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psoto: I think so too.

AmBeautiful: Suggestion.

Seriously some people are quite ignorant of the fact that after NYSC, things can get either very ugly or get very better, depending on what they choose, or how they plan or....................................

What i want to suggest is like doing something on this section from past corpers and others and all interested to give advice to passing out corpers or people currently serving as per the future.

I have not seen any thing so far like that on this thread, don't know if it exists.

Just a suggestion!

ik121: Broke up with my ex close to a month now. We dated for 18 months. Currently now am single and sort of enjoying my freedom. She was double dating and at the same time telling me lies lies lies.

I found out and d break up turned nasty. She didn't really give a hoot about the breakup because she wanted me to read in between the lines but i failed to.(avoiding me, giving excuses, stopped calling and wouldn't return my calls/sms, etc)

She seems to be very happy wit her new dummy. Now the problem am having is how to get her outta my system. Her thoughts always creep into my mind during my quiet moments (the good times we shared together, the sexx, money lavished on her, the deceit, lies, etc) and it makes me so sad.

It's obvious we r never going to get back together. Am trying so hard to resist the temptation of calling her(i have her number up in my head). I've disposed of everything that reminds me of her but her thoughts keep coming back.

Please how do i ward this off.

Thanks a lot.

ik121: Cy my bro pz ignor dat b.itch. She'z bitter yeah but at d same time bein sarcastic nd indirectly telin u she made it widout u. Ok she made a gud result so f**kin wat?? Who givs a f**k?? Na u send am skool? Lol. Pz ignor her nd dnt respond or pick her calls cos dat m.enstrual pad is lukn 4 a way 2 comm bak 2 ur life nd giv u a bitter dose. U cald her an 'ex', do u knw wher ex's belong? The trash bin. Plz click on my username nd go tru my topic about an ex, wise up bro.

Chokolee: ....
Dont stress ur head...u can correct it in camp, there is a provision for final correction.

psoto: @CRAZY MAN, that sounds much better.
Do you mind if I call you "CM" for short?
I don't feel comfortable writing the full version.

CY09: Please house, I know some issues shoul be confidential, but I just want to get diff opinion on this issue as it is bothering me...I woke to see the below text message of my ex who is still in school, when I got the text I just waved it, but surprisingly her thoughts kept resurfacing...I know she feels bitter with me cos we broke up when she was writing her exam and she is just trying to get back to me.
I would have loved to post this in the romance section, but I know I will get loads and loads of but sane and insane advice, so I decided to bring this here cos here is more like a Family to me...Below is the text:

"Tank God ur tots neva affected my result. Am proud 2 say dt i mde d best result dis semester without any reference. Once again tnx 4 d bitter moments".

Now, for the guyz, if you were in my shoe what will you do, reply congratulating her or what?...and for the ladies in here, do you think I should just ignore the text?...Awaiting your responses.

sexkillz: Hi, crazyman would you have time to judge a debate on the romance section tomorrow? 4:00pm. Pls get back to me.

saintiyke: sorry. I didnt see...ur request in time. Never mind d harsh comment, its all well . Thanks for the info

Una be fool: It's appalling. I post more frequently at romance section but visit webmasters and programming sections more and it's disgusting seeing scam replies flying about at both webmasters/programming sections with nothing done about it.

For example I saw the below reply on a post some time ago at webmasters section and just felt like checking out the poster's scam techniques "I can design a website for you exactly like nairaland for #400,000 and Facebook for #1.2 million. Contact me on scammerEmail@gmail.com"

I sent him an email asking him to to design exactly twitter website for me and acting like I needed it badly lol and the first reply I got was "Pay 2 million naira" to a certain GT bank account" lmao. The reply I gave him was simply "Olodo". A scammer that doesn't know how to scam Mtchew...


A scammer can easily be detected. They always act like they could do all things asking the public to contact a Particular email/phone no.

Sharing of email or phone numbers for marketing or ambitious purpose should not be allowed admin Seun

saintiyke: @op. You have to confirm your information before posting it here to avoid misguiding people. KEBBI state camp has since been moved from H.A.I.S.S Jega to Dakingari . The Jega camp was used last by 2010 batch B . The permanent camp is in Dakingari

JallowBah: Mr Crazyman..

Yes, you have stated that "When you get married, you will know what its about".
You are trying to talk to me like I am a child, and it aint working

If my husband disrespected me to the extend of f.ex telling another woman he want HER, he dont give a F about me and our marriage, etc, etc..why would I just say "aiit, come here honey" ? Where is my self-respect in that?
A marriage is about TWO people, not one. My mother and father made a mistake about staying together for that long, he did not respect her, she did not have self-respect.

I would rather be alone with my kids, than to be with a man who does not love and respect me. Why should I? I deserve more than that. Any woman does.
( And yes, the same goes in relationships where its the woman acting like a d*ckhead. )

Why do people go into marriages, and then they dont even TRY to stay faithful? Still, men like you seem to think that a ring on the finger means you can do what you want, because she is your wife and should forgive you.
Thats not what marriage is about.
Yes, time will get tough. Yes, you might get attracted to others. And then, you choose how to take it from there. You can either start flirting and having "fun", or you can close your eyes, look the other way, and think about the love you have at home.

No matter how hard the marriage is going..get out before cheating.

