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RisenPhoenix:
@bolded. That would be the logical and proper thing to do of course.

But she's a woman. They are not exactly famous for doing the logical or proper thing. So I only facilitated that which I know she's going to do anyway.

Do you really believe she was looking for advice? Obviously she already knew the right thing to do before asking the question; nobody is dumb enough not to know that. She was only trying to shift her guilt for what she wants to go ahead and do.

You need to know that women don't reason the way men do.

You are quite right. I wish her all the best of luck as she will need it greatly

RisenPhoenix:
It is normal. That is how all women who marry as non virgins behave. Nothing you can do.


Aww I can't leave you with this problem without proferring a solution. Look, just go with the flow and don't get caught. If you start sleeping raw with your ex, make sure your husband doesn't think of DNA testing by connecting DNA test to mistrust and lack of love on his part and telling him that a real man would never do such. Make sure you delete all your whatsapp messages with your ex, but keep the rest. Don't ever forget to go to the whatsapp folder on your device to delete the media (to get rid of the nudes) and the archives/backup afterwards. Start coming home later with genuine confirmable excuses from now, so that he will believe you when you use those excuses for your rendezvous with your ex later. Above all, avoid doing anything together within your locality or in public, if you're going to meet, for heaven's sake don't go shopping together in shoprite.

That is a brief summary of the married woman's guide to still be in love with her ex.

You have huge experience with such matters obviously.

My own advice to her is she should never go to her ex, her husband will find out eventually & the marriage will go sour then you will realize that your ex can’t marry you & you won’t find him interesting or attractive any more.

You will always remember him as a man that broke your marriage. Your husband may not possess all the qualities you want in a man but trust me, he is good for you as it ain’t better on the other side of the fence

Kekereekun123:
Which company this man get abeg

He has a resort center (tourism) in Delta state & other lucrative investments that pays him big time

Looks like an alligator but what do i know so it will pass as a crocodile then

dalhjana:
He is still living lavish. Tell me when they clear all the money in his account. Then I will know he is suffering.

Very true, having billions in the bank as balance is enough assurance for him to persevere whatever he is facing in that confinement apartment for some time till he is released

Riele:
Lmao

The toilet is funny ! . What's that drum of water doing there ? . When there are buckets ? .

So unnecessary!

The water does not flow hence water is deposited in the drum then poured in the bucket for bathing etc.

Sad for the Emir who is used to luxury as he is very rich himself

foreshore:
No case. That serves him right!

Am strongly against rape but she will kill again since she already has that trait in her. I think she went extreme here by taking life. No girl or lady should go thru rape but killing an human being is great sin, she can defend herself in many other ways if he was truly trying to rape her

Xisnin:
What is the point of the bold if you end up being sentimental?
If it wasn't self-defense, do you think she enjoys stabbing people to death?

What of if she has psycho problems that just started showing the traits?

bizzibodi:
I dnt understand how a 16yrs old free hersef went to d kitchen to get a knife,went back to d man & stab him.

Thank you ooo. Since when does 16yr old girl (she is not yet a lady or woman) can over power the man. Then the man didn’t move an inch till she returned from the kitchen with a knife & killed him yet the man didn’t defend himself before she stabbed him to death. It’s quite strange

ipobarethieves:
Rapist deserves such deleted
.Why ur friend daughter?Even pros will collect 500 for a round.If truly he attempted to rape her,Good for him

What of if he did not attempt to rape her?

Not taking sides but i withnessed a female teenager that was very rude to her elder brothers friend, when the guy tried to beat her with cane she brought out cutlass the house help uses to cut grass.

Only GOD saved the guy that people were around to stop her or else she would have cut him in pieces or to death.

Then went the police arrives am sure she would have said he tried to rape her & she defended herself.

Pls let’s stop judging issues like this cause things happen in queer funny ways these days

GOFRONT:
The dick of that dead man should be Cut off....

Am not taking sides but the law can be funny. An high court judge will ask this “Where is the evidence of attempted rape by the man”

But culpable homicide, manslaughter & murder is straight up against her. Infact they will proof that her action is pre-meditated (what a pity)

yesloaded:
Still I think banana island is over hyped

See bush begging for someone to cut it

Yes it is. It ain’t worth all the huge amount just to buy 1 plot of land. Am not crazy about the island. I still believe in some decade’s time nature will deal with some houses that their foundation isn’t well done. Why? Once you dredge land on water, you need to be careful with the foundation.

I know some one in Brooks Estate magodo that regrets badly he bought land there to build a duplex he can’t stay or live in as we speak

Wolexyoshi:
Watin me I even see be say na for roadside dem park cars. No enough space for their compound there ni abi watin?

Personal staff cars e.g driver, cook, cleaner & security guard. Or will these sets of staff trek to Banana island ni

Souljaboi1:
So there are Matrix and Camry 1999 in Banana Island.

I thought I would only see Rolls Royce, Mercedes Benz, Bentley and Ferrari...

Belongs to their security guard, cook & steward

SenecaTheYonger:
She was 104 when Nigeria gained independence

Good GOD

EngRichie:
Durable but reliability is low.

