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I won't be surprised if the author of this piece still finds himself or herself in adultery. This is not because he wants to. There are many unseen forces that are dragging people to lust and passion.

In fact many Christian and Muslim faithful really want to keep to their vows, but it still happens anyway. After days of fasting and prayer many still fall. It is a serious canker.

Nobody toys with the devil and win. For those who really want to remain faithful to their spouses engrave these warnings in your heart. Unless you want it otherwise. It usually starts gradually, little by little.

There are still many seemingly harmless habits that make us vulnerable to this vice:

familiarity,
Indolence,
Love of fashion and vanity
Obsession with home videos
Social trends, chatting
Spiritual fartherism
Private tutorial
Blurred working relationships
Inability to say No resulting from shyness


The phrase 'watch and pray' is not just a mere advice. It is a command. We usually lose our guards. We think our selves strong and this makes us relax. If you don't fill your mind with pure things, impure things will enter. There's no doubting that.

The highlighted practical steps are helpful. The mind is the first battle field. By the time the desire sets in, you will be the one looking for the opportunity. Until the deed is done you may never know how you got yourself in it.

Therefore, We should never relax. The antidote to falling is eternal watchfulness.

Brownhypo:
According to Genesis 1:1,The Bible says; In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth

So my question now is, where was God's abode before the Creation of the world.

I will be pretty glad if an answer(s) is provided to the aforementioned question.

I'm afraid you won't find your answers in the Bible. But think about this. If you want to recognise God, you need to discard a mental image of him. And this is one of the limitations of man. He sees his God as being with many eyes, long white beard and gray hair.

Any conception of the Almighty God would be a belittling of It. The primary error for this is the persistent refusal of mankind to seek and absorb the high knowledge of truth.

Do not concern yourself with what you do not need. Try to fulfill the tasks in the compass of your earthly limit first. Seek for the knowledge of the structure of creation. You will then find the answer to your question.

Your priority is your idol. Your idol is your god. The desire to taste, to get to know and to enjoy often becomes a propensity. A propensity is a craving for enjoyment or a sensation.

Man often makes himself a slave to his idol. His idol are his desires which he derives pleasure in.

This thread is sequel to the a thread entitled the three important things men think about. It is disheartening to know where the desires of many men today lie: money, sport, woman, etc. All of which we must leave when we depart this life.

Some commented they do not think about women. They talked of their disdain for women, secretly expecting to be admired for that, whereas they admit they think obsessively about money. They even boast of it.

And truly the thinking of majority of men revolves around these things. If there's a man whose thinking is different form this fundamental pleasurable ends he better keeps his ideals to himself alone. The society derisively considers such a person unmanly, weak, dweeb, misfit, failure, uninteresting, backward, dull.

We should not bother to worry why there's so much hardships everywhere today. We should not be surprised to see defects in every spheres of life. Broken homes, loss of innocence, lack of trust, betrayer, disharmony...

In the last days, men will become lovers of themselves, lovers of money, pleasure and power. Where do we place God - by whose grace we are able to breathe? And we want God to make us his priority!

Man will always be a slave to his desires. For some, it is the desire for earthly distinction. They want to become famous, distinguished fellows. The bottom line of these desires is the love of self. Not the general welfare of mankind in general.

This thread has covertly opened our eyes to our inner self, our real self; because the things that occupy our minds most often is our god.

We have all lost the united goal for the kingdom of heaven. No wonder the world is at it is today. A man is simply defined by what he makes his priority.

No more love, peace and joy. What now flourish is war, restlessness, exploitation, lust, envy, greed, domination, oppression, discord, mad craving for power, gluttony, discontent, ego, etc etc

We are the designer of our destiny.

In the last days, men will become lovers of themselves, lovers of money, pleasure and power. Where do we place God - by whose grace we are able to breathe? And we want God to make us his priority!

Man will always be a slave to his desires.

This thread has covertly opened our eyes to our inner self, our real self; because the things that occupy our minds most often is our god.

We have all lost the united goal for the kingdom of heaven. No wonder the world is at it is today. A man is simply defined by what he makes his priority.

No more love, peace and joy. What now flourish is war, restlessness, exploitation, lust, envy, greed, domination, oppression, discord, mad craving for power, gluttony, discontent, ego, etc etc

We are the designer of our destiny.

The question is this: what makes a country great? Is it by building bridges, world class roads and high-rise building or employment indices or increasing population?

