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zhirkovrado:
I have being in a relationship with this girl for the past two weeks but can't easily forgive my self for the amount of airtime I have been spending on daily bases. Each call we make usually lasts between 15-30mins daily and she wants to be talking to me repeatedly after every each call. She doesn't wants our conversations to end as she always inform me she loves me and wish she keeps on hearing my voice all the times. Frankly speaking, I so much love her as well but the problem is this attitude is ruining me financially, coupled with the fact that I'm still an undergraduate who doesn't even work. The other issue is that despite being a high school graduate, my girlfriend is the type that usually stays indoors due to some parental restrictions and is always unhappy when ever she called or flashed without me receiving or returning the call. This attitude is really causing me pains and wish I can address it in the shortest possible time. Fellow nairalanders, come and help a brother, I don't know how to reveal to her the relationship is sinking me financially since savings are difficult for me at the moment.

Nigga, that girl is using you. I assume you met her online most probably.

She's bored and that's it. You will understand by the time she happens to find her way into the university, to even pick your calls will be a problem for her.

ADVICE: use WhatsApp to call her if she has a WhatsApp enabled phone or ignore her flashing for some hours and days if possible. When you finally call back, tell her that you didn't have airtime and that's why you hadn't called.

One thing is certain, whatever you have with that girl cannot last because the relationship is not sustainable at this time.

Even me that works always try to manage how long I talk over the phone on a normal call. Most of my calls with close buddies are mostly on WhatsApp, it's a poor undergraduate like you that wants to be spending heavily on airtime.

Be wise!

mdntiri:
Women are very selfish illogical people. It's very frustrating negotiating with them, even if it's common sense mutually beneficial arrangements. It's their nature

Now that our women are becoming very educated, exposed, independent, rich, copying Western lifestyles etc, there'd be lots of stories such as yours all over the place. God help us

Selfishness is an understatement. It baffles me that women carry their self centeredness to the bedroom ooo.

I somehow don't believe this story but one thing I know for sure is that girls that derive satisfaction from masturbation and lesbianism do not enjoy penetrative sex.

I'm specific about penetrative sex than general love making which made OP's case worse.

Because I expect that the wife should be enjoying oral, fingering and all that she does to herself if and when done by another (the husband).

I stopped fingering girls and sucking their boobs for too long before penetration after I noticed that a lot of them enjoy romance more than thrusting (penetrative sex) which wouldn't have been a problem.

But it becomes a problem when their selfish nature set in. By the time you're done pleasuring them and it's time to go in and derive your own pleasure, you will hear "it's okay" "I'm not interested" "do you want to force me" etc. Of course, rape being the greatest weapon of a woman, they will guilt trip you to leave them alone after all the giggling and mourning from the romance.

So I now just touch them a little and when I see that they are really craving for more touching and sucking especially on the erogenous areas, I will put "IT" in and derive my pleasure first. If she's not satisfied, I can continue with the romance because a man hardly says no to a woman's sexual advances (demands), but they can firmly tell you no even after going naked and doing all other sh$ts together.

What a selfish gend3r

Djdamian:
Omoapena

I am giving you from now till weekend, to drop the car at my residence

If you fail to do so I will involve the police and file a report that you are holding my vehicle against my wish.

This has always been YOU... the bossy type.

Imagine referring to him as a boy because you gave him a dead 2003 corolla on higher purchase.

Nigga calm down. People have done more good to others than this and are still humble. There's nothing in this life.

The first to report to the police isn't always the person to win the case. Just know this before wasting your money.

As far as you agreed to adjust the payment to accommodate the issue he had with Lastma, then the contract is still 100% valid.

But you can take your car back if you are willing to refund all the money he has paid you since the contract started.

obinoral1179:
so those dot means close road naso map dey carry me go olorunkemi for shomolu, don't even know if the area is shomolu or Charly boy.... Bariga,shomolu,gbagada,fola agoro and yaba, those areas needs to be merge together

You’re the one mixing it up.

