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Coogar and all this your theories we gain an hour so quickly before I go to bed:

Going by this your theory of something being missing which the other party needs to find outside e.g weight gain leading to lower intimate drive

So does this apply if I marry a guy financially comfortable (not bill gates rich but comfortable)2/3 vacations a year nice house nice cars, designer clothes etc.Something happens where we can't afford these things anymore as he is the chief earner am I also ok to look outside for what he is no longer able to give me I.e. material comfort?

I just had to laugh at this story

Is Mrs Jegede also going her clone herself to replace all the curvy female students that her husband might be lecturing

UKBA is very lax when people are leaving Britain if only they apply 1/100th of the zeal they employ at the point of entry this might have been prevented.this is an obviously elderly woman with a toddler so no immigration officer thought of asking to see a parental consent letter?

Temmy needs to contact the Foreign office ASAP.

Idowuogbo:
My Ebony Aunty, ese gan oooo....mo jaye ori mi da da lo'jo na. Did a makeup haul with my lil cousy and finished the night with erepa toh badt! As per our Starbucks date, u sef pick date na....let me sef come chop awoof for ya side.

I go get back to you through other channels

I don't get how we humans reason so if this child had been aborted how would there have been a child to kidnap now.

Awww happy belated birthday idowuogbo hope you had a great day..I Neva forget our Starbucks date o

cococandy:
No. Mbaise is just close to owerri. But quite different

Okay.

coogar:
there's no tribe in nigeria that is jazz-free. i am not perturbed at all concerning jazz. stinginess & being prudent go hand in hand. it's mostly an individualistic trait.

what is more disturbing is the role they were alleged to have played during the trans-atlantic slave trade. the ijebus had the first contact with the europeans among the yoruba people so they benefitted immensely & even frustrated the other yoruba clans from making profit.

legend has it that the ijebus introduced their own tax before allowing the ijeshas, ondos, ekitis & ibadan slave merchants to ferry their slaves through ijebu land & this ate into their profit. personally, i think this is their major beef with the ijebus.

I don't doubt that part of history but that was a long time ago and not a time where most tribes don't come out smelling of roses.As you said all the other sub groups had slave merchants as well and I guess the capitalists in them made them take advantage of that fact.Not nice but it's in the past and most people who have issues with them seem to be from the jazz and being stingy issues.Also I forgot to add earlier there is this notion (hence why some people say I can even stand the men ) that ijebu women are domineering as wives, mothers, mother in laws etc.Not saying that might not be true of SOME ijebu women but it's a stereotype that is further fuelled by some of these women being very financially independent.

Stereotypes are just what they are pre conceived notions about a set of people and I think it's just best to deal with people on an individual level.I know owerri ladies, (cococandy is mbaise owerri?)Benin or edo women etc too have to deal with those stereotypes as well so like I said deal with the Individual based on their own behaviour.

SisiKill1:
Rotflmao! True Dat!!!!

Those peeps like the good things of life and I have never been able to reconcile it with the stingy stereotype.My ijebu side of the family is far 'posher' than my lagos side.

coogar:
i included that bit in my first comment. the other tribes are envious of the ijebus' wealth & exposure but they swear there are "other issues".......

Issues like jazz and being stingy

The jazz bit like TV said is less common these days with more and exposure.As for stingy they are just very good money managers and tend to be quite strict with budgeting.I see that alot in my mum and my husband and they rarely ever fall into financial difficulties. They don't spend impulsively and I have one kain confidence that my hubby always has something somewhere no matter how much he says he is skint. Despite that you can't find people who like the finer things of life as much as them.

coogar:
don't send your lawyers.....
i said "according to what i researched/gathered from people." what i said wasn't my opinion - i am just recanting what people generally think of ijebu folks.

Its all beef and hating joor funny enough I am not fully ijebu but I loved my ijebu side so much that I married one

cococandy:
Ijebu women sound so much like mbaise women.
Going by what you and coogar are saying.
I believe both of you.

Wonderful creatures but brutal when crossed.