I think it lies with everyone to make this country great. We should not expect one Messiah to come and make a magic. Without each individual changing from 'within' nothing will happen. Only another round of empty promises.

For example, each person should make a commitment not a lie in everything he says or do. He should endeavor to be faithful in his every dealings with another person. This alone would bring a mighty change.

An average student in the Nigerian university thinks that to 'help' his friends in the examination hall is a normal thing. He doesn't even know that ordinary talking while writing test is corruption. Yet, he would be the first to rain abuses on governors for exploiting workers.

This student and his friends would after school life obtain form to be a senator. Is it not predictable that they would cheat to amass wealth for themselves?

It is now a norm that you pay for slot to get government Jobs. A lot of people are willing to pay, yet, they complain of bad leadership. They do not know they are encouraging corruption by paying such illicit money to get their way. These very people go to churches and mosques.

If I say this in public, I should quickly get a cover for protection for fear of my life because we have all lost the sense of truth. Yet, we complain when the evil consequences of our actions fall back on the society and directly on us.

We deceive ourselves thinking that everyone else is doing the detestable and that our own misstep, wrong action, is so small that it could not affect anyone seriously.

Many parents now know about miracle centre. They tacitly and, in most cases, openly support their wards to be assisted to pass exams. They will also join the masses to complain of corruption in high places. They are well spoken when analysing the mistakes and wrong doings of all others.

There is no magic anywhere. We are all culpable in this sorry state. Let's first of all change at our own small level and we will experience miracle. It lies in our hands.

AgentOfAllah:
Wow, that's incredible dedication. I feel honoured!
Knowledge is no respecter of position, size or age, so I have no problem learning from anybody.


Yes, I have known about 'The Grail Message' since I was in high school, through my physics teacher who was (I'm not sure if he still is) a grail messenger. Although, I admit not having read the book cover to cover, I wish to respectfully decline committing myself to it at the moment; partly because I am in the middle of several books and writing a paper; but especially because I am usually deeply skeptical about any book that is advertised as a collection of "answers to questions of life and existence". Lest you wonder whence comes my skepticism: It is simply from a principle of mine in which every individual is a quantum of consciousness. We are all modulated, no doubt, by many shared external stimuli, but ultimately, the pathways that provide interpretations and meanings to our shared experiences are fundamentally unique for each individual, much like the pathways that lead to each snow flake's pattern is fundamentally unique. This, to me, means that there are as many answers to the questions of life and existence as there are people. Nevertheless, if you find any particularly interesting content of the book that you wish us to discuss, I will be happy to have such a discussion with you; without committing to the whole text.

Thanks very much sir for your response. I have nothing else to offer you more than that. Best wishes in your endeavor.

AgentOfAllah:
You're wantonly ignorant my friend.

Dear sir, (AgentofAllah) I want to make a humble request.
Well in the first place I was drawn to your moniker by your amazing command of English.

I decided to begin to read all that you have written on this forum; now, I'm on page 6, although I scanned through some, I read some in detail. I must say I really enjoy reading your responses to questions.

I mentioned your post here so that you can receive this message on time.

You have demonstrated beyond doubt that you have a PhD in physics. If you don't mind I want to humbly request that you examine a book I think provides answers to questions of life and existence.

Please don't mind that a small boy like myself makes you a request. I think that you are a seeker of true knowledge and you are an open person with an intellectual ability to investigate.

You might have come across the work 'In The Light of Truth, The Grail Message'. I would sincerely want to know your view of what the book contains. Please, if you can, study it from cover to cover and the lectures in their order of sequence.

Thank you.

ireneony:
As a Christian, do you think having sex with someone you love is a sin against God?


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Don't you think it's difficult not to have sex especially when you have blood running through your vein

I want to take your definition of Christian to mean those who adhere, or are striving to lead a life purely on the true teachings of Christ. A Christian is not to be confused with someone who goes to church or someone who reads the Bible.

How can sexual intercourse be a sin? The urge to do so is not the creation of man. The urge is placed there by our Maker. Like every other thing, it is the abuse of it that brings sin.

Physical union, sex, may occur between two souls that are spiritually harmonious and have love of the soul for each other. However great care must be taken that the intercourse is not a result of artificial stimulation by reading books or watching movies, or by sensual conversations, imaginations, over wrought nerves, passion, pressure or some other means.