Olorunkemi is in Bariga LCDA. Bariga is in Shomolu local government.

Yaba is an LCDA in Mainland local government area even though it shares boundaries with Shomolu.

So, Bariga, Gbagada, Fola Agoro are all in Shomolu local government.

Also note that some part of Gbagada are situated in Kosofe local government, just the way Onipanu, Palmgrove and co. share local governments between Shomolu and Mushin depending on which side of the road.

Omoapena:
You're missing the point, I didn't come online to give comprehensive details of the deal I had with my partner, I only came to source for advise on what he said that he needs his car for 2 weeks...

He was the 1 who brought the full gist and I had to clear my side as he brought it....

You have not done anything wrong. People will always support the person with the bigger pocket, reason your partner tends to be getting a bigger applause on his posts.

Firstly, that agreement you signed with him is flawed and has a lot of strict rules. Two weeks default is too short to allow a partner withdraw a car on a higher purchase deal. So, if you have paid 1.5 million of 2.5 million naira deal, you will lose the car because of two weeks default.?

Secondly, you have no business informing him about the repairs nor bringing the car for inspection since it's a higher purchase deal. Why would he even include that in the agreement? His only business with you and the car is to be receiving his money as at when due. Whatever happens to the car is none of his business. He's been covered by the agreement that states that he has the right to withdraw the car should you fail to make payment within a stipulated period of time.

A friend is facing same problem with his partner. The guy is on rental yet uses his money to fix all problems with the car and the partner does not care. If the guy has an option, he would have long dumped the car. He asked the partner for a hire purchase agreement since he's the one doing all the repairs but the guy refused because he's enjoying his weekly rentals with no obligation.

I wonder why people feel so high when they give out a vehicle to another. The response from your partner here shows the kind of person that he really is. Imagine drawing the battle line here, for what exactly?

You sound like a sincere person to me and you are the kind of person I would love to work with. It's unfortunate that sincere drivers get hooked with irrational partners and same with reasonable partners.

If his dad needs a car for movement, he should release his own car. He knows what he's asking for is wrong but because he's the car owner, you should come crying on your knees to oblige his request.

My bro, keep up the hard work and pay off this guy as soon as possible. You deserve your peace of mind.

And next time, dispute anything you feel isn't right in an agreement that you are signing up for in a business relationship.

Barbiturate:
Na my area be that. Lastma no dey ever dey that side. Na only touts. Na why I dey vex for wetin happen to the guy.

Lastma and Police do stay there bro. A friend was arrested there and taken to their office at Oshodi. They refused to accept transfer payment, only cash.

That's to tell you that they are doing an illegal job there. I just wish someone can have the mind to allow them to take him to court so we know what the outcome will be.

folak48:
folak48@gmail.com

Have sent a mail already. Please let me know if you got it

Crvrider:
Yep. The moment you descend that bridge, I took a U-turn. Saw people taking it didn't know it was just military personnel.

That was a serious one. I never expected anyone to take a U-turn there because the one way is too obvious.

FASASI1:
I think it's the one at jibowu that lead to Yaba face one, if it's that bridge, you can't make u-turn , I just pass there now and I was checking to see road sign and I saw no U-turn on it

This is confusing

The one at jibowu going to Yaba phase 1 through the Underbridge is the one that right side leads to empire road that connects Ojuelegba by the left and Mushin by the right.

If it's this one, then you can make a U-turn but at the second turning.

If it's the one that climbs the bridge to Yaba phase 1 directly instead of passing under it to face the traffic light, I am still trying to understand where the person that made a U-turn there was trying to head to.

Crvrider:
Please anyone with connect? I am at lastma office at jibowu. As I came down from the bridge leading to yaba I made a U-turn and I was held for one way offence. Please can someone, anyone help?

Can you give a better description of the road that you plied.

