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EfemenaXY: Lol!

You go try upgrade am small naw, eh?



Dried fish...(sigh)

Just used up the last one I got from 'home'.

Pls don't tell me you use it for making stew?

Ok we mummies Nandos..she wants Mcdees and Bowling or a movie after with only the 'girls' mummy I don't like boys they are too rough and annoying

r231: How did I know you going to mention McDonalds
Iya Ijebu
I know a cheap hall oooo and I have some pips down Liverpool str dat does cheap ankara abi if na polo shirt wey you go customise I get link too

That's what the celebrant wants such a considerate child

EfemenaXY: See? I knew it!

I said it!! Damiso wan throw party. Oya, invites now-now...

No problem as long you don't mind Happy Meal

r231: You don start dis Ijebu business again abi
Which kain wen she is 10........haba
No need for champagne just few brandy and red bull go do the trick

Dem go allow Brandy for McDonald's

r231: Hahahahaha

That list no complete now.......e remain washing up liquid

Everywhere I go, either one yr old or 100 they give washing up liquid and salt

Yes and washing up liquid I forgot and yes table salt too..I still have that table salt in my spices cabinet sef

EfemenaXY: Lol! 'Resembling' I said
Anyway, gluttony seems to be the order of day at most of those parties.

Agreed..I.guess its just that African thing of making more than enough because trust people to always come with 'plus ones'..

My daughter is 5 in a few weeks and I am going the oyinbo route will do the full shebang by His Grace when she is 10 but its definitely not going to be a champagne party.

I know R231 is coming to abuse me

EfemenaXY: Those aren't kids parties jare.

They're for the mums and dads.

What is it with Africans and food sef? I attended one sometime ago during the hols... Was a double-two-in-one party for the 10 year old celebrant and his 6 year old sister. Proper kiddies party with bowling, video arcades, snooker tables, table soccer, test your muscle strength and even 'wack-a-monster'. My youngest son and his sister were proper stuffed with food.

It got to the point where the celebrant's dad was begging parents to go for round 3, 4, and 5.

Omo, see ladies suddenly producing bags resembling Ghana must go bags, and just packing, packing, packing Jollof rice, fried meat, chicken & chips, etc. The dessert was something else.

So the ghana must go bags were inside designer handbags interesting

bukatyne: Like I said earlier, this is just on a natural level.

I know God give spouses, kids, and of course preferences.

But again, He knows the best

He sure does

jennykadry: Hey Damiso

Hi Jenny

edwife: ,the kind of drinks i saw yesterday can served for a wedding,like you said no soft drink o.I brought two and i ended up drinking them myself with the kids.

@Damiso lol at bible.

Apparently it was distributed by the child grandma. All those other things were from numerous aunties and friends

chaircover: Bible?

Ive been to partys in Nigeria where they handed out gari, milk, maggi, salt, etc but not here.

Yes o Bible I could not get over it too.I too had never been to that kain "kids party" in my life.My husband kept saying which kain razz kids party did you carry my children to

I just don't get how adults take over kids parties if party dey hungry you then do your own birthday abi who will question you if you decide to throw your 38 year old birthday party?

RoyalRoy: Damiso you are back on.
Lol

I wanted to ask what I did o

This una spambot sef

chaircover: Na wa o!
Kids party for this end is 2 hours in Macdonalds, bowling, swimming, jewellery making and the likes. You drop the kid off and just hang aroind becasue by the time you go home its time to go pick them up again,
Abeg where is the next London Party. Do I need an invite?

No as R231 said you just need to know the celebrants sisters uncle brothers wife As I have found they even make extra party packs in the 50's not like us that calculate by RSVP

You know that yellow one I went for I went home with almost 1 week grocery shopping my husband could not get over it when we got home and were offloading our loot

Pasta, Kellogs Cornflakes, 1 litre Oil, Tomoto Puree, Bible, Towel, Tilda 1kg Basmati Rice, the party pack nko oooola la each child party pack had enough to throw another party

Like edwife said the 1 yr old was cutting cake like 8pm and caterers were still delivering ayamase, asaro and dodo gizzard by 8pm I just told my inviter that my kids sleep early and if dont leave my son will start getting cranky

I missed one in Thamesmead the kids all got Trunki Boxes amongst numerous other gifts(each trunki box is like £40) e pain me small as I subsequently had to buy something similar for lil miss when we were going away. .

Nashville: Jennykadry, how are you? Haven't been seeing lots of your posts. Good to know you are well.
To me, this topic seems a bit shallow. It's like comparing whether its better to marry a light skin lady to a dark skin lady or orobo vs lepa lady. Or better still whether it is better to marry a guy that went to Unilag vs guys from Uniben. People have preference, and somtimes we even end up marrying people that are not our stereotypes. So it all depends on the individual. I am not sure age difference is very important in determining the success of marriage.
I for example had a head start in life and finished school quite early. Most of my classmates in University were 4 years older than me and I was the youngest student in the faculty. Furthermore i was even ahead of my classmates in terms of career because I got a very good job right out of college. So I kind of matured way faster than my age. Infact the first three girlfriends I had were older than me, one as much as three years sef and she wanted to marry me by force. Even when I started dating my wife, she thought I was way older not knowing I was just two years older than her. So far we have been happy.
But I cannot imagine a man dating a girl and both of them being madly in love and they suddenly realise the age difference is less than the ideal age difference so they suddenly break up. Age and maturity are different. Anybody either male or female can marry after 25 years sef (women may be 22 years). But I would never recommend an ideal age gap because I honestly do not think there is one. I have an aunt that is married to a younger man (2 years difference) and they are quite happy. Even my parents are very close in age and they have been happily married for over 40 years. I dont think there is an ideal age difference, more like an ideal person and this varies for each individual.