Do not think that as long as you're pronounce legally married, that you can Marshall your bodies anyhow, any time; thinking you have received the licence to explore your long repressed fantasy at the height of your sexual prowess. No.

It must be a natural thing. It doesn't matter whether you at married or not. The first rule is that there must be pure love. Pure love will not entertain any thought of defilement whatsoever. It will not confuse sex with love. In fact, if you genuinely love your partner thought of sex will rarely cross your mind.

You will want to eschew all base feelings regarding someone you love. At the appropriate time the natural inclination to meet will come. It will be devoid of lustful thought at satisfying only the flesh. It will be an expression, enhancement and an exchange of vibrations leading to greater power. It is not only for making babies.

The sense of shame is given to check the abuse of this powerful instinct. It is a measure to value the worth of the inner man. This feeling of shame should not be stifled. It is man's best defence against descending to the level of an animal.

Strive to give purity to your thoughts then the urge will lose it hold on you. Do not encourage opportunities to stimulate your instinct. Occupy yourself with things that are pure and noble. Associate with friends whose presence remind you to always to live a Christ-like life.

Curiosity, they say, kills a cat.

Many of us are usually disinterested in what we already have at hand. We place so much value on that which seems distant, foreign and kind of strange, even if it worth lesser in value in comparison with that which is in our clear gaze and familiar.

We love mystery and novelty. Social media adds that sense of foreign clouds to our image. We want to know more about the other person we've not yet known. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

When chatting with someone online, it's like you are in a closed room alone together which is very tempting. And the times of these chatting are usually at delicate hours when nerves are relaxing; then, the cognition to discern is usually compromised. We gradually lose our guards and our natural defense mechanism becomes lowered.

As time goes on we become comfortable with the other person and the desiring to hear daily from him or her increases. At this point the emotions and bodily feeling are engaged. And we become fond of each other. When emotion enters logic disappears. Those who are in a committed relationship should be careful and mentally alert at all times when chatting online, because it only takes a process for cheating to take place and the process is just as simple as this.

Our innately curious trait would want to play along and to see to the where the matter will end. We feel flattered by the attention being showered online. The ease with which messages are passed across is like a pressure which is hard to resist. And where ever attention goes energy flow. We found ourselves thinking about this particular person who has been trying hook our attention online. But then it's too late.

There are rules to everything. If you want to remain faithful to your partner you need to abide strictly by those rules and especially that of the social media. Do not think that you are strong. Learn to know where the devil comes in and avoid them.

Modified....!

16. Curiosity.

When many of these grand parents were in their prime they, too, acted as we are doing today. They felt they were on top of the world.

They were brimful of life and energy, exercising their freewill with full force and youthful exuberance; forgetting that a time will come when the power they had at their command will wane.

They only excite pity at this old age, their true character never leave them. It is the same when a person falls sick. His body radiation changes such that people feel sympathy and pray for his quick healing.

As soon as he begins to show signs of betterment in his health condition he jumps up again and back to his usual life of recklessness. When we was bed-ridden, he appeared humble and sober, like someone who couldn't hurt a fly.

He would vow to God to not return to his unwholesome ways if he can receive mercy and get healed. After his recovery he very soon and often forgets his pledge to God to live a life of responsibility and consideration for his fellow men.

Such is the life which many of us are living. We only care about ourselves and, perhaps, things or people around us. The law of nature must take its course. We reap what we sow.

We should always Remember to value the time and opportunity given to us because it won't last forever. We are like a person to whom an office is given to administer, to exercise control with all powers attached to it. This offices come in varying ways to each individual.

Be it in the energy given to you now as a youth, in your place of work, as a manger in an organisation, politician, a subordinate, employer or employee, a student or lecturer, a child or parent, trader or apprentice, cleaner, teacher or pupil, caregiver, driver, etc. Be faithful in your office.

Do not abuse your body because you look beautiful today. Treat your maid servants with respect and courtesy for they, too, have a dignity of their own, and you never know what tomorrow holds for everyone.

Even being a wife or husband, a friend or neighbour, is an office that must be managed with all sense of seriousness. For, the reward on how one manages the office must come to us one day.

A time will come when you will become helpless and vulnerable, your good works will come in for you. Think always of this time. The mere death of the physical body does not cancel the retributive justice.

Let us therefore make a conscious use of our time.

Modified

Apologies...

Put God first before everything else.

Give up unreasonable expectation.

Be the first to do the right thing. Do not wait for the other person.

