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Blakjewelry:
Report him to the police first

OK. But I want try this simple means first. If it comes to worst, something more than the police may be involved. Thanks.

Mods, please help me promote this thread.

ladyF:

Did you read the post, ma'am?

spawnx:
There was a time when I just settled down and everything ground to a halt. I encouraged myself with God's promises in the Bible. I never stopped dreaming of a better tomorrow, which is an act of faith.

I kept working, content with what I had. Things eventually started to look up. It didn't happen over night that I assure you but I am much better and stronger.

It is all experience. What you are going through might just be shaping you for a brighter future.

Keep walking with God

Thanks brother.

Some people are willing hosts to all sorts of evils; if they are not evil themselves, they are the Resident Evil wearing human cloak.

This guy is driving me up the wall. I don't want to do what will put my name on the pages of newspaper for the wrong reasons.

This is where I wish I were not an introvert. We are too tender-minded that we get ridden over. Conversely, the display of our residual anger may be disproportionate to the matter of displeasure. We could take life if provoked and damn the consequences.

There's a limit to everything, including patience. It high time I got fiercer on this guy. Enough is enough.

He has promised, repeatedly, to return my phone having spent several weeks in his hands with no possibility of fixing it.

He is a known phone repairer in Akure, olukayode; and going by what he has done to me, I can say he is a personification of irresponsibility.

He's a human being with no scintilla of care, downright despicable, deserving nothing lesser than a sentence to the guillotine, crushed to the marrow, not only body but in spirit.

He does things carelessly. With mouth full of lies and empty promises, heart of stone, degenerated conscience, coldly calculating, bereft of ideas, he shamelessly
betrays a human form with no life.

He stubbornly refuses to pick calls, answering only rarely, and after several trials. He has never for once returned my calls if only to apologise for his wanton misbehaviour. He is impervious to common sense.

Two weeks ago, he told me to come to his shop to collect my phone. I was happy to hear that. On getting there, I was told he went out. He was no where to be found for almost 2 hours of waiting, till shops were closing and we were locked outside. I went back to home sad.

I regret ever meeting this kind of a "human being." He is not even worth bearing that name of honour, "human." He has descended below the level of an animal.

All I needed now is my phone. He should give me back my phone.

I don't want to involve the police in this matter. He could deny ever being given any phone since there wasn't any written account to that effect.

Dear nairaland members, Please help me. I want to approach this matter in a non-voilent manner.

I thought of sharing his name and phone number here, soliciting for your help to bombard this ingrate with calls.

Tell him in short words: "oga Yomi return Goinee m5 mini phone to the owner if you can't repair it ASAP. "
No curse, no threat.

This, I think, is a decent way to sort out this matter. It is my prayer that this works. I am doing this with no malicious intent whatsoever, but because of his attitude.

My phone is Gionee M5 mini. It has been with him since jan/feb. Thanks.

Engr. Yomi. 08039371095

germainediva:
40+
Gainfully employed
Christian
Physically fit
Good sense of humor

It would be nice to have your image uploaded on your profile.

Every male or female desiring love interests online should not make it too difficult to be visible. A picture is a way of communication. A potential romantic partner gets to know in advance, and before pursuit, whether the object of his interest worths his time of not based on the information he processes from the picture he sees. It applies to both sexes. Please let's be more open and simple.

The business of love is a noble one, why hide your identity!

To hold these things as lessons may be a barrier to realising your true self. While all these may be a true in your life experience it may not be true for others. The law of life is you are what you attract. If you are vibrating in the ray of love, love will definitely stream towards you. And what you sow is what you reap.

Here in earth good and evil dwell side by side so that we can learn lesson to grow in love. But sadly the lesson a lot learn is that of distrust, suspicion, distaste for life, ingratitude, lacking in passion, loss of empathy, all because they "feel" life is not fair.

