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Christianity Etc › Re: Ex-COZA Staff: I Was Raped By Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo (Video) by DeeMain(m):
Smh.

We need justice, healing and redemption.

So help us God.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 8:50am On Jul 03, 2019
Hardetayour:
Come to think of it. Steady986 and the man with MPD could actually be brothers. And the man with MPD might be the elder one. Leeemmmaaaaooo
grin
Celebrities › Re: The Scar Has Been Fresh -TY Bello Reveal She Was Sexually Abused At The Age Of 7 by DeeMain(m): 9:21am On Jul 01, 2019
My anger is with the women folk shaming and taunting one of their own for saying she was raped as a teenager.

I can't wrap my head around this.

Tufia!
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 12:12am On Jul 01, 2019
TheCockroach:
I have no idea who that is.
Hmmmm
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 12:08am On Jul 01, 2019
TheCockroach:
"Lakers fans should just be responding to every GSW fan complaint about Kawhi with the same reasons they used when KD joined:

- He loves the culture
- LeBron is humble
- LeBron is willing to sacrifice
- He is an employee who choses where he works
- Shouldnt we try to improve?"



LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
Funny dude grin
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 11:59pm On Jun 30, 2019
TheCockroach:
And in this moment do you know who comes to mind? Kevin Durant! Do you know whose fault this is? Kevin Durant! Kevin Durant! Do you know who i blame for this? Kevin Durant! Do you know who must pay for this? Kevin Durant! You can run serpent, but mark me, you can't hide from the kings wrath.
KarnThornheart, is that you? grin
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 11:47pm On Jun 30, 2019
SmooshCHN:
That's why he has his own medical team which look after his own interest. He pays them so they're inclined to do whatever favours KD and yes, they ask for external consults but I don't know why some people will just choose to believe the Warriors made all the decisions for KD when he has his team and agents looking out for their client.

Kevin Wayne Durant has 3 Western conference finals championship, 2 NBA championship rings and 2 finals MVP award. No one can take that from him. If you insist he has no rings, then LeBron James has just one ring and if the Lakers win, it would not count by your logic. But you and others won't agree because your own logic is to be reversed when it comes to LeBron.

In my book, Jeremy Lin has more rings than Westbrook, Harden and CP3 combined even if he hardly played 10mins in the finals. No one can't take that from him. I don't give a fúck about stories and whether someone got carried or teamed up with superstars. Ring is Ring.
But they are the easiest rings ever though. He'd needs to change that biography if he wants history to be kind to him. He is a great player and that's me giving him a brotherly advice.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 9:46pm On Jun 30, 2019
SmooshCHN:
I strongly agreed with you on the coloured however it's very unlikely when there's MRI and X-rays available. It's more than 5 people on different sides with different interests looking at the whole thing.. Anyways, back to basketball, I hope KD comes back even better. It's easy for someone like him.
I understand that part and agree largely to an extent. To an extent because it brings me to my other point which is: because the organization is there employer, under pressure, like during the Warriors playoff injury crisis, the medical team might be inclined to protect their employers best interest more than the players. Key word is under pressure.

I believe, correct me if I'm wrong, this is one of the reasons players often consult independent medical consultants.

And I hope KD gets well and leaves the Warriors to get his first real ring grin
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 2:04pm On Jun 30, 2019
SmooshCHN:
Nah! No one takes a public forum seriously. You were wrong though. I understand you didn't like how things turned out for KD with the Warriors and I still hold the team responsible for all that happened however, we're grown men here. Of course we argue and all that but there's no harm in learning a thing or two. Being open minded does no harm.
I actually I'm open to others opinions and to learn.

If you noticed I kept using the words, 'possibility', 'might', probably especially as to why he got a career threatening injury . Even gave the link where one medical opinion strongly supported my view and the other didn't.

The other things I said about doctors not being omniscient and having emotions and the possibility of them being affected by pressure are just also commonsensical and human psychology not only medical.