Trust in the power of intuition.

Love your partner as you love yourself.

Respect them as you would love to be respected.

Do not do anything that will later oppress them.

Do not let familiarity breeds contempt. Refuse the temptation to take your partner less than esteemed.

Always act in such a way as you would meet a new person for the first time.

Do not cloud the sense of individuality. Enhance the sense of separateness no matter how close.

Let the word of God be your priority, your guide, source of strength, and your ultimate standard of living.

Do not see your bodies only as an object to be marshalled for the purpose of sensual gratification.

The physical body must be equally respected like the soul, it must be seen as something inviolable and not to be lustfully exposed in order to entice.

It is a temple of a higher power. Keep it pure.

Be humble; be teachable and be willing to learn.

Always remember that whatever you sow you must reap. What you do for your neighbor you do in reality only for yourselves.

DonOms:
Lol @ window-dressing.

Perhaps, my avoidance of a lengthy discourse on the said matter made my response so concise that you easily concluded I didn't address his question though I subtly did.

Now, if you carefully read the post by Dking99 which I replied, you'd notice two main points from the bolded section:
1) he opined that there were 'negative tendencies' with being introverted.
2) He queried that those 'negative tendencies' should be curable but asked if they really are curable.

So, firstly, he asked only one question and not questions. From my previous reply, I answered that question in the last paragraph of my post.

Secondly, I believe Dking99 and you are somewhat right that we (introverts) have the propensity to exhibit characters associated with reclusive people. The neurotransmitter dopamine (controls reward and pleasure) is reacted to differently by introverts and extroverts and this (over-stimulation) may be partly responsible for our tendency to become addicted to reclusive-inclined acts. That is to say, it's possible we get 'high' easily on things like pornography and thus may get easily addicted. HOWEVER, there is no thorough scientific proof just yet to make that a fact.

Now to my stand: the fact that we MAY be inclined DOESN'T mean we will choose to perpetrate such sexual perversions. So we can't conclude introversion directly relates to sexual perversions.

Consider this:
I, for example, was chronically depressed for a period of 5 years without any cause. It took me a period of 6 months to figure out a mind-conditioning/spiritual approach to get out of the senseless depression. Did I choose to be depressed? NO. Does it mean many introverts would turn out that way? NO. So it may be an inclination, but I didn't have to choose it or not.

But consider your point on pornography and masturbation; as far as I see it, they are simply lifestyle choices at best. Some introverts have a well-balanced lifestyle so much so that they will spend 7 days in their own company and not be bored at all. If their spiritual and lifestyle choices won't favour an addiction to sexual perversions, they simply won't indulge in it.

Finally, like we all know, an idle mind is the devil's workshop. That's completely true. Therefore, for example, someone who stays indoors all day and doesn't get so engrossed in any serious activity probabilistically has more time on his hands to venture into pornography than another, if his beliefs and lifestyle (amongst other influencing factors) permits. NEVERTHELESS, it is still mostly a matter of choice when you compare it with depression or selfishness with space.

With the hope that this epistle is not another attempt to 'window-dress,' I believe I have made it clear that while some inclinations are innate, some are nothing but results of lifestyle choices and influencing factors...whether or not easily controllable.

Thank you, sir.

DonOms:
I guess this is part of what Oahray meant when he mentioned the potential problems with labelling terms.
The truth is no two individuals are the same. So the fact that one introvert exhibits those traits doesn't mean all would. More so, we are all differently influenced by social, psychological and cultural factors which in turn produce different effects on us.

There is no such thing as curing introversion. Fine, we may have a propensity to get depressed and also become selfish with our personal space but certainly, not all those things you mentioned there are peculiar to introverts due to their personality. We owe it to ourselves to improve the self and manage our personalities by creating balance as best as we can.

The questions being raised were not adequately addressed. You have succeeded in only window-dressing the thoughts of the Enquirer. If you are an introvert you will sense that there is a strong connection with introverts and tendency towards sexual perversions such as masturbation, pornography and the likes. We are not saying only introverts exhibit such but often too common among the introverts. I had wanted to ask the same thing here on this page long time ago but distracted.

Mr olarewajub, please what are your thoughts? And again, what is it like when a couple are both introverts. How has it been like?

If there is any lady here who is wiling to be a friend with a male introvert, you are welcome.

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Does the End justify the Means!

The shielding of human weaknesses through the lack of opportunity makes many appear saintly. When the opportunity now comes what happens?