The bridge that leads to Murtala Mohammed way (Tejuosho market)?

folak48:
I didn't see your email

It bounced. Can you drop a working email or any better way to reach you.

folak48:
I said it up there that I would like you to connect my daughter to foreign students for assignments.

Okay, I've replied your mail

Eucharia22:
Please is it true that Opay has a machine that has no Target sold at 40k, I want to start the business and the agent I want to get the machine from is telling me that Opay now gives a particular machine that has no Target and once I pay 40k that the machine is now mine, no disturbance from Opay about not reaching target.
Please I need a truthful answer so as to know my next move.

Yes

Brand new android device is 50k but they don't have that now so you will be getting a fairly used one for 40k.

Brand new analog device is 35k. Brand new mini device is 10k.

All are outright purchase

Kooldame:
If men libido decrease as they age,then a grandfather won't impregnate his teenage granddaughter,which happens these days

Incest is not a good example at any time, however, decrease in libido does not mean impotency.

Sweetplum:
Lie. It's the reverse

Google is your friend. Women only experience decrease in libido as a result of hormonal changes caused by menopause.

It isn't noticeable in men between the ages of 30 to 40 even though it's decreasing but becomes noticeable as from 40 upwards.

Sex drive is different from potency. A one minute man can get a girl pregnant. Quick ejaculation does not mean poor quality sperm or low sperm count.

folak48:
Please help. God bless you sir

You still aren't being specific. Help with what?

CorrectBizWoman:
Please who else is been sex starved at home. I can count how many times we've had sex since dis year. Always money money money all the time which is beginning to bother a lot more on greed. We're very comfortable. Solid investments, own the house we live in.

He don't cheat at least none that I know of and he's very free with his phone.

I'm tired of living this way... Any help guys? He's the last person you can seduce. It just don't work with him.

To think it's this same man loves sex like crazy even after our kids before this money talks, makes me wonder how people change so fast

Thought women don't like sex? At least that's what most of you especially the single ladies want us to believe.

Men libido decrease as they age, women own increase as they age.

folak48:
That was how the op scammed me of almost 30k telling me to fund binary account through an agent. Till today nothing.

Would you mind telling why you want to connect

Pierocash:
this is for 2020



https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2022/02/03/what-the-data-says-about-gun-deaths-in-the-u-s/

This argument will never end. The truth is that death is part of human nature. You can't run away from it no matter how much you run. People die in all countries.

Just that we suffer and die a more painful death in Nigeria than in America.

Vinnie2000:
That's a Different Scenario

Particularly if the Lady has gotten 1 or 2 kids.

Cant compare to Singles ladies, esp those who live Alone..

I have a sister in law that was living with my sister's husband before he got married to my sister.

She continued to live with her brother and my sister for several years until my sister felt it was time she got her own apartment.

Less than 2 years after getting her own self contained apartment, she took in a young man as a roommate with an excuse that the man is homeless and needed accommodation.

This lady is currently in her fifties and unmarried. A well known church woman but loneliness na your mate?

It isn't easy for any gender both male and female.

BigYash:
She is not.. The son probably loves the girl more. Meanwhile the babe is supposed to love op more.. And if this is the case,it will ruin him... That is what I think mama is seeing.. My advice is for op to calm down,while he check and balance the whole situation.. No girl loves a man.. She is just playing the normal game,they all play.. Op thinks its love..

Mama is seeing from just a picture taken at an eatery, she's able to see who loves each other more?

Haba mana

davidichormone:
Hello every one.
I have a toyota corolla 2012 available for ehailing.

I am in need of a driver.

Driver must stay around shomolu.

Please contact me on 08109426941 WhatsApp only.

Does someone living inside Unilag qualify?

bestdudes:
Hi, Happy Sunday Evening To Everyone.

A few days ago, I created a thread Titled "Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies

She is pretty, much taller than our Lady 3 who was replying with one-liners, with a nice shape than lady 3 as well.