If we really got down to medicine or your expertise, I will be the first to bring out my writing pad.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 10:09am On Jun 30, 2019
SmooshCHN:
Can I identify as an attack helicopter? cry cry
Nevertheless, still stand with all my expressed 'medical' views in that debate.

Don't take this place too seriously though.

It's just a game.
Christianity Etc › Re: Ese Walter On Biodun Fatoyinbo Vs Busola Dakolo: I Have Never Felt More Proud by DeeMain(m): 9:09am On Jun 30, 2019
brainhgeek:
Thanks. I am healed already. I have not forgotten but I have forgiven those who molested me. They surely have their families now. Calling them out will mean I am equally breeding new sets of monsters whose psychological and emotional responses to the aftermath of my calling out my molesters can result to a new version of societal worries, their kids.
I've found peace in moving on. I am however resolved to being a father and a dad to my kids. I am never going to be absent from their lives till they are responsible for it.

One of these days, I will share my story, not to call out anyone but to change the molestation narrative and inspire parents.
Thanks again
Great to hear that. Best wishes
Celebrities › Re: Dolapo Oseji, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo Family Friend Speaks by DeeMain(m):
victorian:
I was almost raped three times!

On different occasions by different men.

And trust me I didn't seat still while they tried.

First rape attempt I was 6years old, I screamed , jumped down and ran off

Second rape attempt I was 26years old right in my office, I struggled furiously , bite his palm, and screamed. My security guard downstairs ran up, knocked and rushed in.

Third attempt rape : I was 30 years old at my home, I pretended I want him too when I realised he was very strong with his fist. I calmed down, smiled and told him lemme go pull off and wear something sexy Na. I even kissed him for him to believe, he released his grip, as I stood up, I pushed him so hard and ran out of my apartment with great speed! Then shouted from outside, leave my apartment now!


Those three incidents I never got once kept in touch with anyone of them and I warned the last two never in their life should they contact me again orelse I will get them arrested. And they didn't. They kept off!


That's attempted rape! I hate them with every cell in my body!

So dear I know what it means and how it feels when one is about to be raped, it's very ugly experience. How much more been raped.


Yes I remember the last one, thieves came to my ex house , stole stuffs and about to rape. Thank God it was only two who came into the building. The one who wanted to rape he held a gun, while the second one held a short cutlass facing my ex.
As he came close tome, I grabbed his hand with gun with my two hands, we were struggling, there and then I was determined to die! Than to be raped. He was shocked. We were struggling with the gun. He then punched my eyes, I saw stars but I didn't let go. My ex saw me struggling WIth the rapist, he stood up and fought the second guy. The rapist was boxing my face I still held on to the gun. Until he screamed to the third thief outside, that one came in threw another short cutlass to him and he cut off my fingers holding the gun, I screamed I let go of the gun. They all ran way, with my cut fingers oozing out blood, then I passed out ,saw myself been rushed to the theater for immediate surgery.

That night was bloody!

So my sister I have been to hell and back!

No be today.

I can take a pic of my fingers for u to see how it looked now. It's not straight but at least I have fingers.

I will rather die, and fight to death! Than to be raped!
Sorry about your traumatic experiences. You are indeed a super woman. I want you to treat others victims with empathy too. People are created and wired differently. Don't judge the world through your own lenses alone.

There is something called the fight and flight response in every human.

In the face of immense fear the fight-freeze-flight response kicks in for everyone. When fear strikes some people will instinctively fight, some will flee and some will freeze - go numb, become paralysed to move, speak or act.

You belong to the fight response category. It even shows in how you engage people in this NL.

Some rape victims never fight their predators or even raise their voice. They belong to the freeze response category. They are too afraid or shocked to act or move or run. It's not their fault, it's in their wiring.