MMM is said to be a community created with the aim of people helping people. When you provide help, you get help. It also states clearly that when you provide help you might lose your money. i.e you do not get reward for the help you have earlier provided, without any reason.

Yes, participants are well aware of this; in fact you must tick a box to acknowledge that you are aware of the full risk involved. However, what every new participant bears in mind is this : "Dear mmm, I know you are joking. It is a mere threat in order to absolve yourself of responsibility. You will pay me my 30% as you have been paying others before me. If you will now start getting help without rewards, quickly let me make my money first before you commence. Thank you."

The underlying motive of almost all participants is not the desire to help. Purely avarice. The system that advices that you use spare money only, knows well that you will use more money than the spare when you surprisingly get rewarded the first time with 30% .

More money will not necessarily bring about more happiness. Only love. True love for thy neighbour, will bring about peace. The rhetorical but important question we should ask ourselves is this: "what do we actually need to function and live as a human being? "

There are a lot people around us who we know genuinely need our help no matter the form. We go the extra mile to put money inside MMM. Can we actually do same for our neighbour? We, instead, make rounds of improved rehearsals and readily available excuses to justify our cynical inability to meet the needs of our dear fellow men, many of whom might have assisted us in our low times.

Ask help from those people who have made money from MMM and see how cold they act towards you. How unfeeling, how brutally callous, the sinister look, malicious smile, insincere sympathy. Now, they will encourage you to join MMM and start making cool money. Don't be too quick to sing praises thinking that they have your love at heart. It is the love of referral bonus. If people know they have nothing to gain in return for business idea about to be given you, they rather keep to themselves. There are exceptions, but that's the reality of the world we live in. The love of money is indeed the root of many evils. "Despise free lunch. What is offered for free is often dangerous": says The laws of power.

MMM uses the money of many new entrants, and the more money of old ones to shore up the promised returns. There is no vacuum in creation. I have contributed to propagating MMM. I say this to let you dear readers know that I am capable of participating. But a thought just came to me to have a rethink. If somebody I know were to ask me of help, will I be so concerned to help him as I have deployed energy to get help in my case? But people are more than willing to throw money to people they are not at all related to in the case of MMM.

Opportunity offered to many people now through more money from MMM may make them commit many excesess. Even if you think your money is no more in MMM, that you have made more than the capital, disaster is still the end. For there is no getting rounds the laws of nature. Ego, lust, pride, passion, oppression, violence, envy, jealousy, lawlessness and many more and finally misery would be the lot.

Money is a blessing and more money will certainly be of help to those who know how to use it well, and, with the fear of God.

Money is a usefully vital tool, but true joy and happy living - which we all desire and seek to have through accumulation of wealth - will only come when we love ourselves genuinely. That should be our goal. I don't think it should be more money. Money, however, ill-gotten, freely disposed and made effortlessly is more tempting of frivolous dispensation than the one gotten through honest dealings.

Does the End justify the Means!

The shielding of human weaknesses through the lack of opportunity makes many appear saintly. When the opportunity now comes what happens?

MMM is said to be a community created with the aim of people helping people. When you provide help, you get help. It also states clearly that when you provide help you might lose your money. i.e you do not get reward for the help you have earlier provided, without any reason.

Yes, participants are well aware of this; in fact you must tick a box to acknowledge that you are aware of the full risk involved. However, what every new participant bears in mind is this : "Dear mmm, I know you are joking. It is a mere threat in order to absolve yourself of responsibility. You will pay me my 30% as you have been paying others before me. If you will now start getting help without rewards, quickly let me make my money first before you commence. Thank you."

The underlying motive of almost all participants is not the desire to help. Purely avarice. The system that advices that you use spare money only, knows well that you will use more money than the spare when you surprisingly get rewarded the first time with 30% .

More money will not necessarily bring about more happiness. Only love. True love for thy neighbour, will bring about peace. The rhetorical but important question we should ask ourselves is this: "what do we actually need to function and live as a human being? "

There are a lot people around us who we know genuinely need our help no matter the form. We go the extra mile to put money inside MMM. Can we actually do same for our neighbour? We, instead, make rounds of improved rehearsals and readily available excuses to justify our cynical inability to meet the needs of our dear fellow men, many of whom might have assisted us in our low times.

