MRAKPORS: I read my wife's chat with another guy, apparently an old school mate In the chat, the guy said he misses my wife And my wife said she misses him too
Please is this proper?
The questions I see almost everyday by dumb married Nairaland men. SMH
Being a Ghanaian, I’ve had this bad impression about Nigerians. I grew up in Ghana thinking Nigerians were negative energies around anyone. I was literally brainwashed mostly by the media to see Nigerians as thieves, murderers, scammers, etc. But after 6 years of working and associating with Nigerians outside of Ghana, the following are what I’ve found and discovered about them. I’m writing this not because my best friend back in the UK is a Nigerian, and not because my senior manager and team lead at my present employer are Nigerians. This is my honest observation!
Arguably, if you put the average Ghanaian and a Nigerian under the same conditions and environment, the Nigerian would undoubtedly outperform the Ghanaian. They are bold, smart and have this relentless quest and effort for learning and perfecting their craft. What a Nigerian cannot do does not exist. I started a DevOps Engineering program for a career alternative and Nigerians especially their women from different career fields constitute about 60% of the class. I was scared to take this step—to move from risk management to pure IT but I was shocked to see Nigerians in nursing, HR, journalism, sales, etc here in Canada taking on the challenge. I quickly reached out to most of my Ghanaian friends but none seem to be interested. This is a fortune field in IT….and when I asked these Nigerians why many of them are here, they told me “this is the surest way to make money by doing less”. Truth is, if you’re starting anything abroad and there’s no Nigerian in it, just know that that thing has no promise ��. A Nigerian wouldn’t attempt what doesn’t bring any monetary gain or value to them!
I’ve noticed that a Nigerian wouldn’t lie to you unless they’re scared of you or stand to gain something exceedingly beneficial from doing so. This confirms why the most genuine and honest folks I’ve ever associated with outside of Ghana are Nigerians. When a Nigerian is sharing an opportunity with you, they disclose everything dito-dito. They withhold nothing—they tell you as it is. My people would give you a half information and still be all over the place saying that they’ve helped you. You have no idea how many Ghanaians have made themselves demi-gods out here because they’ve been here for ages and feel everything must be ran through them. If you don’t go their way, you’re a target for gossip!
A Nigerian sees an opportunity in every situation, and it cuts across. They’re mostly interested in building a sustainable business than for a quick profit. This explains why wherever there are both Ghanaian and Nigerian traders, the Nigerian merchandise would cost less than the Ghanaian—even if they have the same suppliers. I see that here in Calgary at the various African markets.
Show me any work environment or office without a Nigerian and I’ll show you a work that’s less fulfilling and rewarding. The energy around Nigerians is positive and motivating. Nothing scares them than failure so they work hard for success because success is greatly celebrated in their culture. Where I come from, if you’re making any progress, there’s 100% chance you’ll lose 99% of your friends—they’ll spread lies about you out of dislike. Some would also attribute your progress to things other than your personal efforts. “You see that girl, she’s being chopped by so so and so person. You see that guy, he’s an occult. You see that guy, he’s rushing in life. Etc”. Your own family would turn themselves into avowed enemies—praying to see you fail so that they’ll use you as a bad example like “you see that guy, he was rushing in life but see how he’s crushed like a fragile glass.” My people have a long way to go. They must know that it’s okay for anyone irrespective of age to be great at what they do. In fact, people can build a fortune at age 40 or less through genuine means. Let’s inhale some positivity!
We glorify timidity, ignorance and sycophancy as signs of humility but Nigerians encourage boldness, assertiveness and being daring. If there’s a Nigerian in your trade or profession, get closer, you’ll learn a lot from them. I’ve learned a lot from my association with them and I’m always grateful for having one as my direct supervisor at work!
~The End~ By Jay Kwashie
Thanks for the positive feedback about us. However, there is a mix of very bad and very good Nigerians. You’re lucky to have met the good ones.
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Hello Nairalanders, He found out his wife is a hermaphrodite on their honeymoon?! What is your take on this?[/quote]Oshey… pretend Joseph. Abeg dump her real quick. If she was a good person she should have told you since. WTF. That’s gay shit! Bleep outta here!
Karen2024: I've always suspected my boyfriend cheating on me with a lady he claim to be his casual friend and I told him I don't like how the girl flirt around him but he said nothing was going on between them.
Yesterday I returned from work and my friend called me on phone and asked me to go to my boyfriend's house immediately. Without hesitation I drove to his house and caught him with a lady on his bed. I'te dumped him.
Thanks for the information. I assist in circulation same to all other social media platforms and main stream media. Cheers!
Samakus: Hi guys. It's Christmas morning but let me have your thoughts on this.
Just coming back from early morning Christmas service of my church. I have a friend (a girl] that is just a normal hello/hi kind of friend. Nothing between us.