Empathize with them. Don't lose your humanity.
Christianity Etc › Re: Ese Walter On Biodun Fatoyinbo Vs Busola Dakolo: I Have Never Felt More Proud by DeeMain(m): 12:39am On Jun 30, 2019
brainhgeek:
What am I deducing? Hmm. Well, I will deviate a little from the trend the story is following and carve out my view on child molestation in general.
Well, many people look at child molesters and almost immediately attack the male gender. So far so good, I have seen that all over social media with regards to Mrs. Dakolo and the pastor's caee. The truth however is that there are as many female child molesters as males. The only thing is that the nature of the male child will make many of them enjoy the experience and will rather wear it as a badge and not talk about it. The molested male child has no one to speak up for him. He grows with the uncontrollable appetite and if not rescued, grows into a molester. Alas! the tragedy of the molested male child is multiplied; he was molested as a child, he has no one to defend his plight, he grows into a molester or sex addict which he regrets (openly or secretly) after each episode, he is cursed, criminalised and condemned for going through his pains.
I am not defending molestations, I am only saying we stop criminalising genders, offices, posts, titles and whatever. No gender is holier. Molestation is an evil that goes and comes around all sexes. Yes, molesters should be taken off the society but first, their history should be revisited and then, they should go into a rehab for as long as it would take. We all are involved in this. Parents most importantly. We shouldn't be expending much resources trying to fix broken men when we actually can build strong children.
I wouldn't name or call out my molesters. Who knows if or when  they were molested and by who (men or women). Karma can never stop Karma. It is only a cycle through which vengeance is recycled. I won't call out anyone. I chose to fight the cause by leading a campaign against unlawful criminalising of genders. A call for equal protection of the male child. Background check and total rehabilitation of molesters for as long as it will last.
Whatever the law finds to best suitable, they should do.justice to the trending story. I am just bitter about the unsung and unrecognized possibilities of the boy child molestation by females too.
Pardon my bias please
Nice one!

You can also get yourself healed of that trauma instead of burying it.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 12:23am On Jun 30, 2019
SmooshCHN:
Man!! It's real. I saw with my two eyes in this country. Even on their dying bed, during OP or even post op CS, they'll refuse transfusion. If they die, they die and they actually die sometimes. embarassed embarassed I can't look at them the same way man. I just can't. I respect faith and beliefs but some just makes me scratch my head.
Lol, so you are a doctor, my good friend grin
Celebrities › Re: Dolapo Oseji, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo Family Friend Speaks by DeeMain(m):
I believe this lady, Pst Dolapo Oseji. She and her husband, Ron Oseji, were pastors in Harvesters International Christian Centre, Gbagada, before they travelled abroad not long ago.

I believe.
Crime › Re: "One Of The Ladies Who Sexually Abused Me As Child Is Getting Married This Year" by DeeMain(m):
GutsOverFear:
So it's OK for Busola to cry out as a rape victim of what happened 15 years ago..

But it's not OK for this guy to do the same.. Hypocritical double standard people we have in Nigeria..

FYI what the pastor did with her wasn't rape. It might not have been a consensual sex in the encounter but the subsequent ones were consensual..

She enjoyed it that's why she didn't cry out then..

Would she cry out now if the person that raped her was a nobody?

modified for all of you quoting and insulting me, it shall be well with you and Busola if non of you have had a non consensual sex before.. Or are y'all trying to say all the times you have had sex the lady was totally up for it..
Your idiocy is shocking.

1. A man of God has hypnotic-like powers over his members. Someone, you believe is anointed from heaven and can call fire from heaven to consume you can control you if he chooses to use that power for personal gain or evil.

A dreaded ex hitman, ex cultist can have such absolute power and control over someone.

Note that the accused in this case has both kinds of powers as her pastor and a dreaded ex hit man of a cult.

In both cases, there is a power differential or power imbalance. The person with the greater power can take advantage of, abuse or rape his/her victim without much fuss.


2. Someone that triggers excessive fear or reverence can rape their victim many times, on different days. Fear is hypnotic and illogical. Fear can have the same effect as hypnosis or a spell.