The street is brutal, stay vigilant.

I responded to your first post and I'm going to respond to this one too.

You only ended up confirming exactly what you were told on the previous thread.

Firstly, the girl has to be into you. This is the first step towards dealing with a girl. It does not matter whether the girl is beautiful or not, or has a higher class or not, she just has to have some level of likeness for you. This is where girls get it better than guys. A girl will rather follow an Okada rider that likes her than a banker that tolerates her presence. Unfortunately, most girls definition of likeness is someone that can spend on them or tolerate their bullshit which most classed men can't.

You met her in church. This is the catch. I told you on the other thread to always define what you want whenever you get connected with a girl. That girl may be loyal and communicative simply because she's looking for a husband. A 25 years old university graduate is more likely to be open in conversation with you than a 21 year old 200 level undergraduate.

She wants something which she cannot make open to you now, but her actions and body language should be able to tell you that if you are smart.

It is now left for you to know exactly what you want and determine the level of commitment you put in the situationship. I ghost a lot of girls that I know that are desperate for marriage when I know I have zero interest to marry them. They want the relationship to follow the prolonged process of dating, courting, and all which I'm not game for since I know it would be wasting my resources for nothing.

I can pay for transport for a girl that I want to marry to come from Anambra to Lagos to see me since it would entail us studying each other for future purposes, but I can't try that for a girl I have the intention to sex only.

So, define your intention within you and that will guide your commitment level. When purpose is not defined, abuse is inevitable.

And if you must know, the more good looking you are, the less serious ladies take you. I'm a victim.

The street is truly brutal and this is a game. You have to understand it and play it well. Some ladies can take you unserious simply because they feel your class is higher than theirs and you can't want something serious from them other than their pussy. So, you should also look at the class of girls you follow if they match your class. Ladies suffer from inferiority complex as much as guys. If you truly like a girl and want to prove to her that irrespective of her class, body type, etc., you still want her, then you will have to be patient to prove that to her and not just act so hastily in discarding her. Then again, it depends on what you want from the girls. Are you looking for a wife, a girlfriend, a sexmate, a chatbuddy, a friend with benefits, etc. Define what exactly you are looking for and express that when interacting with the ladies so your message will be well received and they will act accordingly if they feel they are in for whatever you want. You'd be surprised that a girl who would accept to fu^k you will never accept to marry you. So if you approach such girl with a marriage vibe, she will ghost you.

I pray this one ends well. Hopefully, you don't get surprises when you finally find out the reason for this uncanny friendliness unusual of a typical Nigeria girl.

ojeysky:
https://www.nairaland.com/7287097/flash-sale-clean-toks-nissan

And you even put the price at 3 million?

You go find buyer quickly

This is a car people were buying 500k that year after e don cast.

And you rejected a 2 million naira cash offer?

Happy selling

Nursepepeye:
you said salary is 18k? God will suprise you, God just remove you from a failure

You guys screaming 18k, that is not Lagos oo.

That 18k in Kogi is equivalent to 25k in Lagos ceteris paribus.

Op, just know that in a workplace, the theory of Deontology applies.

Deontology is an ethical theory that says actions are good or bad according to a clear set of rules

bestdudes:
Lmao.. you are funny. So point out where I made a mistake and the girls are not at fault?

Did I ask them for sex or ask them for anything? What will it cost a grown-up adult to be decent in their engagement? At my age? At my age, I would leave any girl alone as soon as I see any indecent attitude or red flag.

Maybe you are the kind that tries to convince yourself that "it is not a problem, continue to try your luck and gets disrespected even further"

Gerrraheree mien

Whether you want sex from a woman or not, she will definitely play some hard to get tricks immediately you start showing interest in her which is normal. So, backing out from a lady simply because of the flimsy attitudes you described above is extreme.

