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From your statement, it means she does not know....so you are looking for a way to tell her...Just thinking aloud, what makes you believe the reverse will not be the same
Just thinking though...

Acetin:
So if someone should rape your daughter 19 years ago, you won’t seek for justice.
You are one of the problems of Nigeria
if someone commits a crime years ago, he/she should be free!
The major problem of Nigeria is no accountability, no one is held accountable for anything, that’s why people think they can do anything and go scout free

19 years ago, she did not know it was rape
Not once o if you follow the story, common!!!

aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I remember, I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

Bros please do not fall for that disvirgined me crap...these ones are the worst. You will thank me later when you hear from the person that takes over from you...

iwayumeh:
The presidential election of 2019 has come and perhaps gone. To some, it might have been confined to the dustbin of history but definitely not the throwbacks on the conscience of a nation which has been wounded by its blatant disregard for common sense; a nation that needs healing.

The presidential candidate of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) and former Vice President of Nigeria, Atiku Abubakar has approached the courts to seek redress. His prayers? That he won the February 23 presidential elections without let and he was brazenly rigged out by the All Progressives Congress and its candidate, President Muhammadu Buhari using apparatuses of state security and the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC), the supposed umpire of the polls. He also prayed the court to look into the merits of his claim that Buhari was ineligible to contest for the post of president having lied under oath in the form CF001 that he filled and submitted to INEC to enable him contest for that office.

Since March, 2019 Nigerians have been treated to a drama of the absurd in all the legal tussles, their quest for justice have been treated with the greatest disdain as if they do not matter.

The legal rigmarole have taken turns and twists, first from the refusal of INEC, a supposed electoral umpire which obviously did not seem to be living up to its name as in being independent refusing the Atiku legal team access to electoral materials with which to prosecute its case, and this was done in blatant disregard of a subsisting Court order to make them available.

Then the legal tricks of deliberate delays: refusal of the President of Court of Appeal, Justice Zainab Bulkachuwa to recuse herself especially in a matter where her culpability and interest is very much manifest. All these court theatrics no doubt robbed the Atiku and PDP legal team of ample time and opportunity to parade all or most of its listed four hundred witnesses lined up in support of its claims.

To start with, INEC shot itself in the legs by denying it ever had a Server into which all election results were uploaded. It is a grave assault on the minds of many Nigerians. In this age and time, where does INEC capture data of over 80 million registered voters spread across one hundred and ninety nine, nine hundred and seventy three polling stations in the country? Even against its own laws and guidelines INEC had defaulted because it promised Nigerians a fool proof election conduct, collation and transmission of results. There is enough evidence to suggest that INEC lied about this all important aspect of the voting process. If INEC gets away with a discharge from this open lies, then all and most especially the Chairman and its principal officers should not get away with fraud. They should answer questions on the money approved for the procurement of this electronic facility. If INEC truly does not have a Server, the money allocated for it must have been stolen by its operatives.

But yet more drama was to await Nigerians, as they woke up to a rude shock last week after Atiku and the PDP closed their case within its ten days allotted time, presenting 65 witnesses of its 400 (because of time constraints). First it was INEC that declared matter of fact that it does not have witnesses to call, and after a highly disappointing parade of seven lacklustre witnesses that did more damages to the Buhari/APC defends line, they also opted for an abrupt close of case. Curiously, the APC closed its own case before it even started without calling a witness.

Typically the signal this sends to most Nigerians that just like the February 23 elections, the APC is out to draw out another card in its pack of aces, to browbeat the Judiciary. Another short corner legion?

What suffers in the eventuality of a miscarriage of Justice as the sudden change of tactics suggest? Democracy is about to be taken to the slaughter house and where the will of the people is murdered in such brazen manner their existence was abridged. A stolen mandate is directly proportional to a stolen future and a perverted destiny.

The nation’s Justices will write their names in 24 karat of gold if they manifest the moral force as embodied by Lady Justice.

By evoking its instrumentality of impartiality, the Judiciary would have gained back its integrity and fulfilment of the sacred duty bestowed on it by providence.

Long after this season, it would be said of Nigeria’s judiciary that it found itself at a crossroads, but showed uncommon courage in restoring hope to a country in need of salvation, and ultimately wrote itself in the golden book as champions of our democracy.