Yes they are..I don't know about the brutual when crossed o but really who won't be brutual when you have built a home with all you have and then the man (mostly the muslim part openly and the 'christians' codedly) goes and marries one sugar cane legged gal as second wife

Am all for openess in marriage but there is a reason why the older generation ijebu women acquired properties(thus becoming landladies coogar ) in their names and that of their children.

coogar:
of course - the reality is more in line average widows to widowers. it's only in ijebu that the life expectancy of men is the lowest in the entire country. ijebu men must be strictly soldiers, miners or ebola-carriers to be dying in such appalling numbers.

Why are you maligning my people like this naa?

Ijebu women are the best wives you can ever get. Hardworking, fiercely loyal, industrious (a real asset to your family finances she can double your family income as they are often entrepreneurial), caring,accomodating (she won't chase your family away ), classy, educated, etc etc
I know I am biased but pls don't buy into rhis stereotype coogar is spreading.

Eeeso omo alaare

coogar:
from what i have been able do gather through extensive research, i think the other clans in yoruba are just envious of the ijebus first & foremost. they are the richest in yoruba, the most enlightened & they had first hand transaction with the white men back in the days.
another angle to it is - they benefitted immensely during the slave trade era. they set their own toll-gate and they were ruthless in taxing any slaveowner taking slaves to lagos port. all slaveowners must pass through ijebu to get to lagos back in the days.
the other accusations are stinginess, occultism, jujuism & the myth that their women are a poisoned chalice. their men have no issues at all(apart from love of money, stinginess, etc) according to my research but their women are a double-edged sword.
an ijebu woman is ready to push a newspaper vendor to the senate through her vast connections but if he betrays her via infidelity, womanising or having a love-child outside the marriage, the punishment is death!
believe it or not, this bit seems true. the ratio of ijebu landlords to ijebu landladies is about 1 to 20. so you are in safe hands marrying an ijebu chic provided all the terms agreed before the marriage are respected. if you default, you have bought yourself a first class ticket to lucifer.

Coogaaaar be expecting words from my lawyers. This is defamation of character.

OP don't mind coogar o there are ijebu landladies because ijebu women are very industrious and buy and own properties in their own names as well..

r231:
Chinwe the wicked niece

Salt and pepper

Beautiful sisters

Sherikoko goes to school

Upside down

Blood of a virgin

Taste and see

My only son

White hunters

Ngozi the hunter(na story book?)

The virgin man in my village,1,2,3,4 and final part

Magic pen

Coconut head

Chinwe the wicked niece

EfemenaXY:
Happy celebrations Damiso! But I thought you'd given up on meats?
@Ladies in the house, let's talk about hair products for natural hair. Been looking online of recent and watching Youtube videos on how best to care for our natural kinks without the need for excessive combing, especially when the hair's dry. Must say I've learnt a lot...
So who are the au-naturals in the house?

I am trying Efe but sallah meat is an exception. I can't explain it but I don't know why any other meat cooked at other occasions don't taste that way.

So you are a naturalista? Was thinking of going natural as I don't relax my hair that much as it is (2-3 times a year max) but my naturalista friends ehn gosh those chics act obsessed. They are always talking about hair, hair products big chop deep condition bla bla avocado is not even food with these chics anymore always on YouTube instagram when they are together it's like a cult .One of them is a product junkie she has spent a small fortune since she decided to go natural.Once someone says this is good she goes and buys it till someone else recommends something else next week.

I hope I don't turn out that way if I eventually decide to go natural

Richiy:
Are they going to be eating from the same plate

Was going to ask the same. Eat together if they must ( I know loads of couples who have to) but their own plates of food so she can have her hot food and he is cold food.Problem solved.

Happy Eid Adha To All muslim brothers and sisters.

I miss Sallah Meat chai.Nothing tastes like fried eran ileya (I know we dey wan go Mediterranean diet but my own no reach eran ileya)

Naijababe you get any? I don't mind paying courier charges from Abz to London town.My sister was just posting pictures on BB to wind me up

moca: Anytime i see shoefreak, i will remember idowuogwu
R u two twins?
Highly rasmanic

Howdy my dear?

