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edwife:

baby124:
Bia, Username

Na wa o. Did you sit down and type all these?

I find people that even quote me and break my comments into different sentences for analysis a bit too detail oriented. And i cannot even respond to the post out of exhaustion from reading their analytical breakdown of my comment. I come here to unwind and have fun, not to lose my sight from reading comment.

Ewuro4:
Damiso, is that sold dead or touch&kill ?

naijababe:
Touch & kill wo? Where you tink say you say you dey?

coogar:
the first week of the month is always like this. 90% of them are PMSing.



i do get up for women in a crowded train. i help with their buggies on the platform too & be rest assured gentlemen like me abound everywhere. ask nicely and the seats shall be given to you.



amen!

coogar:
when osisi tagged me in the first comment, i felt embarrassed for the man - what sorta man would expose his wife with adultery? then i listened to his musings. i felt instantly sorry for him. i can understand why he did it. whether it's right or wrong to do it is very subjective.



haba, damiso!
a louis-vuitton bag carrying madam like you? just walk to any man on jubilee line to let you sit, he would quickly get up for you. this is queen elizabeth's land - use your femininity.

coogar:
this woman has no excuse. hubby is rich. the age difference wasn't that huge, it wasn't the usual case of a mail-order brides where the foreign based men go to villages to search for a partner.

the hubby is highly libidinous too - so lack of sėx wasn't the reason. he said it in the video that he begs all the time for his conjugal rights. you have to scratch your head to ponder on the reason she did it.



this dude was a pastor in nigeria.
he doesn't drink, he doesn't smoke and he doesn't womanise. you should expect his coping mechanism to be weird. this is his own way of destressing



who would remember her? who really pays attention to this kinda people anyways? if you meet the woman or the hubby on jubilee train tomorrow, would you recognise her? ese walters still got married after her minisode with pastor fat oyibo.



the children would apply for change of names when they can. i think he's fully entitled to tell his side of the story. see what a former assistant chief internal auditor of NNPC was reduced to............

coogar:
those ones in ado aren't bricks - that is local mud. my great grandma told me men used to throw it like shotput to mould the houses.

however, i agree it is red.

coogar:
no ITK can touch you na. we know you went to a red-brick school...............(in ado ekiti)

coogar:
nah, not this impostor.
only byvan holds my kryptonite, not this halfwit running amok in this thread like she did not sück her mother's brëasts.



yoruba = ijebu
igbo = arochukwu.

those 2 clans benefitted immensely from slavery.




who should have thought of the kids? the man that decided to air out his pain or the woman that gladly opened her legs to be fücked like a stray dog?

chaircover:

I will use my Beko hoover to vaccum all the ebola viruses up

coogar:
it's a village in nigeria.
they are responsible for 95% of all the slaves taken abroad in the dark era.

wonlasewonimi:
Go to billingsgate market you shall see it jo.

chaircover:
Some of these pictures must be staged
I mean who does this really?

r231:
You get winch o......
How u take know say I dey contest for Ibadan local govt

chaircover:
Did she not know that her hubby had a kid before?
Its never okay when other kids do it, but when our own kids do it we dont take it as bad
Ive been telling my son to clean the bathroom since Tuesday, he says Yes mum and twists me. . . . . I am still waiting.
I have a very mellow aunty when it comes to teenagers and she told me that all the things her househelps used to do that annoyed her back then, her kids did all the same things when they got to that age and so she doesnt get angry when teenagers do what they do.

It takes a special person and maturity and the fear of God to be a good stepmother
I dont think that the poster can cope. It will mean a total mind reset.
She doesnt understand the gravity of having a stepchild entails
The man may even have a softer spot for his daughter than the posters own kids due to guilt on his part.
Its a life time venture
She may even find herself sitting at the edge of the high table when baby momma and her hubby sit together wearing and co at the daughters wedding.
When all the hurt and bitterness passes, the ex and hubby may become friends just for the kids sake . . they have a lifetime to make up
I dont think that the poster will be able to deal with this.
Somehow I dont see this set up working
She is not mentally ready for this
Better she leaves and finds a man that she can relate with on her own level.