Change your vibration and your environment will change.

leetech:
good day ladies and gents, am emmy leo 25years old..I need a lady that can be a good companion/ chat mate,share ideas,experiences etc whatsapp me 08148421758

This is a good and nice try. I hope somebody serious and sincere would respond, not all these incubi and succubi.

The real reasons are unemployment and lack of wife materials. All others are stil manageable. If a woman is truly honorable there's no price too high to pay. She's an asset and the investment in her is worth it.

The last got me because that's part of my requirements Now. I also look forward to meeting a self-made lady expectedly older in age. They are more responsible with everything because they know how uneasy it is to make money. It is those who dont work for money that demand 500k from their men before they agree to walk down the aisle.

Well, you didn't define for us who a bad and good girl is.

You wrote that a good girl will abort a pregnancy to avoid condemnation. But the supposedly bad one will keep it and carry it with courage because she knows she's ultimately responsible for it. Who then is the bad girl? Is it not high time we opened our eyes and refused to be deceived by the false appearance of wholesomeness.

Being cool, passive and gentle does not necessarily mean to be good. A hypocrite is worse than an evil doer. Just be yourself and strive to be exemplary.

Even if she's showing green light, and you proceed to ask her out again, she will still be playing hide and seek game. If you enjoy the chasing game go ahead.
It all depends on your orientation.

For example I don't cultivate friendship with the opposite sex if there's no serious business such as money or career in prospect, I go my way. What else could it be if not for romance? So I go straight to the point. There's no point building attraction first only to start toying with my emotions by which time I would be finding ways to untangle myself from her web. She might be blocking your aura from attracting a truly sincere person to yourself.

This is what many people take for granted. They keep somebody as emotional reserve just not to feel lonely while expecting the 'real' one to come along the way.

They would be calling each other bestie. It is when the illusory friendship ends in bed that eyes would become clear.

watershed means a breakthrough, a turning point in one's life. When a man gets to a point in life where things appear routine and low, it projects an image of a bleak future. At ages of 25, 27, 30, life should be moving in a sustainable series of joyful activity full of hopes and aspirations.

Many, myself included, are at a crossroad where things are seeming meaningless, uninspiring due to many reasons such as lack of money, low standard of living , average health, daunting school routine, unemployment, lack of love interests, failing governance etc.

Some would say consolingly, "wait for your time, wait for your time." But the question is: for how long? Well, I'm grateful for the gift of life. And again I am believing the creator for a mighty positive change in my life - a miracle.

I wish people here may share there experiences to encourage many despairing hearts. Has it happened that at a low point in your life, unexpected fortune came, like a windfall and made drastic changes within unbelievably short period of time?

For a long time I have been reading peoples' testimony, may the Lord change my story for good.
Please share your experience.

Gone are the days we fetch clean drinkable water from taps supplied to towns and cities by the government. Now, We are for forced to rely on alternative means like the bottled water, sachet water, borehole and the likes. Not many Nigerians could afford bottled water or sachet water. And Water from the borehole or well taken in directly may be injurious to the body because they are classified as sourced from heavy metal.

The proliferation of boreholes has its earth-related consequences.

I have just been told by a doctor to start taking in water packed in sachet or bottled ones due to my failing health. As a student this would increase my expenses. Same may go for many other Nigerians. I asked myself how reliable are these so-called pure water. Then I recalled the days we fetch water from the taps, good clean water.

I am tempted to ask What particularly is this ministry of water existing for? We need to start online evaluation of these ministries and how they are faring. Aren't we becoming too cozy with failure? We need to start focusing more now on governance than entertainment. This is my charge to the youth.

Amedak:
My girlfriend is 7 years older than me, I'm 28 and she is 35 and we plan to get married.

●She can cook
●Religious
●Beautiful
●Hardworking
●Humble
●Experienced sexually
●She looks younger than her age.

She has all the qualities I want in a woman.

What are some issues we might have to face that same age couples wouldn't?

Mature response please!

Thanks.

