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What exactly is the definition of virgin guys? cos I don't seem to understand.
There is no physical difference between a guy that has been do-ing for 8 years and someone that is about to start in 8 days.

She still slept with a guy 4 years after leaving him? meaning she did not get over his J.T for 4 years. I personally think, that wasn't the first. She only told him a month to the wedding to ask for a grand forgiveness for ll the sessions she's had with him.
A good question is; why did she go to him only 4 weeks to the wedding if it wasn't an intentional move?

Please note; only good girls like bad boys while bad girls go for rich good boys.
Most naija good girls like guys that were once bad and are now good. In other words, they like a good boy with bad boy moves.
It is very easy for a bad boy to get a good girl. Why? He is very sensitive (experienced), He is very timely (mobile), He is neat (dresses expensively), He is generous and always willing to share (rich), He's always having answers (been there, done that), He's the only one that can handle me (good liar), He's romantic (know what they like to hear), He's a good kisser (his area of expertise).

Good boys on the other hand relates with their beloved with uttermost respect, trying to be precise and trying to make good impression of themselves. But it never works. These girls like funny guys, guys with lots of stories (funny enough: good girls like bad-boy stories), guys with swags etc.

@OP
since you said you've been doing it, no wahala then. You have already tasted the forbidden fruit. I must tell you you can not be doing it and still expect God to speak to her. Carefully let her know what's up and that you need her to make up her mind  on time. She also needs to show commitment now, haba!!

And they always say wharrrever when they lose arguments = Let's just forget about it/drop the topic.

{pretty girl} Hey, How are you? Long time. You still look beautiful as ever. Guess what; I misplaced your number when my fone got stolen. Could you please punch your number on ma fone again? I wouldn't like to lose touch again? How about that your boyfriend, are yo still with him? Really nice seeing you,

{Ugly girl} You dey mad? You no dey look road? Mcheew.

Well, I'll forgive her and since God has not delivered me from not forgetting, I will just let her go peacefully and quietly and try to keep her secret, since she was once my girlfriend.

Tell her you want to discuss something very important. Ask her to sincerely answer these three questions;

Does she have another guy anywhere that she likes?

Does she truly like you (from the bottom of her heart) or is she only hanging on because the relationship's been long and wouldn't want to break your gentle heart now? (because she'll break it later anyway)

Who is her ideal husband to marry? What kind of man is she looking at marrying in the future physically and with personalty?

Uhm, BULLET BULLET BULLET,

Well, firstly you did not define her. if the her happens to be someone that I really truly love, maybe I might take the bullet. But then, I am left to decide between common sense (sharp guy) and emotions (mumu). Within seconds, I may decide if the effect isn't fatal and go ahead if I'm sure I won't pai. If the result could be fatal, I may have to decline taking the bullet while giving her the impression that I was trying to take the bullet.

If its a girlfriend, forget it.

If its my wife and mother of my children, Uhmm. I may take the bullet if someone else were to die.

But come to think of it (for girlfriends), while asking you out, i must have told you; I promise to be there for you. Promise to take care and look after you no matter what. So, If i take the bullet and die, then I wont be able to fulfill my promise since i won't be there anymore. So, I cannot die for any girlfriend, I would rather live to take care of her.

dazzle37:
It depends on the situation
My best friend ( a guy ) was knocked down by a car in place of me
we were skating on the streets and playing with friends, and i went towards the middle of the road, i did not notice the on coming vehicle because my back was to the road, and i guess it was impulse, he ran into the road and pushed me off the road, but there was no time for him to also jump out, he was hit by the car but not too seriously, and thank God there was no injury because by that time the driver too was trying to avoid knocking me down. so i have to think, what if it was a more serious situation, my friend would have injured or died because he was trying to save me, if he could do that, i guess he can take a bullet for me.  Both cases are about sacrifice, so i guess i can do the same for someone or for ( him ).

What is the title of this movie; "I can die for love"?

