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Failure2019:
I just got fired from my job yesterday and I have no idea why, just out of the blue.

Any advice to help with this. I cried on my drive home because I really enjoyed working there and the pay was good. I guess that's what I get for trying to ever make something of myself.

I try to make an honest living as a young man trying to enter the workforce and this is what happens.
Is it time to become an unemployed once again?

I feel bleeped. Life is bleeped. I just wanted a nice house, a wife and a little savings I'm the bank. Guess that's not happening

Dude, sorry about that. Sorry because you enjoyed doing the job and it paid the bills.
Life has just given you lemons. It's time to make lemonade with it.

After "grieving" the loss of the job, you have no choice but to dust yourself up. Relax for a few days. Cool your head. Reach out to people. Old friends and course mates, etc. Be honest about your situation to people. Some may not genuinely empathise with you, but don't worry.

Manage your savings well. Cut costs wherever possible. Look at areas of employment you may not have considered before. Leverage on your talents, experience, interests, even hobbies to make a living. Even tech if you were not in tech before. Even teaching that many frowned upon is offering Japa opportunity to some now.

Being young is even a opportunity. You can still learn and adapt quickly with less commitments currently. Good luck.

jiyitog828:
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Nice

Kingdollar28:
How do you know he doesn't have a plan?

He had money before bah?

But lost to gambling?

Sis, your husband is battling frustration/depression

Help him find his ways back

If you divorce him, na u loose

Mama I no fit lie you

I'm married and experienced

all4zionlover
My sister this is the truth. He is confused and depressed about the situation. He he has no energy or desire to face the world. He is yet to accept reality. Depression and addiction/problem gambling are two serious issues.
He also feels emasculated not providing as he used to. He is definitely not happy about it.

Keep supporting him so that he doesn't go into something he might regret just to make quick money.

Also to ensure that his situation doesn't rift you guys apart.

As it stands, he might need counselling.

DaniellaDokubo

You have made some good points in your post. Especially houses to be rented out, no need overbuilding them with huge pillars and all. Unless you are in "de luxe" market niche. Just ensure good quality and make it functional. Let it be spacious outside and incorporate more nature/trees/flowers to make it more liveable. Families with kids will really enjoy it.

Obafisenco:
The absolute price for one plot is 700k, except you are buying more than one plot

Ah that's still a high price o.

adioolayi:
Well done Prof. Akin Abayomi...one of the shinning lights of Governor Sanwoolu's cabinet..

He was on top of his game, especially during #Covid19 pandemic...

Hopefully, you will get bigger appointment.

We pray for the soul of the departed and wish those recuperating quick recovery.

Amen.

Prof. Akin is quietly doing a great job. Very versatile dude.

Beyond health care, he works and research in environmental conservation.

Minister of Environment or Science, Tech and Innovation would be a nice fit.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpHqX8LUUiM


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-kzhtGcinkQ

Metaphor44:
What is meant to happen will always happen. Accident is almost always inevitable. Whether the driver had listened or waited or not, it would still happen. But we must all be cautious even as humans. I pray for those injured to recover speedly in Jesus name. Amen

This is a VERY dangerous mindset.

Everyday Health and Safety experts are working around the clock worldwide to find ways to minimise risk.
Please read more widely. The improvement in transport safety alone daily improves safety of all forms of transportation.
In 9ja people travel on boats in waterways without life vests, some knowing fully well that engine of the boat is faulty. When fatalities and injuries occur, na so God want am. Haba!

Wearing seatbelts, observing road traffic signs, avoiding intoxication while driving and servicing vehicles correctly save millions of lives. Through risk reduction.

Simply put, if the driver had waited and let the train pass, the accident would not happen. Over religiousness is not helping us. I wonder why there are no timed barriers that open and close to safely allow cars pass cross the train track. In Ikeja for that matter?

Heaven helps those who help themselves.

Obafisenco:
So sorry for the late response, yes some are still available, but cheapest is now 800k
Size per plot is 60ft by 120ft (18m by 36m)
Paperwork family receipt, family conveyance (ewè-ebi), and general survey

Please, what is the absolute last price per plot?

Matter of time. All will return one day.

Cutehector:
And please let us stop all these blaming on men for issues that a woman has. If she is not into sex, men! If she she has a dry vagina, men. If she is not in the mood, still men!

Men are blamed for every fvcking thing a woman does and for her problems.

Jeez.

My brother abeg tell them o. This idea that everything is a man's fault helps nobody. It is abdication of duty. A valid ground for divorce even.

Let nobody try to fool with Hollywood script of romantic nonsense about marriage. Marriage is hard work, sacrifice, conscious effort and compromise.

The woman is an adult and should know that sex is among her duties as a wife.
Yes, she told OP that she doesn't like penetrative sex but did OP promise her that it will be a marriage without sex or once a month thing?

There are too many men and women that have no business with marriage BUT marry to tick the box. Because they believe society wants it that way.
There lots of things men do for their wives and family that they'd rather not do but have no choice.

OP, probe into her past. Any history of rape, abuse, etc?

Once the baby comes, you will need to look at things carefully. Months after delivery. For now, not much you can do.

Then go for counselling. Otherwise your marriage may not survive it long term. Good luck.

olukaygold:
Direct the questions to my DM if you're damn serious sir....

Dude, you have not replied to my DM from NL.

Please your business WhatsApp contact in your profile for easier communication.

olukaygold:
Yes I can,but it comes with little compensation.

Olukaygold,

I have been watching your minimalist approach to building.

Very encouraging.

I believe that we have been over-building for too long.

Too many nick knacks that add no value except extra costs.

A better Nigeria is all we want.

olukaygold:
Good day House...
I'm here again with my Budget friendly and Materials management Building Project. I hope youve learnt one or Two things on my Previous Self contain thread and my incompleted thread of Mini flat which I did with 2.5m this excluding Fencing, Borehole and Compound flooring.This time, we're to Build 2bedroom Bungalow using Hidden Flat roofing system with Budget of 4million naira only(from foundation to Finishings). The compound has been Fenced, there's availablity of Borehole water and The compound floor has been interlocked.So our focus is just only the Building....Keep following

Good job! Simple and functional. How much will currently complete the following in SW/SS:

-2 bedroom bungalow as you did here and 1 self-contained room attached.
-2 x 1 bedroom bungalow/mini-flat (1 bedroom and parlour in two places attached)
-1 bedroom bungalow/mini-flat and 1 self-contained attached.

Thanks.