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I am too impatient for that so he will park take out the ignition key get down walk round to the passenger door and open the door..naah I would have probably been outta the car by then I generally don't see it a big deal just me sha.

But if you mean opening the door for people even I as a woman do that for everyone thats just manners.. I let elderly people through get off my seat on the train for older people pregnant women help people if I feel they are struggling etc

If we go grocery shopping together hubby carries most of the heavier bags but I would definitely carry my fair share as well it just makes it faster than for me to wait for him to carry most of the stuff cos he is the man I just like things being done as efficiently as possible.

I have always been more practical than romantic on certain issues sha so I guess if your wife is the romantic type just do it..

I think the overall point is knowing that your spouse cares about you and there are sooo many ways that can be shown which varies from couple to couple

Na wa for the man and woman both of them gats issues..kids are smart so never let kids put you against each other of course he could have warned to desist from beating the kids like animals but definitely not at that point.Later on In the day you tell her off in the privacy of your room.

Woman too so slap was the next thing na wa o

We Nigerians and slaps even nollywood makes slapping people at slightest provocation look normal until people realise you could cop a criminal conviction for assault slapping people will remain with us.

Everybody is just slapping everybody ma fo e leti (I will slap you) is one of the commonest yoruba words

To your question yep if you are the first aggressor you deserve whatver response you get.

aisha2: How do you treat your clients? VERY IMPORTANT, are you one of those who want to make all the lost money at once? Do you go an extra mile and offer them something better another agent does not or are they just representing cash to you?

I am very particular about customer service, it doesnt need to be big but the smallest thing can make me change my mind even if we were just about signing a deal.
Recently hubby and I were about using one of your colleagues, we liked the person because he seemed decent enough and focused, we were about closing even though the charges were high when we added a little change and the person added such a high cost. As mouth offering as the package he was offering was I told Hubby I am not interested and hubby most times trusts my judgement and that was it for this person even when he came down later it was too late, I understand that business is about profit making but it is not on one client in one day that you make all the money, starting off is more about getting your name out there, making clients feel you are the best out there, getting them to depend and rely on the services you provide and getting references from satisfied clients.

Look inwards and work on what needs work, the moment you start looking for diabolical forces to blame you loose it as there are so many frauds out there who will read your contenance and totally defraud you of everything you have left in the name of fighting "enemies".

Another thing is always have a plan B, if it doesnt work after sometimes, take time off and get back into work, restrategise and replan. We all have tried one business or the other and have failed but it doesnt mean life ended, you pick up lessons grow and replan, even the best of us have had challenges.

I too have failed, but I knew why I failed and it was because of my own short comings and sometimes lack of understanding not because anyone was after me. During my very bleak periods, one "Prophet" came to an office I was perching in and started to "prophecy" that someone who I wasnt particularly close to in my family was a witch and hindering my progress, and I needed to sow a seed for deliverance to break the curse. I told him to be prepared to go and prove at a court of law the allegation of witcraft against my family member knowing its a crime, others were calling me mad because they knew my state and wouldnt understand why I wouldnt just go along, and I told them I will take responsibilities for my failures and successes and blame NO ONE ELSE. This was at my lowest of the low moments oh. I had NOTHING, even feeding well was a challenge, had like 20 units of PHCN light available so I couldnt even watch TV at home had to switch off the fridge periodically.

The next month my break through came. The darkest hour is usually the closest to dawn if I had now gone to dash that man money in the name of deliverance I would have given him the glory due to God, my own faith, prayers and sense of responsibility saw me through.

Take stock, stay calm accept errors and restratigise

I agree with most of this and alot of other posters. Customer service and client loyalty are VERY VERY important people patronise from people they like and trust and sometimes you might have to make lil or no profit to build that loyalty and trust.


Don't give up hope brother It is well with you and sorrow may endure for the night but joy cometh in the morning.

