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TV01:
Certainly - we won't decide until Tuesday evening for Wednesday. And thanks for your well wishes.


There are lots of good people and decent folk on these here boards. Damiso, I know it's short notice, but if you are available, we'd be honoured to have you join us.


Best


TV

Awwww I am so honoured TV...Wednesday is just such a tight day for me as i am picking up the kids this week.I wish it was Thursday or Friday as I am off work those days because of half term..Me and my lil army would have just turned up to TVville with my son getting to have the first digs @lil princess .Every one keeps joking that they don't know how many wives i want to marry on his behalf

Keppy I was also about to ask what sugar mum meant

You have gotten good advice. .I know our parents can sometimes be over apprehensive about this marriage issue (my dad not soo much though ) but you can't keep your life on hold because of marriage especially when you are not in any sort of serious committed relationship.

Masters at the most is 24 months who knows wedding bells might ring midway through it..Who knows you might even meet someone at PG school

Your baby looks so much like mummy

God bless your home

Edwife moca and other igbo peeps

Pls is okprokpo just the head of dry stock fish or an assortment of ingredients used for soups?

cococandy:
Pls did anybody here go to school and work and have babies at the same time?

How did you do it?

I don't want to start what I can't finish

Cc efemenaxy
Moca
Babyosisi
Mutter

And all the mommas in the house

I think it depends on what you think you can handle at a time..Not everyone has the capacity to juggle it all and some do.I kinda agree with CFW a bit on this ..depending on what sort of qualifications you are looking to get I think you should start on it ASAP. Taking care of young children esp in the west where you might not have the luxury of live in domestic help can be so hectic then combining that with studies/work might be alot for you to handle.I am not as strong as say someone like Efe so I took two at a time (I just recently went back to work after studying).I honestly could not cope and I know I probably have done very badly on one front if I had decided to combine the three all at once.

That said some people are excellent multi taskers and so if you are you can go for it..You also need hubby to chip in ALOT with childcare and that can be a bit tricky if his work schedule is rigid or defined.If say he works 9 to 5 mon to friday you can probably look at evening classes starting like 4 so even if you take kids to the minders he can always pick them up early enough cos I personally am not a fan of children not having a defined sleep routine.

But I would advise you to start whatever qualifications you can before the kids start popping out..Its just easier.


It also depends on how many children you would want to have, if you want a small family (say 1 to 2kids) then you can defer having kids a bit but if you want to have more looking at having the kids early might be better.

I think my younger sister is older than you are (based on your posts ) and when people were trying to dissuade her not go for her masters because of marriage I was the first person to tell her to go for it.She already had professional qualifications and one of my aunties even said I was wicked as I had my first child at her age.God willing she is getting married this year and she is already more than halfway through.Its easier to concentrate when you are not putting the needs of others before yours and believe me being a mother does that to you..I won't even take a job without taking my children into consideration first.

FolarinLondon:
Channel your eeffort/prayer towards 21st century ladies.

Not holding brief for a 'lady' to slap you but by your own hands you typed 'you gave her blows and she fainted' then you packed her bags and when she came round (you people were not even scared if she had a concussion ) she knelt down and started begging you...

Seriously (and this includes her intial slap that started it all) if that was my daughter I would feel that I had failed as a parent. that failure is one that would even haunt me more than for example she not getting admission into a top tier uni.It would mean she has no respect first for herself and in turn others cos slapping you is not the way to handle cheating suspicions.

That's why my prayer was for us to raise children (note I did not say a specific gender) who have a healthy sense of self.

Yes they should. .

Children learn more by example.

FolarinLondon:
My friend, never trust women, use them and spill them out.

This is what they do in real world bro, in the next couple of years, through their propaganda, they ll turn all men(The useless ones though) to Mumu.

Guess what! In 21st century, women ll be caught red handed, cheating on her husband and the next thing you hear from all these useless and unmarrieable ladies is that the lady may be going through domestic violence or emotional negligence from her husband; they ll make an attempt to turn the blame on the husband but turn the table around, they ll tell their fellow lady to move out asap.

I don't blame them though cos some useless men have turn themselves to Mumus. You need to see what guys do so as to have ladies' attentions.

Most marriages u see today are still intact cos most of these unhappy guys have accepted their fate.

You can imagine a lady slapping guys cos she beautiful and guys ll tell her "babez, don't do that again pls, I don't like it". Chaiii!!!! Real story bro but she met her Waterloo d day she tried that stunt with me cos she found out that I was cheating, I allowed her to cook and relax on the bed before giving her a well deserved slapsss and blows and she consequently fainted for about 15mins but wasn't bothered. She woke up to see her well packed bag on the table for her unceremonious departure. She went on her kneels and started telling me how she had been spoilt by her useless exs who wouldn't say anything abt this repulsive attitude......

