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Imeze019:
Am new here don't really know how too make a Post :'

go to the front page, select the section you would like to post on e.g technol, romance etc. From there, you will see where to create a new topic

Hmm... Thunder political party

spyroet:
I often wonder and marvelled at those female that are into boxing or mma can they beat their husband like maybe when having a misunderstanding dat lead to a fight, the reason why I am asking this question is that I watched one documentary about one female mma, u need to see this woman fighting like a lion to be honest me as a man I can't beat her. So it wonders me ,even there is one bodybuilder I like in our area but am afraid make she no use me wipe ground if I offend her one day, opinions pls

Outside the ring, they are just as loving as any other lady... Inside the ring, they take their work seriously by fighting ferociously.

The slogan on the car says it all... "the struggle continue".

That she breastfeed you and calls you baby does bot make her your Mother.

Royma70:
Well, what started as a very fruitful and ambitious life took a drastic turn just at the middle age.. I am going to make it as brief as possible while putting myself in first person.

Chapter 1(The good life)

It was like a film when I landed my first job at 21, the struggle was enormous but I was one with courage and felt i could surpass anything that crossed my path, I was energetic and strong willed to the extent I got a car at 23 and moved out of my family home in a very highbrow area in Lagos to a shared apartment in same highbrow area at the age of 25. Life was somewhat good with little to no responsibility to cater for. I had just one girlfriend at the time and it remained so till the later part of the story.

Chapter 2 (The turn)

Life was going great up until 2017 when the economy took a nosedive with companies and organizations folding up like pack of cards. My company struggled to keep pushing with salaries slashed to quarters and some months working totally unpaid. The struggle and enthusiasm was good but the drive was waning at a very high rate. At a point the centre could no longer hold and one had to throw in the resignation letter at the age of 30 when it was vividly clear that the employee was feeding the employer rather than vice-versa.

Chapter 3 (The letter)

At 30, above employment age while not really kin to take another one immediately having changed over 6 jobs in 10 years span. Some folding up while the others going moribund. The drive to be an entrepreneur was rife and kicking like a pregnant lady in labour. I put the last fullstop on my resignation letter wishing the company well and good luck in their future endeavours. A statement I was used to in my early years of life on the other side.

Chapter 4 (Trials and tribulation)

With about 5m in savings, a furnished apartment, a car and a fiancee I ventured into the murky waters of entrepreneurship. I took up chandling (The supply of vessels with perishable and non perishable items), the business could not thrive beyond 6months because inflation was draining monies I could not bill on invoice as price templates are for a period of 1 year minimum alongside scramble for smaller contracts by the big wigs were rife due to a retracted economy. Threw in the towel with a depleted savings, assured my girlfriend I knew what I was doing while her support and belief kept me afloat.

Chapter 5 (The struggle)

Coming out of a business really threw me out while exposing my anxiety about what life had in stock for me. With a depleted 4m in hand, I ventured into logistics, purchased 4 fairly used corolla vehicles for taxi business and kicked off, felt like a real entrepreneur with daily cash flowing in, the initial repairs and downturns were shock absorbed because I had mechanical knowledge with plugs on best bargain while even growing the fleet to 6 cars (5used 1 toks), up untill the 2020 pandemic where all cars were parked and a through feasibility study was carried out alongside debts and loans. It was visible even to the blind that i was on a steady slope to abject poverty as the cars had not fetched enough to replace them, while they consumed more than they earned even while I drove one of them to cut down cost. Another failed dream . The country inflation increased, with trip fares pegged, while cost of parts and new vehicles doubled 100%, one had to sell his private car to offset incurred loans and debts. I came out poorer than I went in.