Idowuogbo:

This idowu ehn I don't think I've heard she o re e in ages


Royal Roy which wan is shared again

naijababe: @ damiso, thanks sweetheart I must be floating in air now because gbogbo owo ti fe finish

Owo no go finish lagbara oloun agbara oloun gbe

aisha2: Help me see oh. Reminds me of when Tuface sang promoting virginity while he was going round getting babes pregnant all over

Lol I know we say don't shoot the messenger but abeg try and practise what you are preaching naa

Hi everyone happy Sunday and for those in the Uk happy bank holiday weekend


I saw this chart on a parenting page I follow and even though I tend to not generalise this chart is kinda spot on in describing myself and my siblings (except maybe the first born child being bossy I am not bossy ) can anyone else relate to it.

Naijababe am sure you are either on your way to naija or about to leave the cow is on its way ;DIt is well Hun just be prepared for you to fully feel the loss now being away does not kinda make it real until you land naija.kisses and hugs igbehin won a da o

aisha2: Says a man who himself made a lot of women single mothers.
Infact was he current wife not a single mother for 10 years while he was stuck in the arms of his suage mummy Patricia Leon, when Patricia lost her job and became broke he remembered Mary who by now was a top management staff of bank PHB with his 10 year old son who she raised as a SINGLE MOTHER. Rubbish

This.i had to double read to see if it was Ali baba or someone else.its like 2face preaching or saying there is single mothers epidemic cos he married Annie

Hiyaaaa people una miss me

Been swamped but it's all good.God is our strength.

Idowu nice shoes as usual

Me my weakness is jewelry and bags..I like shoes but don't indulge in them as much the other two.

We have some lovely style boards nice but that mint needed another colour to block the mint was too much..

Ehinome4hushM I agree with idowu I prefer subtler looks for white wedding but I guess tastes vary sha.Congrats in advance.

Ok ladies this chart says 50 things a lady ought to have in her wardrobe. How many can you tick?

coogar: don't blame me - i started everything quite early.



the research says it's "most women". every research i have seen on the subject says there are around 70% upwards. that's most na!



a dip in the sex drive?
that would be the day i would beg my maker to take me away from the planet.



at this rate, i might have to wait 10 years before bringing in the kids.

It's not that bad you just have to be creative or very rich to be able to afford the kids living in an entirely different wing of the house with a nanny mcphee in charge

We commoners we just have to get used to penken penken ***stop is he awake is he awake oh no" dread" bated breath thinking why does this boy have to wake up right at this minute bated breaths again praying silently go back to sleep go back to sleep somedays they are nice and just go back to sleep

..if not you hear waaan waan and na daddy himself go fly to the edge of the cot or grab the baby monitor. tell me what is a worse mood killer..

But its for a lil while and just part of the curves in a marital relationship that TV was alluding to.

coogar: damiso, this is a different case altogether.

if you have seen many of my posts, you would know i intend to be a very considerate husband. i don't even believe a woman should he troubled when her pregnancy is in the 2nd or trimester and that should extend till her healing process is complete. i am fully aware of the stress a woman would go through shortly the birth of a baby.

however, that's not the case i am talking about here. i am talking about women who can be described as asexual. they just font want sëx - the only thing making them go through it is cos of children, not because they find sex pleasurable. some women are yet to have children & sëx is a task for them - like they are doing their partners a big favour.

the other category are the women who just stopped trying after marriage or after having all their children. they stop taking care of themselves. sëx is no longer in their agenda, they use the attention they devote on the kids as an excuse to do nothing in the bedroom. why should any hubby put up with such? in the days of our forefathers, polygamy took care of such issues......now that polygamy has almost the same weight as murder, what should men do? sleep with themselves?




ishilove, read some medical articles about it now. do your research. all those fairytales the ladies in your church tell you about their orgäsms with their hubbies are bunch of lies. even eve faked her orgäsm in eden.




how do you know this?