Olumide Ojini, a Microbiologist wrote from Asaba

Source:

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2019/08/nigerias-judiciary-at-a-crossroads-ojini/

All this long talk, how many times has Buhari contested? How many times did he approach the Judiciary??, What did Yaradua say about his election

We always make it sound like the world is coming to an end...

kentycom:
Am a psychologist, I took time to read your post concerning your wife and all the activities involved before the wedding and after the wedding.

My brother your wife loves you, but at some points you are not doing the right thing by frowning or getting annoyed at some of her wrong actions.

Getting annoyed or frowning at a particular situation is good, but please during this, you don't beat her, or say some things that will cause havoc in your marriage, you are only reminding her that you are the head of the family. Please note, you only do this when you are sure she is wrong, please if you are not sure, don't try it all.

If you recalled, before now she was still communicating with her ex, whether you believe it or not, the flames of that love is still with her. Not wishing her a happy birthday on the dot 12 was to prove a point to her that, you no longer care for her. You never can tell what the ex discussing with her. But mind you, she is your wife. Women tends to respond to words more than what the see.

What am about to tell you, if you can't do it, you wouldn't be able to save your marriage.
On a cool evening, take note that she free and alone, kneel down and hold her hand, begin to tell her that, she is always in your mind, my brother you know the sweet words to say. Note this: if she tells you to stand and she hugs you, brother your workings will not be tedious, else my brother you have a big work to do.

But if there is green light, you just don't stop there, begin to give her more attention, even if you are in office call her like two times before you come back home. When you come whether she cook or not, ignore it, find your food and go play with her, don't give her space at all. My brother she will start thinking about you by force.

Talk to her still she forget about that her ex, my brother you don't talk to her about her ex, this is very important!! she will be the one to remind her ex that she is married.

At the end you are the winner.. Try this and thank me later..

For me l think you should first do a paternity test for the child. The results will indicate the decisions to take next.

You already suspect your wife on many fronts, that needs to be confirmed. There is no smoke without fire.

The advise above by the psychologist, l do not agree it is the way to go. In a marriage a man deserves as much love that the woman wants showered on her. All this talk of women are moved more by words than what you do, l do not agree. Frankly if she is seeing someone else and then you go on your knees, you would have shot yourself in the foot, as it will be counter productive. That would show incapacity and weakness in comparison to your competition.

From your narrative you are a struggling young man, and l do not know how you compare with her ex on the financial scale that could also be a determinant in this equation...you mentioned burning of food which you did not pay for, that goes further to support my assertion...

It would have been nice to have more in-depth to be able to properly advise...

drips8:
That is just obscene

Imagine the numbers of kids that must have seen the van

Wetin the kids dey see for musical videos?
These ladies dress like this at the beach, you carry kids to the beach...
Our level of hypocrisy is way too high!!!

How are you sure she's not the one delaying?

She has not been able to secure a divorce from her first marriage, where she had 3 kids for her then husband...

Ameachi again? Wike must be in sefiah pain...

pressmanng:
Ministerial List: Here we take a look at ex-ministers who served in President Muhammadu Buhari‘s first term but failed to make the list for the second term.

1. Solomon Dalung
2. Audu Ogbeh
3. Emmanuel Ibe Kachikwu
4. Udoma Udo Udoma
5. Abdulrahman Dambazzau
6. Aisha Abubakar
7. Usani Uguru Usani
8. Mansur Dan-Ali
9. Adebayo Shittu
10. Okechukwu Enelamah
11. Heineken Lokpobori
12. Stephen Ocheni
13. Hajiya Khadija Bukar Ibrahim
14. Usman Jubril
15. Amina Mohammed
16.Ibrahim Usman Jibril
17.Cladius Omoleye Dramola
18.Anthony Onwuka
19.Isaac Adewole
20.Abubakar Bawa Bwari
21.Pastor Usani Uguru

https://www.pressmanng.com/2019/07/ex-ministers-who-didnt-make-president.html?m=1

Lalasticlala

Na only 1, 3 and 4 l know there. You mean the rest people were in the last government?

Omooba77:
Part of worshiping God is by dancing and singing praises to His name. The word ‘dancing’ appears 74 times in the Holy Bible to underline its importance in worshiping God; it is also seen as a way to honour God.