Imagine this High Thief weh call himself High Chief.
You think say you fit com use ayajj for here abi? We be like mumu or nanamu to you abi?

My cuddleii can't be a man. It is not possible lailai. He would have goofed if he were to be a man. Can't you see how she writes; She writes so sensibly radiating intelligence and compassion. That is just what I want in a woman. OMG, person go die for here o. cuddlemii nwa ne, Chai!!!

If you be man sef, i go still do. lol

I think Segamite has said it all.
Its just that in parts of the world like naija, it'll be hard to confess ladies using and dumping guys, as compared to guys using and dumping girls. But It is very common in the developed western worlds although they don't tag it as dumping. They'd rather say; "I have moved on".
I wonder if people still accept to call it "use and dump" when s3x is not involved. (in other words; can you use and dump a virgin)
I think when ladies do it; it is called "use and dump".
When guys do it; it is called "jilted, abandoned".

Good, In fact I like this post.
Now I know the people I am going to kill over a date with my one and only cuddlemii.
@leuelliot; please preserve your life and take someone else out. You still have tpia, babe,
@qualified; I no dey joke with love oo. Me, I'm in love with cuddlemii. So, take someone else. thank you.

But seriously, my first date would be cuddlemii. I love her feminism.

@cuddlemii,
I must tell you I have a lot of respect for private university graduates. They are young, always wanting to learn and are good team players professionally. Referencing them here, is as a result of them having the highest rate of virginity after graduation, compared to government schools.
I interface with a lot of ladies daily and I found out the so called disrespectful and rude virgins are usually products of private schools. (I'm sorry about that). They engage in all sorts of oral-sex and the likes and still proudly tells me; "young man, I don't mess around or din't you meet me a virgin, so you better just give my due respect".

I'm sorry cuddlemii if I hurt you. Are you a product of a private university?

My point is; I prefer a non-virgin good wife than a virgin brat. What's her use by the way? She'd be probably be bad in bed again sef or do you expect me to start looking for KY gel at my age? Abegii

(In an office;she's a new girl and she's Behind) Hello, do you work here also? How come I don't know you? Anyway you must have seen me on TV, my name is Will Smith; and you are____?

(on a street in your area and she's Behind) Hello, good evening. Please I'm new in this area trying to get acquainted with the area and I was told all the ladies here are snubs and never wanting to help. please is it true?

(In a club on the Island in Lagos and she's Behind) What's up mami, you dance real good. I was hoping I could take some lessons. Do you mind?

(In a cyber cafe and she's razz) O baby, wetin dey happen?

(In a club in Ikeja, lagos and she's very razz) ppsss, hey, con yere. how far?

Omolola; in fact we don't cherish them anymore. The so called virgins of these days now take silly advantage of their unfortunate virginity and ultimately become proud, rude and disrespectful. They claim they are good girls that don't mess around, therefore, they should be listened too and followed, while they lead. To me, they were only unfortunate not to have done it. A good wife is a good wife whether you are a virgin or not. The one that pisses me off the most, is these set of girls that graduated from private universities; just because you were caged in some  missionaries, you think you can come and claim one mumu virginity for me and start acting up rude. Imagine a girl that has been given her boyfriend blowjobs, handjobs, bobby-sex, lap-sex, 69, for over 6 years consistently, and come here on NL, claiming she's a virgin just because she dared not get penetrated since she'd fail the next virginity test conducted on her quarterly by her parents.
As for me, please keep your virginity and be a good wife together with a good mother for our children and we live happily ever after. thank you.
Virgin ko virgin ni.

