₦airaland Forum

You met her on social media during lockdown.

You think she's cute, ambitious and ticks all the boxes.

Kept in touch through calls and messages.

Met her in July.

Told her you want the relationship to end in marriage.

Assuming she accepted this condition, she was honest to tell you her dirty laundry.

You're chickening out.


You see why people ease into relationships instead of jumping steps? Now that more boxes are opening up your eyes have opened.

You have standards and that's great but if you decide to go marry this chick, know that you won't have anyone to blame when she travels and you can't reach her for a few days and then start suspecting something that may/may not have happened.

She may or may not have changed, are you ready to gamble your money, time and care? Are you ready for her to sleep over at her cousins place when she goes to visit her family? Can you relax when one of your kids looks like him? Woman plenty, na wisdom to make good choice scarce.

There's a limit to how much pleasure over pain a big dick can give any girl..

And a girl that wants to cheat will cheat no matter the pleasure you give her so stop making excuses for her.

Parada:
So he should not say the truth cos they are igbos but your foolish n cursed tribesmen are free to insult Tinubu Awolowo Fashola Buhari n Co.

I'm not Igbo you dumb racist.

Just look what the first poster is saying, very soon the next generation will start killing themselves over tribal differences.

If she fit reason you when she get bf she fit reason another person when you and her dey date.

Did your pastor tell you about covid-19?

Now all the tinfoil hat wearing conspiracies would come up, especially those herb pushers who believe a mix of roots and leaves can cure anything. Dummies.

The day she steps out on one of those sugar daddies and he sends some goons to disfigure your face is the day you'll regret knowing that cheap hoe. Talking from experience.

Just when the virus has mutated enough to start killing more kids is when schools in Nigeria are resuming? Who swear for this country?

luscioustrish:
She asked.. Support her OR don't.

Easy.

Of all people to ask,it's the boyfriend? She doesn't have uncle's, auntie's or family members for monetary support?

Another case of bitches being leeches.

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Observing..

Mavinsoladele:
I need help.....i'm a young guy in my teens but i really want beards even if just little. I know it may be considered unimportant but my mates are having. I am even thinking it might be hereditary cos my dad doesn't have. Any advice? How do i get it soon?

Don't give yourself problem you don't have. I repeat, don't give yourself problem you don't have. Google folliculitis and be thankful for your shiny chin.

Funny how all these fly out the window when the guy is cute and rich.. anything he says is instantly funny and good, even if he tear her hot slaps.

Nobody is describing the situation of the op right. Even the op.

You see those young women who aren't serious?

They are the ones who turn into the serious ones after age, family pressure and losing their friends to marriage.

Women know they will always be catered for, they've been given this idea since birth and society mostly supports them.

Since women can now control their own pregnancy which is new to the past 3 generations, we are seeing more and more women opening their legs to more and more men.

Sex is something women don't put much emphasis on because they can have it anytime they want, and now that they don't usually get pregnant following sex, they now start to choose, exchange, double date, party, one night stand anybody they want who fits and can push their emotional buttons.

Now mother nature gave women enticing assets at young ages so she can attract the closest mate possible and bond with him forever(or at least till he died) through the estrogen they release after sex(google female pair bonding).

But because women today monkey-branch from one relationship to the other looking for the perfect 6 feet, handsome, bearded, tall, charming, rich, charismatic, athletic, doesn't watch football and is loyal they sleep with more and more men thinking they can hook the top men eventually with Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, michat lewd pics in a known process called hypergamy(a female trait).

And since social media has created a broader world of men for them who senselessly love and like all their pictures and sponsor any of their stupid, childish or rude request those women have become extremely entitled and now rate themselves higher than they normally would without social media(this is why back in the day a gorgeous woman was also smart and had virtue while being with a hardworking not so goodlooking man as they had little awareness of men outside their vicinity).

Combine with the low quality of life in Nigeria and women who know and have all these suck many men dry and keep multiple men around them(even if it's not for sex), just so they can keep the sense that they are high value and all men must want them.

