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coogar:
that would be the public opinion.
they must have groomed her, threatened her, coerced her or forced her into it.

2 men vs 1 woman - she was abused
1 man vs 2 women - he's an oloshious fellow

Which public? That public doesn't include me o esp if the son was a minor.She would equally be an oloshious fellow esp if she was sleeping with the son while still with the father. I won't say the son was the only that was disloyal by sleeping with his dad's girlfriend

Coogar you just like arguing

The man is equally or even more disgusting than the girl because I am guessing he is older than the daughter in question.

TV01:
...my girl is dong fine thanks for asking. She's grown on me so much - she's now my official side-chick ! I may have to post pix at some point.

Anyone with a grounded character - even with a colour/tone preference will not make it a deal breaker when push comes to shove. This is about hiding behind ideology and activism to validate your angst. Vicariously copping feelings and them getting all enraged when the object does not conform to your desires.

I posted the link where I recounted how I was royally dissed for not being tall enough - make I dey form "Heightavist" as a result ni !

Short is as short does !


TV

Don't worry she is already half way to wrapping you around her fingers

Lol @ Heightavist.

While I don't get the rant on who another person decides to be with, I kinda also think I really don't have the right to tell her not to rant as I have probably not had the experiences she has had. Race issues would always be viewed differently by Africans and AA's.

coogar:
or the two women connived to lure him into their beds. poor man! seduced & manipulated to sire kids for mother & daughter.

you can imagine the outcry if a woman made babies for father & son. everyone would be saying she was sëxually abused. in the name of gender equality, i think this man is a victim of sêxual abuse.

Who would say she was s.exually abused? I would also think she was disgusting for sleeping and having babies with father and son. That's just gross.

bukatyne:
On the average,

Fairer kids are cuter (not white though)

Yeepa you are buying into the stereotype

It's not always the case. I was a very very dark kid and I was cute if I do say so myself cute looking kids depend on how they are taken care of and groomed.

There are so many cute dark skinned children.

Lighter skinned kids look more attractive though.

That's why I don't want those kain talks around my daughter so she does not start feeling something is wrong with being dark skinned.

People need to be comfortable with their own skin and looks.There are millions of women who are more attractive,more beautiful, cuter etc than I am but What can I do than accept myself warts and all?

cococandy:
exactly.

Don't mind coogar See how he conveniently forgot the man and lay the blame solely on the girl and even her mother.

coogar:
he must have thought the offer came with a bonus. buy one get one free.

If he thought that then he must be a tool(let me borrow one of your choice words ).

TV01:
...how far Dami?

One of the minor reasons I kinda wanted a second son was because my boy is so cute, I didn't think we'd be so blessed again and I figured a not so handsome man can always compensate in other ways.

We also "agreed" that if it was per chance a girl, it should look like her mum. Any girl that looks like me go suffer - no matter how light skinned .

Funnily enough, she's a stunner - yes I know, I have to say that - looks similar to her brother, and the real surprise; she's quite light skinned? Let me just call madam to make sure she keeps her out of the sun !


TV

Hi TV how's lil princess doing? Am sure she is growing so much as the weeks ago by.

I wonder how you would have pulled off the looks engineering

It does not matter to me though I think they are both beautifully and wonderfully made(like all mums think of their children monkey no fine but Im mama like am). I just think its highly insensitive to say things like ' gosh your son is so cute much Finer than his sister' or ' they should have swapped it the other way round as boy and girl' sometimes when my daughter is within hearing. We are doing all we can to build character first and everything else would follow. I never ever felt less 'finer' than lighter skinned people while growing up and bleaching or 'toning' never crossed my mind. My parents my dad especially helped with that.

Funny enough life is funny because I never thought I would be married to a lighter skinned dude the default setting used to be 'tall dark and handsome'

coogar:
he's not an oloshious fellow

so you mean the 19-year old girl is not old enough to know the guy is her mom's boyfriend? she had to open her legs for him? are we shifting the responsibility of the girl to the boyfriend? unless he had räped the girl, the fault lies with her. she should have been loyal to her mom.

They both deserve blame. She for sleeping with her mums boyfriend and the guy for sleeping with his girlfriend's daughter.

Chai see how you people have finished us darkies on this thread. take it easy on us naa.


But stillfire is correct though on how black people see lighter skinned people as ' finer' .God knows how many people I have had to shut up from saying my son is cuter than my daughter ( I don't want all those kain inferiority complex inducing talks around my child ).