Hello Seal777,
Please don't feel bad about anything. She's only trying to be a 21st century woman thinking she can do whatever she pleases all in the name of getting back at her fiance.
I must tell you; she does not love you still. she slept with you only because she wanted to punish her fiance (whom she has decided to choose for marriage), and you happened to be the best candidate available.
How can a woman go that far, all in the name of punishing her husband-to-be for infidelity. You should not pay evil for evil.
You are lucky she's out of your life. If you marry her, you are most likely going to get worse actions from her, especially if she suspects you of cheating.
But na wa for you oo bros, a lady came back for you after a while and on her first weekend with you, you already got down with her without asking questions in the first place. BROSSSS

Hi Sarah,
I need to let you know that we Nigerians have a way of communicating with one another in a way we understand the best. In Nigeria, it is very common for a woman to refer to her hubby as the father of her children and vice versa, in which they are so much in love. Please don't feel bad about that, Its our way of speaking our Nigerian English.
Of course you know by now, that people put a lot of false information on  facebook. You don't even need special moments to discuss with your hubby, just talk to him anytime you wish about what you noticed on his sister's profile indicating what you think is an incorrect age. Say it jokingly and ask why she is claiming to be that old/young. Please take note; do not make him think you are interrogating him or investigating his background. He is your husband and you deserve to know what's up.
Finally, stop feeling bad and being scared. There is nothing to worry about. You have a very good hubby for things to still work fine between you two. Just leave out doubts in your marriage and just love him unconditionally and watch out how things will come out successfully.

don't worry, will and statements are written already.
Just get me to coma. That's all I want. Don't you know some coma are worth it?

But wait oooo;what of if it's you that doesn't make it? What happens? Uhmmmmm. Don't worry also, some jail terms are worth it.

@Bhusayo; a brief history about me; I was in the Army for some years, I helped out a Lieutenant General's wife based on her request. She ended up in a coma. I was then expelled from the Army since that wasn't my first coma victim. I later joined the SSS hoping I'd find a mate who can do guys to coma also.
You see; our match is made in heaven. I think we are both from Krypton planet.

Now that Yusuf's health seems to have been stabilized, we are releasing Bhusayo right away to go and sin no more.
But then I was hoping Bhusayo would come and visit me tonight; I'd really like to go into coma also after some good rounds of #$$%^%^ (what were u thinking; I meant bible reading).  

@OP
I can understand your friendship is at stake and your feelings also is at stake. Well, I don't know how long this has been going on, but maybe your so called feelings aren't genuine enough. It is very possible you are feeling for her just because she's close to you or she shares her personals with you. Trust me, our ladies these days are smarter. She might have known you're beginning to like her and she might withdraw if she doesn't like the idea. But I must tell you, preserve you friendship no matter what.
This is what you can do; give positive advices to her to the best of your capability without being biased. Every lady admires a guy that wants the best for her. Position yourself as an ideal guy that listens to her, helps her and also lets her know that you feel a lot comfortable sharing your thoughts and experiences with her because she just understands you and she's obedient. Naturally, you'll score high on her thoughts and who knows, she might see the angel in you.
But please, don't take advantage of her. Let nature take the course of everything and if she's yours, your arms would be open, the day she comes back running to you.

Reporting live from the headquarters of the SSS. We now have a confirmation that Yusuf that was presumed dead earlier on, has now woken up from coma. He is questioned; Mr Yusuf, i like to let you know that Lady bhusayo has been detained in our custody pending further investigation. Can you pls expalin to us what happened to you before you passed out. I was on duty nearby the party venue, when i saw you leave in red car with this lady.

I will definitely choose option D for my sister.
option A could endanger you by eating up your life-saving and investment, thereby leaving you to eternal debts. Option B, although a little fair, could expose you to some STDs in the long run. We've all been there, even with a mind of protection and safe-sex, we still get to loobee (flesh-flesh) forgetfully sometimes especially with old sex-partners. Option C, the worst of all; will surely beat you up, rape you and physically assault you often when he's under the anointing of drugs and alcohol.
I think option D is not competitive enough in this category. It should have been; A jobless illiterate guy with no degree and special skills at all but loves to stay at home and cook for the children.

