₦airaland Forum

Olivegreen:
To be honest, I never really knew who Glory Osei was up until yesterday and so I did my research on her.

From all that I gathered, Glory Osei is NOT A FEMINIST rather, she is an extrimist. A female sexist and an extrimist who has an unreasonable hate for men (despite the fact that she married one )

Please let us not be decieved by her self acclaimed title, feminist. She only uses the title to disguise her sentimental judgement of men.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is a renowed feminist icon who trully knows what feminism is about and is passionate about changing the society to favour women rather than compel them to be silent, complacent, and very limited.

Feminism is not about hating men. In fact, feminism is not centered on men, it is centered on the entire society. We are not attacking men we are simply attacking certain cultures and societal principles that are degrading and dehumanizing women. We are simply fighting for the acknowledgement of the rights and privileges that every woman should be entitled to.

We do not seek a society were wives are rude and unsubmissive to their husbands or where girls are hateful and intolerant of their male counterparts, we seek a society were marriage is convenient for both husband and wife and girls have big dreams and aspire as much as they desire and not just as much as society compels them to.

We seek freedom, justice, equality, love and acknowledgement .

I am not a man-hater, I believe I am not rude, unruly, bossy, or contrary.

I am a feminist

bukatyne:
I always have a problem with extremists.

Anyways, I find Nigerian 'role models' not to be my cup of tea.

If they are not fraudsters, they are married pretending to be single, single pretending to be married, have 100 side chics or boos while claiming to be best spouses, hellish spouses while claiming to be saints etc.

My wonder are people especially ladies who pattern their lives according to these people. Do they lack acceptance that they would belong to anything? Are they bereft of critical thinking that they can't make their choices? Are they visionless that anyway is the way?

I heard a chic broke up with her dude because of this Glory babe and was wailing when the news broke.

I say to the dude: good riddance to bad rubbish.

You don't want a woman who lacks character and strong awareness of self to be the mother of your future generation.

Preshy561:
Go to Mideast, your voices are needed there not on social media and western world.

Guest007:
Most of his comments are... Sadly

princeking2:
You were never hungry in the first place.

So after breaking my heart, I'll stay hungry on top! Kai....

LordKO:
As much as it isn't (or may not be) a woman's responsibility to wash her husband's cloth - either manually or mechanically - or a husband's right to expect such, yet doing so is one of those selfless acts/little things that matter. It's a simple act of either altruism or conscientiousness subject to circumstances. One shouldn't lose humaneness all in the name of emancipation/wokeness. And I don't see a big deal if a man does same or something different of same nature for a wife. A husband and wife aren't supposed to be either frenemies or enemies living together. Anyway, it's obvious that most of you personify inhumaneness and are from dysfunctional and unhappy homes.

In fact, if a woman who's an opportunity cannot volitionally/voluntarily and joyfully wash her husband's cloth, all because of conceit/pride/egotism and self-centeredness/selfishness/greediness/egoism, I wonder why she would expect/accept any form of humane act either in tangible/material or intangible/immaterial form from the same husband.

Sanely, brutishness/meanness/heartlessness/wickedness - small-mindedness in general - shouldn't be something to brag about, so I wonder why most of you now always proudly and openly arrogate same to yourselves - wannabe modern/super/emancipated men and women. SMH.

Olivegreen:
It is clear that most of you nairaland men don't have a shred of understanding of the concept of feminism.

A feminist got married, congratulations to her. Feminism doesn't require women to be single all their life it only requires them to be aware of their equality with their male counterparts.

I know a lot of renowed feminist who are married. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is married, Hillary Clinton is married, Mitchelle Obama is married qnd so many others.

Before you speak against feminism please first of all have an idea of what feminism means and what we feminist stand for.

BOOOMNAIJA:
Wrong choice of pple to collaborate with.....u don't collaborate with a Muslim country to fight a jihadist group like Boko Haram....u should rather be collaborating with the likes of Israel and USA

chivaley:
The husband does know about it but the wife feels it is improper for the brother in law to be passing nights in their home in the husband's absence. Who's right? Who's wrong?

AwkaetitiBabe:
Cos men are the embodiment of independence.

E.g For the last 5 years or so I've never asked my parents or any husband for money. Does that make me independent? Hell yes! When married, hubby will b d head and cover my bills as I will support him.

If you won't give ur woman money, that's ur own business.

generationz:
Oga police weldone o.

I hope you will remain with your wife if she was sleeping with your nephew or you found out she has HIV

bukatyne:
The head that haff burst.

Gracias.

bukatyne:
You clearly understood that post.

bukatyne:
I am serious.

I grew up in an all Igbo community (we were just two Yoruba on a very long street) so I have first hand experience on some of their way of life.

We've had a similar discussion where I told you that housewifery or a man fully responsible for home financially is not a Yoruba thing.

In fact, an housewife or financially non-contributing wife is called alabodo (someone you feed to fvck). To not say that there are no outliners.

Igbos however pride themselves in fully financing the home (I see this even in my colleagues with working wives). Growing up, most of the Igbo wives literally did not leave the house except to market or parties while you saw the husbands hustling (legit and non). The downside was that the men's words were law and upon the breakdown of the marriage, the wives did not leave with a pin so the marriage must not break.

Comparing this to pre-colonial times when everyone farmed, where was the cultural shift for them?

Igbos can also pitch in.

Plead:
Why are some women always calling themselves independent “woman” then?

I’m sure you yourself must have at one point or the other tagged yourself an “independent lady”


Cc crackhaus postmann

AwkaetitiBabe:
Being independent does not mean they won't enjoy their husband's financial capabilities.

bukatyne:
True people project their fantasies alot online.

Some others can see clearly until it is their turn.

Others realize that people bring half baked stories here to look like saints.

But the OP nor try sha.

Three divorce advises back to back with calling the husbands names.

I try to internalize situations and analyze critically before I advise.

I also search to see if I have real life references of the end point for further guidance.

I believe we would all give account of our words and actions to God. Whether typed, said or written.

With that in mind, I don't dish what I can't follow.

bukatyne:
@bold:

Tell me something

bukatyne:
When we talk housewifery in Nigeria, Igbos are the poster child hence my question.

Plead:
She’s somehow right sha ... in the west , if a couple should divorce and one is jobless (during the time of the divorce ) the one that is working will be required to settle the non-working ex so that the ex can find her/his feet until he/she gets a job.

Alimony also comes into the equation... the richer spouse pays money to the lesser earning spouse during divorce (if the other person request for it....men hardly request for alimony if they’re the ones earning less,it’s mostly women who request for it)

bukatyne:
Ever heard of mommy guilt?

Or the conservative West's interpretation of Titus 2:3?

According to a research, Scandinavian women work less hours and less stressful jobs despite living in the most 'equal' society.

Their housewifery is not like ours. They volunteer for all sorts and revolve their lives around their children.

Alimony.

bukatyne:
Was this obtainable for Igbo society?

Plead:
Do you believe this?

Plead:
Meaning men who insist that they’ll give their wives upkeep and also responsible for 100% of spendings shouldn’t allow their wives to work.... in the days of old , only men work (traditional settings ) so if you want to continue claiming traditional then don’t allow your wife work since you’re stressing her

Plead:
Neither do I.

I don’t receive salary with the intention of spending it on the frivolities you just mentioned

bukatyne:
Hahahahahahaha

Leave her na.