Chapter 6 (What seemed like fresh air)

Forgot to add, I had gotten married during the last business, with the support of friends and family, a somewhat initial flourishing business, a supporting wife having dated for 6years, it felt like the right thing to do, i walked that aisle despite having a wedding very very far from the dreams of what my wedding would look like. I dusted my CV which ironically had cobwebs all over shoved in a forgotten part of the drawer. Now with a family, a depleted capital of 3m having paid rent and never ending overhead expenses, I was left in the lurch of uncertainty, HBP, anxiety, lack of sleep, depression. I picked my self up, the interviews never came while I ventured into importation with my 3 million cash, no babies yet (atleast I should not be that stupid).. spoke with a couple of friends on advice and did my first import. I was so happy with smirks of joy and gratitude to God on a successful venture up until the ever increasing forex exchange, poverty and the 8% US inflation rendered me back to square one. My projected profit was eroded even before the car touched Nigeria as the new exchange rate could not afford you take even a kobo out of it, most cases, had to borrow to even stay in business alongside an endless wait to make a sale due to low buying power. With that being my only source of income, the misses was on the verge of abandoning ship, marriage was in disarray.

Chapter 7 (Left she did)

In what seemed like a romeo and juliet undying love, with juliet in the balcony calling on romeo to take her hands, what was supposed to be a little time off actually involved moving trucks in the embarrassment of neighbours as a man that could not keep his home. The shame was terrible, even if no one could boldly speak up, the eyes and gossips gave way. Now at 35, a broken home, a failed business, an abandoned career, depleted capital.

Should he move back home in the highbrow of lekki to re-launch even if some may say its neccessary so as to get a fresh start, it might give room to nay sayers. Or get a smaller apartment that really cuts deep into his dry pocket just to save face?..

Cc: lalasticlala

Move back home and start again... Do not consider what naysayers will say. It is your life and you have to make it better.
I have once been there.... Leaving home at 19, high flying in business but coming back to stay with in my parents house years later cos if financial crises.
Now, I am out again, back on my feet and doing what I do best.

kongaowner:
It's actually morethan 8 years I've been here on nairaland and fortunately my first time of creating topic. I'm in backside pain as i am typing this I don't know if anyone here has experience this before. About couple of months ago I was having pain between my back side and under my right ribs. I went for a test and I was diagnosed with kidney infection. In short I have treated it with pills from self claimed professional pharmacy morethan two times. it goes but keep coming back with same pain. I believe we are all mature here, insulting me will only add to my pains. I need advice or prescription !!

I once had that experience... That pain is the worst pain I can never wish on an enemy. It comes and go but now I am free from it.
The infection causes an inflamation close to the kidney.
You have 2 options, it is either you opt for a surgery which I refused to or believe in a Miracle and hang on to it like I did

What a country!!!

What's is wrong with this present generation for Christ sake!!!
I am happy for the poor little girl

It is better ooo... Lest he falls from grace

When it comes to the matters of the heart ... there is no rule of the thumb.

It is his time to shine... So, all keeps working out for him.

This vaccination go be by fire by force ooo ...

Making her papa proud all the way ...

NnolimNzubechi:
Hello Nairalanders.
It's A Long Read But Please Bear With Me

Am the only child, Am A Boy,my mom died when I was 3 years and am the only child.so it's been only me and dad since and his girlfriends..

Recently I started smoking, He noticed it..My dad too smokes but only cigarette,He has been smoking past a Decade Now But He looks very Healthy And Chubby Too So You won't Know He Smokes Unless Your Saw Him smoking.

So He told Me To Stop Smoking,And He Was Angry With Me For A Week plus,Later The Anger Reduced..He Taught I Smoked Only Cigarette but I Smoke Both cigar and Arizona Weed,Jus those Two.i Don't Take alcohol.
I Stopped Smoking Though,It Was on Saturday Being Feb 4,That I Relapsed,I Smoked A.Z,So My Dad And Her Current Girlfriend Came Back,She went To The Backyard And Saw the Aches and The Brown Rizzla..Then she went and Told My Dad,My Dad Came Into My Room And Started Saying Plenty Things,Lastly He told me To Leave His House Tomorrow Being Sunday Feb 05. He then left My Room, I Was Shocked,I Didn't What To Do Or Say To Him

So in The Morning I went Out To Buy Something,When I Came Back He Locked The Back Door From inside,So I Couldn't Open It With My Keys.I Knocked And Told Him It Was Me,He Told Me To Go Back To Where I Come From And i Should Not Knock Ever Again.This Made Angry,He Didn't Even Give Me The Chance To Apologize,I Used Vex And Told Him Oya Let Me Carry My Property,He Said He Will Throw it For Me,That He Is Already Packing My Belongings,Few Minutes Later He Threw It for Me,I Was Down So He Threw It From Up...So I Left to Stay With a Friend in another State.