3. In the face of immense fear the fight-freeze-flight response kicks in for everyone. Some people will instinctively fight, some will flee and some will freeze -go numb, become paralysed to move, speak or act.

Some rape victims never fight their predators or even raise their voice. They are too afraid or shocked to act or move or run. It's not their fault, it's in their wiring.

Pray someone close to you do not get a taste of what you are blindly supporting. Just pray.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 4:49pm On Jun 29, 2019
Hardetayour:
Too many of them. Trying to make decisions for a grown ass man. Talmbout being the best for him or not.

My only grouse with KD is that he cares too much about what people say about him. He'll be fine
I don't understand you guys at all. You are the same ones who will start crying foul when the other teams start to assemble the Avengers to counter the Warriors' 5 All Stars.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 10:44am On Jun 29, 2019
Coutinho14:
Kawhi to Lakers might just happen, Lebron haters about to go into witness protection coz we about to kill y'all mfs
I want this league to be a bit fair. This blatant and mindless skewing squeezes the juice out of the league and subtracts from the greatness of all concerned. It's boring.

I said no to KD moving to Warriors, I say no to this.
Celebrities › Re: Uche Jumbo Reacts To Busola Dakolo, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo Rape Allegation by DeeMain(m): 3:39pm On Jun 28, 2019
dominique:
If she was 14, then the guy raped her. There's no such thing as consensual sex with a minor, it's called statutory rape. As an adult, it's his responsibility to NOT fall for the sexual advances from a minor. No lawyer can argue his case, he's a bloody rapist.
School 'em!
Celebrities › Re: ''Sue Me If You Dare''- Busola Dakolo Tells Coza Pastor After Raping Issue by DeeMain(m): 11:55am On Jun 28, 2019
Thoniameek:
Can you imagine that lady?!

I'm so angry at the comments here even coming from supposed women, I'm shivering and sweating from my armpit

What does she need attention for??!!
So sad, really. Age is nothing but a number. If she knew better she'd talk better
Celebrities › Re: ''Sue Me If You Dare''- Busola Dakolo Tells Coza Pastor After Raping Issue by DeeMain(m): 11:52am On Jun 28, 2019
victorian:
If she was truly raped like you say.

Why did she go back to his church few days later on a Sunday to. Worship and still help his wife carry her baby?

Don't take sides blindly


Any woman who was truly raped, will have nothing again to do with the rapist. Even though he's a pastor and she hold him in high esteem. At that moment she has been penetrated. All the respect is gone! She meant to hate and make him pay!

Not keep going to where he is and he keeps taking advantage of her

Look lemme. Tell u when I was 6 years old. Or thereabout an uncle tried raping me in My parents house, when he noticed I was calm as he was fingering I ran away and screamed! Even though he threatened me.. I was like my mum must know!

I ran out of the house and hid somewhere till my mum came back and I told her everything.


So tell me, this rubbish abiut her been 18 years old.

18 years? And she cannot tell wants her? Sighs


Then she must be so dumb! At such age! No wonder he slept with her several times!

At 6 years old! I know being close to a man is wrong!!!! Especially when he's touching the wrong places!!! I can run and scream for Africa. What we saying?


Abeg!
You are very naive!

She was still very young. She was too afraid to tell her parents or siblings about it. It was their family church, what excuse will she give for not going to church? Finally, the powers pastors have over members is hypnotic in quality if the pastor wants to use it for evil or to take advantage of a member.

Yes, a spiritual father/pastor/Imam/person that has authority over you can control you and abuse you repeatedly like that.

I will not respond to you again.

Shame on you.
Celebrities › Re: ''Sue Me If You Dare''- Busola Dakolo Tells Coza Pastor After Raping Issue by DeeMain(m): 11:29am On Jun 28, 2019
victorian:
She wants to trend, by all means no matter how silly her case looks.