Ask help from those people who have made money from MMM and see how cold they act towards you. How unfeeling, how brutally callous, the sinister look, malicious smile, insincere sympathy. Now, they will encourage you to join MMM and start making cool money. Don't be too quick to sing praises thinking that they have your love at heart. It is the love of referral bonus. If people know they have nothing to gain in return for business idea about to be given you, they rather keep to themselves. There are exceptions, but that's the reality of the world we live in. The love of money is indeed the root of many evils. "Despise free lunch. What is offered for free is often dangerous": says The laws of power.

MMM uses the money of many new entrants, and the more money of old ones to shore up the promised returns. There is no vacuum in creation. I have contributed to propagating MMM. I say this to let you dear readers know that I am capable of participating. But a thought just came to me to have a rethink. If somebody I know were to ask me of help, will I be so concerned to help him as I have deployed energy to get help in my case? But people are more than willing to throw money to people they are not at all related to in the case of MMM.

Opportunity offered to many people now through more money from MMM may make them commit many excesess. Even if you think your money is no more in MMM, that you have made more than the capital, disaster is still the end. For there is no getting rounds the laws of nature. Ego, lust, pride, passion, oppression, violence, envy, jealousy, lawlessness and many more and finally misery would be the lot.

Money is a blessing and more money will certainly be of help to those who know how to use it well, and, with the fear of God.

Money is a usefully vital tool, but true joy and happy living - which we all desire and seek to have through accumulation of wealth - will only come when we love ourselves genuinely. That should be our goal. I don't think it should be more money. Money, however, ill-gotten, freely disposed and made effortlessly is more tempting of frivolous dispensation than the one gotten through honest dealings.

Someone said and I observed too that It is hardly a lucky day for team Nigeria when this Jersey is worn. But let's keep hope alive.

benodic:
@ damesilver


for diet whether meat or vegetarian is left at the discretion of the individual according what the individual's body accepts healthwise.

for killing of animals you have to expatiate further. do you mean killing for sports or killing for food.

for occult training, it is capital no go area. you do not need occult training to grow spiritually. it is actually a hindrance on soul's journey home to God.
for alcohol, ECKist are discouraged from taking alcohol as it dulls the senses and creates a negative spiritual cloud over the individual.





i actually started but i ran out of time as i am very busy. it is a major project i will still undertake at a later date. i may even have to open a new thread for it.

OK thank you very much sir. Please, do open the new thread.

As for the meat diet, I mean the raising and killing of animals for human consumption. Some religions are proponent or say advocate of vegetarian diet due largely to the benefits it has on the human body; attributing that the livestock products we consume are the major causes of global warming, rising sea levels, green house emission, breast cancer, colon cancer, obesity, aggravation of the sexual desires, etc etc. And also incurring more karma.

What is your take on this?

Mr. Ben. Well done sir. I would like to know what Eckanker teaches on meat diet, vegetarian diet, killing of animals, occult training, alcohol, etc, and thier spiritual consequences.

I think we discussed, sometimes ago, the teachings of the grail message and you promised to reexamine the work and make an objective review of it. Could you please share with us here what your thoughts are and the spiritual findings you make of it. Thank you.

Rexhenrex:
I Am Very Confused What Should I Do?


[b]For sometime now i have been trying to hide this problem of mine,but now i can't hide it any longer because its really getting out of hand i just had to muster courage to type this because a problem shared ,they say is Half solved.

whenever i see a girl i like i would want to get her and assure my self that i will date her and eventually marry her i will also tell my friends that once i get her am not going to date any other lady.but when the lady agrees to date me after highest a month i would get tired of her and break-up with her. the longest relationship i ever had was 2months and it made me feel bitter when i heard a guy saying he is in the 3rd year now with his g.f i was just wondering how he did that. its really not funny i told my bestie bout it and she said maybe its because am an introvert and its because i don't have sex with my g.f so it gets boring for me and currently am dating a girl but am getting bored again as usually and i really love this lady but i fear i will soon break-up with her again and i don't want this to happen...pls how can i enjoy a relationship without involving sex ??

Matured minds please its really important and perhaps others might benefit from your advice also.thanks![/b]

You could have responded to the question of your age by saying you are in your late thirties or early twenties or mid sixties, etc etc. If you are really, earnestly in need of help and also have modicum of confidence in the people here, you would have responded in more matured way.

