never fancied the idea. Myself and my brothers live with this ideology even in marriage and we ain’t sad about that.


Now ...general question

Does it make sense to give a working class woman monthly upkeep or whatever that stuff is called ? Upkeep should only come into the equation if your partner is a housewife or so....and doesn’t work

merahki:
Strangling killed me
Fat and wild all- over facial punches once the girl touched her or gave her that “I’m about to beat you up” speech or look
The plan was DoA, smh

bentenny:
Was having a very lovely conversation with a female friend on a social media platform...and during the conversation, I addressed her with lowercase letters ie 'amanda' but she said I should address her as 'Amanda'

I enquired about the reasoning behind such and wondered why she was insistent on the first letter of her name being an uppercase letter...I also reminded her that it was an informal chat that should not necessarily involve any formality on our part....

But she kept insisting on it....so I just placed all to full uppercase letters AMANDA

For me,I think its too petty and childish....and besides,being addressed with an 'amanda' does not in anyway take way one's relevance and respect!

Just wanted to share this and seek differing opinions from others on this platform...Thanks!

merahki:
We taught my younger sister self defense and all then
We actually got all hyped one day when she decided that she was ready to face her bully...(she was meant to face the opponent and start pulverising her immediately, giving her no or little chance to react)
So we agreed that once we made one sound from our balcony upstairs? It would be the cue for her to attack
Hmmm! My brother who was the mastermind sounded the cue, for where? The others tried, for where? I even joined, nothing
My sister kept raising her hand in an I know what I am doing way. I think she even irritably told us to allow her handle it
By the fourth call the bully had obviously gotten wind of a plan, and the next thing we knew and saw, was my sister flat on the ground and crying! The mortification that we all felt
The cowardly and stubborn girl later came upstairs and started blaming us and our “stupid” plan!
Well in their friendship/rivalry she remained the less strong one, till we all moved
Lol

I don’t know how you can help your son, just be sure it’s bullying and not you being overprotective. If it’s bullying, the bully’s family must be informed too, bullies are a horror, and there is still time to salvage this one
I admit I didn’t read everything
Sorry!
Good luck to you all

midnighter:
Lol well like the topic says, you cant please everybody

Maybe Ill add more later but I really did agree with that post

armyofone:
you should be jumping up in huge excitement when you get your lady to squirt instead of sniffing and replacing sheet

missjo:
Be nice

midnighter:
Lol i didnt get you, add a little what?

midnighter:
Wow

Guess there's no need for me to comment cos you've said it all

sisisioge:
Actually, it was for you. You just went for his jugular for typing his opinion. I found it funny though...felt like giving you a hug to calm you down. You see, indeed its all about perspectives. While I saw some insights in what he wrote, you saw noise....ain't God just awesome? He made all of us differently. Do you now see how you and I have lent credence to what he wrote now? Cheers baby girl

nairalandposter:
[s]I know you so much dislike the notion of anyone not kissing your ass, however you've been here a while and you're aware not everybody kowtows to your bigoted take on every issue.

At some point, you might begin to respect other people's opinions besides your own. Not that anyone thinks you'll ever change.

So, keep your fantasy gif showing who you wish you were, to yourself. You're still Nigerian.[/s]

Heroclitus:
Do u really mean this?

As for me,I can't believe a lady could be this daft to reason this way not to talk of even typing that as a response to her bf




If some humans (ladies) actually reason like this, then evolution is true and we are beginning to evolve back to apes and restart the evolution cycle oncece again

Shibaraba:
Three posts on this screen shot. On all of them you gave one advice...... Divorce. Follow your advice. Bye

Octopusssy:
Someone posted screenshots of you advising women to divorce cheating partners. Oya you sef follow the advice you have been giving people. If you don't divorce your husband then you are a very big hypocrite and one of the society's problems.

Oya, we are awaiting feedback. Divorce your husband!

genq:
Wonders shall never end on this forum

Madam OP, are you not the same person below vehemently advising your fellow woman to "divorced" her husband?

How come you don't know what to do in your own situation?

Smh.

armyofone:
Are you inferring the 'thing' is pissing during the action? It isn't piss but ejaculatory stuff

missjo:
Sniffer

thorpido:
That should have been well elaborated.Deal with the issue first and if possible,let some key family members know.
Forget or turn deaf ears to all that she has taken her somewhere talk.
Keep your money well, don't just throw it away in the name of my hubby and I.
I wish you the best as you TTC.

armyofone:
It can't be urine now- urine isn't sticky/snow white

bukatyne:
According to the therapists, if he doesn't grow out of it, what happens?

Besides, what is the usefulness of the parents if they cannot put the boy on the right part and re-affirm to him that he is a boy?

If he thinks he is a goat tomorrow and starts to eat grass, will his mom look for therapists or insist that he is human?

If he believes that he can not achieve anything, will she get the therapists' opinion or take him through self esteem and self love courses to re-affirm that he can excel in whatever he does?

Why this yeye sexual/ gender politics?

You can't compare Nigerian Tomboyism to this. Which Nigerian parent would flog the madness out of Shade who asks to be called Tunji?

Each continent has their madness.

The same way I wouldn't compare an American calling a child a witch to a Nigerian.

virgoquin:
I heard that she has people that is backing her up financially making her to feel powerful.

The LGBT community is one of the most annoying group of people on planet Earth.

They are always demanding for right and fairness which they are not willing to give to this Lil boy. They are the ones behind this lunatic mother making her to feel powerful.

virgoquin:
I read somewhere that she is not the biological mother of the boy. The father said he was conceived with eggs from donor

She is best described as a lunatic and heartless human being. She is supposed to be in a mental home right now and not looking after little kids making stupid decisions for them