This constant chasing for higher men crashes at age 26 above when they stop getting as much attention from all of these men and/or realise that these men just want to have sex with them only, the pair bonding ability in them that was supposed to make them follow the only guy having sex with them is also out the window as multiple sex partners makes it hard for females to stick to one partner and hypergamy(the feeling females have to explore) at this stage keeps pushing them to find the best man.

Finally after they've seen "life" and aren't a "small girl" anymore they go to the closest church, give their life to Christ and "change" into a "mature woman" looking for a "God fearing man" that will house them, raise their kids and take care of them. They settle for such men who are yesmen since they couldn't get the "best man"(which is almost impossible by the way statistically speaking, all women can't marry dangote).

Being "serious" with any woman is a risk you're better off not taking as they don't take themselves serious till they're all used up then start pressuring you into being a loyal husband/father with sex, compliments, and before they get married. After that, they gain weight, become entitled yet again as they've known you're stuck with them and then start comparing you with other men.

Not all women are guilty of this, but the traits are universal to those who know them.. I don't know any girl that doesn't want a guy that's equal or more than them in anything. Women date up and will throway your feelings once she feels you aren't up to her.

So now you can marry a used 30 year old who doesn't know how to pair bond anymore and is overly entitled by telling you to be a "man" or you can enjoy a woman who knows herself enough to let you train her into a woman you'd have kids with(with high chance she'll want to "explore" )

All in all, life is short and a womans satisfaction shouldn't be in your mind unless she's earned it.

Whatever made her start respecting you will go when you lose it. Use your sense, not your dick.

I've stopped chasing for years now, immediately you start forming my interest has gone. Life is too short to waste.

News hits nairaland, people say 1 or 2 things, end of story. People go back to their lives like nothing ever happened.

Until we start making news like this trend worldwide so the powers that be can put pressure on Nigeria to reform nothing will happen.

To me, it is too late for the people in Nigeria to form any sort of rising up, think of it like the time of apartheid in South Africa, external powers had to put pressure on the country before they succumbed and the people themselves were now able to enact the change they wanted.

If we can start posting daily on the injustices of Nigeria to the western world many will lose their jobs over incompetence and when we voice out for a president or governor to be ousted the world will join us in putting pressure until it's done.

Nigeria right now is being drained by the Chinese and Indians as businesses are being bought up, if we sleep more, they will be the ones to make the rules of the Nigeria we live in and it won't matter if you're an Igbo/Yoruba/Hausa person then.

Keep spending on her and don't stop, it's working well for you.

The one who cares less, has the most power in any relationship.

Marriage these days doesn't really help men. It's women who urge men who aren't ready and then start nagging him when she's used children and her needs to drain him mentally and financially.

I think more men ought to marry virgins who want to be traditional housewives.

angelfallz:
unfortunately this would also affect red pill men. Beta men wouldn't be the only that suffer.

I see no reason red pilled men will suffer.

If you care for female attention then you aren't red pilled. We have self-respect and don't cower to females, that's why the wife of a blue pilled man will start eyeing a man chasing his own happiness.

sodiqapril:
The only advice I give to guys is most of these girls in their early age (20-26) reject good guys, treat them badly for the toxic ones that don't care, but as old age falls on them, they repent and try to move to the good ones ..if you one o

So you think a girl that has been chasing agbero from the age of 18 will now change into a saint by 30?

Let me tell you what really happens, they don't change, they don't get the men who used to fancy them anymore after their beauty has faded and the few men that want them they don't like them..
They see their friends, relatives, and age-mates who're married and can't go out with them anymore, their parents start bugging them, and they lose fellow bff's that they used to go out together to party.

So they settle for the church boy that will marry them and they can control and manipulate.. you think those husbands ever enjoy them as much as those past bfs ever have?.. they can never enjoy her like her exes that's just the truth.

That's why married men who marry these ladies are complaining all over the place of being sex starved, they married women who've been so used they now padlock the one thing that should've been reserved for the husband in the first place.

10 million naira.

Treat her like a celebrity and she'll treat you like a fan.

And God needs money why?

Haven't the Chinese and North Koreans been secretly mining our gold in Nigeria for years?

More money for me.