I sold mine at a give-away price as it was very problematic & will not buy a Volkswagen product again. Toyota/Lexus all the way for me

Don’t buy it. It’s not worth it except you want to be spending time in your mechanic workshop often

hisexcellency34:
The third is Ashafa, not Oshunowo

Ashafa lost, Osinowo replaced him nah

Vortex369:
@ Girlwhocares

I really am worried how people babysit you on this forum when all you need to learn on how to make your marriage works lie in more than a Gospel Truth.

Here comes my 'more than Gospel Truth' and you deserve it:

You think too highly of yourself, you believe the world revolves around your own happiness. It is silly of you to conjure up this image of your type of man. It is a world of fantasy and smart people know it is nothing but fantasy.

You believe in your heart that he is not your type, and you keep fantasizing about your type in such a manner that you are ready to go down on sex with boys who can not clean the floor that your husband walks, because because they are your type. Those boys you sleep with do not have to do anything to make you like them. You just foolishly like them, cos they are your type. It is not shameful, it is a worrisome case of mentality so disordered by expectation of what should have been that you have lost touch with what is.

I want to repeat that line;

You have lost touch with what is, while your mind is fixated on the framework of what should have been - a fantasy image built on a particular structure of the body and lifestyle that you have totally forgotten that you are married. You are ready to behave single and lie about your marital status and diet to look for ever young because you live in denial. You are hoping someday you will be with your type for ever. A silly fantasy that dies when you realize that you may not be the type of lady for your type of man. When you meet your type of man, are you really his type of woman? mostly no, so the table turns, and you begin to face the Karma you put your husband through. Because obviously, he is also a slave of your type of woman.

Do you want my advise?

No, you have already made up your mind and it is fixated on the frame work of 'your type of man'. But what will give that mind set a hard reset is called 'Disappointment and Heartbreak and Insult' from exposure to the world out there, where there is no protection, no mercy, and definately no loving man who loves you sheepishly and foolishly than the man you have.

He is suffering and too ashamed to tell people how much his own wife hates him and he is helpless because he has not made up his mind.

The day he decides to mix up and share his suffering. He will be liberated, he just does not know what great life he is missing on an account of a mentally deranged woman who is suffering from chronic bipolar disorder engineered by thoughts of what could have been as opposed to what is.

You are not a married woman, because you are obviously in denial. But remember, some day, you will grow old, and lack the love you failed to give to someone who loves you. The Universe is savvy. We programmed it with a reward mechanism.

Solution:
1. Meditation - Stop inputs from all 5 sense organs and be left with your Thoughts alone for 1hr each day.
Watch your thoughts go through the memories and projections of your mind and delete the disgusts you feel for your husband and replace hem with what you love about him, cos you will find that your thoughts are mostly negative. No one can do this for you. This is epigenetics.

2. You are not your thoughts, start using the reticular activating system to replace your 'type of man' image with your husband's image during visualization and contemplation and the fabric of your universe will output that within 30 days of the exercise.

3. Invite your dream master every night to show you the progress on your simulated visualization through dreams and recommend steps to open up your heart chakra for unconditional love for all lives including most importantly your husband.

4. Surrender to the Pilot of your Avatar and seek realignment of your Soul within your husband soul group if you want to be with him.

OR Simply walk away and leave that innocent man to a new girl who will love him unconditionally.

I do not like people like you. So, do not thank me. But if you need my assistance, I can guide you out of your valley of darkness.

Well said, my elder sister is a psychologist & a a very good one for that matter. She said similar attributes to your statements but she does not like to comment publicly.

I frown at a few comments blaming the man in a kind of way that he forced himself on her. He didn’t force himself, he went for who he loves with much passion & zeal and not force

daewoorazer:
[color=#995500]a who’re doesn’t have a synonym, A WHO’RE

Please marry her, we nerds will be happy to read another long epistle of how you caught HIV and STD
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Plus the child is not mine (we will be around to read this as well when that time comes)

Rapecase:
She never apologises from the onset. But affront has now been added to it.

My late dad used to say that any woman that can not say thank you, can’t say sorry or apologise when wrong will give her husband issues in marriage. As for me i get upset if my woman can’t explain things to me.

Your wife owes you an explanation & that’s a fact. I will give it to you straight away that your wife does not really love you but don’t take this personal bro

IamD18:
What of her father?

Children of nowadays don’t care about their father. The man works all his life for his family, when he gets old or retired all his efforts are forgotten as the children only remember to take care of the mother & abandon their father. (Okunrin wa aiye iya)

deesquarediddy:
You went about it the wrong way. There is nothing wrong in asking her to contribute to your wedding since it's about you two.

You should know that Nigerian women only want equal right but don't want equal responsibility.

Let me tell you how to ask women to contribute.

You don't do it directly but systematically. Like one poster contributed up there, pretending you're worried over financial issues works like magic and can even make them bring out money you have no knowledge about. *If they love you*

Another approach that works is, if you know the money you have can't cater for all you both need...use the money you have to solve their own problems or buy their own things and let them know you're putting them first, hence why you can't buy for yourself or solve other problems that concern you. Come see her bring that money she is hoarding for you to spend anyhow you want.

