First of all, you made a wrong analogy. Learn to make suitable comparisons next time.
Secondly, it's a valid question depending on the kind of person you are married to. Some women might find it really hard to respect there husband's if they are the ones who provide shelter in the family cos it changes the dynamics of the relationship.
Since all woman are different from each other, that makes this question a tough one.
Memejem: Nigerian men and thier wahala. If a woman doesn't build house she must hear him say "under my roof" "in my house" "I built this with my hard earned money" "you didn't contribute to this"
The woman goes and builds house, some will now say she is an enemy of progress against tradition. If she built it why must the house be in his name? Una never happy. If your wife builds a house it's "our house". But if man builds house its "his" house abi?
Marriage includes both parities. I don't see it as a bad thing. But only a cultured and educated Nigerian man will accept it. If a wife builds a house it's "thier" house. If husband builds a house it's "thier" house. Simple.
House building doesn't take away respect, or submission. That character. Nothing to do with structure.
But don't you think it's emasculating to the man? Men are driven by pride in their achievements and if he can't be the leader and the provider, that shatters his ego (depending on the guy of course) which is what drives a lot of man.
On the flip side of it, a lot of women are raised and comditioned to to see the man as the one who provides shelter so if the man can't and the woman steps into that role (uncharted territory). That might tip the dynamics of the relationship. The woman might look at him differently and even if she wants to respect him it might be very difficult for her to do so.
At the end of the day, what you have is a role reversal in a relationship which might tilt the balance of the relationship. Any way it's my suggestion, feel free to disagree.
Keneking: When is he resigning sef...finally he has started going out to do the real job of CBN gov.
Not travelling in First Class seat to America or China ...
Let him go down to the real sector..the heartbeat of the nation
Some of his aides would be grumbling now with this local waka-waka and interaction with snakes and monkeys in the bush paths.
Useless governor
***Ikenga, my son, abeg make we comot for this space, e bi like say, one oga dey pass, disturbing our quiet in the bush...too much noise from sirens.
Actually, this is not his job. His job is to set monetary policy of the country (of which he is doing a horrible job of) not to be touring farms well then again, this is Nigeria we are talking about.
Also, it's not the job of the fed govt to create farms, there job is to create a conducive climate for the agricultural sector to flourish. Thats the problem with Naija, the govt always wanting to get involved in everything instead of realizing that it's job is just to create an atmosphere for business to flourish and to get out of the way.
nicky4lif: When I left for my uncle's place in lagos(4years ago).I was told lagos is a very beatiful place but filled with all kinds of people.on getting to lagos,I took a bus going to my uncle area.in the bus,there were about 2 girls before I endered with me making us 3 girls and I was warned never to enter a bus with only guys on it. On getting to a particular bus stop,the two girls alighted remianing me as the only girl in the bus.when I looked round and found out I was the girl in the bus!at that time the bus had already left then I told the conductor!stop me here(1)stop me here(2)upto to 4 times I told him to stop,he still didn't alter a word,on realizing that I most have boarded a one chance bus(my uncle told me ooo)I quickly nd quietly stoodup,I start pushing the conductor while the car was on motoin.without the conductor knowing what I was upto,he started pushing me back(in my mind,this is a matter of life nd death)I started pushing him harder nd harder.u know when u are fighting for ur dear life,even if all ur mates used to beat u in fight,that day u wll borrow extra power from God knows where.thank God I was able to push this man off my way nd jumped down,as I fell on the ground with my heels,my phone was scarttered all over the place nd my bag.I quickly loocked up to find out if they had plan of buddling me back to the bus so I could run,I just saw everybody in the bus laughing their lives out,then they started telling me!this is not a bus stop.with the shame nd everything,I needed to say something atleast to make me feel I didn't fool myself!I responeded,so why didn't u tell me.wit them still laughing at me,I just picked my phone nd bag as I made a move to leave,then I realized that my right leg couldn't move so I had no choice than to enter same bus nd they dropped me where I was going cos I could nolonger walk.I was indoors for one month,before I could go out to see the much talked abt beatiful lagos.
For many years, the only information about Africa has been aid-commercials, songs, and the need of help that WE can provide for Africa. Now, the table has turned, and this is the outcome.