What is rasmanic @ moca

naijababe post=/ :Dpost/26831054:
Ara oko isale eko Remember, you want the asparagus al-dente

I no deny am Thank God for Ramsays Kitchen Nightmares, Masterchef, Food Network and the likes I for no know wetin be al-dente sef.

Chillisauce post=/post/26829186:
I don't check these prices. Once I see Orange fish ( salmon) I just throw in the cart . I dont even know the categories as earlier mentioned by armyofone. fish is fish. Taste same to me.

Me sef I no know o I do know they get salmon in Scotland and I like it smoked

naijababe post=/post/26817212:
Babe after my heart, try it wrapped in sauteed asparagus in garlic butter. Yummy!!!

Will do.i just started eating asparagus and the likes too

r231: Trust me it does make any difference from what you get at Lobo fish down the road.......just cus I want to save £2 I will start walking around cold room at 5am.....

LOOL like I said earlier I am too lazy when it comes to things like that.when she said you will meet me at Billingsgate for 5am I pause 5am ke me I dey wake up early everyday go come wake up early on Saturday again for fish wey I fit get anywhere.. I still dey think am sha.As for Spitalfields sef based on what you showed me that day I can't seem to see the difference with anywhere else sef why I go con dey stress myself dey wake up early.My SIL like wahala she dey consult mysupermarket.co.uk before she go shopping

chaircover: Its because you cant pretend horse meat is fish but you can pretend horse meat is beef

I guess becasue its more dangerous and harder to fish than it is to breed livestock

Salmon is very expensive anyway . . Sometimes the big stores do a special offers and you can get a whole fish for about £13

Do you go to Billingsgate? I havent been for years so dont know whether its still a very good market, but if it is you can get fish at decent prices there.

Snail & lean turkey without the skin & chicken without the skin is also healthy

True Hubby finally went off beef after the horse meat scandal

I don't o.I am very lazy when it comes to things like that.My SIL does and she leaves home sometimes 5am and gets all sorts and freezes them.She keeps asking me to come along so we can split some of the boxes so I am contemplating doing that as we tend to eat fish more these days.

My SIL likes wahala she goes to billingsgate goes to spitalfields for tatase(bell peppers) tomato spinach okra borough market etc etc I ask her abeg who is eating all this food sef it's just 4 of you(one person is in uni sef so more like 3 people) but she says it's cheaper to bulk buy and freeze.

armyofone: Salmon mention brought me in so how is the price like there @ Damiso, I mean the wild Alaskan or Socket eye salmon? I spend 25 to 30 for 4/5 filets.
I don't eat farmed salmon for security reason.

Depends on where you buy sometimes you can get the whole fish for £22 depending on weight and sometimes I just buy fillets from Morrissons( I like their fishmongers).I am not loyal to any shop though and often buy where I can get good deals but I guess what we buy here is farmed and mostly from Scotland.I was never really a fan of salmon but recently started getting converted.I even prefer it smoked.

Chillisauce: you are missing my dear

***singing, l'escargot...l'escargot....mon cher l'escargot***

i love it well garnished. See food is the bomb.

It really is.Looks lush. I looooove sea food.I like meat but I think I can actually live on just seafood and veg.My husband rarely eats meat and so we tend to eat more seafood these days cos of him.But chilli have you noticed its actually more expensive than eating meat? Our grocery bill don almost double since we replaced chickem with salmon

anumide: knock knock. 'm new around here, and i feel kinda left out. hw e dey go?