Prophet Muhammad (SAW) married a woman 15 years older. It is more about compatibility.

But I am interested in knowing how you guys met. Did she ask you out first or you did the wooing. Please, sir, I would like to know how it began. Thanks.

I wish to recommend Dr. Yemi Kale to vie for the presidency. As we know the president of a country wields enormous powers. We need someone who has both the competence and character to drive this nation forward. We have 'leaders' who lack all merit to lead us right; they rank low in competence, cognition, sophistication, intellectual stamina, intuition, foresight, love for humanity and physical strength.

They are good only at deceit, dishonesty, ostentation, coldness, greediness, idleness, raunchiness, lawlessness, licentiousness, politicking and bereft of all progressive ideas.

I looked at the crop of top policitians we have in Nigeria and I can't recommend any. Many are weak in body and spirit. Majority are intellectual thieves, not worthy of trust. The prime motives of many ambitious politicians is to raid the national treasure.

As it stands now, it might be difficult for someone relatively unpopular, even if known to be good only to his localized people in one corner, to enter into this race. I think this NBS (National Bureau of statistics) boss has demonstrated courage, competence and rectitude needed for this kind of job. He has been on the national radar for some time now and that's why he may be able to flex muscle with this old baba bigwigs, almost to the point of dotard.

He would definitely have his weaknesses just as everyone has. This should be the beginning for the youths to assume power. I want to encourage we the youths to stand up this time around and be advocates for the good. Our future is at stake here.

Luck hasn't smiled my way. Maybe my time has not come. Hoping and praying for the best.

Regardless of age, love still matters. May the ray of love beam upon me and those who long for it.

saabright:
what should I do to take away the pain of break up..
I and my lady parted yesterday after 5yrs of confused relationship. Am deeply in pain, what should I do to take away the pain? Am just filled with loneliness and emptiness.

Sorry for your loss, sir.

Now please dont hold back the tears. Take enough time to cry. Nothing shameful about it. We all do cry at some point in our lives. It doesn't make you less of a man. Don't try to resist it. Accept your situation right now. Resistance will reinforce persistence, creating more pain.

Then realise that with the passage of time, you will get over it. Yes.

You can call friends, too, for consolation. There's time for everything and "this too shall pass."

Jupxter:
Blood of Jesus

What happened sir?

Afrocatalyst:
Mosquitoes can be controlled no matter how infested the place seems. Never believe the lie that says it can't.

I would like to get your product for bedbug control in ososgbo.

We have tried so many control like sniper, ddforce, local spray, kerosene and salt, etc etc. Yet this bedbug infestation is talking its toll on my health. I liken bedbug to bokoharam. They are deadly.

It's a 3 bedroom flat

Thanks.

Hardebaryor:
Nothing. Just want to know which is which

Bringing a matter like this to a forum of highly opinionated persons. And you said you are not here to argue?

The reasons for all these rivlary and battle for supremacy is the fans. Wizkid Vs Daviido; messi Vs Ronaldo; Soyinka Vs Achebe; etc

Please You may seek for information as regards your question on the respective websites. The two schools are both good in Thier own rights and equally inadequate in their own rights.

Maybe you narrow down the specifics of your question if you genuinely wants answers.

Mammography. Technique:

Digital mammography of both breasts has been performed using low radiation dose.

Two standard views (mediolateral oblique and craniocaudal) were done for both breasts Findings: Both breasts are symmetrical in size and show the heterogenous fibroglandular breast pattern.

There is an area of asymmetric density in the UOQ of the right breast. A fairly oval shaped macrocalcification is seen in the LIQ of the left breast.

Two other calcifications are seen adjacent to it. A focal punctuate microcalcification is aso seen within the same quadrant.

A fairly oval shaped intermediate density mass is seen in the UOQ of the left breast. No architectural distortion, suspicious calcifications, skin thickening or nipple retraction seen.