At the close of service, she met me and suggested that I marry her. Initially I thought she was joking but she reaffirmed her stand saying that she has been given all manner of ģreenlights but it's like I take her for a sister. She bluntly asked that if I like her, I should marry her and that she will provide half of the cost of the wedding. I didn't know what to say cos truly, that's a first time for me.
She knows my woman and I told her so but she's was like, 'your woman can't give you this offer that I'm giving you and it's better you marry who loves you more than you love her.
I don't really like her in a romantic way. I See her more as a friend but this move from her got me thinking.
I love my woman and but I know she's not ready right now either. What will you do if you're in my shoes.
Insults are welcomed too. Based on nairaland way
Now I can’t insult you because you have already welcomed it, unfortunately. I strongly suggest you follow your heart. Your current woman is she who you intend marrying? Is she the type? Are you certain you don’t have feelings for your friend?
envoymedia: Popular Nollywood actress, Nkechi Blessing Sunday has shared new photos of herself and her lover as they celebrate Christmas together, IGBERETV reports.
Kdsml: Merry xmas every1. Hope you all are having a great night. I nid advice pls
I am married with a kid, my husband traveled out of the country for a greener pasture, I moved out of our rented house and relocated back to my mom's place.
We had sold our properties for 300k he told me he doesn't know how long it will take him to get a job in the new country and I should use the 300k to start up a business so i will be able to take care of our daughter until he will be stable in the new country.
I have decided to start selling foodstuffs in the front of the house and i will use the remaining money for my daughter school fees in January.
My mom asked me to borrow her 120k to pay for my brother school fee and i refused explaining to her why i can't give her the money and she has been giving attitudes and refused to speak to me, i went to the market today i bought xmas clothes for my daughter and a wrapper for my mom she rejected it.
I know she is doing all this for me to give her the money but i will not give it to her no matter what. I don't understand why she is angry when she knows that my husband is not around i should use the money wisely because if i am broke i have no one else to help me.
Kswine: Please what is this thing about mother in-law and daughter in-law that doesn’t make them get along?
Am in the middle an issue and don’t know how to proceed, let me tell you how it all started.
I’m the first born of my family, my father left us with my mom and marry another woman. To assist my mom I had to get a part time job while still in secondary school and this really affect my life.
Fast forward to 5 years ago I met my wife and we begin dating, during this time I won’t lie I saw some red flags about her family but was hoping things will change along the line. Her mom is a prophetess in a white garment church, she said my wife was her favorite in all her children. I didn’t count it because I see it as a normal thing for a mother to love her child endlessly.
To cut the long story short, last year my babe got pregnant and we decided to introduce both families and after that she will go stay with my mom for a while because am not always around and she need someone at home with her.
Now during this time mom do complain that she’s not free and do isolate herself from the rest of the family, on many occasion I’ll sit her down and we talk things out only for it to repeat itself.
On the second month of her stay with my mom I told her to go visit her mom maybe when she comes back things will be better, my wife got to her house and told her mom all sort of things and the next thing she and her mom started insulting my mom. All this thing happened around March this year and since then they have been begging because I told her nothing will make me marry her again.
Family meeting upon family meeting has been going on and at the end they want me to forgive her and bring her home which my mom insist.
Now I don’t want to look like a weak man because she and her family went too far by insulting someone I love and cherish and on the other hand I don’t want my daughter to grow up without a father figure in her life, so I don’t know what to do.
Please no insult
Never have your woman and your mother living under the same roof if you want peace.
EdoBoy90: Recently, a lot of divorce issues have been rocking social media. The known ones are mostly from celebrities while unknown ones aren't on the internet. Off social media, many divorce cases are happening daily. This has become frequent. Our parents and grandparents lasted more than 30, 20, 40, 50 or 60 years in marriage those days.
It has been proven that most marriage that crashes, 80% of it are caused by ladies. Blessing CEO, the popular Relationship Therapist also affirmed it.
Ladies, what is the issue? Don't marry someone you know that you won't spend the rest of your life with or don't waste a guy time.
Some of my friends who are in abroad, never marry Nigerian Ladies. One of them in Germany, married a Ghanaian. The other one in the UK, married a woman from Sierra Leone. In the US and Canada same issue.
Broken homes or in a society with a lot of divorcees lack basic moral and cultural values. This doesn't build a healthy community or society at large.
Some of we guys with open arms to Ladies have seen hell in the hands of some ladies. Last month, a lady without basic education or vocational skills telling me, someone who is feeding her, clothing her and working in one of the Multinational companies that I am the least, Just because guys are flopping around her. Sometimes, I wonder the mindset of some ladies. They see beauty or guys flopping around them as an achievement.
The good ladies in Nigeria currently are just less than 5%. This might be harsh but it is the truth.