OK. For all others experiencing similar challenge, Please check if you fall into the following description. It may be that you are born in the month of September; precisely, I mean being a Virgo zodiac sign. The symbol of this star sign is VIRGIN. The male VIRGO ruled by this powerful feminine symboL, always want to be an unfettered virgin, free from emotional attachment and like to be seen as a saint, whether sex is involved or not. You can read more about that On the internet.

And you can also read extensively on schizoid personality. Let's us know what you find out. Thank you sir.

lanre316:
101 Law of Marketing - Thou shall not bad-mouth the product you intend to sell.

It's not cool to highlight the weak points of the Gionee M5 and ignore it's strong points. Every phone, including your iPad or Samsung phone have their weak and strong points.

This is one of the reasons why it would be difficult for many of us to grow, in a material and spiritual sense. When you downplay a weakness of a material, or overpraise its strength, it is the same as deception, and deception is a lack of virtue.

The same thing happens in prenuptial friendship and relationships. We assume an image that's not genuine. When all chips are down, and the true colour of our real selves come to the fore, then, a vicious cycle of regrets and Lamentations begin.

Our sense of perception is defined from our basic personality, education and inner maturity. If you feel it is cool for a bread seller to persuade you to buy a yesterday's left over bread, simply because that's what she has, so be it. Don't be surprised that it might even be that 'a day old bread' may be the desirable thing the prospective buyer wants.

Our level of thinking should go beyond immediate gains, selfish interests. Let us cultivate the habit of making people aware of the defects in a product before selling it to them. By how much have people made wealth with their cleverness?

If some people feel that it more profitable to trade the high worth of a virtue for a material benefit, they are free. The world of trading has always been known to be a fearful and a dangerous one. That's also why we have the mundane law of "buyer beware, sellers beware." The comments of the majority here is a confirmation of how base, narrow and primitive the thinking of supposedly educated fellows could oftentimes be.

I admitted that I had an 'unreasonably high' expectation of the phone. It is my fault that I did not see the phone for what it's worth. My mention of the iPad Air was to buttress my error of judgement which might have woven itself into my estimation of the new device. This shouldn't be difficult to understand.

Furthermore and, more realistic a note, I have made a comparison of the phone with others of its level, and I concluded that it would have been better if it goes for 25k. Criticism is good if it is a constructive one, but evil when it is destructive and self serving.

Well, this thread is opened in order to sell a phone; it could also serve a worthy purpose of teaching us fundamental principles of life if looked at in a different dimension.

Selling price is 32k. If interested, call: 08146472242. Akure, Nigeria.

This offer is on for a reasonable time. It expires 7days from now.

I am not selling the phone because I need money, as many people are accustomed to do. The truth is that I had an unreasonably high expectation, based on the users' review, especially from people here on Nairaland. My disappointment, however, might have stemmed from the fact that I expected subconsciously that the Gionee M5 mini gives me the intuitive feel and the elegant simplicity of an iPad Air 2 which I am using.

I bought it because I just needed an android phone for the sake of easy download, file sharing and OTG. Maybe I would save up for high-end Sammy. I like good products that are dependable, stable and premium.

Thanks.

I wish people here were more honest in their review of this phone. I would have had a reliably informed premises before making a decision to buy one, even at a princely sum of N35800. I lost hope in Nairaland guys. Well, human beings will continue to be human beings.


If the phone had gone for 22k or 25k maximum, it would be fair, even now with the enduringly weak value of the Naira. People seem enamored win the phone's battery forgetting that there are many other things expected of a highly priced phone.

We have the Tecno L8 plus, with better battery and lower price. How are they different? Is it convenient then to say the battery capacity alone justify the price of this phone?

The rear camera is not great. Display not impressive. Varying battery status charging and discharging.
The phone looks beautiful for showoff only.

I didn't plan out to buy JUST a phone; Not even at that amount. The battery capacity of a phone is ONE of the basic features to look out for BUT certainly not the ONLY thing, as a lot of people are usually quick to flaunt that quality.

And again, nobody really wants to look foolish. By revealing to their friends the disappointment they feel after getting a phone, they feel they are likely to be considered so. Hence, the reason for...

I compare it with infinix hot note (relatively reduced price), then I felt less than wise. This experience I have may differ from another person. The consolation is the HOPE that I would find something really impressive in the phone in future in order to justify and get the value for my money.

We are taught to look at the good side of every situation, and appreciate it. Just like my 'friends' who I described up there as not wanting to look foolish, I would say that the phone is not bad; After all, mine looks fashionably and amazingly stylish. Smile