Father Lord Help us raise the next generation right Teach us to raise children with a healthy self esteem who are able to discern toxic and unhealthy liasons and consequently FLEE from all appearances of evil.

Ewuro4:
'It's finally here' lol

Happy St. Valentine's Day to my one and only olowoori mi ale oloshi NOBODY .... I will always love you babe.

And to my fav NLers and padis..

Naijababe
Damiso
Sheer chaircover
Greatgod
Edwife
Idowuogbo .. BADOOOO
Aisha2 ( where you dey )
Coogar
Teefee
Toonoisy
Nashville ( where in the globe you dey )
Pick'
Bellong
Freshdude
2mch iscariot
Ati bee bee lo...

Enjoy your Day with your lovely ones and don't forget 50shades is showing today

Happy valentines day to you too sis


May we all experience love today and always.

Naijababe iyalode Emirates you even remember gunners for Falentine

ladygogo:
Damiso you are a not a dutiful wife o. How can your hubby teach you how to make simple swallow?

Let me just even say the truth sef
I HATE making swallow except eba cos that one is easy and I don't like it very much..I can go without eating swallow for months so it's a special delicacy for me when I have it.those things take too much darn energy to make joor.someone be turning and turning like workout and too much of it is not even good for us sef..

Hubby just got tired of my lumpy efforts and now makes them himself most of the time but I make some mean soups so I guess the equation balanced

I do know that's Us so I am in no way saying that's how it should work in all homes.

EfemenaXY:
Your hubby taught you how to cook??!!
#feigned#
Shock...horror...
Damiso, Damiso, better modify that post of yours before a couple of NL males burst a nerve over this!

But efe how can I know how to make something that I have never made in my life? Thats why I don't get this his ' not knowing how to make egusi criteria for moral uptightness. What if the girl does not eat egusi? or they don't eat egusi in their house? Its like saying I am morally decadent cos I can't make edikaikong

I really appreciate my MIL (God rest her soul) for the way she raised my husband and intend to do same for my son.Hubby is no Gordon Ramsay but I can't intimidate him with things like cooking or housechores and if I am being honest even my father was lacking in that dept.I can confidently leave hubby and the kids for weeks and I know i won't come back home to a tsunami and the kids eating Mcdees everyday.I don't think my Dad could have coped without domestic help or relatives I guess different era, locations and dynamics.

Everyone should learn how to cook..Its a basic survival skill.

You people don't get tired of all this gender bashing threads sha una no dey tire ni

Besides not everybody eats egusi soup so how can someone not being able to cook egusi be a sign of moral decadence

Let me wind you up small my husband was the one who taught me how to make poundo yam and ground rice cos we never used to make them in my house while growing up.Till date he makes most swallows cos I am not consistent one day its fine tomorrow its lump galore..I musy be very morally decadent

The first is a healthier variant of puff puff (I will skip the icing)

Second is moi moi cake topped with sweet potato mash

Was from her blog I first heard of poundo yam from the food processor.

There is this twist of eba on there called 'ebbage' I.e very little garri and veg for those who can't do without 'swallow' but want the less carb version

My peeps on instagram abeg go and follow this page @dooneyskitchen ..gosh that page has so many fab ideas on how to make naija cuisine healthy and different (and no I am not she )
She has a blog as well..

pickabeau1:
Please demonize us

You lot can't do without us

Same way you lot can't do without us too

We are your wives, sisters, daughters, aunties, nieces, cousins, need I go on

chaircover:
They even advertise in the papers
Ive seen them in the metro
You think its easy to be the only apple of the eye of a guy who sprays £50's at parties

They are now cosmopolitan if they are advertising in the.metro Not suprising sha as there is even an online competitor promoting the 'DIY' side of the business on NL sef

bellong:
Corrected.......

crackhaus:
Being classy is an illusion created by women to make themselves appear better than other women.

I don't know what virginity has to do with having class, but if we were to set the parameters for classiness to be within the context of morality, then a virgin has more class than a non-virgin with reference only to sexual morality.

I agree with this post. .the word 'classy' is kinda subjective I can't even define it .I just think s
ome people exude it and if you ask me to say why I can't even say.And these people I speak about are not necessarily the richest or dressed in what we would term as 'classy' clothes I.e obviously expensive.
I don't think virginity is a criteria though.

bellong:
YES.... They all report to the Chief Priest..

Do you need business card of any of them?



Welcome back Ma'am

You know them No thank you. I don't want their business card pls just tell me what areas they are In so I can avoid them.

netotse:
I agree raising girls isn't easy, but still it has to be done, sey na the women go raise them?
As fathers, you set the standard for a lot of the relationships( and ideas) she has with(and about) males to a large extent, so you need to be on point.