So My Question Now Is what My Father Did The Right thing?My Telling Me To Leave His House Cos I smoke, Am 19 Years Of Age, I Will be 20 This Year.I heard too Many ulcers and Helicobacter pylori Which Leads To Stomach Cancer,Yet He Told Me To Leave, He Was The Buying Medicine For Me But He Knows The Ulcer And Helicobacter pylori Hasn't Healed Final.He Knows I Don't Have Money To Fend For Myself Yet,i Always Go To His Shop To Help Him With His business.

What He Did By Telling Me To Leave Is It Right?I Don't SMOKE Outside,I only SMOKE In Our Flat,Cos I Don't Want People To Know I SmokE,My Dad Will be Ashamed When People Tell Him I Smoke ,He is a Very Popular Man Here..


Today I Chatted Him And Told Him Am Sorry For My actions,The First Thing He Told Me Was (you will never see good In your life)..I Didn't Mind Though The Curse though, I Begged Him,And He Told Me To Come Back,But Am Really Not Happy With Him,What if I Have Accident?what if I was Kidnapped?He didn't Think Of Those ones instead He sent Me Parking, I Have always Be A Good son which he tells me Frequently,I don't give him Headache.Just Only That Smoke

Even Though He Told Me To Come Back Am Still annoyed With Him,Instead of Him to Help Me To Stop ,He Told Me To Leave His House And Go continue Smoking.Those Words Hurt Me....

Should I Go back To Him And Start Planing To Save Money And Relocate?Cos I don't Have a Dime Now,And My ulcer Hasn't Healed Complete...I haven't even Eaten Good Food since yesterday,Just one okpa
...
My Main Question Are (Did My Dad Do The Right Thing By Telling Me To Leave,Should I Go Back To Stay With Him??Or should I Stay Here At My friend Place and start Hustling For Myself??

Please Moderators Should help Move to Front page,Am in Deep confusion Now.Thanks

Go and make peace with your dad and please stop smoking... Your dad did the wrong thing but I'm sure he loves you.
My dad disowned me 3 times, sent me out of his house twice during my teenage years.
I am the only son... What i remember if him after his death is that my dad loved me.

Try to forgive him and let peace reign

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

Taking her abroad is the right thing to do but beware of the risks... And please, stop flirting!!!

Cooolme:
Please read through and kindly ignore typos.
After my Sec school, I went to reside with a relative where I was hustling and later got admission in 2018. During the course of all these I met this beautiful, brilliant girl from a well to do home just a year younger than me (I'm 20), we've been together since then and she certainly have no issues.... I'm just maybe the one who at times come up with issues, I've not been in any relationship before I met her neither have I even had sex with anyone before.
She got admission into my school and she's been my best paddy since she came, she's in her 200lvl I'm in my finals this year and we're doing very well academically, she gets emotional anytime she remembers I'll be leaving this country after my school and she thinks I'll maybe leave her too but I always assure her everything will be fine. We went out some time and got intimate, it was her first and mine too, was very passionate like the one you see in movies and during the whole thing she said she'll end my life and hers if I should leave her for no reason. While going home I had to bring it up formally and she said she meant it, it got me thinking since then and I started avoiding her. She noticed and came to apologise but it hasn't gotten off my mind.
I really love her and I don't intend leaving her unless something messy comes up but this thing she said it got me worried. It go me thinking like women can really go to that extent?

My brother, don't be naive... You are her first so, expect such such a statement.
She is scared of being heartbroken after letting go to you.

KMVBO:
I want to go to China and buy some Howo tipper trucks and I never been. Any advice would be appreciated. To start tipper business, I believe going over there myself would save me some money.
Where to go
Type of truck to buy
Cost (like how much to buy one)
Shipping
Clearing in Nigeria
Etc
Thank you in advance

why not just buy it directly from their company here in Nigeria? The cost of clearing is always a major problem that pumps up the total cost at the long run.