It is a fun site, a fun video,but it also gives a clear message, I do believe it will make you all laugh as well
wetman: The highly respected Nobel prize for Literature has been won by Jean-Marie Gustave Le Clezio, a French writer, who lived part of his childhood in Onitsha, Nigeria, and even wrote a book named after the town, recollecting his memories of the city on the banks of the Niger. Nice-born Le Clezio moved to Nigeria with his family at the age of eight when he commenced writing. He wrote his first works – “Un Long Voyage” (A long journey) and “Oradi Noir” – during a month-long journey to Nigeria. His father had been positioned as a doctor in Onitsha during World War 11. During his stay at Onitsha, he also made a list of seven of his forthcoming books. French President Nicolas Sarkozy in a statement hailed the laureate as “A child of Nigeria and Mauritius, a teenager in Nice, a nomad of the American and African deserts, Jean-Marie Le Clezio is a citizen of the world, a child of all continents and of all cultures.” Ironically, the region of Nigeria that inspired the writer has produced great writers such as Chinua Achebe, late Cyprian Ekwensi and just recently, Chimamanda Adichie. While conferring the prize on him, the Swedish Academy which decides the winner of the coveted 10 million Swedish crown ($1.4 million) prize, praised the 68-year-old’s adventurous novels, essays and children's books. “His works have a cosmopolitan character. Frenchman, yes, but more so a traveller, a citizen of the world, a nomad,” Permanent Secretary of the Academy, Horace Engdahl, told a news conference to announce the laureate. Underlining his international credentials, Le Clezio, who describes himself as French and Mauritian, answered questions in English, French and Spanish at a Paris press conference. In the past, Doctors Without Borders, a humanitarian organisation formed in Nigeria by French Foreign Minister, Bernard Kouchner, also won the Nobel. According to the Swedish Academy's web site, Le Clezio studied English at a British university and taught at institutions in Bangkok, Mexico City, Boston, Austin and Albuquerque, among others. Le Clezio also spent long periods in Mexico and Central America and married a Moroccan woman in 1975. Since the 1990s he and his wife have shared their time between Albuquerque in New Mexico, the island of Mauritius and Nice, the Academy added. The author said he believed French culture was a melting pot of influences. “The French language is a result of a mix of cultures. It has received contributions from every corner of the world. That is what is wonderful about French culture. It is a place of encounters.” Le Clezio's first novel was “Le proces-verbal” (The Interrogation), written when he was 23. It went on to win the Renaudot prize in France. Seen as an experimental writer in the 1960s, Le Clezio was preoccupied by themes including the environment and childhood. His big breakthrough came in 1980 with “Desert”, which the Academy said “contains magnificent images of a lost culture in the North African desert, contrasted with a depiction of Europe seen through the eyes of unwanted immigrants. “A great traveller, he embodies the global reach of France's culture and values in a globalised world.” Even early on, Le Clezio stood out as an ecologically engaged author, an orientation that is accentuated with the novels Terra amata (1967; Terra Amata, 1969), Le livre des fuites (1969; The Book of Flights, 1971), La guerre (1970; War, 1973) and Les giants (1973; The Giants, 1975). His novel, Desert (1980), fetched him a prize from the French Academy. This work contains magnificent images of a lost culture in the North African desert, contrasted with a depiction of Europe seen through the eyes of unwanted immigrants. The main character, the Algerian guest worker Lalla, is a utopian antithesis to the ugliness and brutality of European society. During the same period, Le Clezio published the meditative essay collections L'extase matirielle (1967), Mydriase (1973) and Ha• (1971), the last of which shows influences from Indian culture. Long stays in Mexico and Central America in the period 1970 to 1974 were of decisive significance for his work, and he left the big cites in search of a new spiritual reality in the contact with the Indians. He published Voyage de l'autre c™tÎ in 1975, the same year he married Jemia. The book gives an account of what he learned in Central America. Le Clezio began the translation of the major works of the Indian tradition, such as Les prophÎties du Chilam Balam. Le r_ve mexicain ou la pensÎe interrompue (1998) testifies to his fascination with Mexico's magnificent past. Since the 90s Le Clezio and his wife share their time between Albuquerque in New Mexico, the island of Mauritius and Nice. All but one of the prizes were established in the will of 19th century dynamite tycoon Alfred Nobel and have been handed out since 1901. The economics award was established by Sweden's central bank in 1968.
Bolustic: Poverty will not end without a successful onslaught against corruption.
Check Transparency International ranking of least corrupt countries and see if they are poor. Singapore is the fifth least corrupt country according to the TI ranking besides it boasts the highest millionaires(in USD) per capita in the world, the third largest seaports in the world not to talk of its world class educational standards.
Unfortunately, most of us are selfish, thinking about what we will eat today, what about posterity.