Generally, dancing is used to express feelings of joy and jubilation. People dance to celebrate events, victories and goodness in their lives, as no sane person dances in time of sorrow, except as a sign of expressing faith in God in such difficult moment.


Many observers believe some churches have imported worldly and ‘crazy’ dance steps into the church especially in congregations that have more youthful membership. Dance steps like ‘soco’, ‘shaku-shaku’, ‘legbegbe’, ‘it’s a goal’ and the recent one ‘soapy’, are seen in most churches during praise and worship.

Observers also noted that dancing in church must be done with a heart to see God, receive glory and praises rather than for the purpose of receiving attention. And anybody with a sincere heart to praise God through dance would not seek the attention of a crowd, nor will the person demand a prominent place in the gathering.

Such a person will be satisfied with dancing in a back corner of the sanctuary than on the front stage. If a person desires attention for himself through dancing during a church service, then he has ceased to truly praise God and is seeking praise for himself.

Observers also argued that when a dance is choreographed, it is no longer in praises to God, but has turned entertainment. According to them, those who danced in the Bible did not plan it, neither did they practice it. It was not in the church bulletin. It was a spontaneous tribute to God that can never be duplicated.

Even if it happens over and over again, it is not duplication. Sometimes it happens in the beginning of the service, other times at the end of the service. Sometimes it lasts a minute. At other times, it can go on till the end of the service. But in the end, it is not planned and that should be the defining factor in dancing in the church.

Those holding this position have severally asked: “When one rehearses in order to learn the steps and movements, then is it really dancing to praise God or dancing for the entertainment of the congregation?

Right Rev. Monsignor John Aniagwu, the Vicar General Catholic, Archdiocese of Lagos, stated, “Music has been critical aspect of Christian worship, going all the way to the Bible. This is talking about the Psalms-songs composed to accompany worship in the Jewish tradition and when Christianity came along, the culture was brought into Christianity.

“The Christian church has always been involved in worship of God. Saint Paul even admonished that Psalms be used in Christian worship. Secular music is for the secular place and not for the church. I mean you don’t come to the church and start playing calypso; it is in order in places like the theatre.



“When you come to the church, your music has to be of a certain character, very solemn and uplifting music. We do dance in church but it is a different type which is modest and different from that of the secular way.”

Rev. Obed Ezeonye, the Senior Pastor, Excellent Glory Christian Center Iju, Lagos, in his contribution, said: “We need to take cognisance of different cultures in Nigeria and other countries as culture helps to shape people’s attitude and the way they dance.

“Responding to this issue will mean understanding the culture of people. Culture simply means the way of life of a given people. The African people have a culture. The European people have their culture. The Jewish people have their culture.

“There is cultural blend or conflicts. When two cultures conflict, we call it craze or crazy.

“Now we have the church culture, right? The church culture has undergone changes over the years with modern technologies. From clapping of hands to local use of drums, and to highly sophisticated instruments that release different sounds and lyrics.

https://www.independent.ng/has-worldly-crazy-dance-steps-creep-into-churches/

Have you been to heaven to know what heavenly dance is like and what constitutes worldly, crazy dance

NwaAmaikpe:



Aisha Buhari should understand that there is a great difference between rape victim and rape claimant?

Besides, it is not out of place for the police on the request of the accused to demand that the rape claimant jusitifes her accusations before she can be officially awarded the title of victim.
And justice meted out deservingly.

I am also confined to construe this attention to the IG of Police as an act of using office as a tool for obstruction of justice.
This is no case of intimidation but that of elucidation of misrepresented facts.

The Dakolos have just gotten the best opportunity to come out with their facts, I expected them to embrace it and defend their claims.
This is more than shouting #NotInMyChurch, #MeToo or floating a money-funnel NGO.

This is about setting the facts clear.
They need not call Segalink or RuggedMan when next a strange car comes near their dirty house unless they're confirming what the bible says about the wicked who run when no one is chasing.

Well, what do I even know?

God will bless you. Let her be careful, who made her judge and jury. Let the Dakolos prove their case, every one is entitled to a fair hearing even the accused. Statements do not automatically become facts because of who said it. Rape should not be condoned, so also should we protect the rights of every citizen from the hands of a false withness via proper investigation and prosecution. There should be no sacred cows!!!