Even me ,I get from supposedly educated people o ' I thought you would be lighter now that you live in the UK'

#teamdarkiesarebeautiful

That said one can't choose who another person will have a preference for. That's why it's called choice.

coogar:
damiso on fire.

Is he not an oloshious fellow ni? The girl deserves a couple of knocks but who knows he might have been grooming her since she was younger(that is if he had been seeing the mum for a while) and all he could say was 'he does not know how it happened' No the pregnancy flew on both of them ni. Mscheew

So the babies will be brothers but also uncle and nephew? And that makes the grandson grandma's stepson?

Utterly disgusting * pukes*


Daughter was wrong but abeg let's also throw some responsibility to the man who would sleep with the daughter of the woman he is seeing.SMH. Oloshious fellow.

kaboninc:
Chineke!!!!
Am coming ro re Unired Kingrom.
But am sure the PM has some expenses or slush cash somewhere. We call it Security Vote here.

Yeah he does,I think he even earns a second salary as a member of cabinet .And yeah they get to claim expenses (all members of parliament do some were even caught fiddling theirs ) But even with all that some public servants still earn more ..I am too lazy to google but I think even the head of the BBC earns over 500k a year.

kaboninc:
No nau

Am very gentle. Very gentle.

Errrr...you said some Senior Civil Servant in the UK earn more than the Prime Minister?

Yeah some of them do.. the UK prime minister earns In the region of £130 to £140k per annum (not sure of the actual figure of the top of my head)and some senior public servants earn more than that.Even some Secondary school head teachers earn up £150k per annum.

E- kisses Taryoyr

coogar:
i think it's more widely accepted when a man cheats. although i can concede it's not fair.

muslims are meant to marry the women before conjugal relations? ok....what about the thoughts before the conjugal relations? isn't that a sin already?

What thoughts? Coogar leave me joor


These are the kind of threads we will find you

kaboninc:
If I was the one, I'd leave her to her fate and face my kids. I do not like unnecessary attention, especially this messy one.

Maybe he's not interested and someone some how wants to taint Amobode's image.

He'll just keep quite and watch as the drama unfolds.

Am sure the lady in question will be fair - too much bleaching!

Sambarry....

True sha.. All's fair in love,war and politics I guess.

You sha like looking for Trouble

Ewuro4:
Ha Dami, heavy hammer they pay in raw cash to buy their rides. They live larger than life itself. They pay off 40years mortgage in less than 10. These guys are something else.

Mortgage ke?ewuro long thing. Am talking paying cash down for £1.4 million flat Not beans at all.

Very tempting sometimes sha esp when they come with their nannies and me and my kaya are still struggling with bedtime stories

TooNoisy:
I am sure the husband wants to expose both wife and Ambode. Most mid management staff in FCMB know the story. This woman was not ashamed of her actions and even showed it openly. She started moving with the wrong crowd. Divorcees and aristo women. Such a shame because they started so well.

What greed will cause ehn

Not holding brief for her at all.I am a Lagos gal so I know their type.


My point was after he exposes her what good will it do to him? If they had no children I might understand it a bit but sometimes as a parent you put the needs of your children first before acting.

That's my opinion sha.

coogar:
that is the way the cheating mom wanted it.

What if it was their cheating dad? And please don't bring polygyny anything cos Christians are not meant to have concubines. And even Muslims are meant to marry the women before conjugal relations.

Ewuro4:
In advance ke? With Tinubu and likes behind him? He's loaded jare.
My dear as long as you have connections inside don't want to name names too but a friend who was just a civil servant few years ago just got appointed to house of rep in Abj and now even bigger appointment .

only scared of security. People die like chickens there. I'm content with my diasporean frozen steak.

Let's hope 'change' will reduce civil servants hammering Senior civil servants are well paid everywhere (some here even earn more than the prime minister) but the kain hammer dem dey hammer in Naija e no get part 2

coogar:
nobody ever said it's easy.....
so what do you advise? he should start a tug-of-war with his wife & spend the remainder of his savings on a long-drawn divorce case?

sometimes, one must lose to win.



it's the gender equality era.
women have been doing this for aeons and it formed a wrong perception that only husbands cheat. the men have tagged along and they are reminding us women are as awful as men, if not worse.



if the wife had thought of this little detail, she wouldn't have let ambode ram into her like a rabid buffalo.