My exact thoughts in more paragraphs

One of my very good male friends got married at 26 and his story was similar to yours Nashville graduated university at 21. He was over mature sef I used to tease him that he behaved like someone ten years older than his actual age.

bukatyne: It is called preference.

If God made an older man for me, the first thing He would have done is change who I am to fancy an older man. Asking me to marry an older man with my current mindset is martial sucide

I do not know God's plan for my kid and I am willing to accept in the end. But naturally, hell no!

A 30 yr old that comes to look for my 18yr old wants to be castrated.

I also know that age difference has nothing to do with martial success.

I just like them young

P.S.: If I married at 25 to a 37yr olf man (12yrs) our kid will be 2yrs when he ll be 40. The older the diff, imagine the age of hubby. @50, he will be going to PTA meeting in primary&jnr secondary when his mates are celebrating their children's matric/convocation.

If a man is to marry young and maintain such difference, them we are talking pedo.

You are right sha guess everyone has preferences. But this thing is just time and chance and God's timing for us cos it could go the other way if we are talking about children's ages and doing stuff with them..I know someone who had her first child at 37 so yeah she will be still going to secondary school PTA at 50 too when at that age some women's children have all graduated university so its not necessarily a gender biased thing.I even have a friend who is 3years older than her husband so it could even go the other way too.

Hi moca, Efe, Jenny and everyone else

Don't watch xfactor that much anymore but i love watching horrible singers think they can sing at the auditions some people are delusional.

RoyalRoy: And you believe that?

Lol

So its not true in a way sha thinking about it there is Ewuro, Ewuro1, Ewuro5, Ewuro7 etc etc so I am guessing all can't be banned for 10 yrs abi can they Royal Roy ?

Ewuro hope you are ok babes

naijababe: That is a long ban for calling someone a mad person now, abi na Seun himself she call mad ni? Make dem please temper justice with mercy o

Very Harsh 10 yr ban na wa

bukatyne: I sincerely pray not

Can I ask why it is such a taboo for you I.e the age difference?

I kinda see the obvious apprehension at a certain age I.e my 18 yr old dating a 30 yr old BUT I have come to realise that these things are not cast in stone. I have friends who married as age mates and are divorced, I have ones who married that age difference and are also divorced.I know of peers who seem happy together and also that age difference who are also happy together.

I feel the most important prayer is that they choose the right one who will complement them to be who God wants them to be and will treat them right.

mbulela: Me just wan know who get the contract for supplying bleaching cream to the palace.
The person don hammer

very lucrative contract plus Alaafin sef all join

freshdude2: She and her husband need to be sued.

Plus charged for Grevious Bodily Harm and Assault. Nonsense why she no bite the person wey slap her.Bully

Not excusing the 'other' woman (alot of women disagree with me on this that I don't know some desperate girls ) but I don't get why women attack the other woman and not their husband who is the person you have business with.

Me and you CC am actually grumpy sef at 6am I heard 'mummy I want cereal' 'daddy I want cereal' we both ignored but trust me to be the one who can't totally blank.am back in bed but sleep already broken

Piers Morgan oga o

bukatyne: I pray not

My Dad was just one and a half years older than my mum you can't always help who your child will marry.did i also add that I was born into a Muslim home(not that my husband converted me) but my parents would have definitely preferred a Muslim guy.

naijababe: Kini mo se o Dami?

Abeg where is my girl Ewuro, eh? She don abandon NL finally ni?

iya mi siacofa

I miss ewuro too I guess she decided to stay away drama gan po .i hope she is ok sha.

naijababe: Iya Mi siacofa, omo Iya alaposhe

This naijababe has signed iya mi siacofa

r231: which kain ajesara.........dat name alone command all the chicks in town

Ok o I pity you

Depends on the individuals involved.There is no right or wrong perse.

The age difference between myself and hubby is about that figure but I honestly don't remember or feel its a factor in our relationship anymore.Though it helps a bit that he is quite youthy(is that even a word abeg help me with the right adjective) dresses quite trendy and generally does not carry around that 'l am older than you' vibe.

r231: Levels

You think e easy you know how many ajesara dey don boil alaafin with e no easy to dey chop different "let me be the favourite" jazz o

olowodaddy: . Touching. You almost converted me. Is there nobody that wants to have just one kid like me out there? I'm beginning to feel like an alien. Or am an alien? if you are like me please come out and support a brother.

Of course there might be but not really in Africa sha (some people even want none).Most people who I know who have just one triec to have another but it did not come and they just accepted their Fate.

IrishKez: That's very funny ma'am.
Long life for the two kids though

Amen thank you May a God watch over all our lil ones

Oga abeg naa just one more if only to give your child a playmate. I smile when I see my daughter and her brother doing stuff together.You should have seen how he hugged her when she got back from school today

Even me that I have two I get asked everytime ' are you and your husband really really really sure you want just two kids' when I say yes they say I am not serious. My mum keeps saying ' so jack and Jill lo fe bi ' meaning ' so you just want to have jack and Jill' and she is convinced am not serious.

But I am.
Dead serious.I sincerely desire no more when I see babies I say 'awwwww so cute' carry them and hand them back to their mothers sharply before my uterus starts getting ideas