But Coogar like has been said on this thread there are so many things that can be done to 'help' those sort of women,Also s.ex within marriage while highly important sometimes is just not that exciting cos life and reponsbility happens.Even men have said to develop a dip in s.ex drive when life issues arise.Seriously seriously the frequency(not necessarily the quality or passion) tends to dip after with kids.Thats why things like getaways and spicing it up are important to keep the spark alive cos lil kids just tend to put a spanner in your otherwise exciting s.ex life.You have to be creative and like most people have said have to probably outsource some tasks to allow the woman not be constantly fagged out

How? I thought Ed Milliband was the opposition leader and leader of the Labour Party so definitely not in 2015.

And no he is not Nigerian he is British. I remember how people were upset when Michael Adebolajo was referred to as Nigerian so this one too is British abeg.

edwife: ,unfortunately,NL family plenty.

I brought some souvenirs for some and those left out should pardon me,next time i will complete the list

Let wait for full house

I hope I am part of the 'some'

Coogar and carefreewannabe both of you are something else

Coogar I want to contribute to this thread based on personal experiences to buttress points made by others about lowering(ok not lowering but being a bit realistic about your spouse's libido) as there are various factors that could contribute to a woman's loss of libido which has also been talked about on this thread.I consider myself(shy face ) someone who has a healthy se..x drive and we were at it alot in our first year of marriage esp as we did not have a child in our first year.

But yeah we had a 3 month drought (am thinking even 4 sef ) after I had my daughter. And when I say drought I mean zilch zero nada just cuddling with a non se.xual undertone.

I actually had to undergo counselling and had to see a doctor cos it was horrible and I could not believe this was me(heck my husband could not believe this was his vixen wife ).I think I have shared on here once that I had a mild form of post natal depression after the birth of my daughter due to a lot of factors

I just lost my dad
My mum was unable to come over to help so me and hubby had to learn and do all the new born ish ourselves
I was just about 2 years in the uk most of my family and friends were in Nigeria and even though my Inlaws and church members tried they just had their own lives and so when hubby went back to work I felt alone
We were moving house
My daughter was a crying baby and had serious bouts of colic
I had a very very nasty tear that I had to have stitches with a spinal even though I had A VB

It was one of the most traumatic times in my life and my hubby was really really patient with me as he knew I was very fragile both emotionally and physically and even when I kept apologising that I was denying. Him he kept asking me to stop being silly and try to get better.That time of my life taught me that depression is very real.With time and patience(also sought medical help my GP and the NHS were fantastic I even got free prescription for KY jelly for about 6 months ) we eventually got our momentum back and our s..ex life is even much better these days.As a man you might (might not every woman had that experience) have to cope with something like that and believe me if you love your wife her wellbeing at that point will supecede your needs.Funny enough it was the exact opposite after I had my second child but then most of the issues I listed earlier had been dealt with.

So Coogar chill s..ex is very important but sometimes in some cases the libido of a shoe has legitimate and medical reasons and you just have to work and communicate with your wife to help her get momentum back.

Welcome back Edwife what did you bring back from the south of France for us o

shoefreak: *yawns**

i forgot put salt in my egusi ooo!!! Tasted like crap!!! I just add salt and nack correct Eba.


Btw: I suck at this ijebu egusi cooking. Sh*t won't just stay flowy...na siso e go dey so.

Abeg...pointers ooo!!!

Do you blend with onions? That makes it so try blending with just ata rodo(scotch bonnet) or shombo(no translation ) I like my egusi ijebu peppery and if not for the pepperless I live with It would be extra hot the way my grandma made it

SAMBARRY: You can wear any of the bags with a gown like this. Depending on your shoes tho

Nice gown

krystal101: Hope you all don't mind if I share some of my pics

I love orange..burnt orange was even part of my wedding colours.nice style board

Idowuogbo: Lmaaaaaaaaaaao! U no even talk make i manage Mcdees breakkie ni? Aunty e shanu omo ti o ni Grandpa na...

You are too posh for Mcdees .now am talking Gordon Ramsey Heston blumenthal things


Hello everyone

naijababe: Watched first 2 episodes and wasn't really feeling it jare so I fashied. I dunno about food processor for amala o, how u una want make i do am sef when amala is supposed to be on the fire when you turn it?