She had better focus on her family, cos if he decides to sue! She won't like it one bit.

That's what idleness cause in one's life.

And Tim is so dumb sha.

It wasn't rape! She idolized him and he took advantage simple!
You are just revealing your idiocy, woman! Your pastor as the oracle of God and a representative of God to you holds incredible powers over you.

He, a former cultist, surprised her by bumping into his house early in the morning, pushes her to a chair, covers her mouth and threatens her to keep quiet for her own good and rapes her and you are saying what exactly?

She, a young girl that was manipulated into trusting and accepting him as her spiritual father, is paralyzed by her spiritual father's action and threat and is defenceless against the beast and too frozen by fear to fight.

The power differential between a pastor and a member is so huge that many ladies will be paralyzed if their pastor makes a move on them.

Chimamanda tells of a story where a publisher she held in high esteem fondled with her breasts and she was too paralyzed to resist or say anything.

I have a lot to say to you but I'm getting angrier.

Bye.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m):
Eruditor:
Thanks SmooshCHN and SircumAlot. There is nothing more to say. Bros started from claiming Iggy indicted us. Then switched to well he was saying they misdiagnosed KD. To pressure to play. I just tire. Like you said, when someone watches the Iggy interview with an idea in mind you will read your own idea into whatever he was saying. They will soon say Iggy wanted to leave the club which is why he said what he said. Even when in that same interview he talked about coming back. One thing our bros is also ignoring is that Iggy said KDs injury was either an act of God or a higher power. That very injury could have happened even without a calf strain. You said so when you gave the getting off a bus example. Bros was even saying that KD injury came from jumping. Na dude. He crossed over..and that movement could have caused an achilles for even Steph. It was a freaky injury. Nobody will risk KD back with the hint of an Achilles tendon injury. Nobody.
There is no winning this argument no matter the amount of evidence or points presented here. I know.

Passion has mythical powers.

It's like trying to argue about religion or denominations. Or debating who is better between Messi and Ronaldo. Or telling a battered woman to leave an abusive relationship.

So, don't come here preaching like you are talking facts and reason. You are a thoroughly invested passionate fan and your core instinct in this debate is 'we die here'.

I understand.

No hard feelings.

Best wishes everyone.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m):
SmooshCHN:
Dude!! You exposed yourself with this statement.
You said it several times that the Warriors misdiagnosed KD and even said it's normal for doctors to make mistakes. You wrote there yourself that medical consultants said KD was misdiagnosed I told you that you were wrong and should bring proof and you brought this article which further exposes your ignorance on this topic. Please take your time to read that article you copied and pasted. There's no need trying to educate you on this topic since the article clearly states he was not misdiagnosed and even goes further to make an argument that the writer doesn't think he was rushed too soon like I've been saying since day one.

So why are you and the media analyst still blaming the Warriors?

Eruditor, A40, Roland17, Birdman, Sircumalot, Skywalker5 Steady296 can get in here and read this.
"Physicians said Durant probably was susceptible to another injury because the leg tends to overload other muscles when recovering from a calf-related issue. Dr. Nirav Pandya, an associate professor of orthopaedic surgery at UC San Francisco, said when there is a weakness in a calf muscle, patients often add pressure to the Achilles tendon to generate force.

“It is not surprising there is going to be an injury on that side,” he added."

This is all I have been saying.

Why are they acting like it's surprising KD injured his achilles then? So they knew the risk?

There were two medical opinions on that link. One supports my view, the other didn't.

So?




And mind you the Dr against my point is even the Jazz's team doctor, Dr Maak, so he should be defending his ilk, right? It's a principle of natural justice that you can't be a judge in your own case.

Innit?
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 2:00pm On Jun 27, 2019
SmooshCHN:
Yes, you're right but I didn't see where you wrote this and then you go on to write this.