This is rubbish. 1 in 6 had a first class. Hmmm

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iammo:
Only Intelligent person devoid of political bitterness from perpetual failure can understand Tinubu's wise words, but then i can translate and help you

“I am a nationalist and the security concerns and challenges right now must be faced squarely throughout Nigeria.( first sentence means whether kidnap in onitcha , daura or Ore insecurity is insecuirity and all should be tackled ) The incident that affected one member of our family, Mrs Olakunrin, is saddening and unacceptable but nobody can return her alive, (wailing and lamenting or causing war wont bring her back sadly and regretably) she has answered the call of her creator. “We must not use this incident to divide ourselves but we must use it as a cure to the security problem by providing additional police and patrol.”

Thank you!!!

Lovelyn451:
not new...only a woman who wants to die before her time sniffs around her husband

What all women claim, but they still do...

Who was filming, at the exact minute the phone rang, and he rushed out. See people already judging men Why do people no longer think

foliman:
All these actions are empty, null and void!
My heart aches and this is so saddening and unbecoming

It's time we all go our separate ways..

Life used to be a sacred thing in the past, but with this Fulani man as our president, killing has been a game, life has been a toy!

If we continue this way, we'll all wake up to nothing but the entire south overthrown by the northerners all armed.

They do not value family, life and property so why won't they kill others?

The North has always been a problem to the south, we can't continue like this, we have our culture, values and ethics but forcing an alien way of life on us is a way to colonize the south, behold they are advancing each day.

I'm a Yoruba guy and I wish we go our separate way!

Life is sweet!

Good morning good people of the South!

It is disheartening that Nigeria has degenerated to this level.
We constantly fan the amber's of war between the North and South. How did we come to the conclusion that it was the handy work of Fulani herdsmen
The accounts of the driver and maid say men armed and masked. What makes them different from the regular robbers we are used to?, We're cattles seen around which they are supposed to be herding
Why must we politicize every thing
Rumours spread faster than truth

See accounts https://www.nairaland.com/5300168/funke-olakunrins-driver-maid-reveal

If you no fit buy private jet my brother start from the look alike

Faithway10:
Veteran Nollywood actor, Ejike Asiegbu is showing us that age has nothing to do with being romantic and helping your wife with her physical needs.

His wife of 21 years, Oge Asiegbu shared this adorable video of him loosing her hair. She captioned it;

"Since the kids has left us all alone at home..Oya lose my hair �� @ejikeasiegbu"


Watch the video http://www.amagitesblog.com/2019/06/adorable-video-of-actor-ejike-asiegbu-loosing-his-wifes-hair.html

The kids have left, who snap the picture because this does not look like a selfie

silverbirdng:
The President of Nigerian Bar Association, NBA, Paul Usoro, has declared that judges are afraid of performing their duties as expected due to fear and intimidation from the executive arm of government.

Usoro lamented over the “intimidation of judges by members of the executive arm and security operatives”, stressing that judges now “operate under an oppressive and pervasive climate of fear and insecurity.”

He made the disclosure while speaking at NBA’s National Executive Committee, NEC, meeting, held at the association’s secretariat in Abuja.

The Senior Advocate of Nigeria said: “Our Judges are threatened, intimidated and blackmailed mostly by the executive arms of government and their agencies both at the federal and state levels.

“Our judges cannot deliver justice under a climate of fear and intimidation. Justice thrives where and when there is an independent judiciary. There can be no such independence when there is no security of tenure for our Judges. There can be no independence of the judiciary when our judges are intimidated, threatened and blackmailed by state agencies and their officials.

“There can be no independence of the judiciary when our judges are actively coerced by state officials to think and reason only in the manner that those officials and, presumably, government want them to think.

“My dear colleagues, as you would observe, I have given you three illustrative instances of the insecurity that pervades our land from the three NBA Nigerian Zones – East, West and North – and that, by itself, makes the point that no part of our country is safe.

“No region is safe, and no tribe is safe. No one indeed is safe. And yet, we have governments in place, at the federal, state and local government levels and the primary business of governments is the protection of lives and property. Indeed, without security of lives and property, everything else grinds to a halt.”



