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 Family › Re: Letter To My Husband by damipaul(m): 5:18pm On Jul 27, 2011 |
my colleague don repeatedly run into my office asking if all is well. very funny. You've made my evening bro! |
| Family › Re: Letter To My Husband by damipaul(m): 4:57pm On Jul 27, 2011 |
very interesting. enjoyed it. |
| Family › Re: There Is No Perfect Relationship! by damipaul(op): 9:47am On Jul 27, 2011 |
iice:That's probably because you guys are more affected. |
| Family › Re: There Is No Perfect Relationship! by damipaul(op): 9:42am On Jul 27, 2011 |
Natasha,,:you're welcome Tasha, honoured |
| Romance › Re: Aa Gal - Knowing The Truth About A Naija Guy by damipaul(m): 9:13pm On Jul 26, 2011 |
smootheb:This indeed is a funny story. you have a right to your doubts,, we'er all humans. However, you're in the best position to know your man, i assume you've been with him long enough to know when he's not being straight forward. Following him to Nigeria to meet his family for a two day visit won't clear anything. If he's covering anything up it'll be difficult to unravel it. I'm afraid the option you have, in my opinion, is to seat the guy down probably after coming to Nigeria with him (at least to show him that you're ready to go all the way with him) and tell him your fears, tell him the story he told you about his sham marriage didn't quite go down well with you etc. You just have to take his word for it. |
| Family › Re: There Is No Perfect Relationship! by damipaul(op): 8:03pm On Jul 26, 2011 |
maclatunji: dami_paul: |
| Family › There Is No Perfect Relationship! by damipaul(op): 1:54pm On Jul 26, 2011 |
This thread is born out of the increasing cases of infidelity, especially on the part of the men that's taken over our relationships (marriages, friendships etc) I believe strongly that everything that happens in life starts from the mind. To become a doctor, one has to decide, you go through rigorous lectures and dedicate so much time to it. A lot of things happen in the process too, carry overs, lack of funds etc but with a strong determination, you arrive at the desired result. For the Singles, the first step is finding your soul mate, and yes, he/she is out there,. It's a pity that so many have met and abandoned their soul mates due to several selfish (sometimes not selfish sha) reasons. Afterwards, you decide to be with the person, help the person thru his/her several weaknesses. Using myself as an example, when i met my wife, i was a music director in the church, i was/am very good at what i do. i had a lot of female admirers. I told my girlfriend my weaknesses and together we worked towards gaining strength. I never suffered from that weakness again since i told her about it, cos she was always there with me. However, don't just concentrate on the weaknesses, concentrate on the strengths too, my wife missed that point from the start, she was going every where with me but not concerned about my improvements, somebody else could have easily done that and in a way gotten my attention (someone actually tried). It's at this stage you know weaknesses that are curses i.e ones you can't work on so that if you decide to take the relationship to another level you'll know what you're up against. For the married ones, divorce is not in our culture, Xtianity wasn't too, we should please know which one to embrace. I asked my wife recently why our parents, despite their obvious numerous errors didn't have so much breakups, divorces etc in their marriages. That even in those times, wives were posted like parcels to their husbands and we recorded few cases of separation. I learnt from her that the secret was submission. Discipline was also a factor. how many wives are submissive to their husbands these days, instead, they go about giving their husbands orders about everything. Don't be the first to throw blames, admit your mistakes and work on them then you can have the guts to talk to your husband about his. And please, until you catch your husband in immorality, don't distrust him. It's for your peace of mind. so many homes have been broken on suspicions, In conclusion, we are the ones who will and can make our relationships perfect. Everybody has a role to play, so stop the blame game. These are my views, supporting and contrary views are welcome, pls do it without insults. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: My Friend's Husband Is Cheating On Her, Do I Tell Her? by damipaul(m): 1:14pm On Jul 26, 2011 |
Richvkunt:i completely disagree with this. I am a man and i've been married for abt two years now, i strayed in my days as a youth but since i made up my mind to live with one woman and be faithful to my babe (years before marriage), I HAVE NEVER STRAYED! Temptations come plus the fact that my kind of work often takes me out of Abuja where my family is and sometimes out of the country too, my mind is made on that. All men will not cheat on their wives, that i can say with total and absolute confidence. @OP, my view is that you find a way to talk to the husband. and let him know that if he doesn't tell his wife, you will tell her. It's best your friend hears it from her husband than hearing it from somebody else and going to confront the husband. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Taxi Driver Rapes Pregnant Woman by damipaul(m): 9:22pm On Jul 21, 2011 |