JallowBah: Oh, and let me add..my husband know very well that if I catch him cheating, I will beat. Not just slap, but beat.
He have been warned. And I know he will probably slap back, but it would still be worth it.
I would not stay with a man that went behind my back on purpose and cheated on me.

If we had a really, really tough time in our marriage, and it had been lasting a loong, long time over a few years, I could understand a one-night-fling. Everyone CAN make mistakes. ut going behind your spouses back, saying your spouse is bull and not important for you..thats something else.

JallowBah: 1: "Consequences" can mean kicking someone out, having a big fight, whatever suits your mind..it does not have to mean divorce, I have never talked about divorce bbefore YOU did.

JallowBah: 2: Letting someone understand that you dont take bullshit ( in this case; flirting with women on the internet ) is a GOOD thing. And for me, it would not be enough to say: Oh, honey, I dont like that, ok?

JallowBah: 3: I would probably slap my husbands face if he was telling other women he dont give a F about me. And throw him out. And for him to come back, would take a LOT of work on his side to proove to me that he was damn wrong in what he did, and that it would not happen again. Where am I being hypocritical here?

JallowBah: 4: Yes, my mother kicked him out after trying her best to pull it together for ten years of bull. She should have left before 3-4 years, when she could see he was not changing.
She learned what she does not want to live with. I am guessing he learned that in the end, the women you claim to love will leave you when you continue to act like a fool.

JallowBah: And I did not reason with you..I have never, ever claimed that marriage is easy, a run in the park, or only enjoyment. Have I?

ogbeche77: Can you come up with a full address so it can be edited?

saintiyke: @op. You have to confirm your information before posting it here to avoid misguiding people. KEBBI state camp has since been moved from H.A.I.S.S Jega to Dakingari . The Jega camp was used last by 2010 batch B . The permanent camp is in Dakingari

JallowBah: I would sugest to kick him out and let him see the consequences. Not divorce at first, no, but to kick him out the house. Teach him a damn good lesson. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

JallowBah: I am already married, thank you very much. I dont flirt on facebook, and I expect him not to do so either. Marriage is NEVER easy, and divorce is NOT the easiest way out. In fact, many people give up too easy on marriage in my culture, instead of trying to fix things. But that still dont mean that your spouse can disrespect you, and see there is no consequences.

JallowBah: And trust me, if my husband was "acting crazy" and I had to choose between leaving him or staying..I would leave.

JallowBah: I have grown up with unhappy parents fighting each day myself, I will not let my kids go through the same. Love, respect, trust and communication. That is the most important things in my marriage. And if he breaks any of it, there will be cnsequences. What do you mean women should do? Let their men run around and do whatever they want, just to keep a ring on their finger..?

JallowBah: If people wish to stay in a love-less marriage without respect, they should not complain either. But the kids learn from what their parents do, and dont do.
And no, my marriage has NOT been all roses and joy all the way.

JallowBah: No..what would be good for a marriage, is to NOT agree on such behaviour, and letting it have consequences. If you let it happen, he will think its alright to do so, when it in fact is not.

JallowBah: If my husband does not RESPECT me, why should I stay married? More women should ask themselves that question.

JallowBah: Its not me who need to grow up here. And, there is a different between "flirting" ( saying to a woman on the internet that she is beautiful, f.ex, when she is flirting to you, but still letting her know you are happily married ), and saying to a stranger that you are not happy with your wife and wish to divorce asap.

JallowBah: Its men like YOU who say this is "nothing" who need to grow up.

JallowBah: Are you serious? So...if a beautiful woman contacts you on facebook or whatever, you are "of course" going to flirt, say you dont love your wife, etc, etc, because..its FUN?

Pfff, she should kick his damn a*s out. And I feel sorry for your wife, or future wife, with that kind of attitude.

cotton101: I haven't watched the video and don't intend to the pictures are enough.

as a mother - I want to know what kind of human being mothers are training that a human can beat and watch the life being drained out, beating hitting and kicking life out of a person - how does one get to that point that he does it in broad daylight with a crowd watching - honestly and people still have the nerve to say kids brought up back home are better.

I just can't talk about this case cos I get more and more angry - so it means a person can be walking down the street and the mere accusation of theif ends your life - SMH

Johndoe100: This is BS. No baztard women can place any rubbish curse on ANYONE in our state. Vigilantes have been dealing with thieves for years and decades in that state. Did they make a mistake with these boys? Only time will tell. To quote Collin Powell, there is no "nice way to kill people". The only real thing we are complaining about is that they should not have dealt with an Okirika boy like that. This may invite the wrath of the Okirika boys and that would lead to much much more bloodshed.

If you go stealing in that part of the world and you don't come home, you have only yourself to blame.

dlex21: sowee...which kind of eatery are u referring 2?

SPIFF: A friend needed my advice.

Though living continents apart, She suspected her husband might be cheatn on her. She trapped him. Opened new Facebk account with a different name and nice pix to get to him.

SPIFF: He fell for it. Said so many unimaginable things about his wife to this new stranger and that he's ready to divorce her asap. She later revealed her true identity. Caught him redheaded.

SPIFF: She's ready to end the 5 month wedding because of that but I advised otherwise. Told her to reconcile and forgive him since he has apologized and begged for her forgiveness.