Okupe sentenced to 2 years in prison for money laundering
This reportedly happened between the lawyer representing Doyin Okupe and some security personnel
The court sentenced him to two years imprisonment on count 34 with an option of a fine of N500,000.
Doyin Okupe has been found guilty of receiving over N200 million cash from former National Security Adviser (NSA) Col. Sambo Dasuki and sentenced to two years imprisonment.
Doyin Okupe is one major red flag surrounding the Peter Obi campaign
Mino1000: Hi everyone, so I met this beautiful babe June this year and we started dating three months later. We genuinely loved each other and we had a relationship that people envied.
We trusted each other so much that I had access to her google account and all her personal info on my laptop, while she also had mine on her phone to cut the long story short, I have a problem of always getting worried whenever she is not home and I can't reach her for example if she leaves in a bolt and the journey is 30minutes but she is not reachable one hour later I start to worry and call people I feel are at home and even the bolt rider.
On this particular day, she had a meeting with her colleagues which just came into the country, she shared her live location but it was last updated an hour ago, she was not picking her calls and it was 11:45pm mind you she was in Ikeja and lives at lekki so she was still going to Lekki that night in this dangerous December month in Lagos. I called and called but she did not pick then I got so worried and went to her google contacts to get her boss number and called him. He told her I called and that is how trouble started.
She explained that nobody has his number and she is the middle man between him and clients so his number getting into my hands without her permission means his company info is not safe. She said I have destroyed all what she labored to build over the years and blocked me everywhere (phone, whatsapp, snapchat) and left me with only instagram access. I have been begging her since last night when this happened, but she only unblocked me to tell me not to call her again and blocked me back.
I have been trying to explain to her that relationship and marriage is full of challenges so she should not let this one destroy what we had but she has been ignoring me. If I call with a different number she hangs up immediately she hears my voice.
We were already talking about marriage and in fact, I had already started making arrangements for a proposal next year.
I swear I really love this lady with everything that I have and I know for a fact that she loved me too but right now I am confused I am wondering how she was so much in love with me yesterday morning but doesn’t even want to hear my voice today. She went as far as threatening to get me arrested if I come close to her house. I am really confused and need mature advice on what to do to save this relationship because right now I can’t focus on anything. Plus I trust her so I wasn’t calling because I thought she was doing something silly.
She was definitely seeing someone else she prefers than you. She was only hanging into you until she’s certain the new guy is serious. You made it easy for her to exit the relationship.
Blessedmercy8: Popular Nollywood Actress, Nkechi, has called out her ex on a passport issue, shaming him with the curtain he used in his apartment abroad while showing her own well furnished apartment as she rants on and on.
DukeOfOsun: Gov. Adeleke Reverses Osun State Polytechnic Tuition Fees.
The Governor of Osun State, Senator Ademola Adeleke, has approved the reversal of the school fees of Osun State Polytechnic Iree to the initial amount prior to July 2022 Governorship election.
It will be recalled that the tuition fees for fresh students was increased from #67,850 to #112,850 for students offering science related courses while those offering management related courses were asked to pay #97,300 from the initial #57,300.
The reversal was approved after the students union leadership of the institution called the attention of the Government to the increment and appealed for it to be reversed.
Thank you the Peoples Governor.
Imole Dee!!!!
I pray he does great. Perhaps Nigerians would push him to become president some day. We need leaders that has the fear of God.
Yeah, be careful, just like every other addiction. Anything your partner do while dating will most likely continue in marriage, be warned. I had sex an explosive sex life with my wife when we were dating and few years after marriage. We makeout everywhere with any little opportunity. Now we are almost 5 years in marriage and things have changed, though it has been coming gradually.
The last time we had sex was like 3 weeks ago, make I suck, NO, make I use hand, NO, and na she give me signal to come do ooo, I vex run my thing, cum and told her sex with her is now more of work. she got angry, I no send. Later in the morning, she brought the matter and I told her yes, she is making sex look like work, that she probably don’t enjoy sex with me anymore. She started saying its pressure, stress,….but I know it’s all lie, I had my suspicion (she doesn’t cook nor wash, virtually does nothing at home now aside her work which closes early and baby who we all look after). 3 days ago, I had a dream abut her, I prayed about it, she asked me about it and I refused t tell. Guys, throughout yesterday, conji wan kill me ooo, I just busy myself with phone. Later in the night, I came in and saw her sleeping, I surf net small , come sleep. I had another dream about her, woke up and time check, past 1 am. I saw her pressing her phone, probably doing her facebook as usual, that her fav app. Na so my suspicion start to play ooo, she started masturbating right there again, I vex but keep calm (this is not the first time ooo, normal level).