Welcome..introduce yaself

cococandy: Story time...
When I was in school there was this man I met at friend's wedding. Mr B.
He started asking me out seriously and trying his best to drive down from ph to owerri to come and pay me surprise visits at school.
Many of my hostel mates then knew him because he would come without informing me and if I wasn't around,he would wait outside the gate until I come back. Sometimes he would go if I came back late and then my friends would tell me ''that man been come again o. Ha''
One day he opened up and told me his pastor saw my picture on his phone and told him I was the one God revealed to him as his (Mr B's) wife.
Kept putting pressure on me to give him my parents' contact so that he'll make his 'noble' intentions known to them.
All that 'apparent' seriousness was to make me feel his a good guy with good intentions and make relax around him enough to open my legs.
As an asideI've even heard of guys going as far as introductory marriage rights to get into the pants of a very strict principled lady and disappear once their mission is accomplished. So don't think every single girl dating a married man knows he's married)
Continues..
Until one evening I received a message 'leave my husband alone. Go and find your own. Husband snatcher # **unprintable names**'
I was surprised no be small. So I called the number and confirmed truly that that was his wife. Mr B would travel all the way from ph to owerri to woo me and form Mr romantic while denying his wife at home.
The sad thing was that after trying to convince madam B that I didn't have anything to do with her husband like she thought and didn't even know he was married,she still saw me as the enemy while ignoring the fact that the onus of protecting their marriage rested on both of them and not me the single girl outside.
Well I tried to make her see that I was on her side but she was blinded by stupidity.
Kept saying she knew how her husband uses ladies and dumps them that it would soon be by turn to be dumped and her loving husband would soon go back to her.
That I should not think I've won as I'll be dumped like a piece of rag and he'll be with her the madam(main chick )
................................................................
That's the mindset some women have when their husbands cheat on them. It's always the fault of the girl outside. She seduced him. She charmed him. She did this or did that. Forgetting that the man made the first move of betraying his marriage by looking outside to start with. A man who's determined to cheat will cheat. Even if all the single girls outide reject his advances he'll do it with a married woman. The cheater is the only constant in that equation. He's the one that needs to be changed if a different result is desired.
I'm not saying this because I think women don't cheat. I'm saying it because it is women who are more unrealistic when cheated on.
That's what I like about men sha. Cheat on him and he sees the problem which is you.
But cheat on some women and they'll leave their problem(the man) and face the girl outside.

That 'side chick' 'main chick' rubbish irritated the heck out of me even as a young impressionable teenager.I too don't get why the other woman is the person woman tend to fight and not the man who is their husband i don't get it.I hardly hear men calling the other man to 'warn' or threaten them when their wives cheat. Even if they call him its to tell him you can have her

That said I also agree that single people could have principles and say i dont date married people.My mum said when she was in university it was a taboo to date married men people that did it were doing it on the down low and could not even tell people they had a sugar daddy. Fast forward to my days it was a thing of pride (to some sha) to date aristos and be seen as a 'big girl'.I even knew someone who used to say 'every girl needs an aristo' SMH.Funny enough she had a boyfriend who she is now happily married to and based on the fact that the boy is good (proper nerd and still is)I don't think any karma anything has caught up with her.. Life sha.

ileobatojo: LMBO @ all the people claiming their questions were just 'innocent'. Do we look like infants?
No need giving sanctimonious speeches when you were deliberately looking for trouble.
Off to work! I'm hoping this 'gaggle' saga would have been resolved upon my return.

Was this question for me?Did you even read any of my posts on this thread before asking for my reason for the question on neo natal nurses? I have not modified any of my previous posts on this thread but please go back and read them to see whether my opinions(I was not even debating with anyone until Efe quoted me) were not on the premise of abuse on young kids not being only s.exual.

r231: wen pako girl wan form

cococandy: Oh you don't know?
There's ebola in lagos
So I'm moving to nigeria.
Will be back when it is over

