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This op na real schmuck o.

Stuffs like this only happen when folks (weaklings like you) refuse to trust your instincts and instead choose to suppress them for stuupid reasons.

Your gut instinct is your defence mechanism; it's like a high tech military detection radar built over the years from primordial times to protect you from getting hurt. That's why they say instinct can never be wrong.

But folks like you think because of Instagram, facebook and snapchat, you can change laws that have been laid down by men who built the pyramid with their bare hands.

Do you really believe you can cheat nature? Or you think you can change how nature has programmed other people perceive you you through their neural transmitters?

Truth is you don't give her the tingles. In her eyes, you are not her kind of man and no amount of white knighting can change this for her.

So, why waste precious time when it's obvious you won't make any headway?

In fact,

Hand in a transfer request. If that fails, drag AS Eupen to Sports Arbitration panel and if that fails again, refuse to train or play (of course you know the penalty) but anything to make them reconsider. Finally, if all of these fails, then it must mean that your future lies in Belgium.

Next will be a picture of Buhari eating crispy bacon rolls with hot dogs and onions.

Please stick to eating Amala and Ewedu you lazy afonja mor0ns

This is basic economics. The world is overpopulated and there is really not enough resources to go round. But people go still de marry de born anyhow even when it's obvious you don't have the wherewithal to sustain these developments. No amount of say it and claim it theology of the Christian religion can change this fact. FACT!

Its the same thing. You either pay upfront or you pay at the back end....

Why didn't you say it to his face when he asked if you were insinuating he isn't man enough? From experience, derison is what really pushes people to rise to the occassion and not by enabling them. Rather than sugar coating his obvios deficiency, you should tell him to his face that he isnt man enough and that you're really tempted to get a third party involved in this issue.


From experience, this absurdity is only seen in homes where oga is the be all and end all of the family as I don't really think any capable woman will wait this long before taking actions.

If your oga is the bread winner and you don't really want to walk into a future of uncertainty, then you might have to get his parents and siblings involved, failing which you could take the matter to your pastor and then any other shoulder you can cry on. He needs to understand that conjugal duty is a very essential element of a marriage that must be fulfilled. Obstinacy has no plac

I hope you are not past your prime fertility years so you don't go on squandering it even further.

Life and relationship is sweet when you find your match. But greed and the need to show off (actually this is nature's genetic wiring) has us all going after those we know are well beyond our league.

As a result, the few times you get to spend with your superior mortal gets given the halo effect even though the feelings may not be reciprocal. In clearer terms, you are having fun but your other half sees nothing special in you or the relationship. Its a harsh place to be in but its true. He/she is also wired to seek the blissful moments that your experiencing, only this time with someone who can truly give that to him/her. In other words, you are willing to settle, but your boo is searching for love and he goes after that.

But this is is misunderstood to mean he's unfaithful, cheating, not caring and the sad and eventual breakup accompanied by lonely spells.

So while your still in this lovesick puppy stage, until you find another superior mortal who can give you those extreme pleasures that you once felt in the company of your ex, everything else is just details for the sole aim of coping like what the op has written above.

No harm in coping though but forming tough and badoo about it like you are actually the one in charge of this process gives some of us nothing but good laughs as we can see through your decoys. Beneath that facade is a lonely soul seeking for another Damsel or knight in shinny armour. May the good Lord grant us our heart desires.

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GEJPosterity:
Bro, that's a lie because even when you are self employed and run your own business, clients will owe you up and down even worse than when you are an employee being owed salaries. I myself am a living witness to this. To get the client is stress. To make them commit to a project is a marathon event. To get them to approve your work after going back and forth several times is war. Then after all that, when it is time to pay, they will start clearing their throat and speaking English. Many of them will just ignore you altogether and pretend you don't exist. When you call, it's their receptionist that will answer. When you send emails, no reply.

Then after several weeks they will pay like 25% of what they are meant to pay and then dump another impossible assignment and deadline on your head, linking the payment of your outstanding to the delivery of this new project. I did this merry go round for most of 2016 before I looked in the mirror one day and saw a patch of shiny white hair on my 26 year old head. Then I realised I was literally dying, and for what? So now I'm back to paid employment but processing my Canadian permanent residency.

I think it's time we stop pretending to ourselves and accept that Nigeria is a dying country running a poverty economy. There is no way out. The best thing anyone can do for themselves right now is to get out. This place is hell itself.

well said

Ask not what you can for your country. Do ask what your country can do to you.

People generally want to date up or those that are above their looks threshold. But we know there is not an awful lot of good looking people to go round which is why models get paid so lavishly.

Good looks is generally seen as a sign of good genetics for reproductive purposes . So women wait and wait for prince charming to come sweep them off their feet until they hit the Wile E Coyote moment

Again, the high estrogen level in our foods and water favours women and advances their looks more than it does for men and it has been medically proven that most women won't orgasm except it's with a good looking guy. So their seeming hard to get game is biologically justified.

overspending in this recession?

Baller alert

Gents, the financial apocalypse is finally upon us, this time in ur own bank account. Our dear MMM has finally hit the rocks, with folks being asked to give help over a weak before release date while others are unable to get help of their principal sum. Oh well, ultimate cycler to the rescue I'm hoping. Chai, Tears just de flow...

My bp is shooting high. What's wrong with mmm

Release Kalu now

Must you work for sombori?

Feminism everywhere. So your saying if I assume this is a woman's thigh beneath a desk, it means I have a bad mind? OK kwantinue.

misspicy:
What do you expect from frustrated no do good boys before??