The left axilla shows benign looking lymph nodes. Impression:

1. Asymmetric density in the UOQ of the right breast.

2. Macrocalcifications in the LIQ of the left breast.

3. Oval shaped intermediate density mass in the UOQ of the left breast : imtramammary lymph node.

4. Left reactive axillary lymphadenopathy. Conclusion: Final BIRADS Assessment is category 0 (Inconclusive) Recommend sonomammography for further evaluation.

InvertedHammer:
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Most people with Ph.D are lab rats. They cannot think beyond being employees which is why drop-outs and B.Sc holder entrepreneurs hire them or best case scenario, they end up taking teaching jobs.

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People are designed for different things. We are equipped with varying abilities. Some are inclined to function properly as employees while some do well to fashion out ideas to be executed by employees. None can function without the other. We need to rise above the ego to feel superior.

Everybody wants to known as the 'Boss'.

No need besmirching people based on their natural inclination. It is this egoic need to feel superior that we are still far behind in physical and psychic development. Know where your strength lies , be content with it and do it well.

The basis of the sturborn refusal of many to marry is selfish desires born of fear. It's unfortunate that fear rules almost everywhere.

1. Some love the attention that comes with being different.
2. The pain of heart break is excruciating to bear. They cannot bear their spouse cheating on them.
3. Some believe they are more spiritual by being single and not succumbing to the urge for sex. They want to be 'above' human level and seen as super human.
4. Some want to lead a life of reckless enjoyment and unaccountablility.

Some people want to gain attention at all cost by being radically different.

They want to be foreign. They want to gain validation by being different which every way not minding the nobility of such ways.

There are people who have died as a result of taking ordinary water, even for good reasons like quenching their thirst.

Would it be wrong then to advise a thirsty individual to take same water on account of the death of someone who did same?

Try to the see the good side of every situation. You live a useful life that way.

Someone who has contracted diseases that debarred him or her from marrying may have attracted these diseases out of careless thought forms he/she created long time ago towards leading a single unmarried life. He or she called it to life; yes, we become solely responsible for the bed we make through our thoughts.

As simple as it is, it ture. They should therefore not feign pity or victim of circumstances.

Our external reality is a manifestation of inner reality. We attract to ourselves what we desire. This is a law of creation.

Therefore we should always ask ourselves first if our desires are in alignment with the natural flow with life. What is unnatural only brings unhappiness. Only in what is natural does protection lie.

What is the purpose of life on earth?

The purpose of life is to experience; we are not here to just "enjoy" our animal indulgences as some would like to claim.

Experiencing of both joy and sorrow so that our spirit could mature and grow strong.

We are here to bear fruits of the spirit, which include love, tolerance, forgiveness.

If we examine what reasons some want to remain unmarried, we would see how very selfish, restricted, haughty, hollow, lifeless, narrow, base, ignoble, unedifying they are. Let's be honest with ourselves.

Marriage is a good institution. To marry is, however, not compulsory; but it (marriage) affords the opportunity for us to grow spiritually and mature.

I will Advise that you marry if you can, not to avoid loneliness, bear children, satisfy the society or your parents, which would again mean being selfish. But marry in order to extend the gospel of love, selfless love, nuture growth, development, etc.

Beware of the gulf of selfish desires.

amodu:
I started following you when I stumbled on your golden, explicit, rare and rich contribution to the thread on having a married woman as a friend.

Immediately took a fancy of you.

I want to be like you when I grow up, a witty writer.

I feel flattered. Thank you very much, sir, for your compliments. I'm still a small boy o (just clock 28)

Relatedly, I used to be conscious of how flowery my writings should be. Nothing wrong with improving a useful skill, as long as it remains and serves the purpose for which it is developed. But I later consider that the eloquence of my writing should not really matter. I may be dragged into unhealthy competition. There is a thin line between a healthy desire for development and vanity. The message in a write-up should be the real deal.

Be free to point out my errors, both in understanding and logic of reasoning. I am not perfect.