Better still, check the prices of the trucks in China online, convert the price to naira. Then proceed to soak with s clearing and forwarding agent here to have a clue of what the cost of clearance will be. All the best

He did his homework well ... But it was not meant to be for Egypt.

I really do not want to believe this post is true.. I no fit laugh

tayo60:
As a lady, I have read countless stories here on nairaland of how men used and dumped girls not because they are not pretty, but because of some traits these ladies exhibited which turned you men off. So I have been wondering, what do you men really want? For a long lasting relationship, even a successful marriage,what can a woman do to win or capture your heart as a man? What advice will you give the female gender on relationship matters? Ur opinions will be highly appreciated. Let's learn from you!

All that is required is that a lady must apply sense in all situations.

Nigeria allows just about anything from all this foreigners..

Not a bad consolidation...

Aside for the financial windfall and increased fan base followership that it will bring to the club... I don't think the move is needed.

Goodboy2000:
Dear Nairalanders,

I just graduated from high institution waiting to be mobilized for Nysc possibly this coming April.
I met this old-time friend who traveled to Ghana and I think he came back with the big bag. He had credited me 10k twice and bought me one Rolex watch.

Note that all these he does, I never asked for it.
One evening, I was moved to message him to know if there's any business link he can assist me with. Fortunately, he was close with guys with him and ask me to come see him which I did.

He told me about his yahoo business and told me there's nothing like ritual.
He was the one doing the talking ,showing me his achievements and people he had helped also revealing my position as the first son that I should do something.

He said I should move to ghana that he would link me up with his boys working for him.

Fellow nairalanders, I don't know if the risk I am about to take now is worth it?

I need your advice.

NB: I am working currently.

I pirry you... That's all i can say.

rich2021:
Thank you so much. We already have another lawyer that will get a court order but we don't know whether this lawyer will work against us just the same way the first one did. That is the reason I'm asking for help. I want to know if it is possible for us to win and the tenant pays for all the rent. We have never had court case before so we don't have experience

please, let go of the past rent... Focus on him leaving for good.

Idowu116:
Hello Nairalanders,there is a very confusing issue I would love to share here so your opinions are highly needed.

I work in a bank as a cleaner since last year April and I earn #26,000 per month. I have been working with the aim of starting a business (even if I don't have any business idea to run)or furthering my education because I stop at SS3 since 2017 when I graduated.
Last week, my uncle called me that there is vacancy at a filling station in ibadan then from there I will continue schooling in a polythecnic of ibadan.He said I will be paid #15,000 per month an I will do part time at the poly.He said I shouldn't worry about accommodation and feeding.He also said I will be paying my school fees from my salary.

I haven't worked in a filling station before but I would love to change environment too. I don't want to leave this job and regret later and I don't know if I will do well in the filling station but I also want to further my education too.

I am confused here and I don't know what decision to take.So I came here to seek for a very candid advice on how to deal with the issue.
Please your opinions are needed thank you
Lalasticlala please help move to front page.Thank you

God to I adan provided you are sure of continuing your education... 26k in lagos is like 10k job in ibadan.

He is a wailer...

He has time...

okpeho:
Good day everyone, I trust your day is going on well.
I created this post on behalf of my wife who lost her job last year.
Her former company shuts down due to the impact of COVID-19 and government policies on forex.
All her efforts to secure another job since last year has proved abortive.
Now my wife is always moody, discouraged and depressed, I have tried my best to console and encourage her.
Please my wife needs a job and in case you have any openings or know anyone or link that can be of help.
She has a B.sc in Computer Science, Professional Diploma, Purchasing and Supply Chain Management (CIPSM) and MBA. Procurement and Supply Chain Management.
She is open to jobs in purchasing and supply, procurement, logistics and operations.

She will prefer job within Lagos.

Thank you as I look forward to positive feedback from everyone.

Do you reside on the Island?

That is Segun elere Boolu...