WOW!!! I wonder what will be going on in the mind of SarahMariah. Firstly we Nigerians are not animals. We are a good people mixed with bad eggs occasionally, just like any other big country. On a forum like this, you only have to follow comments and advices that are are meaningful, helpful and practical and sieve out the junks. We Nigerians always make fun out of everything whether good or bad. If you choose to be naive about some of our comments, we'd only make fun of you the more.
Back to business, Being good or bad is no country's monopoly. The individual we are dealing with matters. If a guy is going to be bad, there are always some early signs to warn you, but most times we ignore them. Part of the issues with Nigeria is our population which accounts for these crime figures worldwide, since we are the most widely traveled. 18% annual crime victims in Austria amounts to about 1.8M crimes yearly. If you subject the same (percentage) crime rate to Nigeria, we are looking at almost 29M crimes annually. If you distribute 29m criminals, carrying Nigerian passport worldwide; then you would understand why people say a lot of trash about Nigerians even though I have just compared us with Austria using the same crime victims rate.
Please hold on to your marriage. You have a very wonderful Nigerian husband for you to always back him up. A good number of us Nigerian men are also here at home and we're representing Naija for life.
So if anybody asks you again or talks Nigerian men down again, tell them to go to hell and that you got the best husband in the world in a Nigerian. Thank you.

Lailai, nobody dares speak up.
For all have cheated and come short of the glory of God. But for His grace,

It is really funny how the course of this argument has changed from the ladies cursing and tongue-lashing men, to the men taking over and justifying their stance. We men sha, I hail ooo. We no dey carry last. Where is chaircover by the way?
It's actually not easy not to cheat. men/women that are boasting of "never cheated", I have a question; have you ever deleted a text message you received or sent, so as to prevent your spouse from seeing it? if you say no, you are a liar and a cheat. It is quite easier for a lady to withstand temptation because they are rather moved by what they hear or how they are touched. But for men, It is what we see and how we see it. While a lady can easily control what she hears and who touches or what touches her anywhere, its not the same for men. These booties are everywhere; in church, office, streets, TV, beaches, clubs etc.
If you ask me openly anyday, anytime, I'll tell you cheating is wrong because when caught, someone gets hurt or feel betrayed. But this is a very tempting sin as cheating itself starts from imagining what it feels like to touch that your colleague's breast that bent over your table in office callously to reveal cleavage. You dare not try it because she is senior and could cost you your job, so you hesitated and you now have the guts to come on NL and say you have never cheated. THIEF!!!!!!!!. WE HAVE ALL CHEATED AND ARE ALL THIEVES. In fact, as i am typing now, a booty just swayed past and i joyfully cheated again.lol
If you do not cheat, it is never your might but special grace of God. In fact most times, it is usually because of the fear of God and spiritual consequences of such acts that scares men away from cheating and not the respect or the so called love for the wife.
so, @poster; we are very sorry, this is what nature dawned on us. Trust me if we switch sexes and you inherit all the natures of men, you might do worst oo. Please don't see it that it is because we are most favoured with looks, shape and appearance overtime in marriage, that we tend to cheat. (you might sound unsecured or rather like u're biffing us)

WAO, massively impressive. So, there's still a bit of humanity in us men as our ladies could confirm now. Even as a bobo myself, I am touched. Please keep it coming, we are learning a lot. Our marriages and relationships would have a been a lot better if we hear more of words like these, rather than irresponsible lying silly cheating promiscuous insensitive husband/BF,

well for me, i practice withdrawal although experts keep saying there's still risk. so far I've been quite lucky.
For me, this is my approach; if its my no 1 babe (d main - d main), I keep the act to my head and not my tool especially for the 1st round. With this, I can control excitement and my tool is in my hands 10 seconds before actual expulsion. Since I intend to marry her, I try not to engage in sexual activities with her frequently, so the risk is more or less curtailed.
For my other babes, strictly condoms mehn. In fact the condom come with its own advantage: you last longer while you re able to take her to climax. But if she doesn't want condom, then we can use our flesh-to flesh for rounds 2 to 6 before I retire. I no fit kill myself.