EfemenaXY: You know, you really should learn to let sleeping dogs lie, Damiso.
You know me well enough, are intelligent enough to have read between the lines of my response(s) that I wasn't willing to continue this conversation further. I have no qualms having a healthy debate with you - which we have done in the past. But when you choose to let someone like our dear fanatical TV01 push and prod you into a fight, then learn to stand your ground when the shyte hits the fan.
Since you insist on calling me out, I can't be held responsible if you get injured with whatever ensures, Damiso.
Please. Please, don't insult my intelligence!
There was nothing "innocent" about your question. If it was indeed that innocent, you would have asked/insisted upon a response from me, and not AFTER that f.f00l chose to prod you on. You say you don't like rofo-rofo. How do you know I wasn't trying to avoid that happening with you, assuming I did see the question and chose to ignore it? I think you like rofo-rofo, hence your trying to jump on Efe's neck after TV01 had prodded you on, thinking you were onto a winning streak.
If not, then what was it? Payback? Revenge? You really think if I wanted to have it out with you, I couldn't have?
Has it occurred to you that perhaps, I respected you enough to leave it at that, and give the impression that you had one over me, by giving you the last say?
But now you wanna play peace keeper?
Seriously?
You and only you can question your maternal instincts! If my questions to you made you feel that way, then perhaps you should search deep within your soul and admit to yourself what your true feeling are about this issue, rather than trying to tangle yourself up with Efe in a fight.
I think it was your intention. Don't give me that. I ain't buying it.
Re: the bolded, no. I don't know.
For the last time, Damiso. Leave it.

Shuo why would I want to tangle you in a fight?.for having a differring opinion? .I am on mobile at the moment and I am not too good at quoting line by line but you were the one who actually started asking me questions about ALL male nurseries All my intial posts on this thread were not even addressing anyone but stating my own opinions about the issue.You then quoted me and started my asking me the questions about All male nurseries. I answered you and you kept on asking further questions with different scenarios. which I kept on answerig..Even when I admitted that I had been a tad bit uncomfortable about it based on pre concieved notions about who should work in childcare you said I had to be 100% for or against.I honestly had not logged on before and responded based on my mentions which is the reason I asked the question again as I saw you had responded to others after my question.I only thought you could have given me the courtesy of answering my one question when I had answered several of yours. * modified * I just even went back to read my posts and I had even said it's ok we are entitled to our opinions when you said you were not answering the question and was going to let it go until ileobatojo asked her own question.i went back to read my posts again just to see where it seemed like I was trying to tangle you in a fight.

You know what Sorry if I offended you.I do not understand why you would think I would want to fight you (fight for what ) I dont get online fights.

I don't have the capacity or strength for online beef and I don't think there is anyone on NL who can say I have come after them even when we have had differing opinions om issues in the past.Every single poster I banter with I have disagreed or had differing opinions with on various issues.like I said I state my opinion and don't think its law.

r231: tell me something......

Biko my geography is bad But when did texas become a county and is dallas not in texas?

I don't even know what to say ( type )again sef after seeing my mentions. I wanted to ignore my mentions but somehow I just feel thats not right.

TV01 I do wish you could indeed borrow that leaf and try to realise that we are all different and as such will have different views on issues.I do know our beliefs and in this case your faith colour our worldviews but the Christian thing to do in most cases would be to let go of old issues and resentments and treat each new case on its own basis. I don't think the "plagiarism" dig had anything to do with this thread and if it was about anything in the past I think you need to let it go.

Efemenaxy I know you have unfollowed this thread but I hope you read this. My asking the question again after TV asked was innocently trying to see what you felt about males in any caregiving proffession not just childcare or early years teaching. I did feel you were questioning my maternal instincts by continously questioning me about my opinion that I felt male child care workers are not necessarily a bad thing. It was never my intention to debate on this thread as like you said its everyone's prerogative to do what they think is best for their children. My intial post on this thread even put my hands up that I did buy into stereotypes and felt a bit wierded out when I felt my 3 yr old was going to be taught (not even cared for) by a man.I asked that question innocently and felt you would answer it based on the fact that you were the one who started the debate by continously questioning my views and using outliers to define my stance.You do know it was not in anyway meant to be malicious or cause a ruckus. I state my opinion on NL and its just how I feel on issues and not necessarily the right or correct one as most life issues sometimes never have absolutely right or wrong answers.

I know we can't get on with everyone (TV you are right I dislike rofo rofo and even in real life try to avoid uncessary conflicts) I hope all the bitterness hate and dislike esp for people we might pass on the street without recognising can be put to bed.