We need to kill corruption or it will kill us
More importantly, the main reason why Nigeria is poor is the fact that World Bank ranked Nigeria at 169 in the world in terms of ease of doing business https://www.nairaland.com/3429269/nigeria-ranks-169th-position-world and the heritage foundation even ranks Nigeria at 116 in terms of economic freedoms index http://www.heritage.org/index/ranking. This my guy is why there is a lot of poverty and suffering and why it is almost impossible for people to make it out of poverty if they were not born to a well to do family no matter how incredibly hard they try.
tolexy123: Hello nairalanders, please I want you to advice me on how to handle my excessively demanding girlfriend. She demands money excessively from me at regular intervals (everytime i go to visit her which is now discouraging me from visiting her now) without considering my pocket and its really making me to see her from another angle negatively as a gold digger and it's affecting my true feelings for her.
I don't want to be too rude to her but at the same time, I want her to get the information across to her. its not like am not financially supportive or am broke but I want to exercise some financial disciplines in her cos am thinking of seeing her as more than my girlfriend but this is not telling well about her.
Mature advice please!
I don't think she loves you because love is what you can do for someone not what you can get from them. So what's going to happen if you lose your money one day, would she stay with you?
tolexy123: Hello nairalanders, please I want you to advice me on how to handle my excessively demanding girlfriend. She demands money excessively from me at regular intervals (everytime i go to visit her which is now discouraging me from visiting her now) without considering my pocket and its really making me to see her from another angle negatively as a gold digger and it's affecting my true feelings for her.
I don't want to be too rude to her but at the same time, I want her to get the information across to her. its not like am not financially supportive or am broke but I want to exercise some financial disciplines in her cos am thinking of seeing her as more than my girlfriend but this is not telling well about her.
Mature advice please!
Please run from her. She is too materialistic. In essence, she is a gold digger. The advice my married friend gave me is that when i am looking for a wife i should avoid someone that is materialistic. Pleeeeeease break up with her.
Funfair001: Hello Nlanders, I need mature advice please. I'm a 29years old man....I dropped out of University for business and I'm making stable income but now, I want to go back to school (abroad) which I have started my admission processing. Next year, I will be 30years old and some guys are advising me to get married since I have the money to take care of my family and my studies.
I'm confused even though I wish to get married too but still, I don't know what to do. Please I need mature advise if I should just go ahead or shun marriage for now.
Thank you all
Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease go abroad and get that degree. Trust me you will learn a lot and it would open doors for you in future. Nothing beats an education. You can always marry later but don't miss your window of opportunity to go to school abi na when you don born pikin you go dey go back school. Please think long term.
livemocha93: Hello all! I found this site after searching online to see if anyone else had ever encountered such a story as mine. I felt really isolated & as if no one in the world could understand my emotions. It actually has been kind of refreshing to see that these things happen often and that I wasn't singled out. I've really become thankful that my situation isn't near as heartbreaking as some that I have seen here. I don't want to write a long story but basically I was friends with this guy then we began dating for about a year when last December I discovered he had gone home over the holidays & got married. I was in shock however my intuition told me that something was strange about his behavior a few wks before he left. He was just sad & started telling me how I deserved better than him. He touched on the fact that his family felt it was time he settled down but it never crossed my mind that his trip home would result in a marriage, wedding & all. I confided in a close friend & on a whim she searched his name on Facebook(he doesn't have social media) to see if anything came up concerning his behavior while away & Lo and behold, there were wedding photographs. It was definitely him. I was devastated & embarrassed. I don't want to go into too much detail but we were extremely close. We spent a lot of time & energy on each other & I never had any inkling that there was anyone else in his life. He was still calling me while he was away but I stopped responding & a few weeks went by before I finally answered & told him I knew. He didn't deny it but he stated that it was something he had to do & that it was all of a sudden, set up by his family. Bride chosen by them also. I refused to believe this man I thought I knew so well would leave this major aspect of his life to his family. And it didn't matter because the end result was the same...he was married. I just was hard on myself wondering if he had a girlfriend/fiancée the whole time & I missed the red flags. I didn't see how a decent human being could have such ill intentions all along with myself & the woman he married. Anyway he came back to the States & went about life as usual. & to be honest, he eventually wore me down & returned to my life. I was in love with him. And honestly for a while, everything was the same as it always had been. But my mind started to win over my heart & I knew it wasn't real. There was no future with him. Time has continued to heal me & I've been convicted because I do know better & more is expected of me. But in the beginning this man intruded upon my life, my family, and friends as a great guy & possibly the one for me. I know that he is not but I can't understand why he'd work so hard to become intertwined with everything that concerns me then go off & marry someone else.He acted like it's a normal thing and he can have it all. I've distanced myself & been really strong going forward & leaving this behind. I thank God there is nothing tying me or this guy to each other & I pray everyday to be forgiven for my actions with this married man. We didn't co-habitate or do anything that would require us to have to communicate or see each other. He is persistent so I don't expect him to disappear but I'm completely over it. We engage in small talk here & there but I wish for that to cease as well. Reading here has opened my eyes to what could have been my life playing second fiddle with this guy. What I'm left with now is a lot of regret & just feeling naive to so much. I am smart & usually not one to get over on but he completely threw me for a loop. What if I never found out? What if we married and he used me for citizenship? What if I gave him more than a year of my life? It's all so scary. I took my time getting to know him, trusted him & thought highly of him. I hate to think this is a common way of Nigerian men here. Although I suspect him to be the first & last for me... Just wondering if there is an answer to my "Why" these situations occur... And I also hope sharing my cautionary tale helps someone else. Helps and not harms, bc deep down I don't want to generalize based off my 1 encounter.