Very true.Alot of who I am today and how I view relationships is down to my dad. I know I tend to go on and on about him( that's cos I miss him ) and believe me did he have his own faults but my sense of self came more from him than even my mum.Kinda why I can't demonise ALL Nigerian men.

Who Is reverend sister I no be reverend sister o

I enjoyed a 'working lunch/meeting' perk today
We left the office at 12 had lunch sha talked nothing really with the contractors.at half 2 my manager just said I can go home( I was dancing kukere ) and answer emails on my phone. I said chai so this is what una dey enjoy at all this una out of office meetings.To think I was rolling my eyes when I got the invite(the contractors are for a new caseload my manager added to my workload)
Na to dey sharply accept from now on

Awwww you have a lil princess TV01 God bless and keep her. May she grow in wisdom.

Enjoy the sleepless nights

Ewuro4:
Motigbo.. Jor Mabinu.





Naijababe how you dey?

Binu ke mi o binu o Na u I dey worry for sef

naijababe:
ME, I am taking some of the days off jare! I can do with the time off.

I need time off too but I would have also preferred that time off on my own ojere drop them off at school and nursery then go back home to SLEEEEP ( and watch TV )

naijababe:
Mo wa bi e wa o padi mi, I am feeling like some pounded yam. I think I will make some tonight and torture you with a pic

the newly discovered food processor version or the powder one? If na powder one you no dey torture nathing

naijababe:
I reckon if anyone has anger management issues, they should log on to NL, they will get a handle on their issues sharpally

Ewuro no dey take prisoners, no shame or blame in that

She no dey take o. I just wan give her small Omi suru ni o

How you Dey sis?

Thinking of taking a few days off next week to spend some time with the kids on half term(day outs or something) but one selfish part of me is actually thinking maybe being at work will be easier

At least I won't get to hear 'mummy' all available tones at least 100 times a day

Idowuogbo:
Ewuro is back! Lmaaaao!! Chei! Iya yi o fe gba sha.

Sis Damiso,please serve her omi suru o

Dem plenty wey need omi suru for this NL including you sometimes sef

Gbogbo yiin e sha rora(you people should take it easy)

All this insults just dey make Seun richer I be ijebu I no dey fight where money no go show
Jeje lomo eko/ijebu min lo

Ewuro4:
I'm not bothered Dami.
I don't have an ounce of negativity in my life, so much to be thankful for & Too fulfilled to permit online squabbles over my personal life.

But you won't understand. Sorry sis but had to put her in her lane and won't stop.

Ok o ... e sha ma rora

All you this nollywood scripters instead of you to just open a straightforward thread 'traditional wedding is as good as white wedding' and debate the merits (which will always be subjective by the way) you just had to add 'tales by moonlight' to make it sweeter

Oga I get your point but that your example e get a e be

baby124:
So after the first one, its not really needed for most women for the second one. The needle for the epidural is no joke at all. I will rather go natural than endure the needle.

Different people have different pregnancies and births and bodies that react differently .I guess after the first time the body is a bit accustomed to the childbirth process.

Stillfire:
10 hours?

It was actually 15 hrs

waters broke around 6pm and had the baby 9.19am the next morning (can never forget as she was born on the 19th of the 9th).Everyone kept commenting on the coincidence

baby124:
Damn. 10mins . The place had become a natural shortput after the first one. lol.

I had been having contractions at home and was almost fully dilated by the time we left home.

If not that my mum was kinda hung up on me not having an abiona (can't translate) I would have had him in the car cos I kept getting the urge to push.She kept saying'jo jeki a de hospital '(pls lets get to the hospital)

When I was asked what my birth plan was for my second baby I said one word. ..EPIDURAL.

With my first I had read all sorts of 'snazzy' natural birthing methods 'hypnobirthing' ' water birth' 'ante natal yoga' bla bla. I was so hung up on 'letting my body do what it was designed for'.I went for all kain classes and my birth plan was as long as iwe ipejo (court order).I even bought one yeye 'natural noises' cd that I was told 'calms' you down in labour.plus all kain natural oils (they never actually left my bag ) .fa fa foul dat birth plan flew out of the window and after being in labour for 10 hours I was gasping for that epidural I said I would not have Unfortunately I was too far gone to have one.

Unfortunately abi is it fortunately I also did not get one with my second cos of my now impatient son. The boy could not wait to come out.I had him 10 mins after we got to the hospital.

Ewuro4:
Take me as I am dear.

I know we are all different but life's too short for one to allow even a bit of negativity room in one's life.

Ko necessary rara.