what is this?!!!!!! |
| Family › Re: thank you every one......... by damipaul(m): 9:12pm On Jul 21, 2011 |
I'll start by saying, remove divorce from your mind. The mistakes have been made already, what we want is a solution. I'm sure you made vows during your wedding, live by yours; it was for better for worse, it's a pity you guys are starting on the worse. No amount of remorse can change what is on ground. The first thing you need is patience. Besides, i hope you're not the type that tie Hijab all over the house, if you are, pls change. look sexy for him. If you have a blackberry or something that you'll engage in that can make him jealous, pls engage in them. i must warn you that you'll have to do this with some caution, when he starts getting jealous, he might want to use that as an excuse to launch attacks. The point of this is that no man, no matter how he cheats will want his wife to look outside or another man wink at his wife, when he starts noticing that, some part of him comes home |
| Family › Re: please help me with this difficult situation. by damipaul(m): 8:50pm On Jul 21, 2011 |
I won't encourage you to divorce your husband. Marriage is a life time affair, that's why, for the single ladies, courting is necessary, prayers is very important too. As it is, you need to tell yourself that you will work it out no matter what happens, that's the first step, decide. Besides that, you need to work on his psyche, you've been married for ten years, you should know your husband better than any body. You know what makes him happy and what annoys him. it won't be easy, make a conscious effort at not complaining for anything and making him happy for the next 3months. Look at it as service to humanity if you have to, spice up your romance, just make sure you spoil him for the next three months, be extra nice, remember i said you have to decide to make things work. The heart of the king is the Lord's and he directs it to wherever he wants, Pray! (praying doesn't make you a fool, it makes you a wise woman). Watch his reactions after three months. Best of luck |
| Romance › Re: Who Knows Better? by damipaul(m): 8:07pm On Jul 21, 2011 |
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| Family › Re: I Need To Sparkle My Life Am In A Boring Relationship by damipaul(m): 8:05pm On Jul 21, 2011 |
Were you forced into it?! |
| Romance › Re: Motunrayo Ogbara- Ex Access Bank Staff Commits Suicide by damipaul(m): 7:58pm On Jul 20, 2011 |
I think this babe had no real friends and she obviously didn't have the very best of all friends, JESUS. it's very sad |
| Family › Re: DNA DILEMA!!! What do u advise he does? by damipaul(m): 6:59pm On Jul 19, 2011 |
I think he should do the test. if it turns out the child is not his, he should pretend as if nothing's up, meet is wife and ask her, if she denies, he should show her the results of the test, ask her why she destroyed his life, get to the root of the matter, before i continue, do they have any other issues besides the boy? |
| Family › Re: Should He Tell His Dad? by damipaul(m): 6:49pm On Jul 19, 2011 |
i think your friend needs to advise him to go and see his parents. I know the subject is worried about his self esteem. You guys need to talk him out of it |
| Family › Re: Strong Feelings For My Ex by damipaul(m): 6:45pm On Jul 19, 2011 |
madoba:seconded |
| Romance › Re: Thoughts Of Cheating On Husband. by damipaul(m): 6:38pm On Jul 19, 2011 |
harakiri:they are not all the same bro. I can boldly tell you that marriage is sweet and a blessing too |
| Family › Re: Death Of Wife And Baby by damipaul(m): 6:28pm On Jul 19, 2011 |
There's a season for everything under the sun, it's your season of mourning and i mourn with you. I have a family i love so much too, a wife that supports me in evry way and gives me counsels every time, and a boy that's God's gift to us, my heart is filled with joy any time i see him. May the Lord give u strength. My advice for you is this, besides getting something done in her name, someone suggested a donation for an orphanage, the best thing you can give to her while she's away is that you remain happy at all times. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to be sad and carry on in depression. It's difficult, when the time is right and you fall in love again, pls don't hesitate to marry. People might kick against this, but IMO it's the best thing you can do for your wife. I have a colleague in the office that lost his young wife when she gave birth to a baby girl. They had a boy before the girl. the child survived. My colleague lives a wayward life now, according to him he tries his best in taking care of the children but his life is without bearing now and to make things worse, he's vowed never to get married again, this is the third year now since he lost his wife, he's still keeping to his vow. So many people might be of the opinion that he did what he did because of his children, my question is what about him, what happens to his dreams and aspirations, the goals he'd set with his late wife etc. Life could be cruel |