Ok, on starbucks I have to admit I am a sucker for Chai Tea latte, it is so yummy! When it comes to food I spare no expense o, I have been known to spend £55 on a piece of rump steak and mehn I had no regrets, it was super yummy, medium rare and juicy with the meanest black peppercorn sauce ever.



Tell them o

@ Chaircover, see as I cover face for you! You carried odo and omo to jand?! Eyin obirin yin sha

@ shoefreak, make i show u moi fasline?

I must have been so tired last night or was I bored ni slept off midway through episode 1. Don't mind me jare was just pulling idowu's legs

But seriously I hear people make iyan (them ola ola powder stuff)in the microwave how? Not really a poundo fan anyway not had it in ages so na amala(also not had in a while)dey pain me for the whole thing as that's the only morsel I can say i like .the others I can live without.

Chaircover na real Ibadan chic na them way be that carry odo and omO to london

Idowuogbo: Oya nau...Starbucks date! Posh lomo

Me I no dey do all those posh Starbucks date thing wey oyinbo dey do I be Ijebu like naijababe £5 for coffee ko jooo I no posh at all I get coffee for house make we meet for proper restaurant chop better food ewo ni coffee

Page 8 wow where do I start from ...Make I go back go read properly between did I see Mr jaybee3 giving tips on Chanel bags your wife is a lucky woman.

Idowuogbo: Stop yorubalizing the name na... its "Chanel" not "Channel".

This idowuogbo ehn I will like to meet you in real life

But shoefreak how can you not like Chanel perfumes...that's one of my standard gifts plus watch from hubby( no imagination only perfume or watch or shoes) but we Don dey old for the thing small these days it's what do you want or I put some money in your account get yourself something nice.

There are characters on dis NL I swear but naijababe I agree with idowuogbo we suppose extend that food processor things to amala... omo eko ni mi we no too dey like stress if e fit reach poundo e fit reach amala abeg try am give us feedback

between naijababe do you watch Ray Donovan? Want to commence season 2 as soon as my brood down enter bed.is it any good.?

So which earring would you wear with which dress?

cococandy: So does anyone here know about ankara accesories?
I've been using my freetime to learn some skills.

I made this these.

1)Slippers.

I like

cococandy: Damiso I had a thread like this in mind sometime ago but didn't get around to it.
Thanks once again.

Idowu nioce


Erms babes. I've got a Wild Rose shoe to give away.
Size 39
In my favorite color haha.
I loved it and ordered it but wore it few times and found out stiletto ain't my thing.
Prefer wedges and balanced heels.
It would be a waste to just let it lie around unused.

First to send a pm gets it on the condition that she's not too far away from delta state.
And your privacy is protected.

Thanks hun love the colour of the shoes

Adaobi 123 I sight you

Idowuogbo: Yes ooo...i bought one ankle boot last year I never launch am yet let me see if I still gats the pics on mi gadget I know even no how I go knack the thing yet, I'm thinking jumper dress with tights

Yup yup would look great on them esp on non lepas like me

Idowuogbo: Yep! Red goes purfecccccct with navy blue. The idea come off a complete sailor's uniform. The touch of red oozes sexiness.

Sure does I used to be scared of wearing red lipstick cos am dark skinned but just had to try different shades till I got it right. Ruby woo from mac (which is everyone's reference point) did not work for me.

Idowuogbo: This would work with the pants but you'll defo need something else to balance your outfit. Jewellery to match *thinking* Oh yea I know, have you got any boyfriend style watch?

Yup some jewellery would balance the outfit but not too in your face. A steel watch in silver preferably.and just earrings no necklace maybe something like this.

Idowuogbo: Tenk q....

Got my eyes on their new season ankle boots. Need to stock up mehn....Dearest go curse me tire but he dey gbadun d hotness ooo

Actually need to get a new pair of ankle boots for everyday/work wear will have a look. Winter don dey come small small o. I actually like autumn/winter fashion but one has to make an effort to still appear stylish there Is the tendency to just want to throw on a sweater LOL.


No mind awon dearest won yi jare dem dey gbadun the hotness but them go dey moan ' you like buying too much'