Thanks once again.

flowers4me:
Hello Fellow N'landers'

Do people still subscribe to the idea of "abstinence from pre-marital intimacy" in relationships, these days?

In the last couple of years i've met potential suitors who walked, soon as they learnt pre-marital intimacy won't be on offer.

I'm tired of this trend, i need to meet people of like mind...are they still out there?

Yes, ma'am. There are who go for no-sex until marriage. They may have had sex before and come to the realization that it's worth to wait until marriage. They harbour no fear or pretence of o hide anything whatever. You may be meeting this kind of people if you habour the fear of not meeting such men. It is your fears that is attracting them into your reality.

Let go of all fears. But I think sincerity is very important. If you find someone who says he's not in support of no-sex, do not be quick to dismiss such. They posses a good virtue of sincerity which is very rare. You may gently let them understand what they stand to gain by waiting and staying free of fleshy lust at this time.

If you insist on getting a man who is for no-sex until marriage, I suggest you make friends with guys here online who have the same view. Humility is our safest guild in everything. It is not a taboo to first extend hand of friendly invitation to anybody you feel comfortable with and hope to form a good bonding. Let go of pride and the fear of rejection. Remember the word sincerity.

Be open and wiling to communicate. Openness is very important. Do not restrict yourself by self-limiting rules. If someone rejects my advances I don't feel perturbed as long as my motives towards them are completely pure. It means we are not meant to be together. Anyway, I wish to have a friend who's for no-sex until marriage. Smiles.

Have a wonderful evening. Thanks.

kimbraa:
Arrant nonsense!. Keep making excuses to justify cheating. And who told you cheating doesn't impose threat on the partner that's faithful in the course of a relationship?.

I feel it is more rewarding when you have a partner who is naturally faithful out of inner maturity than have someone pretending to be faithful under the guise of false love conditioned by fear, threat, neediness, docility, material benefits, insecurity, etc.

Infidelity in relationships has been around from the beginning of times and will continue to be as long as there are human beings on earth. No lamentation will change anything. If there will be changes it is not through wining and complaning.

It appears people cannot do the right things without being monitored and threatened. That's why people make blood covenants in order to obtain emotional security. All these unhealthy practices only lead further down to painful depths of unhappiness. No joy can come from this.

First be the change you wish to see in others, become grounded in it. Do not complain but extend loving help to others, who are struggling to change, in your prayers and your exemplary way of living. That is my message.



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It is an attempt to manipulate another person that we worry so much about cheating.

Many people ponder over the rising levels of unfaithfulness in romantic relationships. Cheating, just like any other weaknesses, is a matter of 'self'. It is about personal self development, state of inner maturity, level of awareness, etc, at an individual level.

I'm not here to give suggestions on how to curb cheating. The effort to do so is a futile one from the very start and a waste of energy. Those who are attempting to do this are simply wasting their time.

If it were not possible for the high spiritual teachers endowed with supernatural powers to change any human being; why would a human being, with the same rights, attempts to do so? You have control only over yourself. Do this first. You have not done this and you want to control another human spirit of equal standing with the same gift of freedom of decision.

Ask yourself "Do I want drama or peace of mind?". You cannot, and you should not, attempt to change any human being. Do not even try to influence them or persuade them.

If you are trying to do this, covertly or openly, you are unjust trampling on the freewill of another and the consequences will be dire. This is what manifest in myriads of conflicts, bitterness, hatred, malice, murder, restlessness, etc, such as we see today. Do not forget the saying, "be the change you wan to see in another."

Through lamentation, complaining and forced control, You may think you are doing good. You may argue it with yourself. The truth is that you are only finding ways to cover your insecurity. Many men dread the the idea that another man will come over their woman, savouring all sensous pleasure they alone should be privy to. Arrrg!

In most cases their concern is rooted in selfish desires to have the exclusive rights to illusory 'enjoyment' by wanting to bridge the freewill of another person under the pretext that they are linked together by a bond. Being in a relationship is no licence to control another person.