| Family › Re: Urgent Advice Needed For My Marriage by damipaul(m): 6:06pm On Jul 19, 2011 |
Goldieluks:Thank God it worked for them, what if it doesn't work in her own case. I'm not trying to take sides with the man, but you make him a child when you repeat one thing over and over. This would have been easier when they were dating cos then he was out to get her hand in marriage, but it's different now, they're married! Moreso, he's an Oga of many people. She could try talking about it, but it won't change if that was how the man was brought up |
| Family › Re: Urgent Advice Needed For My Marriage by damipaul(m): 5:58pm On Jul 19, 2011 |
There's something married women, especially Nigerians, need to understand about their men. That you are sharing your family's financial responsibility doesn't necessarily mean that you have to share the house chores. If your husband is from a home where boys cook, wash, clean the house, then you're lucky but if your husband is not from such a home, you have two choices; 1. Live with it, praying and hoping he will change, stylishly taking him out to visit other families you admire (make sure you don't comment on anything you want him to see). or 2. Don't go into the marriage in the first place. If it's disturbing you this much pls get a maid to help you out. if you're scared of a female maid, get a male. Like other good people have already told u, Never compare your marriage with anothers'. WE HATE IT WHEN YOU DO! |
| Romance › Re: Office/working Class Ladies by damipaul(m): 3:40pm On Jul 19, 2011 |
some guys could really be irresponsible and annoying on this site |
| Romance › Re: Are Men Polygamous In Nature? by damipaul(m): 3:03pm On Jul 19, 2011 |
Richvkunt:This is not true |
| Romance › Re: Are Men Polygamous In Nature? by damipaul(m): 9:51pm On Jul 18, 2011 |
Wanting a woman or man is like wanting any other thing in life, the issue here should be self control. Women, in African culture, are taught to be submissive, to subject their wants etc to the approvals of their male spouses. while on the other hand men are supposed to be in control, answerable to themselves only! |
| Romance › Re: Help! by damipaul(m): 11:34pm On Jul 17, 2011 |
barlery:there's nothing you can do about not trusting her. you can't be in two places at a time. For the sake of your rest and long life remove the thoughts from your mind except you catch her in the act. Moreso, if you trust yourself, which is the first question i think you should ask yourself, be responsible for her. give her the money she's asked for if you have it. |
| Romance › Re: Thoughts Of Cheating On Husband. by damipaul(m): 11:25pm On Jul 17, 2011 |
Talkyaown:Talkyaown or whatever ur name is, your girlfriend never give you the real thing yet? (refering to the thread u started a couple of days back) |
| Romance › Re: I Just Luv 2go by damipaul(m): 11:20pm On Jul 17, 2011 |
really. tried it a while back, thought it was trash |
| Romance › Re: Thoughts Of Cheating On Husband. by damipaul(m): 7:14pm On Jul 17, 2011 |
Let's look at it this way. Our minds are Ship ports (commercial), we are the port authorities. We may not really have control over the ships that land at our shores, especially when they're on transit. We however have full authority over the ships that we will allow to stay. So many thoughts pass through our minds on a daily basis, both good and bad ones, we chose the ones we meditate upon. The ones we meditate upon, we plan to achieve. You don't have to be tired of a relationship before thoughts of cheating crawl in, you don't necessarily have to be offended by ur partner before they crawl in too, our minds stray at times. You just have to be frank with yourself and tell yourself reasons to or not to do what your mind is imagining |
| Politics › Re: Mend Threatens Fresh Attacks by damipaul(m): 8:26am On Jul 15, 2011 |
i really think it's the same crop of politicians behind Boko Haram that are behind MEND too. Because the Federal Govt has taken a bold step (JTF) against Boko Haram now, they want to create a distraction with MEND. This Country will not split! God dey |
| Romance › Re: She Doesn't Want To Give Me The Real Thing by damipaul(m): 2:12pm On Jul 14, 2011 |
Talkyaown:meeeeen i feel your pains! Besides, will you still have the same feelings for her if she eventually gives you the thing? |
| Romance › Re: She Doesn't Want To Give Me The Real Thing by damipaul(m): 10:21pm On Jul 13, 2011 |
Since you're 'coming' with the BJ why do you still need the real thing?!  |