So the children not only have to endure a cheating mum but they also have to suffer the indignity of their dad tweeting it all over cyberspace?

coogar:
polygyny isn't illegal in nigeria.
and to have a second wife, there must be a relationship in the first place. his marital status has nothing to do with it. if there's polynadry in nigeria then the wife would be blameless too.



having more than a wife in these countries is a criminal offence. compare like for like. if clinton was nigerian during the monica lewinsky saga, do you really think it would be news?



i already took that into consideration. even if the story is true, ambode hasn't done a lot wrong here. this matter cannot dent his political ambition.

Ok o coogar


But what's up with all these bros who keep tweeting and youtubing their wives affairs? First it was the janitor now Ambode?


Why not just divorce the woman and move on with your life? Dont they realise their children will eventually use the Internet even if they are still little? Women used to endure some kain things for the sake of the children why can't these men not do the same not for the sake of the cheating woman but for the children they had together? Na wa o

coogar:
so that they can be assassinated, abi?



ambode hasn't done anything wrong here. she didn't hold the woman at gunpoint to drop her panties. it's not a rapë case.

Really!!! you do realise he is also married .

But wait he is in Nigeria so he did nothing wrong

Its like saying when Edwina Curry and John Major had an affair John Major did nothing wrong cos it was not rape.

Coogar you ehn Lets not forget we have to take this thread as 'alleged' cos we don't have the accused parties here to defend themselves.So my post was actually not saying Ambode did anything I was just telling Ewuro who he was

Ewuro4:
My dear its a very small world.

OP told me who he was... He's very loaded I'm sure.

As in over small

Yeah he is loaded Or should I say 'loaded in advance'. Make I no talk too much sha.
I now get why some of my dads friends kept trying to get me to join The Lagos state civil service back then but I just could not fit into that Alausa culture

All these names people are sharing

Gosh one needs to be careful o ,this internet age means there is no hiding place


Ewuro4 Ambode is the APC gubernatorial candidate for Lagos State. Career bureaucrat and was the accountant general/chief auditor for the Lagos state govt.

Shollypopzz:
My 'sista', it's a shade of read.

https://38.media.tumblr.com/332f2ee72ecf067db68205ed3f64f875/tumblr_nbr12wPKEe1rfduvxo1_400.gif

I was going to say but I can 'read' naa but Edwife has come to the rescue.

edwife:
It's a slang
-To insult or judge someone discreetly or indirectly
-Picking out one's flaws in a derogatory manner. Also called reading

Ok thank you for interpretation.

edwife:
Wow Shades shades and more shades....

Never a dull moment in here...

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Edwife please interprete what kind of shade, sun shades or colour shades

For every Nigerian marriage that breaks up in Diaspora there are 3 that are working..

As for the question, me I don't know o.I will be the same person that I am regardless of whether I live in Kaduna,Norway or America

bukatyne:
Nicely put @ bold

As for not fighting, sometimes the person is forced to If the spouse who owns the parent is not responsibility.

It is well.

Wisdom is needed,fighting elders is not always the wise choice.

edwife:
That's what i said on the other thread,there is no authority in that household.

True. ..I can't fight my sis in law sef not to talk of my MIL because I respect my husband too much for that.

Taryour I love the spirit of the story you shared and I think it's a great one to emulate not just for MIL or DIL relationships but even life in general.When you take the decision to love and not hate life is more peaceful.thar said life is not really an ideal place and sometimes some people are just unloveable and it's just best to leave a distance.

Sorry for digressing Back to topic I really wish I had a mother in law because I feel sad my MIL never saw Her children grow up and she never got to see her grandchildren.

However in as much as I believe in treating your MIL well and how you would treat your mum,I kinda agree with those who say it's very easy to say but hardly realistic. My mother is my mother she has spent all my life with me she might never have met my husband if not for me. She loves my husband but I am not going to kid myself into thinking she loves my husband as much as she loves me.She could transfer the love she has for me to him but to say it's natural is not being realistic . You just love your child you TRY to love your SIL/DIL because of your child.


That's why I believe (and learnt from experience) that the best person to lay boundaries is the child of the parent involved. And by laying boundaries i don't mean' total separation' or 'me and my husband/wife' alone no relatives. I love my mum to bits I speak to her almost everyday but she knows that there are now some things she can't dictate in my life without me discussing with my husband.

For me, my mum is my mum and my husband is my husband.As much as my MIL is late I don't kid myself into thinking that I can take that place, I am not his mother I am his wife and so if she was alive I would know and respect her place as his mother.But it would help if she too would not want to be mother and wife.Its however not my place to fight her or quarrel with her to fight for my 'space' it's left to my husband to let his mother know that roles are different but equally important.