Many who are seriously disturbed by the rising scale of infidelity are themselves not completely clean. Inwardly secure and mature people do not bother themselves about all these petty things. They leave you to experience everything without even maligning you; trusting in the knowledge that you will one-day come to the realization of your errors, sooner or later. Maybe not this earth-life.

Then, the reformed cheat, too, will now become a preacher preaching to others not to cheat, not to fornicate, not commit adultery, not to steal. But you once were and now you are awake. You now preach to others not by lamenting but by living an exemplary life. This is progress for you.

We need to accept people as they really are. Let them be who they want to be, as long as their actions is not posing visible threat to your peaceful living. Protect yourself from harm, first. Cheating is posing threat only to your insecurity. You are always free to gently walk away if you cannot tolerate it.

Let people be free. An hypocrite is worse than an evil doer. If cheating is bad, the law of nature will bring about a situation whereby they would learn their lesson. They will change on their own if they are willing to be obedient students of life. Do not worry how the law works.

Do not issue out threats to your significant other by preaching the law of karma or by insisting that you will leave them, physical violence or all sorts. It only reveals you are weak. That's why there is no happiness in many relationships today. We are insincere with ourselves. We are just too selfish. We want to dictate how karma should punish them. Jealousy is not a fruit of the spirit. It is not love either.

The basis of all these problems is that we feel empty and insecure being alone. We crave the approval of another person at all cost. We acquire properties, wealth, scholarly degrees, fame, name, legally or illegally, just to achieve significance, forgetting that all experiences good, pleasant or unpleasant are fleeting and temporal. We want to feel important an in impersonal world. We profess love just to receive love. That's why we seek romantic relationships.

True love knows no wanting. It is unconditional of whether the love is reciprocated or not. It is as it always is. Love. No neediness, no addiction, no threat.

It is love, peace, well being, happy and contented. True love will be faithful whether you eyes are there or not. Loyal and unflinching. It is a wonderful thing to be truly loving.

Let people be free to express themselves. Through experiences they will learn whether what they are doing is right or wrong. We all must certainly pay for our errors in some way at some point. If you have learnt this lesson then be faithful to your spouse without being supervised, and without constant announcement through amplifier. Maintain it quietly and genuinely.

So, do not trouble yourself again about people cheating. If your ways are clean and free of corruption, you may attract somebody who reflects your real inner self. This way you have no fear whatsoever. You are free and happy. The laws of nature will not bring to you what is incompatible with you.

Always keep in mind that your partner, no matter how 'holy' is still a human being with the capacity to make free decisions; they are liable to fall at any time and go wild to experience as they see fit. Do not hinder their development to please your own desire. Let them be. If they want to leave you, let them free to leave, and, you must not harbour any thoughts of hatred against them. That means they are not for you.

Until we reach a level where we are not perturbed by the infidelity of our partner, we are still not spiritually matured enough. We will still continue to go through the vicious cycle of pain and inner conflict. We have a lot work to do on ourselves. Peace.

hopefulLandlord:
The only way the Bible makes sense is if we conclude that god is a raving lunatic whose greatest thrill comes from human suffering. Its only when christians try to claim that "god is good" or "god loves us" that the story gets ridiculous.

This is supposedly a being that KNOWS EVERYTHING and has INFINITE POWER. Yet he stands by and watches every time a child is molested and does NOTHING to stop it. Does he strike the molester dead on the spot? No. Does he send a cop? No. Does he do ANYTHING to prevent it? No. Even though he could help the child with less than the blink of his almighty eye. Why? He can't say he didn't know. And he can't say he couldn't do anything about it, right? So he must ALLOW IT because HE LIKES IT!

The same with starving children and disease. Its entertainment for him. And even though he could change it all, with less effort than we could change the channel on our TV, he refuses to reach for the remote. Instead he'll just reach for a shotgun and blow a hole through the screen. YEE HAW!