What i mean in this your case is, you would have started by using your own money to buy her wedding gown and her stuff, then as the date approaches, you act moody, like you're depressed over your finances. Now let her know other areas you still need money for like your own suit, feeding of guest. She will not want guest to go hungry at her own wedding, she will bring money out and may spend more than 50% at the end if she have the money.

Summary is, you need to finger their brains before they spend their money. Women are wired to hoard their money and expect men to spend on them from time immemorial.

This does not apply always. I respect women a lot but am sorry to say that a large percentage of ladies are self centered. If you spend all your money buying all her wedding stuffs thinking she will buy your own stuffs after exhausting funds, you are 100% on your own

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SEGLIZ:
what do you then call them?

They are not all Nigerians. The foreigners amongst them are migrants

frowland:
Yes sure! due to our snail slow speed at capital and developmental projects.
The question is, should we continue with Okada??
Growing up, when I was in university in the 90s/00, to be honest there was no much of byke. People hardly use them and we all get to our destinations. I traveled home to Owerri and there was no bike and yet people were moving all over the place.
Look, the real idea behind this Okada is not because of accidents etc etc as claimed... it's due to the massive influx of foreigners (Nigerians, Chaddans, Cameroonians, and even frrom Mali.) They are all over the place and they move in in droves.
So you choose which side you belong to, the side of security and sanity or the side of insecurity and insanity.

Truth be told (you are on point). Yes I support this ban on Okada & Keke 100%.

We will live to regret this very very soon in the nearest future if the Lag govt don’t do this now.

Am looking for the write up research done by a foreigner from Europe that came to Lagos & gave his candid advice on this Okada/Keke means of transport which clearly showed the great security threats by most of the riders who are not all Nigerians.

It is true that it creates some level of employment but most of this category of riders don’t live in Lagos.

An alternative is available as Lag govt brought in smaller BRT buses, i grew up in Lagos & we went around effectively without Keke & Okada so why can’t we do same now

BIXYBABE:
I don't know d Sweetness some guys derive from sex as if their life is connected to it.

I tire too, sex is over-rated

NwaAmaikpe:




You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

But this does not add up.
If x+10 = u ≤ 40%

Where 10 is your present spouse,
x is your ex
While you are u.
And u is less than in an optimal state.

Then what is y?

Y is simply that you did your ex bad.
He was a great guy but you schemed him away for your present husband out of greed and an addiction for cheating.

I know this because,
You feel sooooo uncomfortable with your ex around. You feel an indescribable amount of guilt each time you see him and it feels like you are staring at Karma in human garb.

For your husband to be that nice to your ex means that
Your husband knew you were cheating on your ex with him. He knows your ex didn't deserve that wrong, this explains why he feels obliged to set him up on life.

So it is either that he is a man of great conscience or a man who needs your ex as an ally to know the true you and decipher all of your trickery for him to feel this indebted to your ex.

Or even better.
Your husband and your ex may be gay and your ex is using this as his best revenge.

But one thing is certain.
You were two-faced and bad to your ex....this is why the bible says that the wicked runs when NOTHING is chasing them.

Get over it, what will be, will be.
This is because I've just found out from your previous post that your ex isn't really an ex but your best and most loyal patron in your prostitution days.

You owe him, an agreement is an agreement.
Your husband is a proper gentleman so he should understand this too.
I don't think your husband will even mind because someone who brings home his wife's ex and someone who marries a hoe doesn't expect much out of marriage.

My only prayer is that your husband is forever able to meet his financial, emotional and sexual obligations because water will surely find it's level.

What do I even know, over to Lalasticlala and the other elders.

Wow, you said a lot

Sijo01:
Op's wife was two months pregnant in 2017 and was planning of having her deliver the baby in US and return back home!

Now, his wife is 3 weeks pregnant and he got married to her just a month ago!

Somebody solve the equation above.

Another guy’s kid (simple)

Champneys:
I agree.
To think we are still dishing out sentence in this day and age is simply despicable.
We cant cover up or make excuses for the senseless act she committed and the soul of the dead cant be brought back to life by way of the judgement but it would have been better if the sentence had taken into consideration that a young child will be an orphan when a life sentence could have suffice.
A very sad and unfortunate situation.

Why didn’t she take into consideration that she had a child before stabbing her husband to death. I witnessed a terrible fight between a husband & his wife in the kitchen. Non of the two of them took the kitchen knife to stab each other which they had several knives at their disposal.

They later parted ways as they both agreed it’s better they go their separate ways than kill each other. The wife said in my presence that her husband isn’t worth going to jail for. So why didn’t she stab him as they both had blood marks bruises on their bodies but no murder attempt.

In this scenario, Madam Sanda’s child will grow up hating his mother knowing fully well she sent his father to his early grave

Annie939:
who will take care of there Child? the judgement is too harsh they should reversed it, at least prison will be better than death sentence

Is murder/culpable homicide okay too. I don’t support death sentence but it should deter others from thinking after all i will only go to jail nah. Her lawyers will appeal the judgement no doubt.

Men get death sentence too in this circumstances so no big deal if it is a woman or a mother