There is a guy at work with 2 baby momma
He is seeing another work collegue
The young girl is happy now, but when she discovers that half his wages go on child support, and so she cant go to Dubai on holiday every year, or she cant have him to herself evety weekend, she may start blowing hot and cold.

chaircover:
The guys are happy but the ladies arent
One vals day, I spent 5 hours in traffic in Ibadan .. Ibadan of all places
That wont happen this year
Everyone will sit in their houses
Some of my family members have even fled Nigeria sef

Ewuro4:
how that one take consain you?

babyosisi:
Now that I feel I know you a little better ,let me give some advice based on all you have written

I have a feeling this man is your first love and you are head over heels.
Cool but note thistle
Most ladies don't marry their first love so you may end up not marrying this man,and life will go on
Secondly,a young girl like you should have no business marrying a man with a kid especially since it is obvious it causes you great concern
At the time I got married,I wouldn't have looked at previously married man or one with a kid
Marriage in itself is no cake walk ,are you prepared to add a step child and babymama drama on top?
When you are in your prime,husbands are a dime a dozen.spare yourself all this headache and find a man without a kid,you don't sound like you can handle it
If this man is your soulmate as you claim and you marry him,that girl is also in your life
She is only 4 and she will be in his life and yours for life if you get married to her father
He will pay school fees,give pocket money,every income he gets ,a part will go to this girl for her upkeep
Can you deal with that?
He may even at some point buy her a car and will sponsor a wedding for her and her children will be your step grandchildren for life
This will be a life long relationship and in many occasions,you will deal with her mother as long as she lives.
You will see her at events involving her,birthdays etc,if you choose to go with your man.
If you cannot accept all of that,this is a perfect time to walk.
There is a special bond between a father and his daughter and you cannot break it
Let me be frank with you,rather than expect him to love her less,he may decide to get rid of you for her sake
I am older than you,I have seen that happen
Any woman coming into a marriage to alienate existing kids from their dad is a joker,unless the man is an eediot
If he loves her,when asked to choose,he will certainly choose her not you,so don't even bother competing
Not that there is a basis for you to,the love of a child is different from the love of a wife but since you seem insecure,I am laying it bare
Take that revelation to the bank

One more thing you must know
Most parents have favorites,sometimes it is obvious
That favorite may be this kid and not your child
Can you live with that?
There is a chance that girl could be the most successful of all his children and that will endear him to her,can you live with that?
Going further,there is a chance( God forbid sha) that she may be the only biological child he may have
Can you also live with that?

You must count the cost before embarking on this building or else,you may run out of raw material midway

Onegai:
Pickabeau1 and Sambarry

Please sheathe your claws.

For the past couple of days, the vitriol on Family Section has become something else. From both genders. If you cannot disagree with respect for others, maybe Mods should come and start banning people.

OP, I agree with your concerns, Nigerian society doesn't reward individuality or creativity. Trying to do things differently in Nigeria, even in the shallowest of ways, is seen as wrong. We beat, mock and scream it out of our kids, then declare we have made them happier and then wonder why our Steve Jobs, Barack Obamas, Richard Bransons, Mother Theresas, Nelson Mandelas are. Don't forget, we will then blame Western society for "oppressing us".
It's the reason I don't complain too much about Politics, all the people with different ideas are screamed down by the masses (who miraculously want change and become UK, Malaysia and other functional societies).

We tell our girls they should be strong yet submissive and kind, whilst beating our housemaids and screaming abuse at our drivers and subordinates. We tell boys to be protective yet demand respect by force and encourage violence against the next guy. Then we all go to church and loudly declare our love for God and demand blessings. Demand, not ask and wait humbly and patiently upon the Lord.

babyosisi:
The cases we have read in America haven't been more than ten
In just one LGA in Nigeria,you can easily find ten cases of men killing their wives or vice versa
There is no killing spree here so let's not blow it out of proportion
I have lived in America for years and it is not at all common
Many bad marriages end in divorce and the people move on,the psychopaths who go ahead and kill are few and far between,there is no epidemic

armyofone:
Stress is dangerous, talk to your personal physician and gym up yourself.
I wonder what naija pastors are preaching every Sunday and at prayer meetings. Instead of church, go to the gym and work that stress out.

chaircover:
Mo fe skive o but the snow dabarued it
I had 3 meetings today . . def not my fav thing.
I am thinking of being a nurse

pickabeau1:
Thank you for a post of reason
A lot of people move on but some snap both male or female

The point is actually about wilfully pushing the partner to snap

chaircover:
What kind of small yeye snow be dis
I was hoping it will snow wella so I wont have to go to work
Nansense