Now, this is why I’m angry, I LUV ORAL too much, its my favourite part of love making, for sometimes now, anytime I start my movement going downward on her, she will stop me, make I use hand na, NO, but see Aunty put her hand for THERE now. I’m not surprise, why? Because she confessed to me when dating that she is addicted to masturbation but working on it, that she will stop. Out of love I didn’t judge her, no one is a saint, I also saw it as maybe we can work things from there, bringing it in to our love making to spice things up in our sex life but now, I see my wife prefer masturbation to my oral and sex in its entirety. Guys forget, I’m not hyping myself but I dey try for oral. I can be there, 30min, 1 hr doing my thing (magic), and the result Is always awesome, as I gain more satisfaction in seeing my partner having orgasm than anything else.
Prior to now, because of excuses and stuffs, I have stopped asking for sex but anytime she gives signal, I go deliver. Now, I have made up my mind kind of, make she continue her masturbation, anytime conji hook me, I will find someone to give me mouth action till I’m relieved and movee. Worst case, 3k or 5k. You cant be starving me giving excuses while doing your thing. After all, this is one of the sins of marriage we were told during our class and she know. I’m not a fan of f*cking outside, I neva enter another woman since we got married though I had enough changes and the pressure and I still don’t want to, not because of her though because she probably doesn’t deserve it but I’m going to get my BJ and have myself relieved issa decision I don’t think I will stop unless God says otherwise.
I will continue to be the loving husband she know, I wont change, I will even get better just as she continue to be the loving wife that she is, but we all have urge to be quenched. So guys, don’t overlook anything you cant overlook in marriage, e get why! Once most people get what they want, they tend to change or show their real self and marriage isn’t an exception. Some just want the name “married” and have kids (like my wife, after all, she don marry, don get pikin) and once they achieve this, anything can follow though it ought not to be so. Its all my fault sha, I overlook everything ( probably because I know non is perfect and I saw some good traits in her) I wanted companionship as my main reason for marriage but hers were different(though see like attention die), I should have known better. Please marry who have same marriage goals as you.
Finally, this is not to discourage anyone from marriage , marriage is a beautiful thing and I’m happy I’m married and I love my baby (make una no think am oooo). Just pray and marry a good wife like me (even better).
#Peace!
You guys will be fine. This change prolly began after she birthed una first
The problem with DJ Cuppy is that everything is about clout chasing. No real happiness despite being a daughter of a billionaire. Very sad. She rushed into an engagement because her sister is engaged. I’ll be surprised if any one truly believes she has finally found happiness. The only happiness she has found is a very brief one for the gram.
Righteousness2: Reminds me of a certain young man i personally met in Lagos. He made money through illumanti devilish group. He was told he will live until 50 yrs , but will lose her his manhood. He was told never to eat anything cooked by a lady. He became a big boi, Lavishly spending up and down until one day, he travelled to see his mum . The mum baked meat pie and gave to him. He forgot he was not to eat anything from a woman. He took a bite and instantly got a sign that he has broken the rules. Immediately the devil came for Him.
His biznesses and houses mysteriously caught fire. Police from no where came to his house and found drugs that he didn't know where it came from. He had 3 bank accounts that had millions of Naira. He tried to access them , mysteriously the millions in the accounts vanished! The 1st account balance became 6000 The 2nd account balance became 6000 The 3rd account balance became 6000 ( 666). If you know u know.
The young man became like a mad man. He could not sleep in His mansions. Demons everywhere. He managed to be sleeping in a car.
Fortunately, someone who saw him invited him to Chosen . The devil threatened him and did everything to Hinder him from Coming. The lady practically pulled him into the Church just few hrs before he was to die.
The Servant of GOD, Pst Muoka was praying on the pulpit and the young man jumped out and began to sumersault and manifest with all their Signs. It was like a war. The GOD of Chosen Delivered Him. He got his manhood back that day.
This is not nollywood film. This is life . I personally met the boy and talked with him.
Listen! The devil has Nothing good to give you. That thing that he is dangling at you in the name of money , fame , wealth or whatever is Chaff! Anything that comes from the devil, is after your soul, no matter how attractive it is. All the devil is after is to ensure you go to Hell! His assignment is to Steal , kill and destroy.
The Blessings of the LORD, it makes rich and adds no Sorrow. Real Blessing is available in JESUS Christ.
Tutuna: Will join many Nigerians to keep asking Ruffy what will be his benefit to threat a true man of God like Pastor Reno
You’re right…he’s a man of god…not of God. Reno who impregnated his side chic and abandoned his wife and kids in America and moved to the uk with his side chic na idiot wey you dey defend.
Someone who made illicit cash in billions while in govt then and quickly published books as a front.
Reno is just another greedy bastard who can’t who is eager to have another go in Aso Rock
Family › Re: I Suspect My Wife by deebrownneymar: 9:11pm On Jan 09, 2023