This is one sick god we've got here. He loves human suffering so very much that he just couldn't get enough of it in this world. So he had to create a place of ETERNAL TORTURE so he could REALLY get off! And does he send people there who have done horrible things they need to be punished for? No, he forgives all of that. He only sends people who don't believe a story that says that the creator of all things is such a horrible monster that he actually created a place of ETERNAL TORTURE. If you think god is better than that you go to Hell.

Now reading the Bible what does it say Satan's big crime was? His ego. He thought he could do a better job than god. But looking at the world around us how wrong could he have been? Anybody could do a better job than this raving lunatic of a god. The christian god is just about what you could expect if the Joker from Batman had infinite power.

Well, I seem to be interested in the way you responded to the issue at hand. If you want to be content as an indicter finding faults with everything, or a seeker for truth, it all rests with you. Instead of seeking genuinely for truth, do not out of your vanity assume an air Of importance by spreading venomous bile out of your supposed knowledge.

I think the fault actually lies with those who portray God as an arbitrary Being. The being called God is not at all complex, wierd, mysterious, or irrational as depicted in numerous vain stories.

Consider a child who does not understand the language of its parent, what would become of such child? If a human creature does not understand the language of its creator, and, out of pride and arrogance, he does not wish to learn the language which is to help him navigate his journey in life, what would become of such a wilfully stubborn creature? Suffering, pain, distress and sorrow.

Our understanding of everything is based solely on our levels of inner maturity. God is simple, lucid and can be easily understood by anyone who wishes to. He does not wish anyone to suffer. Otherwise he would not be a just loving God. But how does suffering come about? Why is the omniscient God allowing all these 'evil' things to go on.

Man has been given the power to create 'forms' on his own through the gift of his freewill. This also goes with responsibility. Where there is no freedom of decision there can be no responsibility. Through vanity man has for thousand of years put form of ignoble features into creation and must reap the consequences of his decisions. The law says you reap what you sow. This may take several earth-life to completely expiate all your karmic burden.

This, Man created heaven or hell himself.

Just as a single action may bring about heavy burden of guilt, so also a simple action or thoughts of love can bring redemption. There are laws put in place operating and maintaining this creation. We, also are products of this creation and are thus subject to these laws. Nothing arbitrary. God does not concern himself with how man fares on earth.

If out of ignorance you act in contrary to the laws of nature, you must bring about a balance to it. Then you are free of the guilt. This earth is a school. Until you learn the spiritual lessons to mature your spirit, thereby cultivating the fruit of the spirit, you will always come back to go through the bitter process of learning.





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FortifiedCity:
Lalasticlala I think damesilver gave a wonderful advice.

But for her to say that she doesn't care about what people will say since we don't stay very far from each other, don't you think she might want to pacify me because of, according to her, "my kindheartedness" by being a close friend with me?

There are two ways by which we learn - learning through observation or study and learning through experience. The latter is a better teacher. You may go ahead and explore the friendship, but be ready to bear Whatever consequences that come from it.

Nothing wrong with being close to any human being unless they themselves do not want it. We are not meant to be selective in those whom we should share our love and benevolence with. The law says love thy neighbour; love all mankind even thy enemy, as long as the motivations are really pure.

However, do not be flattered by the profession of admiration towards you or by the prospect of an harmless pleasure. As regards with the story above, I perceive that the motives behind this imminent closeness may not be absolutely pure, the cloud surrounding it is ominous; it is suggestive of sexual intrigues. I suggest that such closeness be not allowed else somebody will get hurt. It may sound interesting at the beginning but the end will be sad. This is always the end result of any endeavour that is not in accord with the laws of nature; laws of morality.

The motive behind an action is the basis for judgement. As a guiding principle, I want to start to assess every of my doings as to how secretive it is. If my motives are really clean and free of blame, I should not be afraid to make it open. You may use this as a guild. Will you feel confident to allow people know everything you do both in open and in secret?