And then

Anyways, the media analyst don't know shít like that guy saying KD broke his achilles bone. I'm waiting for you to show us which medical consultants said he was misdiagnosed.
I never said the doctors misdiagnosed an achilles tendon injury as a calf injury.

If a doctor gives an all clear to player and he reinjures himself few minutes later after an innocuous jump that's a misdiagnosis right there. That's what I mean.

Here are some medical opinions on this:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.mercurynews.com/2019/06/11/was-kd-sent-back-onto-the-court-too-soon-medical-experts-say-no/amp/
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 1:47pm On Jun 27, 2019
SmooshCHN:
Yes, you're right but I didn't see where you wrote this and then you go on to write this.
Wrote it earlier in the thread on this same topic, not today.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 1:44pm On Jun 27, 2019
SmooshCHN:
Yes, you're right but I didn't see where you wrote this and then you go on to write this.



And then

Anyways, the media analyst don't know shít like that guy saying KD broke his achilles bone. I'm waiting for you to show us which medical consultants said he was misdiagnosed.
If you are told by your doctor that you are cleared to play and good to go, and 13 minutes into a game you have a career threatening injury following an innocuous jump who would you hold responsible?
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 1:36pm On Jun 27, 2019
SmooshCHN:
So now the flip side you're talking about is rushing back early right and not being misdiagnosed by the warriors medical team or KD's medical team?
In that post, yes.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 1:33pm On Jun 27, 2019
SmooshCHN:
I understand the media analyst saying this because those guys make a living from their double standards and milking from every situation. Ex-players that are informed apart from Jay Williams will tell you he was rushed too soon like I'm begging you to switch your argument to.
Please show us medical consultants that told you Kevin Durant's achilles injury was misdiagnosed. Just two.
Doctors who have treated such cases have been interviewed and have analysed the injury and many believe he was rushed back too early.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m):
SmooshCHN:
Thank you for saying nothing after claiming the doctors misdiagnosed him. I will try to take you serious. Cos you agreed with Iggy's statement twisted it and managed to land it on KD after all I wrote there about his injury and his doctors clearing him. Perhaps the pressure got KD to rupture his achilles? Or it was the so-called misdiagnosis which only you is/was seeing? Since you didn't address that part.

Explain that flip side for us.
The flip side is if you rush out too early because you are under pressure or want to form superman you could fall to a career limiting or threatening injury.

The other side of it is fans and management hailing you as a superhuman and a toughie.

But between you and I, it's all a risk.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 1:20pm On Jun 27, 2019
SmooshCHN:
Misdiagnosis of Kevin Wanye Durant's injury from his medical team to the Warriors team and then by the fact that he even played in 4 weeks is impossible. Besides those are people who live and breath in buckets and achilles. The warriors have a achilles specialist sef and you're on NL telling us they misdiagnosed an achilles year after dude hit three pointers and crosses niggás over. A team of more than 12 people, like of two opposite interests and then the client jumping around missed a ruptured achilles. It's impossible and I'm not even playing Obatala. grin grin grin
Here is what I wrote before on this KD injury issue here:

The body is a system. The moment he risked his healing calf injury he was risking the entire lower leg system. It could have happened anywhere along the injured right lower limb. He could have aggravated the old or broken a fresh weak link which is what eventually happened.
Sports › Re: The NBA Begins by DeeMain(m): 1:15pm On Jun 27, 2019
SmooshCHN:
Misdiagnosis of Kevin Wanye Durant's injury from his medical team to the Warriors team and then by the fact that he even played in 4 weeks is impossible. Besides those are people who live and breath in buckets and achilles. The warriors have a achilles specialist sef and you're on NL telling us they misdiagnosed an achilles year after dude hit three pointers and crosses niggás over. A team of more than 12 people, like of two opposite interests and then the client jumping around missed a ruptured achilles. It's impossible and I'm not even playing Obatala. grin grin grin
Guy, I'm not the only one saying it. Analysts, ex-players and medical consultants have said the same thing on this matter.

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