onoja12: Abeg go and sleep what argument,a fools rant you leave nowhere infact you never leave your papa village ,people who stay outside Nigeria know what they go though it is want to be who come online to rant probably you have reached Benin even there at the border you would feel what Nigerians go though
Hahahahahahahaha is that the best you can come up with? Try again.
onoja12: my friend you won travel tell me i go help you get visa,when you reach if you open you mouth talk say white man this or that you go hear waiting i go do you.stupid people who like insulting there home and they think outside is heaven where money falls on the street.
Actually i don't live in Nigeria so thanks for your offer. Also, i can see that you have no response to my arguments and cannot come up with a better response besides insults and that shows a lot about your maturity. So when you learn how to formulate a better rebuttal that doesn't include ad hominem attacks i will be waiting.
misszainab: I love my boyfriend, God knows I do. He's my first love and after him, I have not dated any other man. It's been 3years since we started dating. He tries hard to be faithful and I'm faithful to him too. But I'm so pessimistic about the future with him. We're about graduating from school, and after graduation our relationship will become a distant one, and I'm scared of keeping a distant relationship. But I don't want to give up, one main thing I'm concerned about is that he's not financially ohkay for now. I don't know if I should keep on with that. I know God has a plan for us, he always assures me that with time things will get better, and that is what keeps us going. I Love him because he's very optimistic about the future and that gives me faith. But what if things don't turn out good?
No insults pls, just your kind and sincere advice. Nobody is perfect.
So your love has conditions now? Love is about what you can do for someone not what you can get.
Besides, why do you need a guys money? You can work for yourself and make your own money and be your own boss.
989900D: And you think even a local government won't be able to do this? BTW, not all the loans will be coming from foreign institutions of lending.
'Blueprint' here means their own blueprint -- their terms.
There you go with your conspiracy theories again. Bros, you overestimate he capability of this govt. It's disorganized and incompetent. They don't seem to know what they are doing. You would be amazed at the lack of professionalism in govt in Nigeria. Some of this guy's can't even be elected to the city council where I leave talkless of the mayor's office yet this guy's are running countries. The truth of the matter is that I won't hire anyone in the Buhari administration (not even those in the finance ministry) and put them in charge of a fortune 500 company but yet this people are running an entire country. You better pray for this country.
989900D: Exactly, not that there is no blueprint, it is not just their own type of blueprint.
No, what I mean is that the Bihar I administration is so unprofessional and bush league it's not even funny. It's so sad that in a country of 150 million people we can't find people with administrative skills who know how to run institutions instead we are stuck with this motley crew. Nigeria deserves better.
In other parts of the world before you can borrow money from the bank you have to present a detailed business plan and show how you intend to make money before your loan can be approved. They don't just hand out money like that. This are professional organizations. They need to know how you are going to pay them back after all they are not a charity.
Omavik: I was wondering if a Nollywood screenplay looks anything like d pix below... If it doesnt,, i wouldn't mind getting tips and steps to writing a perfect Nollywood screenplay...
VillageBoi: The pic you posted is what a film script looks like be it Nollywood, Jollywood, Bollywood or Plutowood. No reason why a Nollywood script would be different. Format your screenplay just the pic has.
hahahhaha, bro you are naive if you think the level of professionalism in Nollywood is the same as Hollywood.
Family › Re: My Son's Graduation by davidif: 7:54pm On Nov 01, 2016