I guess you are not a player. Real players don't back out easily. Have you wondered why those street urchins tend to get the most beautiful girls? They are patient!

You need some level of patience and tolerance to deal with women. It's those that will differentiate you from the other guys.

In whatever you do with a woman, always define what you want in your mind. That will determine your approach, tolerance level, and quit time.

Mademan7:
Ok thanks so much. By the way I am a writer. Have written for so many clients but havnt done academic writing before. If you won't mind, can you guide me or mentor me on academic writing. Please I beg you. How do I contact you? My number is on my profile/Signature.

Academic writing is not different from other types of writing. You just have to be good with researching articles using the right keyword phrases.

reuben81:
u should learn how to appriciate for the fact u called her,and she reciprocate,that's to tell u she's a good friend,mind u not everyone staying abroad is doing well,she could a hookup girl

She's not into any hookup sir. I know her and her family background very well. She comes from an average family that can afford to send her to UK.

I will appreciate her, I agree... It's just the mode of request and the insolence that accompanied it.

Samantha123:
She has zero manners, seems like UK changed her.

Return back the money her friend sent to you and tell her that you can't help out anymore.

Returning the money is not an option. I've done the work already. I may give her something if the cousin pays for another service but not this present one.

jelel6:
But what's actually wrong in a client asking you to deliver completed work in bits and pieces? Put yourself in the person's shoes. She gave you a valid reasons why she wanted to have any completed work delivered - so she can carry on and complete the rest if circumstance warrants. She was not trying to question your professionalism. In fact, she's suggesting ways to ensure you maintain it to some degree IF things go south.

For context, I was working on a project for a new client when I received a call that my cousin had a nasty accident. I had to deliver what I had done already so the client won't think I was playing with their work. I've lost documents save locally on my devices, and had to start from scratch. The client was really angry. I could have delivered some units as soon as I completed them.

She paid you in full, be thankful for that. Other service renderers get their money when they reach certain milestones in the project.
Besides, quit the mentality that you're doing them a favor. You're getting paid. If you stop offering the services you render, other people will fill the void. There's nothing special about the work you can do.

As for the girl asking for kickbacks, I understand why you may feel some kind of way giving her a cut. But just as you thought she shouldn't be requesting kickbacks from you because of your friendship, she may also be expecting a small giveaway for the same reason. I hope you know some people make their living from connecting customers to service renderers.


Personally, I would give her a cut since she's expecting some (I would have offered her anyways), and be glad she requested instead of holding ill feelings about it. But whether I continue taking her referrals would be based on how I perceive her approach. I have worked with too many nice and reasonable people to begin entertaining unbridled arrogance.

Well, thank you for taking time to give your opinion.

There's something special about my service, and that's the ability to give them what they want.

I'm not the only friend they have in Nigeria before leaving the country but they have their reasons for contacting me amongst others.

Maybe I read too much meaning into her statement. I am not bothered that she asked that I should send the work in bits. If you check the screenshot very well, you will see where I told her the reason I feel that I should send them in bits and not because something could happen to me.

Meanwhile, I'm not giving that lady any dime unless she brings another job. And yes, in as much as they are paying for the job, getting value for their money is more important to them than the money itself.

I just landed another gig now to write 3500 words for 80k whereas the girl's cousin paid 45k for 4500 words with lots of financial calculations.

I truly under billed her yet someone is disturbing me for a cut.

Mademan7:
Hello dailyparot. Did you later rectify this your Facebook problem? Because my own just got hacked and I am also looking for solution to get it back

The account was gone. Not because it was hacked, but the hacker spammed Facebook until the account got disabled.

reuben81:
u also is a very stubborn person,from the earlier post u ask her the assignment now u are denying it,and u seems to be a very proud person

I asked for her own assignment to help her and not because I needed a job to be doing assignments for people desperately.

Mind you, I agreed I'm going to give her her cut going forward, but the way she went about it was very hostile.

And yes, I am proud!