Ridiculing women is the only consolation they have for their useless lives na

Does it still smell teddy bear, dildos and lonely in there?

great...the tide is beginning to turn

My guy just quit bleating and move on with your life. De babe don see who she like pass. Or is there a crime in that?

Most girls stop growing at 14/15, so 5'7 is a decent enough height for a girl.

Talk2Bella:
No matter how you dress up a pig it would still be one, beauty without good character is nothing you wouldn't even want to associate yourself with that kinda person it's all about how you relate to people not your physical appearance

Clearly, you are underestimating the power of good looks. Models are rare species and that's why they get paid tons of money to walk on the runway. Naomi Campbell, for instance, is still an in-demand model, despite her fiery temper and numerous run ins with law enforcers.

Beauty is simply the barrier breaker that draws you closer to someone before you even get to have a feel of their inner character. A perfectly symmetrical face/figure instantly stimulates a rush of dopamine in the brain which is the feel good hormone and the the alluring effect of this chemical is one that is so extreme that you cannot possibly wish it to stop. Beauty is nature; character is convention and we all know you can't cheat nature.

Confidence can only come from previous experience, validations and in this case, attention from customers. The poor girl said it exactly the way it is, that her gorgeous colleague steals all the show cos she's been preselected due to her good looks, but the Bella lad didn't have the guts or do I say knowledge to tell her exactly the way it is, that life isn't fair and that not everyone is gifted with good genes or programmed to be successful.

This has nothing whatsoever to do with confidence or jealousy. It has everything to do with not being blessed with good looks, which I'm afraid is the major determinant of success in these days and time. Sad but true.

My advice to her would be to try and maximize her looks. For instance, she could wear heels to appear taller, get her hair done, nice perfume, nice outfit and nice manners. This would improve her her success a bit but not in anyway comparable to her colleague.

Kenyanstar:
With the reputation that Nigerians posses, the devil has a better chance of getting a warm reception compared to a Nigerian scamming drug pushing and rapist Nigerians.... Thats the impression and perspective most Africans have about thiefing Nigerians.

Wetin this balding old little baastard de find for nairaland, come get mouth de insult Nigerians.

DeeTus:
Stop wussying about and shut up so I can lecture you about girls from Imo States.

9 out of 10 girls who are from there is nothing to write home about in terms of sexual behavior and had affected other students studying there too.

You're simply a wussy for acknowledging these women were out of your league.

To get these women and keep them in their toes, you have to be very playful and vocal.

You have no league at all and that is why they keep messing you up and treat you like a kindergarten.

Yeah, some may mess me up and treat me like kindergarten, but there is nothing that says they must be nice to me or that we must remain together as friends.Once I notice things are veering towards that direction I take a walk and advise them to do the same. The girls I'm with are at their best behaviour when they come around. Some are for validation. Others, for entertainment. We pay our dues and we roll.

But believe me when I say Joy was something otherworldly. In the scale of 1 - 10, I'd rate her 8 and half as she just ticked all the boxes and couldn't walk 10 yards without men ogling at her. As a result, she had so many choices and we just couldn't connect on an emotional level. I met her while she was still very young but she blossomed to become a very charming damsel. Sadly, after so many rebounds, I finally let her walk for my own peace.

As for the piss above you called lecture, I really have no idea what you mean by being "wussy", but maybe you need to try leaving the basement every once in a while to see the reality for what it really is, as opposed to spending too much time on pickup materials.

And while you are it, please, lose that mentality about being playful and vocal - I assume you are trying to say holding frame - in order to have sex. For how long do you intend to keep up with that manipulative behavior? At any rate, manipulation has very little or no effect on the neurotransmitters which predetermines how people respond to you in the first place. If you hold frame, they may respect or try not to mess with you. But this not the same as being desired. If you got what a girl wants, she'll have raw desire for you and would be at her best to please you. But if you don't, she'll see you for the scam you really are, no matter how many levels of facade you try to put up.

Lastly, for your own sanity, you need to see acceptance and rejection as normal a part of life and not try to stop this from happening through crude manipulative behaviours.

DeeTus:
No, I won't. Girls who are from Imo State are simply prostitutes. Please stay out of whatever relationship you are into with girl. She will ruin you. She's only interested in your money. That's all!

There are other good and responsible girls out there in Lagos. You could pick one.

The fallacy of generalizations. The truth is women seem wicked when you are not wanted. Everything else is cope. I too have had a bad stint with a girl from State, but that doesn't make all Imo girls bad. I have wonderful sisters and cousins from Imo who are presently the breadwinners in their families, paying the rent, working and putting food on the table. The last girl from Imo I dated was clearly above my league and it doesn't hurt to admit that. She literally turned heads each time we went out and I just seemed invisible. The saying that birds of the same feather flock together can never any be truer when it comes to romantic relationships. If it is established that she is clearly beyond your league (looks, money or status wise), then the most sensible thing to do would be to let her go and find someone closer to home. But coming to a public forum to paint all girls from a certain region as bad just because you had your fingers burned by a very minute percentage, is so laughable it is not even worth ridiculing.

Samyj247:
if u like allow ur brother to marry an IMO girl maybe u will also enter the generalization team. Are u an IMO girl?

Sour grapes. Just because one Imo girl hit you close to home doesn't mean you should start throwing tantrums. At any rate, do you seriously believe you have what it takes to slay and have a gorgeous Imo beauty commit to you?