See more here https://thickmatch.com/buhari-govt-made-judges-afraid-performing-duties-nba-presiden/

If as a judge your hands are soiled then and only then can you be blackmailed...

Max8:
This Dino guy na buffon, showing us card reader means INEC have a server?,PDP claimed they have results sheet printed from the server, who ever that gave them the print out should be an insider, why can they also show us pictures or video of the computer room and the server where they are located, rather than all this cock and bull story about server or no server

This video, watin the person dey talk and watin them dey do no rhyme o, watch am again...

Nasa28:
Lol...

Fayose, hope you've heard ooo. Praise him even when people are been killed, praise him even when Hunger is sending some ppl to their early grave , praise him, even when the economy is on a record time low, just keep praising him. But remember, only a sychophant does that.

What is our only source of income? OIL, how much does a barrel cost now?, How much did it cost when the economy was in an all time high?
Can Buhari change the cost at which it is being bought now to the price when it was at an all time high? NO...
So l am wondering a lot of things in my head right now...
Has he fired anyone from any of the ministries due to poor income? NO
Hmmm

Richdad50:


All elective positions have been occupied but the Igbo tribe have found themselves empty without a single position in the helm of affairs. Wow! A massive blow but never a setback for a tribe that is known for doggedness, digging deep in troubled times only to rise above ashes.

Anytime in history where the Igbo tribe seemed to have been grossly maligned, marginalized, and mocked, they have, as individuals, and collectively as a people, become richer, expand businesses, and proved beyond measure an adage that they are survivalist.

For the record, I am not igbo but I have never seen a people who have lived without the imprint governance for generations.

Richdad

Who did they vote for, Always their over sense like the proverbial dog in the patient dog eats the fattest bone...
Always thinking there is a bone left that is the fattest, till they turn the pot upside down say bone don finish

You guys should always read the hand writing on the wall, you can never eat your cake and still have it...

Jen92:
what happened to you guys calling SS your brothers? Is it only for Biafra? Why r u guys not happy for Agege?

My brother ask them, abi we no be IPOB again... SCAMMERS everywhere!!!

TooMuchStuff:
Yeye INEC /BuhariApC...!

They just don't want okorocha to spoil the show of shame. They don't want igbos to be principal officers of NASS.

It's now obvious that BuhariApC and INEC are one .

How many votes una give them You want to eat your cake and still have it...Nigerians...

This man has been in government since 1994, can that happen in Nigeria, it is the same people praising him now that will ask for his crucifiction under the cry for Democracy...Nigerians are a special lot l must say...

Krazy8:
Absolutely disgusted that Mr. Kagame would pay a visit to this sh.it hole riddled with acute infrastructural malaise, I imagine what must be conceptualizing in his mind on how Nigeria is such A FAILED STATE. After the genocide which claimed more than 2Million lifes, The country has found the strength to put itself back on the track of economic prosperity. What can i say of my country? With no notable achievement despite enjoying relative peace. I SAY THIS WITH NO SENTIMENT!, NIGERIA IS ACCURSED AND WILL NEVER BE BETTER EVEN IN A MILLION YEARS, NOTHING GOOD WILL EVER COME FROM THIS COUNTRY, WE SHALL FAIL IN ANYTHING WE PUT OUR HANDS IN, POVERTY SHALL BE OUR BIRTHRIGHT, WE SHALL EAT AND DINE FROM THE TABLE OF WRETCHEDNESS, WE SHALL WE ANNIHILATED FROM THE SURFACE OF THE EARTH AND OUR LEGACY FORGOTTEN IN A HURRY. AMEN! AMEN!! AMEN!!

P.S I HATE AFONJAS AND THEY ARE THE WORST SCUM OF THE EARTH

With all apology na your portion of Nigeria you dey talk about so...

HumphreyGspot:
A Nigeria man has been left heartbroken as his fiance broke up with him and changes her phone

In the video, he was calling her number, but the number was switched off. And then in burst in to tears as his friend consoles him.

I wanted to marry this girl, he said;

Watch the video:
https://www.hgsmediaplus.com.ng/2019/05/nigeria-man-breaks-down-in-tears-after.html?m=1

Thank God later...dont worry